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advanceDNA:
All these babes...no fvck with them oooo..their pvssy fit get them stay for uk oooo

U no hear story of guy man laat week on instagram..wey send babe go abroad after baby reach 4 month to go stay till she born....babe remove belle marry another man with papers...ghost guy man for naija

Read this last week, so sad. Thank God the guy never sold of his properties in Nigeria

My candid opinion:

Your wife knows that the man is onto her. She is interested in the man too maybe for companionship and financial support but nothing goes for nothing. She will eventually give him the cookies.

She may also give other men the cookies too in UK while you are away in Nigeria and, if she is bold and fearless, when you are around in UK.

Be prepared for a possible breakup in your marriage since you will not be able to stand her attitude, disrespect, insults and excesses in the UK.

If you will do well in Nigeria please stay back and enjoy a good life. Let your wife be over there and realize that her cookie is not only for you.

loko50:
Why did you add "you are very stupid"?

Amotolongbo:
All I can read here are
1. A lady who isn’t straight forward
2. A man who feels insecure

Why are you contradicting yourself? You stated about the lady not being straightforward , and you turn around to accuse the man of insecurity like he was supposed to trust someone who isn't trustworthy?

omonnakoda:
Very stupid? To a person you have never met? If you see him face to face can you say that? SO the internet is licence to insult strangers for no reason? Take am easy guy

Most are regretting it… my brother left the house for the wife. Many of them get there and turn against husbands. It is normal . No be all wives them Dey take go abroad. Leave her to cheat in Nigeria than to mess ur life up abroad

Mr Man go there and work your way. No let woman matter kill you. Go there and see for yourself wats going on. Don't thread on assumptions. I believe you are not lazy. Anything that will make stay home, cleaning baby poo and not working while she brings in the money should be avoided.

petitejolie:
Mr Man go there and work your way. No let woman matter kill you. Go there and see for yourself wats going on. Don't thread on assumptions. I believe you are not lazy. Anything that will make stay home, cleaning baby poo and not working while she brings in the money should be avoided.

She is not even working. It is the man sponsoring the idiot of a lady.

advanceDNA:
All these babes...no fvck with them oooo..their pvssy fit get them stay for uk oooo

U no hear story of guy man laat week on instagram..wey send babe go abroad after baby reach 4 month to go stay till she born....babe remove belle marry another man with papers...ghost guy man for naija

I see a lot of foolish men allowing their wives lead them to the UK. They will come back crying in 2 years max.
You leave your work, follow your wife go UK, make am primary applicant. You are already ruined.

OP kbower stop worrying and keep positive. Your wife is just trying to survive and figure out her new environment. Sure she is not being 100 percent transparent , but she may have her reasons for this. The sooner you get to join her the better so that should be your main priority.
Continue your new strategy of not contacting her unless there is something important to discuss.

Guy, my advise is simple.
1. Do not connect that man for reference.
2. Tell your wife to stop talking to him, that you are not comfortable with it.
3. In case of future issues with map, tell your wife to download the offline map of London and environs on Google map. Once she does that, she can use the map in almost the whole Britain without internet

Chai

Mr. Kbower,

Summary;

1. Deep down, you should know the kind of woman you married for 11 years. Her attitude shouldn't be new to you. By now, you should be able to say what she can do either you're present or not. Except you're a simp!

2. Most men cannot organize their home in such a way that it brings peace and understanding. Some men are so rude that their wife might have lost real interest 9 years ago.

3. I cannot tell my husband that I'm with a man who is lusting after me and says my azz is big; dem no born me well. Nevertheless, you should know that women go through a lot of temptation from your fellow men. Been a married woman doesn't stop your fellow men from toasting us.

4. Your both life in marriage here will determine whether it will stand over there or become even worse.

5. I have seen women do shiitss. Therefore, anything can happen especially in this case where most Africans have the mentality that been abroad puts them beyond been an African.

6. Finally, all signals have been there for ELEVEN YEARS, may be you chose to ignore or not yet enlightened enough to know their meaning on time.

Marriage in this era is changing and challenging. But I pray that you find peace and understanding between you and your wife.

Amin.

Boss your wife Don c u finish in Nigeria before she travel out ,I will advice u to work hard to join her and your kids, then when you get there if she still continue with all this bad traits then you tell her your mind. Truly your wife doesn't value you and I believe you saw all this shenanigans before you married her, it just that you overlooked it and it has come to hunt you.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
I wonder what you mean. So if in UK he finds out his wife is screwing someone else he should just endure for the sake of staying in UK? Oga, a man can cheat on the wife and still treat her and the kids well. When a woman cheats on you repeatedly and discover your are either ignorant of it or are managing her, she will cheat some more, rubbing it more on your face, stretching your patience more and more towards its limit. If you still fail to react, she will start finding you irritating and disgusting, because that gender hate simps and love tormenting them. She will torment you till you react. That marriage will fail, you will lose her, the kids, maybe your freedom and ultimately your UK residency which you were desperately trying to secure and protect. OP, if you will listen to me, tell her to go to hell. Tell her to remain in UK with her fuckíng Mr. Mike. Keep your children and sanity. You may think living in Buhari's Nigeria is the worst thing on Earth but let me tell you, it is child's play compared to putting up with a stupid philandering wife in UK. Be warned!

his immigrating to UK isn't necessarily about his wife, is to seek better pastures cos thats d exact reason y he sold his assets and his wife left, no matter how his wife behaves he should use his head rather than his heart, he should be diplomatic and exercise great restraint, good opportunities has been lost by not controlling one's emotion, letting emotions of how he feels abt his wife cloud his judgment, he should remain focused, encourage his wife to be better, I understand his a dependant and I think there's no visa for him as his visa is tied to his wife, but starting up in d UK, apply for a job or get a job in UK dat guarantees Visa should be his utmost priority, otherwise wats d use of d whole selling of d house in d Ist place ? sometimes we do things we wouldn't do on a normal day, cos we see well above our nose, men should learn t be focused like their women folks

iykemoney90:
Oga allow your wife breathe mehn. Your own is too much, person wey Don born 3 for you, wetin else you dey look. You are just battling insecurity, nothing else

the moment idiots remind you the earth is still peopled by insipid mo-rons hanging on the same principle bar with animals

Heathrow44:

If you want to craze
craze direct
Off cloth enter market
no dey do practise inside house

Bros this your wife, na university of bedforshire she dey go?

kbower:
Hi Nlanders

We all know no marriage is all that smooth and rosey, we all that are in it have challenges here and there, and for almost 11 years now, out of tolerance, ruggedity, minding my business in terms of taking care of the family have always been something that has held my marriage down, because the majority of the issue I have with my wife have always been issues of trust, transparency, accountability, respect and loyalty.

Some people will say with these things I have listed, that I may be asking for too much, but I can tell whoever would reason that way that it's not too much because am a responsible father/husband that have never for once strayed the family in anyway that will make me lack any of the above stated qualities a man can enjoy from a wife.

Why am I here? Ok.. After enduring so much for 11 years, we are relocating to the UK, she is the main applicant, myself and the 3 children are dependants, she traveled first, leaving myself and the 3 kids behind until she can secure accommodation b4 we leave.

I have heard about countless incidences of how SOME women treat their husbands and the POWER zoned to women in that country which makes it almost impossible for a man with a wife that gives him constant problem to be able to thrive in that country.

I just want to state three peculiar incidences that occured during her 1month stay over there that is already making me feel I have alot to face over there, though I know my God is bigger than anything, I just want people that are over there, or people that are experienced here and all over who are capable of handing a good advise for me on getting there to know how I can fare and withstand what is to come.

Based on the above from the major incidences I have experienced with her, first two weeks of being there, she had gone to check a house b4 heading to school, on her way back to school, she claimed she didn't take enough money and going back home might not be possible, I asked how she would wanna go about it
and she replied saying I will borrow money from Mr Mike, a man she just met at school on her first day of registration. I was like that's wrong, you don't form familiarity with someone you just met in another man's country, I said I will call a friend in liverpool to send you money and you could get your train ticket. She fumed, but I stood my ground and said that's how its going to be. I have asked her to collect a friends account details, since she has not opened an account yet, she said when her class finishes by 8.30pm she'll request details from her friend so the money can be sent. Fast forward to closing period, I messaged her to send me details, she ignored, I called ad she said nobody has an account that I should not worry she will sort herself, I was now like you just got to that country, u have no friends that u know too well to rely on, I am ur hubby and I opened a way for u to get money easily, yet u didn't make any effort to redeem the opportunity, omo she hung up on me then later called back that she gathered few pennies she had to get the ticket, I was now like why didn't u just say this instead of putting me on pressure over how to get money to convey u all the way from london to Luton, over an hour journey at night.

Secondly, on her next school day, she had previously told me prior to her closing hours that her data has finished and she's using schools wifi, that the moment she steps out from school to head home, she won't be having access to internet, etc WhatsApp and all of that, but importantly was to make use of GPS google map, that's what people over there use to navigate their way in order not to get lost, I was like without internet how do u intend to get to ur destination when u know how stressful it was for u getting lost the other day, now the same statement she made was, I will sort myself. I was raged and said woman I will ask my friend to buy u data so u can get home easy and safe, she said no proble, that she's leaving now, I said well since i wont be able to reach you on whats app, I will definitely call you on normal call shortly to give you the data pin to load. She said no P and hung up.

Moments later, my friend had sent me the data pin, na so I begin dey call wifey oo, over 15 missed calls she nor pick. Later she called back and said her phone was in her laptop bag and her hands were frozen so she couldnt put hands in the bag to pick the call and that she didn't even hear it ring.

The issue I posted up there are issues of not being accountable, and attitude of not showing that you don't need me when its not just about that but for security and your well being knowing fully well you are new in the country and proper guidelines needs to be taken.

Another incident happened 3rd week after her arrival, we were video chatting while she was on a train station waiting for train, next thing I noticed was a guy sitting BEHIND her, the guy boldly took a peep into her phone directly, seemingly trying to see who she was on video call with, immediately i called her attention to it, she just smiled and looked back and said silently, nawa some people for this London nor go mind their business. This very day developed a story that transitioned towards few things I will be stating.

The next sunday, I called her in the morin to say hi and all that, next thing I know she dun dey go church, she nor even discuss am with me and na wetin we dn agree on sey we fo jointly choose church wey we go dey go. After church service, she call me sey that guy wey i talk sey dey peep into her phone, sey the guy that very day asked her how long shes been there for, she said, just 3 weeks, sey how come she come take know road when him don dey 3months he nver know road, sey that same guy him coincidentally meet am for the new church wey she come so, sey the guy dey look am, she comot eye, but later the guy come meet am sey are u not the one that showed me way to where I was going. Sey as him meet the guy coincidentally for church, he fit be sey he get why, maybe for job connection or what not. I nor say anything, cos coincidences arent something new in this world. Then the next day, she call me sey that same guy needs an apartment, sey na married guy with 4 kids, but him wife and 1kid dey here, 3 dey nija them nor fit come yet until house is ready, sey him dey ask her if she can help him get someone that can reference for him to get a house, ha him my wife come dey ginger me sey make i help am talk to my friend wey help us reference if him go fit help the guy too. I come sey no problem, she sey she go call the guy now and put us on 3 way call, i sey no p, i come dey wait for call, no call come and madam nor talk again, i come ring her sey hafa u nor do the three way call again? She sey the guy dey work, him nor fit talk,sey she don give the guy my number to call me later, me come sey no p, send him number I go save am down so if he calls i go know sey na him, madam nor gree send number, I come dey wonder sey wetin dey sup sef, normally I nor spose reason ahead, but me my instict dey very strong, i come begin dey put two and two together sey maybe the guy intention was never to get help but to use style dey hit on my madam maybe na why him nor wan talk to me but wan use my madam dey take communicate.

I come ask madam some some questions on previous ish, I come find out sey small lie dey, so I tackler her sey the way she take explain to me about how him meet the guy for train station nor join, she come vex sey me i come am liar, omo as we dey talk for whatsapp, i nor blv sey my madam added this guy to the call without my consent or my knowledge, so as I dey talk, the guy dey the background, i nor even know anything and the dude himself kept quiet, na after the call finish, I see am for call details sey the guy was added to the call, infact the dude even called me directky i nor pick. Now i got very angry, come call madam sey wetin dey sup, u added this dude wey talk sey him dey work him nor fit talk to the call wey me and u dey on and u didnt even notify me, ok lets agree sey if to sey u wan tell me sey u wan add the guy for call sey i nor go gree sey maybe na why u add am without my consent, at least after u add am secretly, u are suppose to talk and sey bae, since u are accusing me wrongly.

I have added the guy to this call so he can clear me out, but she didnt, she just added the guy and the dude himself kept quiet and didnt say a word until I hung up. I got very furious and told her this is the highest level of see finish and dragging in the mud, wetin u want that guy to dey feel like now? She said shes sorry that she only wanted to clear herself, I was now like even if u wanted to clear urself, if that the best way to go about it, the person who is the subject matter is the best person u need to introduce to clear u out? Later on i just bone the matter come apologise sey make we move on, na so she come begin dey yarn plenty, sey she call the guy that my hubby said that the way we met is unreal, sey the guy sef come talk sey wow, so your husband already thinks am sleeping with you, but i cant blame u though, u know u have a big back side, so thoughts like that from him is likely not a surprise, i was hmmmm to hear that, i come tell madam sey if na true this guy talk this thing, shouldnt u already know he has corny itentions, she said well she too dey wonder cos the two times wey them meet she nor wear wetin fit show her bkside so how d guy come take know. The matter end there, next day madam still dey worry me sey shey I go still help d guy, I was like I cant even talk to him, u dun useless me already for him presence, she dey claim sey she nor do anything wrong by adding him to the call, sey the guy know of agency wey fit help me get better job if i arrive, and sey the guy talk sey if me fit connect am to my friend to reference am for house, him go link me up fr the agency. I talk sey i nor dey interested. Omo I weak. Guys I need advise on how to handle issues over there, cos me nor dey take nonsense for nija here, but for there, one needs to chill, but then should it now be sey because we dey live for country wey give woman power, make woman come use that opportunity come dey fumble?

omonnakoda:
If you want to craze
craze direct
Off cloth enter market
no dey do practise inside house

:omy last mention to u

Heathrow44:
:omy last mention to u

The first one na im I take buy petrol?
GTFOH

Bros I say make I ask, Your wife, na university of Bedfordshire she dey go?

kbower:
Hi Nlanders

We all know no marriage is all that smooth and rosey, we all that are in it have challenges here and there, and for almost 11 years now, out of tolerance, ruggedity, minding my business in terms of taking care of the family have always been something that has held my marriage down, because the majority of the issue I have with my wife have always been issues of trust, transparency, accountability, respect and loyalty.

Some people will say with these things I have listed, that I may be asking for too much, but I can tell whoever would reason that way that it's not too much because am a responsible father/husband that have never for once strayed the family in anyway that will make me lack any of the above stated qualities a man can enjoy from a wife.

Why am I here? Ok.. After enduring so much for 11 years, we are relocating to the UK, she is the main applicant, myself and the 3 children are dependants, she traveled first, leaving myself and the 3 kids behind until she can secure accommodation b4 we leave.

I have heard about countless incidences of how SOME women treat their husbands and the POWER zoned to women in that country which makes it almost impossible for a man with a wife that gives him constant problem to be able to thrive in that country.

I just want to state three peculiar incidences that occured during her 1month stay over there that is already making me feel I have alot to face over there, though I know my God is bigger than anything, I just want people that are over there, or people that are experienced here and all over who are capable of handing a good advise for me on getting there to know how I can fare and withstand what is to come.

Based on the above from the major incidences I have experienced with her, first two weeks of being there, she had gone to check a house b4 heading to school, on her way back to school, she claimed she didn't take enough money and going back home might not be possible, I asked how she would wanna go about it
and she replied saying I will borrow money from Mr Mike, a man she just met at school on her first day of registration. I was like that's wrong, you don't form familiarity with someone you just met in another man's country, I said I will call a friend in liverpool to send you money and you could get your train ticket. She fumed, but I stood my ground and said that's how its going to be. I have asked her to collect a friends account details, since she has not opened an account yet, she said when her class finishes by 8.30pm she'll request details from her friend so the money can be sent. Fast forward to closing period, I messaged her to send me details, she ignored, I called ad she said nobody has an account that I should not worry she will sort herself, I was now like you just got to that country, u have no friends that u know too well to rely on, I am ur hubby and I opened a way for u to get money easily, yet u didn't make any effort to redeem the opportunity, omo she hung up on me then later called back that she gathered few pennies she had to get the ticket, I was now like why didn't u just say this instead of putting me on pressure over how to get money to convey u all the way from london to Luton, over an hour journey at night.

Secondly, on her next school day, she had previously told me prior to her closing hours that her data has finished and she's using schools wifi, that the moment she steps out from school to head home, she won't be having access to internet, etc WhatsApp and all of that, but importantly was to make use of GPS google map, that's what people over there use to navigate their way in order not to get lost, I was like without internet how do u intend to get to ur destination when u know how stressful it was for u getting lost the other day, now the same statement she made was, I will sort myself. I was raged and said woman I will ask my friend to buy u data so u can get home easy and safe, she said no proble, that she's leaving now, I said well since i wont be able to reach you on whats app, I will definitely call you on normal call shortly to give you the data pin to load. She said no P and hung up.

Moments later, my friend had sent me the data pin, na so I begin dey call wifey oo, over 15 missed calls she nor pick. Later she called back and said her phone was in her laptop bag and her hands were frozen so she couldnt put hands in the bag to pick the call and that she didn't even hear it ring.

The issue I posted up there are issues of not being accountable, and attitude of not showing that you don't need me when its not just about that but for security and your well being knowing fully well you are new in the country and proper guidelines needs to be taken.

Another incident happened 3rd week after her arrival, we were video chatting while she was on a train station waiting for train, next thing I noticed was a guy sitting BEHIND her, the guy boldly took a peep into her phone directly, seemingly trying to see who she was on video call with, immediately i called her attention to it, she just smiled and looked back and said silently, nawa some people for this London nor go mind their business. This very day developed a story that transitioned towards few things I will be stating.

The next sunday, I called her in the morin to say hi and all that, next thing I know she dun dey go church, she nor even discuss am with me and na wetin we dn agree on sey we fo jointly choose church wey we go dey go. After church service, she call me sey that guy wey i talk sey dey peep into her phone, sey the guy that very day asked her how long shes been there for, she said, just 3 weeks, sey how come she come take know road when him don dey 3months he nver know road, sey that same guy him coincidentally meet am for the new church wey she come so, sey the guy dey look am, she comot eye, but later the guy come meet am sey are u not the one that showed me way to where I was going. Sey as him meet the guy coincidentally for church, he fit be sey he get why, maybe for job connection or what not. I nor say anything, cos coincidences arent something new in this world. Then the next day, she call me sey that same guy needs an apartment, sey na married guy with 4 kids, but him wife and 1kid dey here, 3 dey nija them nor fit come yet until house is ready, sey him dey ask her if she can help him get someone that can reference for him to get a house, ha him my wife come dey ginger me sey make i help am talk to my friend wey help us reference if him go fit help the guy too. I come sey no problem, she sey she go call the guy now and put us on 3 way call, i sey no p, i come dey wait for call, no call come and madam nor talk again, i come ring her sey hafa u nor do the three way call again? She sey the guy dey work, him nor fit talk,sey she don give the guy my number to call me later, me come sey no p, send him number I go save am down so if he calls i go know sey na him, madam nor gree send number, I come dey wonder sey wetin dey sup sef, normally I nor spose reason ahead, but me my instict dey very strong, i come begin dey put two and two together sey maybe the guy intention was never to get help but to use style dey hit on my madam maybe na why him nor wan talk to me but wan use my madam dey take communicate.

I come ask madam some some questions on previous ish, I come find out sey small lie dey, so I tackler her sey the way she take explain to me about how him meet the guy for train station nor join, she come vex sey me i come am liar, omo as we dey talk for whatsapp, i nor blv sey my madam added this guy to the call without my consent or my knowledge, so as I dey talk, the guy dey the background, i nor even know anything and the dude himself kept quiet, na after the call finish, I see am for call details sey the guy was added to the call, infact the dude even called me directky i nor pick. Now i got very angry, come call madam sey wetin dey sup, u added this dude wey talk sey him dey work him nor fit talk to the call wey me and u dey on and u didnt even notify me, ok lets agree sey if to sey u wan tell me sey u wan add the guy for call sey i nor go gree sey maybe na why u add am without my consent, at least after u add am secretly, u are suppose to talk and sey bae, since u are accusing me wrongly.

I have added the guy to this call so he can clear me out, but she didnt, she just added the guy and the dude himself kept quiet and didnt say a word until I hung up. I got very furious and told her this is the highest level of see finish and dragging in the mud, wetin u want that guy to dey feel like now? She said shes sorry that she only wanted to clear herself, I was now like even if u wanted to clear urself, if that the best way to go about it, the person who is the subject matter is the best person u need to introduce to clear u out? Later on i just bone the matter come apologise sey make we move on, na so she come begin dey yarn plenty, sey she call the guy that my hubby said that the way we met is unreal, sey the guy sef come talk sey wow, so your husband already thinks am sleeping with you, but i cant blame u though, u know u have a big back side, so thoughts like that from him is likely not a surprise, i was hmmmm to hear that, i come tell madam sey if na true this guy talk this thing, shouldnt u already know he has corny itentions, she said well she too dey wonder cos the two times wey them meet she nor wear wetin fit show her bkside so how d guy come take know. The matter end there, next day madam still dey worry me sey shey I go still help d guy, I was like I cant even talk to him, u dun useless me already for him presence, she dey claim sey she nor do anything wrong by adding him to the call, sey the guy know of agency wey fit help me get better job if i arrive, and sey the guy talk sey if me fit connect am to my friend to reference am for house, him go link me up fr the agency. I talk sey i nor dey interested. Omo I weak. Guys I need advise on how to handle issues over there, cos me nor dey take nonsense for nija here, but for there, one needs to chill, but then should it now be sey because we dey live for country wey give woman power, make woman come use that opportunity come dey fumble?

oga dey here, u no go fit manage it out there. stay with d kids. dont giv ur mother in law. she get plan

omonnakoda:
The first one na im I take buy petrol?
GTFOH

Y do u decide to be stupid today, I'm not d cause of ur frustration

kbower:
Bro the emboldened makes your statement right, and words on Marble, I have spent over 27 million naira on the japa process, and still have more to spend ahead. It is indeed a sacrifice, but bro, she nor even send or appreciate anything, but me nor send cos na the children be the koko. Infact the agent that arranged everything duped me of 3k pounds, I arrested him, going from the station to and fro, only for madam to be expressing sympathy towards the guy that he feels pity for him that hes arrested, but what about me that spent the money and stressing out to arrest the guy and going to and fro? Am i not human, am I not to be the one in the position of being sympathetic towards?

somehow u Bleep up o. With this type of money , no woman suppose dey do anyhow with you. You need to stamp more authority bro. U should have Access to all her gadgets without her questioning you

kbower:
This is exactly what I did over the last 2 days now, and guess what, she has been stalking me with calls. I only call her when there is something important to discuss, but calls based on, i miss u and all of that nor even dey again, the moment she noticed I have drifted from showing affection over calls, she started bombarding me with calls complaining that I dont call her.

You are getting your power back as a man. Let her be the one over u, so she won't have time for that so called new friend.

kbower:
I cant stay here, we have sold almost everything, visa is running, accommodation already secured. But I know sey God dey sha.

You nag too much and overprotective!!!! Try to work on it. You will soon meet your wife and so stop all these agitation

Mummyimbecile:
Truth be told, you can't treat your wife anyhow you feel in a western country. They give women so much power.

I plan to marry my girlfriend of over 5 years by March next year and file for her to migrate to the US. When she comes, I plan to sponsor her to become a Registered Nurse...I have begged her to behave herself once she enters the United States, and above all stay away from all these white women. Most of them are the ones spoiling our wives who migrate over here.

U beg her. Lol . Them the beg woman in advance. Watin go be go be

Amotolongbo:
All I can read here are
1. A lady who isn’t straight forward
2. A man who feels insecure

you scumbags use this insecure shit to play mind games with guys that allow you do that. Why will he not be insecure if the woman dosnt give him reasons to be secure. Presently my gf is not in the country she opens up on her every move she even allows me monitor anything I want to monitor. Why will I be insecure in this situation. Omo that guy has every reason to be insecure if that's what you call it

LyfeJennings:
Pele o
Baba Londoner

Ask the google
Alaye, I never go there but got a woman and half of my family there so I know what I say
iGoing by all this nigga wrote
Dem don shook am.
Who calls his spouse 15times

If I were you, I wouldn't bother replying to such person.. How does have you ever been to the UK the issue here If you check this person properly, he's in Obalende or mushin and he doesn't have passport, you can easily spot them by their words... Someone who has travelled will not ask such question..

Okonandmary:
You will lose your wife soon.
Just a little freedom and she is misplacing her priorities.

Sometimes i winder why it is difficult for some women to play along as a team reaching a goal with their husbands

I will advice you not to worry yourself, the cure for this isn't to run yourself down with hypertension. Stop caring and acting like you cant live without her.

not after pumping 27m into this

Munzy14:
First cut down on your insecurities..Women worry more and behave best, when you seem to be less interested in her acts.

If she knows she has your mumu button, your name is "SORRY".. she will use it to a greater advantage.

For now, she is trying to survive...But my best advise to you is to have a plan B which is more of self development to make more money as well..You will need it as things progress..Don't say nobody told you.

If you aren't sure of planB over there, You will have to abort mission..Maybe your kids can go while you establish yourself here and visit them over there.

It is never a man's way to depend on a woman..She will insult, and make you regret the day you met her..a woman wants to survive at all means in some cases..

If you must go, go because you have something tangible to foot your bills there..Never you ever depend on any woman..forget the love and sweetie, she go show you pepper when the table switch.

Lastly, I will never make this kind mistake..If abroad go sup, I will go there, test the waters, secure a niche, create a habitat and bring her and my kids over there...And not the other way..

Abroad no get formula for woman especially if she don get green card

kbower:
According to the emboldened part of your post, how did I hand over the captain badge to her? By taking her abroad?

Yes by making yourself a dependent.
You don't know the real nature of a woman until she's at advantage.

Just wait for what to play out to play out but make sure you're independent so you won't fall into maximum depression.

papito737:
Hmmm. How do people manage in marriages like these?
If your story is true, these are signs that there are many things going on with and in her that you probably dont know about. If this continues, you guys would separate at last.
Be a man, take the hard decision. Let her and your kids be the dependent ones, not you.
Also, it is better to live a good and peaceful life in Nigeria than a bad one - which you would later regret - in the UK.

with the tyoe it money he mentioned, I don't even know what he is going to find abroad