dem go soon run street 4 my guy head

Abort the mission.
Lots of k leg already.

Wasted money and time.
Better late anyway

Omo..Them done comot wife pant for UK, yet are busy asking questions here..it's unfortunate.

OkoAmarashy:


I see a lot of foolish men allowing their wives lead them to the UK. They will come back crying in 2 years max.
You leave your work, follow your wife go UK, make am primary applicant. You are already ruined.

This is so true my guys pls think carefully once roles are reversed and the woman is bringing money into the household it is the beginning of the end only a few will remain loyal ....if you are following your woman to the uk pls have a back up plan don't sell all your properties or possessions its a foolish move

You are the one that is stupid here,you think UK is more of a priority to the guy? If the woman want to be unfortunate she should try to avoid her husband and kids entry then.

I think you shouldnt overwork yourself over this issue. You made the right decision by allowing her to go there and secure a space for the family.
I haven't been to U.K, but I knw it is not easy find one's way around and finally getting settled. It takes a smart person to achieve that. She is just a woman and beleive me, She's not finding it easy. She might just be using all the avenue available to her over there. She might not be necessarily cheating on you.
Probably she ignored you because you were putting alot of pressure on her even when she was probably stressed out.
Give her the trust and time to achieve her goal.
Wish you all the best.

kbower:


I cant stay here, we have sold almost everything, visa is running, accommodation already secured. But I know say God dey sha.

Brother I feel your pain.
Your wife has traumatized you so much that you don't trust her.
She knows that you don't trust her and she resents you for that.

You guys have communication issues so you can't talk through issues without flaring up and having the communication lines break down.

You have been managing the situation in Naija but trust me when I say you can't do that in the UK.

There are faultlines in your marriage that will widen up in the UK especially now that your wife would have the upper hand.

You can't force her,she will kick you out. If you become to much of a hindrance to her enjoying her life, she will kick you out. You should never have agreed for your family to go to the UK with all the issues you guys have.

Brother you are in trouble. I'm sorry I have to be blunt. In your heart you know that you are. Only God can save you now. You must accept the reality and take courageous steps to protect yourself.

You must begin to look out for yourself. Spend less time worrying about her and take care of yourself.

Pursue your dreams and work your ass off. Save money and invest back home in your name. Don't tell her.

Work out and invest in dressing to kill. Flip the cards and let women give you attention whether your wife is aware or not.
You must reduce the love you have for her so you can think clearly and smartly.

Try and have her on record. Document everything and conversation you think is important. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best.

Lastly fast and pray alot for God's grace. Pray for her too, God can decide to help her.
Wish you well.

Amotolongbo:
All I can read here are 1. A lady who isn’t straight forward 2. A man who feels insecure

Would you feel secure dating someone who is not straightforward?

OkoAmarashy:


Show him this thread.

Meself the uk. Because him see say I de do well. Na Bcus I been single. I fit the road one week the hustle. As a family man you can’t leave your kids

I understand how you feel bro, Just be calm.
I always say this to my peeps, Make yourself your number 1 priority in all you do “ Be selfish”
Truth be told women are not worth your stress.
Dont allow self pity, care less for anyone, don’t be too emotional and always believe in yourself.
Overall, learn to have a backup plan in all you do.
I am married with 2 kids and I have a happy home.
My watchword? “NOTHING, I mean nothing can give me hypertension. Its either I stay or go.
Life is good man. Enjoy it

kbower:

I cant stay here, we have sold almost everything, visa is running, accommodation already secured. But I know sey God dey sha.

Is cheap to take care of kids over there,why will he leave kids in Nigeria,that’s not a smart one to do,kids should start their life anew there,once the lady is done with school,and was able to secure job as well the man can start thinking of relocating to another city ,country or back to Nigeria I care the woman still come up with her disrespecting attitude

yungz:
@kbower


with emphasis on loyalty, why did you send her out?
i don’t know where women adopt this behavior of disrespecting their spouse once they leave nigeria?

your wife disrespect’s you in nigeria and you still have the mind to relocate her to a country that gives women the veto power to useless their spouse.

sentiment asides, a form of transaction in exchange for exposure or connects would probably hold someday between your spouse and y/friend in liverpool or mr mike.

ps: if your kids are minor please leave them in nigeria.

kbower:


I cant stay here, we have sold almost everything, visa is running, accommodation already secured. But I know sey God dey sha.

Bro,

I think you should not over think things. Yes, things might be going some how but just give a benefit of a doubt and prepare for the worst.

You go dai alright. God is with you bro..

nedekid:
Hmm, op, op. There is fire on the mountain. First, I can assure you that 2 months ago, UK was not that cold that your hand will get frozen, infact it was hot, just like naija. I was here in mid October to first week of September and so I know. Even now, I am back in the UK, it is cold but not very cold. Lowest so far 14 but average ly 18-22 degrees. In fact I just stepped out to smoke wearing normal cloths.
That said, what is her business assisting someone she does not know before get a referee? Oga those naija men in London don't waste time ohh. Seems your madam is enjoying her freedom and attention. Unfortunately a lot of married women will use that opportunity to taste other "things".
Women are doing it when in naija with their husband's how much more far away in another country where no one knows them.
My paddy that was shouting Sai baba those days cos he was doing well. Immediately buhari entered, every thing went bad. He sold every thing including his shop, SUV etc and did US visa for his family, they gave them. Big mistake, instead of him to go first, na him wife go, say when she work she go send money. Long story short, 5 years now madam don lost for US. Even oga visa don expire. Always better for the hubby to go first or you all go together.
You sha, blind your eye and don't kill yourself with stress cos what will happen will happen. Try to get to UK very very fast if you wish to salvage your marriage. One you get there don't ask or probe further to avoid conflict. Get a job also do part-time schooling to upgrade yourself.
It is usually hard on the man at first, but when you find your feet and balanced financially, you should be good.

Best advice so far

vickydevoka:

Abroad no get formula for woman especially if she don get green card

A reason why I will abort mission if I mistakenly found myseld in OP's snickers

No be all women them the send on such mission..We have rare breeds of women/wife that one can send on such mission and she will achieve the purpose.

A family friend sent his wife on such during our childhood days.. two years after, the wife cleared all of them from Naija down to UK..

God bless you bro.
Check my comment to OP.
No woman can stress me in this life. I will kill her with jealousy already.
I so much believe in plan B, but my wife see it as threats to our union.
Life is good oo, as in very good

Bonjovi13:


Brother I feel your pain.
Your wife has traumatized you so much that you don't trust her.
She knows that you don't trust her and she resents you for that.

You guys have communication issues so you can't talk through issues without flaring up and having the communication lines break down.

You have been managing the situation in Naija but trust me when I say you can't do that in the UK.

There are faultlines in your marriage that will widen up in the UK especially now that your wife would have the upper hand.

You can't force her,she will kick you out. If you become to much of a hindrance to her enjoying her life, she will kick you out. You should never have agreed for your family to go to the UK with all the issues you guys have.

Brother you are in trouble. I'm sorry I have to be blunt. In your heart you know that you are. Only God can save you now. You must accept the reality and take courageous steps to protect yourself.

You must begin to look out for yourself. Spend less time worrying about her and take care of yourself.

Pursue your dreams and work your ass off. Save money and invest back home in your name. Don't tell her.

Work out and invest in dressing to kill. Flip the cards and let women give you attention whether your wife is aware or not.
You must reduce the love you have for her so you can think clearly and smartly.

Try and have her on record. Document everything and conversation you think is important. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best.

Lastly fast and pray alot for God's grace. Pray for her too, God can decide to help her.
Wish you well.

beelon1020:
Bro’s sorry about this, but I tell you, that mr mike don dey bang your wife,..
1. How did he know she got big backside?... because he has seen it.. but your wife will deny this ofcorse...
2. You see what happened in the video call? That was a planned move by her, they were together before your call came in...
3. Both of them have been dating behind you, she is just trying to balance her actions...
you see a friend of mine bleeping a married naija lady here,.. the bleeping na brutal one... but anytime the husband called from naija, she no go pick, when she pick, the guy go hide him other room for them to talk, after she finished video and phone calls with hubby... omo bleeping continued o!
Honestly I was surprised to find out how women are generally lose in here and most Western world...
Heard many cases among my homies here, banging many married women... mostly during winter... that cold hennnn! It’s well o
At this point.. reset your mind set OGA... be prayerful, watchful and be very observant... all the best..

seriously

Your first mistake was letting her be the first to go. She'd probably do her best to delay you coming over there.

Where are you all coming from ? Unsecured ? Really wtf,have you guys me abt insecured men before ?

Romanoff:
Your insecurity is a foundational problem because if after three kids, una still dey get this issue, then I no sure say remedy dey again.

The trust issues is probably one of the reasons she decided for y'all to japa so she can be free.

Before you relocate with the kids, go there alone and have a proper discussion with her about your concerns. If you're unable to reach an agreement, don't proceed with the relocation.

The "authority" you still have in Nigeria will be split into two in the abroad, you go cook, you go clean, you go look after your children while she dey school.

If you as a typical Nigerian man will have to do these and still battle trust issues, you will beat her one day and na that one go worse pass. Them go just deport you without your kids.

Think it carefully.

dazzlingd:
I don’t know how you men agree to become dependent to a woman and follow her to UK, aren’t you a man. The African in you says you are the man and a woman should follow and support your dreams not the other way. You cannot import western standard to an African, there won’t be balance. When Nigerian girls get abroad, the freedom run them crazy and they can’t sustain it.

It’s usually because they want to work full time.

kbower:


I cant stay here, we have sold almost everything, visa is running, accommodation already secured. But I know sey God dey sha.

I've advised some close friends on this. That you want to japa doesn't mean there shouldn't be a fall back option. If you don't have a property in 9ja, you can still keep your rented apartment and belongings till you settle really well in your new country before you dispose them, just in case...

I feel your pain man... but try and clear your head a little. Your wife may not be playing games yet. You owe a lot to your kids for better life so get them and yourself to UK asap.

You will be working full time so you will be able to secure a decent apartment for the family in no time. It's after this you can know if truly your wife is playing games. 11years is a fairly long time and I don't think you want to throw it all away now, especially with kids involved.

You can also have a plan b as you settle in UK. Apply for Canada PNP in one of the less competitive provinces. A change of environment may be necessary to keep your home intact.

All the best man.

The problem for this world na responsible men get am

duduade:


Stay back in Nigeria while the kids join their mother... You can be visiting them ....and vice versa where they can be visiting you in Nigeria

And you had to quote the whole story to write 3 lines

nahzyla:
How old is the Op's wife?
She behaves like a thoughtless child, imagine adding another man to listen to a personal call with your husband without telling the husband himself, where is the loyalty she is supposed to have in marriage? She just embarrassed her spouse and made him look stupid to another man.
And she is still relating with the guy and telling her husband to help him even when she knows the man has his eyes on her.

I wish you good luck ooo, Op. Sorry to say but you need to be very smart with her in your marriage after you get to UK.

When I saw peeps saying he is insecure, I wonder if we read same OP even though I didn't finish it.

The part I read is enough to know that his wife doesn't respect the union.

Why? Is another question.

Honestly every man need to be financially buoyant and solely in charge of his family finances to avoid see finish, may God help all the good men abeg


Its not good for a man to marry a lady he loves more than the lady loves him.


As a married man that I am, I am just imagining my wife acting this way op narrated, highly impossible....na she de even worry about losing me to thousands of hotter chicks despite how hot she herself is



And op, you too de worry about your wife, someone that has given birth to 3 kids for you, wetin again remain to worry about, if any man likes her more make him carry her de go na....I wonder if your wife fine pass Bianca Ojukwu....as fine as my wife is, I no de even send her and men disturbing themselves about her, if them want make them carry her de go na so I can see road marry 3 younger chicks in one month like Ooni of Ife

dazzlingd:
I don’t know how you men agree to become dependent to a woman and follow her to UK, aren’t you a man. The African in you says you are the man and a woman should follow and support your dreams not the other way. You cannot import western standard to an African, there won’t be balance. When Nigerian girls get abroad, the freedom run them crazy and they can’t sustain it.

If u go as the main and you cant work properly due to restrictions...and ur wife who is the dependent is able to work full hours and make more money than u...then u will still have to face the humiliation of being financially dependent on her....the koko is to marry who love u, respect u and has same goals with u

kbower:
Hi Nlanders

We all know no marriage is all that smooth and rosey, we all that are in it have challenges here and there, and for almost 11 years now, out of tolerance, ruggedity, minding my business in terms of taking care of the family have always been something that has held my marriage down, because the majority of the issue I have with my wife have always been issues of trust, transparency, accountability, respect and loyalty.

Some people will say with these things I have listed, that I may be asking for too much, but I can tell whoever would reason that way that it's not too much because am a responsible father/husband that have never for once strayed the family in anyway that will make me lack any of the above stated qualities a man can enjoy from a wife.

Why am I here? Ok.. After enduring so much for 11 years, we are relocating to the UK, she is the main applicant, myself and the 3 children are dependants, she traveled first, leaving myself and the 3 kids behind until she can secure accommodation b4 we leave.

I have heard about countless incidences of how SOME women treat their husbands and the POWER zoned to women in that country which makes it almost impossible for a man with a wife that gives him constant problem to be able to thrive in that country.

I just want to state three peculiar incidences that occured during her 1month stay over there that is already making me feel I have alot to face over there, though I know my God is bigger than anything, I just want people that are over there, or people that are experienced here and all over who are capable of handing a good advise for me on getting there to know how I can fare and withstand what is to come.

Based on the above from the major incidences I have experienced with her, first two weeks of being there, she had gone to check a house b4 heading to school, on her way back to school, she claimed she didn't take enough money and going back home might not be possible, I asked how she would wanna go about it
and she replied saying I will borrow money from Mr Mike, a man she just met at school on her first day of registration. I was like that's wrong, you don't form familiarity with someone you just met in another man's country, I said I will call a friend in liverpool to send you money and you could get your train ticket. She fumed, but I stood my ground and said that's how its going to be. I have asked her to collect a friends account details, since she has not opened an account yet, she said when her class finishes by 8.30pm she'll request details from her friend so the money can be sent. Fast forward to closing period, I messaged her to send me details, she ignored, I called ad she said nobody has an account that I should not worry she will sort herself, I was now like you just got to that country, u have no friends that u know too well to rely on, I am ur hubby and I opened a way for u to get money easily, yet u didn't make any effort to redeem the opportunity, omo she hung up on me then later called back that she gathered few pennies she had to get the ticket, I was now like why didn't u just say this instead of putting me on pressure over how to get money to convey u all the way from london to Luton, over an hour journey at night.

Secondly, on her next school day, she had previously told me prior to her closing hours that her data has finished and she's using schools wifi, that the moment she steps out from school to head home, she won't be having access to internet, etc WhatsApp and all of that, but importantly was to make use of GPS google map, that's what people over there use to navigate their way in order not to get lost, I was like without internet how do u intend to get to ur destination when u know how stressful it was for u getting lost the other day, now the same statement she made was, I will sort myself. I was raged and said woman I will ask my friend to buy u data so u can get home easy and safe, she said no proble, that she's leaving now, I said well since i wont be able to reach you on whats app, I will definitely call you on normal call shortly to give you the data pin to load. She said no P and hung up.

Moments later, my friend had sent me the data pin, na so I begin dey call wifey oo, over 15 missed calls she nor pick. Later she called back and said her phone was in her laptop bag and her hands were frozen so she couldnt put hands in the bag to pick the call and that she didn't even hear it ring.

The issue I posted up there are issues of not being accountable, and attitude of not showing that you don't need me when its not just about that but for security and your well being knowing fully well you are new in the country and proper guidelines needs to be taken.

Another incident happened 3rd week after her arrival, we were video chatting while she was on a train station waiting for train, next thing I noticed was a guy sitting BEHIND her, the guy boldly took a peep into her phone directly, seemingly trying to see who she was on video call with, immediately i called her attention to it, she just smiled and looked back and said silently, nawa some people for this London nor go mind their business. This very day developed a story that transitioned towards few things I will be stating.

The next sunday, I called her in the morin to say hi and all that, next thing I know she dun dey go church, she nor even discuss am with me and na wetin we dn agree on sey we fo jointly choose church wey we go dey go. After church service, she call me sey that guy wey i talk sey dey peep into her phone, sey the guy that very day asked her how long shes been there for, she said, just 3 weeks, sey how come she come take know road when him don dey 3months he nver know road, sey that same guy him coincidentally meet am for the new church wey she come so, sey the guy dey look am, she comot eye, but later the guy come meet am sey are u not the one that showed me way to where I was going. Sey as him meet the guy coincidentally for church, he fit be sey he get why, maybe for job connection or what not. I nor say anything, cos coincidences arent something new in this world. Then the next day, she call me sey that same guy needs an apartment, sey na married guy with 4 kids, but him wife and 1kid dey here, 3 dey nija them nor fit come yet until house is ready, sey him dey ask her if she can help him get someone that can reference for him to get a house, ha him my wife come dey ginger me sey make i help am talk to my friend wey help us reference if him go fit help the guy too. I come sey no problem, she sey she go call the guy now and put us on 3 way call, i sey no p, i come dey wait for call, no call come and madam nor talk again, i come ring her sey hafa u nor do the three way call again? She sey the guy dey work, him nor fit talk,sey she don give the guy my number to call me later, me come sey no p, send him number I go save am down so if he calls i go know sey na him, madam nor gree send number, I come dey wonder sey wetin dey sup sef, normally I nor spose reason ahead, but me my instict dey very strong, i come begin dey put two and two together sey maybe the guy intention was never to get help but to use style dey hit on my madam maybe na why him nor wan talk to me but wan use my madam dey take communicate.

I come ask madam some some questions on previous ish, I come find out sey small lie dey, so I tackler her sey the way she take explain to me about how him meet the guy for train station nor join, she come vex sey me i come am liar, omo as we dey talk for whatsapp, i nor blv sey my madam added this guy to the call without my consent or my knowledge, so as I dey talk, the guy dey the background, i nor even know anything and the dude himself kept quiet, na after the call finish, I see am for call details sey the guy was added to the call, infact the dude even called me directky i nor pick. Now i got very angry, come call madam sey wetin dey sup, u added this dude wey talk sey him dey work him nor fit talk to the call wey me and u dey on and u didnt even notify me, ok lets agree sey if to sey u wan tell me sey u wan add the guy for call sey i nor go gree sey maybe na why u add am without my consent, at least after u add am secretly, u are suppose to talk and sey bae, since u are accusing me wrongly.

I have added the guy to this call so he can clear me out, but she didnt, she just added the guy and the dude himself kept quiet and didnt say a word until I hung up. I got very furious and told her this is the highest level of see finish and dragging in the mud, wetin u want that guy to dey feel like now? She said shes sorry that she only wanted to clear herself, I was now like even if u wanted to clear urself, if that the best way to go about it, the person who is the subject matter is the best person u need to introduce to clear u out? Later on i just bone the matter come apologise sey make we move on, na so she come begin dey yarn plenty, sey she call the guy that my hubby said that the way we met is unreal, sey the guy sef come talk sey wow, so your husband already thinks am sleeping with you, but i cant blame u though, u know u have a big back side, so thoughts like that from him is likely not a surprise, i was hmmmm to hear that, i come tell madam sey if na true this guy talk this thing, shouldnt u already know he has corny itentions, she said well she too dey wonder cos the two times wey them meet she nor wear wetin fit show her bkside so how d guy come take know. The matter end there, next day madam still dey worry me sey shey I go still help d guy, I was like I cant even talk to him, u dun useless me already for him presence, she dey claim sey she nor do anything wrong by adding him to the call, sey the guy know of agency wey fit help me get better job if i arrive, and sey the guy talk sey if me fit connect am to my friend to reference am for house, him go link me up fr the agency. I talk sey i nor dey interested. Omo I weak. Guys I need advise on how to handle issues over there, cos me nor dey take nonsense for nija here, but for there, one needs to chill, but then should it now be sey because we dey live for country wey give woman power, make woman come use that opportunity come dey fumble?

Trust me no guy in the uk wanna fuq a old married broke ass Nigerian student bish....you have nothing to be so insecure about....you as a guy the dependent have a bigger chance to hitting a sugar mama than her.

1Sharon:
How can a student have dependents? Such a stupid UK policy.

This is 180 degrees deviation from the OP

Amotolongbo:
All I can read here are
1. A lady who isn’t straight forward
2. A man who feels insecure

A man who feels insecure really? I do not blame you. You are seeing someone who does not respect her husband and you dare call his reaction "insecurity"

hmmmm

Okonandmary:
You will lose your wife soon.
Just a little freedom and she is misplacing her priorities.

Sometimes i winder why it is difficult for some women to play along as a team reaching a goal with their husbands

I will advice you not to worry yourself, the cure for this isn't to run yourself down with hypertension. Stop caring and acting like you cant live without her.

That woman does not sound like someone that was really into him...And I do not think he didn't see those signs before they got married.

No man should marry a woman that disrespect him... NONE!

kbower:
Hi Nlanders

We all know no marriage is all that smooth and rosey, we all that are in it have challenges here and there, and for almost 11 years now, out of tolerance, ruggedity, minding my business in terms of taking care of the family have always been something that has held my marriage down, because the majority of the issue I have with my wife have always been issues of trust, transparency, accountability, respect and loyalty.

Some people will say with these things I have listed, that I may be asking for too much, but I can tell whoever would reason that way that it's not too much because am a responsible father/husband that have never for once strayed the family in anyway that will make me lack any of the above stated qualities a man can enjoy from a wife.

Why am I here? Ok.. After enduring so much for 11 years, we are relocating to the UK, she is the main applicant, myself and the 3 children are dependants, she traveled first, leaving myself and the 3 kids behind until she can secure accommodation b4 we leave.

I have heard about countless incidences of how SOME women treat their husbands and the POWER zoned to women in that country which makes it almost impossible for a man with a wife that gives him constant problem to be able to thrive in that country.

I just want to state three peculiar incidences that occured during her 1month stay over there that is already making me feel I have alot to face over there, though I know my God is bigger than anything, I just want people that are over there, or people that are experienced here and all over who are capable of handing a good advise for me on getting there to know how I can fare and withstand what is to come.

Based on the above from the major incidences I have experienced with her, first two weeks of being there, she had gone to check a house b4 heading to school, on her way back to school, she claimed she didn't take enough money and going back home might not be possible, I asked how she would wanna go about it
and she replied saying I will borrow money from Mr Mike, a man she just met at school on her first day of registration. I was like that's wrong, you don't form familiarity with someone you just met in another man's country, I said I will call a friend in liverpool to send you money and you could get your train ticket. She fumed, but I stood my ground and said that's how its going to be. I have asked her to collect a friends account details, since she has not opened an account yet, she said when her class finishes by 8.30pm she'll request details from her friend so the money can be sent. Fast forward to closing period, I messaged her to send me details, she ignored, I called ad she said nobody has an account that I should not worry she will sort herself, I was now like you just got to that country, u have no friends that u know too well to rely on, I am ur hubby and I opened a way for u to get money easily, yet u didn't make any effort to redeem the opportunity, omo she hung up on me then later called back that she gathered few pennies she had to get the ticket, I was now like why didn't u just say this instead of putting me on pressure over how to get money to convey u all the way from london to Luton, over an hour journey at night.

Secondly, on her next school day, she had previously told me prior to her closing hours that her data has finished and she's using schools wifi, that the moment she steps out from school to head home, she won't be having access to internet, etc WhatsApp and all of that, but importantly was to make use of GPS google map, that's what people over there use to navigate their way in order not to get lost, I was like without internet how do u intend to get to ur destination when u know how stressful it was for u getting lost the other day, now the same statement she made was, I will sort myself. I was raged and said woman I will ask my friend to buy u data so u can get home easy and safe, she said no proble, that she's leaving now, I said well since i wont be able to reach you on whats app, I will definitely call you on normal call shortly to give you the data pin to load. She said no P and hung up.

Moments later, my friend had sent me the data pin, na so I begin dey call wifey oo, over 15 missed calls she nor pick. Later she called back and said her phone was in her laptop bag and her hands were frozen so she couldnt put hands in the bag to pick the call and that she didn't even hear it ring.

The issue I posted up there are issues of not being accountable, and attitude of not showing that you don't need me when its not just about that but for security and your well being knowing fully well you are new in the country and proper guidelines needs to be taken.

Another incident happened 3rd week after her arrival, we were video chatting while she was on a train station waiting for train, next thing I noticed was a guy sitting BEHIND her, the guy boldly took a peep into her phone directly, seemingly trying to see who she was on video call with, immediately i called her attention to it, she just smiled and looked back and said silently, nawa some people for this London nor go mind their business. This very day developed a story that transitioned towards few things I will be stating.

The next sunday, I called her in the morin to say hi and all that, next thing I know she dun dey go church, she nor even discuss am with me and na wetin we dn agree on sey we fo jointly choose church wey we go dey go. After church service, she call me sey that guy wey i talk sey dey peep into her phone, sey the guy that very day asked her how long shes been there for, she said, just 3 weeks, sey how come she come take know road when him don dey 3months he nver know road, sey that same guy him coincidentally meet am for the new church wey she come so, sey the guy dey look am, she comot eye, but later the guy come meet am sey are u not the one that showed me way to where I was going. Sey as him meet the guy coincidentally for church, he fit be sey he get why, maybe for job connection or what not. I nor say anything, cos coincidences arent something new in this world. Then the next day, she call me sey that same guy needs an apartment, sey na married guy with 4 kids, but him wife and 1kid dey here, 3 dey nija them nor fit come yet until house is ready, sey him dey ask her if she can help him get someone that can reference for him to get a house, ha him my wife come dey ginger me sey make i help am talk to my friend wey help us reference if him go fit help the guy too. I come sey no problem, she sey she go call the guy now and put us on 3 way call, i sey no p, i come dey wait for call, no call come and madam nor talk again, i come ring her sey hafa u nor do the three way call again? She sey the guy dey work, him nor fit talk,sey she don give the guy my number to call me later, me come sey no p, send him number I go save am down so if he calls i go know sey na him, madam nor gree send number, I come dey wonder sey wetin dey sup sef, normally I nor spose reason ahead, but me my instict dey very strong, i come begin dey put two and two together sey maybe the guy intention was never to get help but to use style dey hit on my madam maybe na why him nor wan talk to me but wan use my madam dey take communicate.

I come ask madam some some questions on previous ish, I come find out sey small lie dey, so I tackler her sey the way she take explain to me about how him meet the guy for train station nor join, she come vex sey me i come am liar, omo as we dey talk for whatsapp, i nor blv sey my madam added this guy to the call without my consent or my knowledge, so as I dey talk, the guy dey the background, i nor even know anything and the dude himself kept quiet, na after the call finish, I see am for call details sey the guy was added to the call, infact the dude even called me directky i nor pick. Now i got very angry, come call madam sey wetin dey sup, u added this dude wey talk sey him dey work him nor fit talk to the call wey me and u dey on and u didnt even notify me, ok lets agree sey if to sey u wan tell me sey u wan add the guy for call sey i nor go gree sey maybe na why u add am without my consent, at least after u add am secretly, u are suppose to talk and sey bae, since u are accusing me wrongly.

I have added the guy to this call so he can clear me out, but she didnt, she just added the guy and the dude himself kept quiet and didnt say a word until I hung up. I got very furious and told her this is the highest level of see finish and dragging in the mud, wetin u want that guy to dey feel like now? She said shes sorry that she only wanted to clear herself, I was now like even if u wanted to clear urself, if that the best way to go about it, the person who is the subject matter is the best person u need to introduce to clear u out? Later on i just bone the matter come apologise sey make we move on, na so she come begin dey yarn plenty, sey she call the guy that my hubby said that the way we met is unreal, sey the guy sef come talk sey wow, so your husband already thinks am sleeping with you, but i cant blame u though, u know u have a big back side, so thoughts like that from him is likely not a surprise, i was hmmmm to hear that, i come tell madam sey if na true this guy talk this thing, shouldnt u already know he has corny itentions, she said well she too dey wonder cos the two times wey them meet she nor wear wetin fit show her bkside so how d guy come take know. The matter end there, next day madam still dey worry me sey shey I go still help d guy, I was like I cant even talk to him, u dun useless me already for him presence, she dey claim sey she nor do anything wrong by adding him to the call, sey the guy know of agency wey fit help me get better job if i arrive, and sey the guy talk sey if me fit connect am to my friend to reference am for house, him go link me up fr the agency. I talk sey i nor dey interested. Omo I weak. Guys I need advise on how to handle issues over there, cos me nor dey take nonsense for nija here, but for there, one needs to chill, but then should it now be sey because we dey live for country wey give woman power, make woman come use that opportunity come dey fumble?

If this story is fiction, well it's funny but if it's real story, the guy has bleeped your wife: missionary, doggy, licked her pussy and might collect her from you soon

OP start him story with English, frustration make am end am with pidgin.

Pele.