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zrealjaheal:
Now the thing is I wanna know how you managed

I don't have a dim to my name curently shame won't even let me leave the house during the day. I only go out at night. Just take a walk and head back inside.

Why I take that walk is just so i could see others who are actually passing through my phase or even worst (not to mock them but to give myself hope)

Just yesterday inside heard a family complaining about shelter and no food.. but me i got shelter( at least where to rest my head) but no food. I just went in back played music till I crashed. Thanks to an individual on this platform that sent me 500 was able to withdraw 400 thanks to pos charges


Things hard but we go harder

OldNairalander:
Hmm interesting thread
I had access to the corridors of power as a LG deputy speaker between 2007 and 2010.
I have shook hands with the governor, met many people that matters in politics.
My greatest mistake is not taking advantage of the privilege then.
I contested house of assembly primary election under PDP and lost. I was promised a slot in the incoming govt. if I remain in the party but I refused.
I spent millions and bought ACN ticket (the candidate stepped down for me).
Spent the little savings I made from my tenure and borrowed heavily to finance the election in 2011 with assurance from my god father backing me up (who died before the election)
Unfortunately, I lost the election and sold all my landed Properties to pay off my debts.
My political god father's death cut short my political journey seriously
Those days as an incumbent in a major oil producing local government, the money was flowing. To cut the long story short, I ended up with 7 official baby Mama's now but no wife. I didn't toast any of them for one day, they simply made themselves available.
The story too long abeg

Haaa

2Radii:
Lol, anybody that told me a destiny can be rewritten I see that kind of a person as a shallow minded fellow who wouldn't tink deep.

Richesntteh:
I was not poor nor very rich but I was ok. In 2018 I made 8.6million after graduation in 2015. I bought my first car (toyota corolla 2005 model). Life happens positively to me. I became the first to own a car in my family. Before now I got married in 2014 n we are blessed with 3kids. Wahala started in 2020 during covid-19. I did a contract with a state government n the project was later abandoned. No payment till date. I made few financial mistakes through wrong investment and sourounding my self with fake and wrong people. In mid of 2021 my dad's health became a challenge. His condition finished the remaining money and in November that year he died. I started thinking of suicide. My wife withdraw her respect 80% from me. I began to struggle. Move from church to church.
In order to alleviate the situation, a friend of mind connected me to people that do sales contract jobs. There was no money so I had to buy black market money (250,000) at 30% interest rate. To return capital and interest once after 120days. By this time my late dad is in the monk. I stayed for more than 3month no job nor contract. My BP began to rise. Suicide thought increase but whenever I set my eyes on my beautiful children tears roll down and I change my thought. In summary I have to sale my car to pay part of the debt n some for my dad's funeral which held in the second quarter of this year. Am still indebted to where I bought money. Till now I don't have a job. Most times I stayed indoor for month. Am only surviving through my late dad's small pension. It last only two weeks.
I have waec, bsc incase anyone can help me with a job. I can work anywhere in nigeria including borno state. Life is very difficult without money as a family man.

onyxo76:
ol boy, 20m back into betting...that one strong o

zrealjaheal:
Chief I am not disputing you.. you could creativity to the whites. . But we blacks are the ones that get the work done


Now tell me
Are we blacks lazy?

Sochieke:
3 years ago I was basically a King from 2018 to 2019. I was doing my MBA in Zurich Switzerland, the most expensive city in the world. I was young at 24 to 25 years. Before that I was in Malaysia doing a levels and Bsc between 2010 and 2017 plus gap years I took.

Malaysia is less expensive than Switzerland but its not really that cheap because I lived in the capital (Kuala Lumpur). 2 of my sisters were also studying together with me. All financed by my father

All funded by my late father. My school fees in switzerland was 33,000 swiss francs and 25,000 swiss francs for living expenses for 1 year. Together everything then was about almost 40 million naira for a year.

While I was there I didn't try to find a job until it was too late (permit was expiring). Before that I'd never worked a day in my life before.

Basically I lived a life of luxury and everything came crashing down

I left switzerland in December 2019, didn't finish my MBA. No funds. Dad's burial took almost everything . family was in so much debt. Its crazy

Dad died few days I was supposed to leave for switzerland (he was old enough 95 years).

Anyway countdown three years later. I'm doing POS business in Lagos. I tried dispatch business but I stopped after 6 months unable to find quality riders and the Daily headaches.

Back to your question on grace to grass.

I used to travel a most every 2 weeks when I was in Switzerland. I've been to France, Germany, London, Dubai for holidays before and now I do a POS business. Its funny because i could be insulted by people wey never cross third mainland bridge before in tjis POS business but it makes me laugh though. I don't beat myself up.


If I tell people say I from.Switzerland, dem no go believe.

Tried to get a job but no positions.

I regret certain things I did. I was too comfortable that I didn't even try to get a job until it was too late.

I regret certain actions. I wished I could change things but I've moved on. Om working hard to see what I can do to rebuild. I believe if God gives me life I can go back to my former lifestyle with improvements

I'm trying to see if I can go back cheaper place like Canada or others, getting help from sister.

Picture attached was my swiss visa.

budaatum:
Only a shallow minded person believes in destiny in the first place. For it's like your every step is predetermined and your life is not your own.

Get a pencil and write your own plan, is what I would suggest. And get an eraser in case you miswrite it and need to erase and rewrite a better plan.

2Radii:
Alaye, Ur life isn't urs in the first place

Bombeverybody:
Bro...you asking this question shows you are currently facing a lot like 95% Nigerians. It has gotten to a point where living souls jealous the dead. People are not afraid to commit suicide, but the pressure afterlife that awaits anyone that kill himself is what makes it difficult. On grace to grass issue, life isn't like a bed of roses. What makes you fall to grass makes another one to fall into grace. Some people with good background started the life with an advantage due to them having someone that will guide,guard them, someone that always have their backs. This writer didn't know his mother , no siblings of maternal blood that I know of, which cost the writer so many things You cannot compare my achievement with someone that have a good mother at his back. There was a time I made some money, wanted to build a house, due to high rate of land grabbers in where I reside , I met my uncle, highly revered in my state, gave him money to get me a plot of land. I had it in mind that with him, everything will be smooth less I forget, he works in URP..urban and regional planning, this year make it 7th year I gave him 600k ..I no see land ooo.
Now tell me, would my mother have done such?
I can boldly that I'm one of the most current person in the Russian/Ukraine war...WHY?
I just want to hear that a nuke has been detonated and there is counter attack , with that, the end of the world will be near and faster than thought..

Roseodd:
Sorry bro,I can't.
But you can send me email.

skj1377:
Thanks will love to reachout if I know your location

Raynald:
Bro i lost 50k to this after learning it during this strike
Guide me

2Radii:
Alaye calm down

You can't hate or fight what u don't see...

Leave God alone to His wonders..


I am sure if I ask you to explain how Oxygen, vegetations, earth(soil), light and darkness (day and night), even you..came into existence you would be blabbing to to prove a point


GOD IS ALIVE, JUST THAT HE WONT DO WHAT HE WONT DO, THAT IS WHY I DONT PRAY AGAIN,

me self no dey pray ooh, but a dey thank my GOD for all His wonders.

budaatum:
Only a shallow minded person believes in destiny in the first place. For it's like your every step is predetermined and your life is not your own.

Get a pencil and write your own plan, is what I would suggest. And get an eraser in case you miswrite it and need to erase and rewrite a better plan.

zrealjaheal:
Happy your daughter is doing fine...



Chief your destiny ain't written anywhere. . E dey your palm.. you write it yourself.. just like I have leant to own up that my mistakes and wrong turns are on me

Gadalo1990:
U dey allowed to imagine whateva God u like. u dont even know what the human mind can do oga. 4 me, itz Bleep God

2Radii:
ok
I like Ur last sentence sir...u said FOR YOU!!

Pathfinder2090:
Yeah I believe your story bro. You know bad things dey always dey funny

budaatum:
Now, that's where you err. Your life is not your's in the first place, and you think everyone is irresponsible for their life like you are.

Perhaps you are not aware that one can go and drink sniper and end one's life whenever one wishes to. Because once you understand that, you'd also understand that one can choose to live one's life however one wants o too.

Read Genesis 3 perhaps. It's a good story showing how to be responsible for your own life instead of being a slave to others.

Gadalo1990:
den u will like diz too, Bleep hiz zon Jezuz too.

zrealjaheal:
Have you ever gone from grace to grass then back to grace again?

Please come in and share your story for some of us to learn because it seems I am finding it hard to get back to my glory days.

zrealjaheal:
Your elder brother will be fine..All he needs is Love. .

Mine is my younger brother.. h travelled to SA from there to Cyprus only to come back to become a junkie...

Grams had to abandon the house for him.. Dude sold everything in the house. .

But we didn't give up on him.. although he doesn't do crack no more he smokes sk now bit we could still see the improvements in him..

Love is all that matters. . Even the bible days WHEN YOU KEEP SHOWING THE WICKED LOVE they'd come back to their senses

OldNairalander:
I got into power at a young age (29). The buzz too much. But I made sure they are gainfully employed.
Many of them willingly want to have my child and they are very ok with it.
Unfortunately, I have an extra high sex drive, part of the reason I don't want to take any girl to the altar.
One woman can't satisfy me. My current gal I'm living with knows this.
It's a fact.

Vadese1:
I was in a world of my own till I lost my job 2014. Everything were just so fast for me. Moving from one country to another with some of the biggest oil and gas services companies. Till now am still finding it difficult to rise again. I have been to several churches to seek for solutions, but nothing has change. Everything remain the same. Just holding on to God for restoration

socialjustice93:
Please where in the island are you resident?

2Radii:
Since u re the owner of Ur life, u should be able to kill ursef and wake ursef back at will na

U should be able to skip nature without any effect

U should be able to control even the unforseen circumstances

U should be able to tell what the future old for u

Tell me where ur soul would be by exact this tym tomorrow.

But I am sure u re not the owner of Ur body(it belongs to the earth) and Ur soul(it belongs to the supreme being (GOD))

budaatum:
This is like claiming I am not the owner of the food that I bought with the money that I worked for and ate because after I have eaten it I can't regurgitate the food back into the plate as it was before I ate it.

Either ways, you keep believing your life is not yours. The implication however is that you are not responsible for nurturing your self, and your manna will fall from the heavens because, "it belongs to the supreme being (GOD)", despite said God telling you you are responsible for it.

2Radii:
forget bible quote, let me ask you, how did u manufacture Ur breathing??

Let start from there

budaatum:
I did not manufacture my breathing. I was born by my mother and breathed, so I guess if anyone has a claim to my life it's her, though she herself will tell you she may have been responsible for bring me into this world but my destiny in it is entirely up to me.