Houseofglam7:
You know what to do. I have no advice to give.

thanks

talk2hb1:
If Reverse is The Case, it is sexual molestation.
I have a Colleague that's caresses me like that, until one day that I looked her in the eye without saying anything that's when she stopped.

Hmmm! that's a good one

Wait a minutes, boobs

SporaD8:

You will find that office hot for you if you tell her off - Ladies Don't take rejection lightly!

Simply tell her: "Unless you want to take me as your second husband, stop the touchy touchy!"
...If she laughed it off and won't stop, you're in big soup!

hmmm!!! I'll try all I can to end this

KingMack:
land her better slap..the kind wan wey she go see stars anytime she touch you again #i_hate_nonsense

no I can't do that abeg!!!

Truvelisback:
Talk true, and u don't like it?

I don't like it

henndukwe18:
Wait a minutes, boobs

yea!! big boobs

udofia234:




I don't like it

U should like it. No be everything woman suppose use mouth tell u.

udofia234:




yea!! big boobs

DT is very embarrassing

Truvelisback:
U should like it. No be everything woman suppose use mouth tell u.

OK sir

udofia234:



I can do that very well , but I feel that will be embarrassing to her.

If it means embarrassing her, please do. It's all about saving yourself first, not saving her face.

Let your body language speak first by withdrawing when she moves closer, if she doesn get it, calmly tell her "I actually don't feel comfortable by too much physical closeness. I'm sorry if this sounds embarrassing to you".

Simple as that.

This guy keeps on creating fake stories just to get to FP.

Bro let just say for now she meant nothing and that is how she communicates with people. It may be its the spoilt side of your mind that is reasoning meaning to her touching. Many people re like that both male and female ..

But to find out if she is up to something I will suggest you pretend to also start touching her purposely too, while talking with her to she her response... Her response will tell you her intention... Cause it will be so embarrassing if you talk to her about her touching you while she meant no intentions or even notices she touches you .. ..

many women play a lot with opposite gender but have zero intentions towards the men, cause of the way and who they grew up withing and family background .. So dont rush to conclude yet do more findings her intentions before you know what to do or say .

udofia234:
Good evening friends!!!

Pls help me out!!! I have a female colleague who's married with kids, every time she's talking to me she like touching or should I say her hands is always on my body, last week I was talking to a colleague she came from behind wanted to tell me something and she pressed her boobs deliberately on my back, I wasn't comfortable with that.


On my own part I don't want to embarrass her, a friend told me is a normal thing and that she means nothing. But I'm a guy and I know the meaning of that touchy attitude... I want to tell her I'm not comfortable with that and I don't know how to put it, I have being running from having anything with a married woman . pls help me guys

She doesn't understand sexual boundaries. You need to set it.

But do it assertively, not aggressively.

How can you do that?

Instead of mentioning her behaviour, mention your own feeling or thoughts about her behaviour.

Instead of saying, "Don't touch me, please,"

Say: "It makes me feel uncomfortable when you touch me".

You need to set boundaries, otherwise people will not know how to behave around you.

If you set boundaries in your mind, people can't see it, so you can't blame them when they trespass.

That is why you should never be rude or aggressive when pointing out your boundaries to someone who does not know it.

There may however be need for action if they become aware of the boundaries and still cross it.

For example, the woman does not know that her liberties are making you uncomfortable. You need to tell her, otherwise she will never know. And you can't blame her.

udofia234:



I can do that very well , but I feel that will be embarrassing to her.

Since ur putting her comfort over urs u really don't want to do anything about it

udofia234:
Good evening friends!!!

Pls help me out!!! I have a female colleague who's married with kids, every time she's talking to me she like touching or should I say her hands is always on my body, last week I was talking to a colleague she came from behind wanted to tell me something and she pressed her boobs deliberately on my back, I wasn't comfortable with that.


On my own part I don't want to embarrass her, a friend told me is a normal thing and that she means nothing. But I'm a guy and I know the meaning of that touchy attitude... I want to tell her I'm not comfortable with that and I don't know how to put it, I have being running from having anything with a married woman . pls help me guys

really miss the days when men had the cohunas to say what was on their minds.

Henrikjay:
Bro let just say for now she meant nothing and that is how she communicates with people. It may be its the spoilt side of your mind that is reasoning meaning to her touching. Many people re like that both male and female ..

But to find out if she is up to something I will suggest you pretend to also start touching her purposely too, while talking with her to she her response... Her response will tell you her intention... Cause it will be so embarrassing if you talk to her about her touching you while she meant no intentions or even notices she touches you .. ..

many women play a lot with opposite gender but have zero intentions towards the men, cause of the way and who they grew up withing and family background .. So dont rush to conclude yet do more findings her intentions before you know what to do or say .

Obviously u know little about women's needs and behaviours. That touching of boobs to the back is the a very direct message. I have this neighbour all over me, wanting to do things for me, always checking on me and making sure we spend time together. I didn't want to accept what I already knew. Then she started keeping late nights at my place. A very curvy girl who has a very good paying job and a bad habit of smoking even more than me. She would dress real skimpy, ass and boobs almost bare. And we would be smoking and drinking in my place sometimes till 2AM. One time she just couldn't take it anymore and asked me if I don't fūck... Because I chose to be celibate for a while so she doesn't know the real me in that aspect but she being a neighbour makes her out of my list. The way she acts around me like she owns me and I'm just happy she's not around this holiday season as my girl is spending time with me I know it would have caused some issues somewhat. Most women are bold at expressing their feelings but not with words directly rather with actions. No need for OP to do any nonsense findings. She wants him. Boob to the back is a classic. We nor dey line for queue. She has hands and no be say she dey hug am from behind which is even another thing on its own.She knows he's a man with red blood, she knows he might take the message anyhow but the truth is she doesn't care and hopes the guy can capitalise on it.

Similar to mine, these 2 married used play all this touchy play, first one hit my but during work, they other one want use play play to my gbola.. Omoh I just distance myself from them... No want wahala


Some married ladies are soo careless..

No cap l don see lotta shiit from them..
Be careful bro this married is something else

udofia234:



I can do that very well , but I feel that will be embarrassing to her.

Be brutal about the warning.Leave sentiment o.Women sometimes no dey reason well till you scold them well.

udofia234:



I can do that very well , but I feel that will be embarrassing to her.

The message is not the problem. How you relay the message is the problem. Is she that way too to every other person? If yes, then it's naturally who she is. Hence, you have to get used to it.

ekitimanalways:


You can say something like, I don't feel comfortable being touched, or I didn't give you permission to touch me. If she doesn’t stop tell someone in authority what has been going on. But with sufficient evidence...

Telling someone in the authority is an escalation and that will be an overreaction.

Op, my generous advice for you is to man up, call her with the cool adjective and tell her assertively that you're not comfortable with her frequent touches on you as you do have utmost respect for married ladies. Shiekena

traihit:


If it means embarrassing her, please do. It's all about saving yourself first, not saving her face.

Let your body language speak first by withdrawing when she moves closer, if she doesn get it, calmly tell her "I actually don't feel comfortable by too much physical closeness. I'm sorry if this sounds embarrassing to you".

Simple as that.

Noted

Henrikjay:
Bro let just say for now she meant nothing and that is how she communicates with people. It may be its the spoilt side of your mind that is reasoning meaning to her touching. Many people re like that both male and female ..

But to find out if she is up to something I will suggest you pretend to also start touching her purposely too, while talking with her to she her response... Her response will tell you her intention... Cause it will be so embarrassing if you talk to her about her touching you while she meant no intentions or even notices she touches you .. ..

many women play a lot with opposite gender but have zero intentions towards the men, cause of the way and who they grew up withing and family background .. So dont rush to conclude yet do more findings her intentions before you know what to do or say .

thanks sir, i tot so too

BluntTheApostle:


She doesn't understand sexual boundaries. You need to set it.

But do it assertively, not aggressively.

How can you do that?

Instead of mentioning her behaviour, mention your own feeling or thoughts about her behaviour.

Instead of saying, "Don't touch me, please,"

Say: "It makes me feel uncomfortable when you touch me".

You need to set boundaries, otherwise people will not know how to behave around you.

If you set boundaries in your mind, people can't see it, so you can't blame them when they trespass.

That is why you should never be rude or aggressive when pointing out your boundaries to someone who does not know it.

There may however be need for action if they become aware of the boundaries and still cross it.

For example, the woman does not know that her liberties are making you uncomfortable. You need to tell her, otherwise she will never know. And you can't blame her.

Noted!!! thanks

Killbillz:

Since ur putting her comfort over urs u really don't want to do anything about it

I'll let her know politely

DaInferno:
really miss the days when men had the cohunas to say what was on their minds.

May God grant us understanding, there are some decisions you'll take on your own thinking its right, but a very wrong decision

Killbillz:

Obviously u know little about women's needs and behaviours. That touching of boobs to the back is the a very direct message. I have this neighbour all over me, wanting to do things for me, always checking on me and making sure we spend time together. I didn't want to accept what I already knew. Then she started keeping late nights at my place. A very curvy girl who has a very good paying job and a bad habit of smoking even more than me. She would dress real skimpy, ass and boobs almost bare. And we would be smoking and drinking in my place sometimes till 2AM. One time she just couldn't take it anymore and asked me if I don't fūck... Because I chose to be celibate for a while so she doesn't know the real me in that aspect but she being a neighbour makes her out of my list. The way she acts around me like she owns me and I'm just happy she's not around this holiday season as my girl is spending time with me I know it would have caused some issues somewhat. Most women are bold at expressing their feelings but not with words directly rather with actions. No need for OP to do any nonsense findings. She wants him. Boob to the back is a classic. We nor dey line for queue. She has hands and no be say she dey hug am from behind which is even another thing on its own.She knows he's a man with red blood, she knows he might take the message anyhow but the truth is she doesn't care and hopes the guy can capitalise on it.

than u sir!

kelspinall:
Similar to mine, these 2 married used play all this touchy play, first one hit my but during work, they other one want use play play to my gbola.. Omoh I just distance myself from them... No want wahala


Some married ladies are soo careless..

No cap l don see lotta shiit from them..
Be careful bro this married is something else

Thanks for that advice

spencekat:
Be brutal about the warning.Leave sentiment o.Women sometimes no dey reason well till you scold them well.

OK sir

intruder15:


The message is not the problem. How you relay the message is the problem. Is she that way too to every other person? If yes, then it's naturally who she is. Hence, you have to get used to it.

she does not relate like that to other male teachers