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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by Pimine: 3:04pm On Dec 28, 2022
Buskynwa:
Racism!
At that point in time you'll feel what an average Hausa aboki feels when he comes to the city side.

Cold ke? There are warmers that are run on gas available almost everywhere but racism? Its a creepy thing, not many people get over it
The main thing for me na cold, bro. Even for naija here, for close to 3 years now, one of my nostrils dey always dey blocked. I don go hospital, take drugs, buy nasal spray e no work. And the symptoms are exacerbated when I feel cold. Can't imagine being in a cold country with these symptoms, honestly.

Let me add this:
I work out. So whenever I do anything that gets my heart racing - it could be as little as 50 pushups, my nostrils immediately get unblocked and I can breathe perfectly.

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by sofeo(m): 3:04pm On Dec 28, 2022
Alright!
Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by khreus(m): 3:04pm On Dec 28, 2022
MackIV:


I'm doing great in Nigeria, on a bad day I could earn upto 100k daily. The fear of starting afresh, earning minimum wage for a long time b4 I start making it scares the sh*t out of me.

Please if you can put me out of my misery


2- The fear of my unborn children losing their culture and heritage.


PS: please don't ask what I do

Please what do you do for a living?

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by Softmirror: 3:07pm On Dec 28, 2022
Olasyke:
Gun violence.
Make person no dey grocery store for night,.make person no come dey do shoot on sight.
Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by Fiscus105(m): 3:09pm On Dec 28, 2022
KosiGee:


You are worried about racism...ok...but you are worried about getting accommodation or buying a house in a predominantly white neighbourhood, you are not concerned about working with or being a senior staff in a place where most of the local workforce hate immigrants, you are not worried about not making friends at the local pub, park, mall or library !!!


You are only concerned with a white woman calling the cops on you when you want to ‘gravitate’ towards her?

Your problem is huuuuuuge.



People like that guy not need replying, people who think and reason only about holes.

A serious man will think how he will be leaving above peers and not women woman and woman.

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by rontolo(m): 3:09pm On Dec 28, 2022
Light78:
Racism.
Imagine no one wants to talk to you because you are black.


Many of the men here think if they go there they will make friends easily. That's a lie

Let's practice...

We are gonna use Man A and a White lady as an example.

He is walking toward a while lady to start a conversation with her.


White lady: Who is this person gravitating towards me?

Man A: Hi, how're you doing?

White lady: Are you sure you are okay? Should I call the authorities on you?

Man A:. He says to himself, shaiii, I think say na so e go easy oooo...

Really? You walk up to someone to start a conversation and they think whether to call the cops on you? Wow. What country exactly are you referring to or are you generalising?

I have lived in multiple Western countries for decades and what you just described here is the strangest thing I’ve heard!

Pls enlighten us, ejoor

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by Softmirror: 3:10pm On Dec 28, 2022
MackIV:


I'm doing great in Nigeria, on a bad day I could earn upto 100k daily. The fear of starting afresh, earning minimum wage for a long time b4 I start making it scares the sh*t out of me.

Please if you can put me out of my misery


2- The fear of my unborn children losing their culture and heritage.


PS: please don't ask what I do

MY BROTHER THUMBS UP! GUYS LIKE YOU ARE THE REAL NIGERIANS WEY GET SENSE.

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by meobizy(f): 3:11pm On Dec 28, 2022
Accommodation. One can enter any construction site to make a sustainable living. That cold, though, would make you reconsider the reason you left Africa without shelter in mind.

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by linearity: 3:12pm On Dec 28, 2022
Light78:
Racism.
Imagine no one wants to talk to you because you are black.


Many of the men here think if they go there they will make friends easily. That's a lie

Let's practice...

We are gonna use Man A and a White lady as an example.

He is walking toward a while lady to start a conversation with her.


White lady: Who is this person gravitating towards me?

Man A: Hi, how're you doing?

White lady: Are you sure you are okay? Should I call the authorities on you?

Man A:. He says to himself, shaiii, I think say na so e go easy oooo...

This evoked a personal experience long time ago, before I narrate it; I want to say that….none of these should discourage anyone, take them heads-on as challenges and you will overcome.

My underlying principle is, if you can survive in Nigeria, there no where under the Sun, where you cannot strive. Note my use of the words survive and strive, and it it true!

I was a young IT specialist, got a promising interview in New York City, arrived for my interview, which lasted for about 15 minutes.

It was an oral, face-me, I face-you interview with scenario questions. I understood the scenarios and the solution and proceed to give my solution with confidence and a sense of purpose.

After about 5 minutes, when I have nodded to myself that, I had done justice to the question through my oral presentation and was looking up with a smile and a expecting a nod of approval.

I was shocked, when the interviewer told me that, he did not understand anything I have said. I was confused, downcasted….he tried many other questions, same results.

I got up and left disappointed. My problem (rather their problem) was they could not understand my accent and been from Delta State (Warri no dey carry last) you know we speak very fast, so the accent and fast English speaking were the issue.

I had to take some America English speaking classes and deliberately slow down my rate of speech and it worked in subsequent interviews.

Now, the above happened because I was a fresh graduate and was seeking entry level position for which they were many other candidates. Later after obtaining higher qualifications and certifications in my field, I did not send any more, it was recruiters and interviewers who were making the efforts and allowance to understand what I am saying, the same thing happen to Indians in the US IT field today.

So, at that entry level; bend to their demands; there is a saying in the US that….While someone who understands and speaks many languages is called a multilingual, someone who understands and speaks only one language is called an American.

Americans are so arrogant and feels that, they are exceptional despite everyone knowing it is not the case in every area, that they are unwilling to spend the effort to understand you, unless off-course when you have something valuable to offer them.

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by Nursepepeye(f): 3:12pm On Dec 28, 2022
SiotohGlobal:
Some Nigerians are very superstitious when it comes to Japa affairs. Some are afraid of being in an environment whose language they don't understand while some are scared of the cost of living and some are uncomfortable about their safety in their new location.

Let's talk, what scares you the most about relocating abroad?
Racist police. The way those useless guys hate black no get Part two

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by LILTJAY: 3:13pm On Dec 28, 2022
toto hard to get cool

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by AlfaSeltzer(m): 3:14pm On Dec 28, 2022
Light78:



White lady: Who is this person gravitating towards me?

Man A: Hi, how're you doing?

White lady: Are you sure you are okay? Should I call the authorities on you?

Man A:. He says to himself, shaiii, I think say na so e go easy oooo...

This happened to me more in Nigeria than in Oyibo country.

Stop your nonsense. Oyibo ladies are easiest to talk to. They are very happy to conversate with you until you do something foolish.

And no, "authorities" will do nothing to you for speaking to another human. Stop believing american slave era movies.

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by prophetfire: 3:15pm On Dec 28, 2022
Cold and marriage laws that steals from the man and gives all to the leech. And your children may decide to become transgender and you can't do anything about it.

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by KanwuliaExtra: 3:15pm On Dec 28, 2022
Marrying for legal residency.

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by Kimjongun: 3:17pm On Dec 28, 2022
Will I have equal opportunity as the native? Will I be able to work anywhere I am qualified for? If not, let me hold my Nigeria

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by AlfaSeltzer(m): 3:18pm On Dec 28, 2022
somehow:
The fear of becoming an 8th class in a strange culture/society/environment.

The experience wasn't palatable at all.

1st class - Female citizens that are not brown in color
2nd class - Children of the above citizens that are not brown in color
3rd class - Dogs and pets
4th class - Male citizens that are not brown in color (including the fathers and husbands/ex husbands of the 1st class citizens)
5th class - gay, lesbians, non binary and every other rubbish out there.
6th class - Immigrants that are not brown in color
7th class - Citizens that are brown in color
8th class - Africans of all shades of brown. (This is where majority of you will belong)

Nonsense.

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by placeofallure(f): 3:20pm On Dec 28, 2022
For me it will be racism. Some wouldn't even give you a chance to prove how resourceful, positive or good natured you are. Once they see black, they turn on racist mode.

Then gun violence too. It's particularly bad in US.

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by Nobody: 3:22pm On Dec 28, 2022
Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by imoh4king(m): 3:22pm On Dec 28, 2022
SiotohGlobal:
Some Nigerians are very superstitious when it comes to Japa affairs. Some are afraid of being in an environment whose language they don't understand while some are scared of the cost of living and some are uncomfortable about their safety in their new location.

Let's talk, what scares you the most about relocating abroad?

Natural Harzard like earthquake n tornado

Cold

Weapon abuse

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by madapcmod: 3:23pm On Dec 28, 2022
Racism and starting afresh, but I'm moving abroad if Thiefnnubu or Atiku wins

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by FireUpNow(m): 3:24pm On Dec 28, 2022
OboOlora:
For most guys, na hook up girls, baba Ijebu kiosk and those satchet ogogoro dem go miss pass
I hope nor be you sha?
Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by Femeto: 3:28pm On Dec 28, 2022
LordIsaac:
Cold!
So far I have money to pay bills and flex. Cold doesn't scare me.
Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by ModCaller: 3:29pm On Dec 28, 2022
Light78:
Racism.
Imagine no one wants to talk to you because you are black.


Many of the men here think if they go there they will make friends easily. That's a lie

Let's practice...

We are gonna use Man A and a White lady as an example.

He is walking toward a while lady to start a conversation with her.


White lady: Who is this person gravitating towards me?

Man A: Hi, how're you doing?

White lady: Are you sure you are okay? Should I call the authorities on you?

Man A:. He says to himself, shaiii, I think say na so e go easy oooo...

This is not true. You're exaggerating

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by ModCaller: 3:31pm On Dec 28, 2022
OboOlora:
For most guys, na hook up girls, baba Ijebu kiosk and those satchet ogogoro dem go miss pass

My own na hookup girls.
Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by geniusaustin(m): 3:33pm On Dec 28, 2022
SiotohGlobal:
Some Nigerians are very superstitious when it comes to Japa affairs. Some are afraid of being in an environment whose language they don't understand while some are scared of the cost of living and some are uncomfortable about their safety in their new location.

Let's talk, what scares you the most about relocating abroad?

OMO! NA VILLAGE PEOPLE OO..
Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by GboyegaD(m): 3:33pm On Dec 28, 2022
gregyboy:
The fear or raising my children there

The western culture used to be manageable but thesedays they are going nut


I go manage my naija

No vex, no be naija children dey inside "Far from Home?"

What matters is how you raise your kids and what examples you set.

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by linearity: 3:35pm On Dec 28, 2022
prophetfire:
Cold and marriage laws that steals from the man and gives all to the leech. And your children may decide to become transgender and you can't do anything about it.

You can protect yourself from this.

And, NO they don’t steal from you. They do equitable distribution, which means both parties gets almost equal share of assets & liabilities in case of divorce regardless who earns what.

This is why White Americans hardly marries down the economic ladder i.e. the percentage of low income whites that marries high income blacks are higher than the reverse case. This results into net-wealth flow from blacks to whites if the union get into divorce.

Having known this truth, blacks should use it to their advantage. Don’t go with the African mentality that, only the ‘man provides for the house’, marry up the economic ladder, do not be ashamed to ask your wife or girlfriend to contribute 80% of the rent that you can only contribute 20%…at the worst case scenario settle for someone that can at least contribute a minimum of 50%.

You are no longer in Africa, check your pride and egos, no one’s cares about those in the western world. Don’t be ashamed to ask your girlfriend to pay for the dinner date, that you are broke. Don’t fall for that trap about your fiancée wanting to be a ‘full Housewife’ so that the kids can be well taken care off by their mummy instead of the daycare, let’s her go hussle and bring-in her 50%.

Judges during divorce default to the home lifestyle that both of you have created before divorce. So if you have agreed that, she be the ‘Housewife and home keeper’ and you the workaholic and breadwinner, her attorney will use that against you and win…the Judge will not all of sudden force your soon to be Ex into the streets to go look for a job when you have rendered her economically invaluable and her degrees worthless by allowing her not to work for the past 10 years. The judge will in most cases agree that, the lifestyle you guys have created be maintained for many years after the divorce i.e. she remains a housewife taking care of the kids, she should likely take the house since she does not have updated employable skills and you go out and continue killing yourself winning the bread and paying for everything while she slowly ramp up her employable skills over many years in the future.

Know their games and rules and use them to your advantage, no body is going to congratulate you for killing yourself to provide for the whole household rather, they will use it against you that…e.g. ‘You have an history of high capacity production and industriousness and are capable of earning higher’ therefore you should pay more to the other party.

Shine your eyes, Love is not blind….If love is blind and from the heart, why is Dangote daughter not blindly falling in love with that wheelbarrow pusher in the market?

Marry lateral or up the economic ladder, this off-course, include those even though they are earning lower now, but have the capacity to ramp up in the future.

Though I don’t condole it, but this is the game and rule those young black guys that married old and almost expiring white ladies have mastered and we ignorantly laughed at them. The white have been using this rule against us for ages….if those 75 or 80 years old mamas passed on due to old age, these black guys would have a net-wealth flow from white to black, this helping the black race to recoup some of our loses…..and guess what? They will turn around and marry one of our black sisters who had before now ignorantly and foolishly cursing them out for marrying an old woman, forgetting that, the young brother understands the rules and have a game plan.

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by Nobody: 3:37pm On Dec 28, 2022
Not making it big
Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by linearity: 3:42pm On Dec 28, 2022
Hotty321:
Racisms and the new environment will be bored. You can't do anyhow you like because u are a stranger.

Let’s be honest, there is also racism and class separation among us blacks in Nigeria as well.

If you were able to exist with Nigeria racism and class segregation, you will be just fine with the subtle racism abroad. You know what took you there and are there with a purpose and laser guided goal, so if you experience racism on your right, look pass it or look left and move on.

The rich black man in your street or town in Nigeria , will never allow you to stand in front of his gate, he will call the police to arrest you.

The Police, Government and Society in Nigeria will give special and differential treatment to the rich guy and completely ignore your presence and there is nothing you can do about it,

If they lock you and the rich man kid up in a police cell for the same, they will bail and set the rich man kid free the next minute while you rot there, get charged to court and sent to prison unless you arrange substantial ‘family support’ for the police.

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by Mogajunior(m): 3:45pm On Dec 28, 2022
MackIV:


I'm doing great in Nigeria, on a bad day I could earn upto 100k daily. The fear of starting afresh, earning minimum wage for a long time b4 I start making it scares the sh*t out of me.

Please if you can put me out of my misery


2- The fear of my unborn children losing their culture and heritage.


PS: please don't ask what I do
Please Sir what do you do? I also want to start earning money. The struggle is taking a toll on me. Please dont be hesitant to share.

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by pedel: 3:46pm On Dec 28, 2022
Do you realise that the British Prime Minister is not white?
somehow:
The fear of becoming an 8th class in a strange culture/society/environment.

The experience wasn't palatable at all.

1st class - Female citizens that are not brown in color
2nd class - Children of the above citizens that are not brown in color
3rd class - Dogs and pets
4th class - Male citizens that are not brown in color (including the fathers and husbands/ex husbands of the 1st class citizens)
5th class - gay, lesbians, non binary and every other rubbish out there.
6th class - Immigrants that are not brown in color
7th class - Citizens that are brown in color
8th class - Africans of all shades of brown. (This is where majority of you will belong)

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Re: What Scares You The Most About Relocating Abroad? by 10thTenthMan: 3:48pm On Dec 28, 2022
SiotohGlobal:
Some Nigerians are very superstitious when it comes to Japa affairs. Some are afraid of being in an environment whose language they don't understand while some fear the cost of living and some are uncomfortable about their safety in their new location.

Let's talk, what scares you the most about relocating abroad?



CONCERN 1:

MAINTAINING THE FAMILY TO LIVE AND ENJOY THE SAME STANDARD OF LIVING AS EXPERIENCED IN NIGERIA. QUALITY OF LIFE WAS THE MAIN CONCERN.

CONCERN 2:

MANAGING A LONG DISTANT RELATIONSHIP WITH MY SPOUSE. ISSUES BORDERING ON FIDELITY AND PURITY OF THE MARRIAGE BED. COULD SHE MANAGE SEEING ME ONCE EVERY 2 MONTHS? COULD I MANAGE NOT HAVING A WOMAN ONCE EVERY TWO MONTHS? Hilariously, I would complain about the expensive side of flying to Canada just to have sex. Of course, over time, you just forget about the urge and don't let it bother you.



To me the decision to leave is not just because the grass is greener on the other side. That was not my intention. I was and still am well to do in Nigeria. So, it was not really about economics. IT IS NOT ABOUT EARNING IN POUNDS OR EUROS OR CANADIAN DOLLARS. NO!!!. IT WAS ABOUT SECURITY, SAFETY AND QUALITY OF LIFE. LIFE IS SO CHEAP in Nigeria. So cheap with a failed government. I was not ready to play ''kalo-kalo'' with my kids' lives and futures. What is the use of a BIG MAN that cannot even take a stroll? A big man that cannot live freely? A big man that I will sneak into the village and sneak out? A big man that can be attacked anywhere in Nigeria and abducted.

In Canada, the area is quiet. Crime is low. I am not worried about a container that will fall and crush my family on Ikorodu road. Not worried about 1 million boys that will attack me. Or ritual killers and kidnappers. And should these things happen, you will see good efforts at ensuring it never reoccurs. BUT IN NIGERIA LIFE IS CHEAP. The government does not care. 200 People can die of the same causes, and no one will give a damn. Police will say 'go about your usual business'. Politicians will say it was the opposition. In Canada, I am not worried about a rabid policeman shooting me while driving home. Or armed robbers robbing me while jogging. Someone beheading me while going about my usual business. I have met policemen. I have been stopped and interrogated. And they were more civil than ALL NIGERIAN POLICEMEN I HAVE ENCOUNTERED IN MY ENTIRE LIFE AND EXISTENCE. Answered their questions, gave my license. Did not bribe any. And when they realized I was just arriving the country, I was let off with a warning and advice on the route to take and driving norms in Canada. Some people complain about racism. Here in Nigeria, I see ethnicity and tribalism. In fact, people are killed yearly due to these tribal conflicts. In Lagos, LASTMA set a trap and snare for me. In fact, they told me to take a route I never knew was one-way, and the same people arrested me, towed my car and demanded bribes.

I hear people type a load of rubbish and nonsense about staying back and solving Nigeria's problems. Sorry I WILL NOT. NO. TUFIAKWA!!!! I WONT GAMBLE WITH THAT. I will rather take my chances overseas. And I have already. I am enjoying it well too. Life is about probability. I may not be omniscient but from data and statistics, I would rather take the chance overseas. So, the point is not about that ''Japa is for those who are weak''. Or ''the grass isn't greener on the other side'' or that gunmen go on killing sprees in the US. Or that they did not allow you microwave your pungent Nigerian food in the office microwave overseas. Or in US, Europe and Canada there is cold. What stupid cold are we talking about? What useless cold? This same Cold has killed less and fewer Nigerians than our ''beloved'' Fulani Herdsmen, the Nigerian Police, Unknown Gun Men, Nigerian Doctors, Kidnappers, many cursed Nigerian nurses, convoys of Government Officials, etc. Cold has killed less Nigerians when compared with the Nigerians killed on the 25th of December, 2022 alone by this country's madness. So, to some of us, the point is that it is when you are alive and healthy that you can solve the country's problems.

My mind was made up about the country NIGERIA, as being a place where I didn't want to raise my children. I would not have been comfortable raising my kids here. Let them move and grow up in peace. I can be here trying to solve Nigeria's problems with you people. And that is even because I am economically strong and with respect to wealth and that I am part of the Upper Middle-class. My wife also works in Canada too to offer additional support. Otherwise, I would have left with them. So for me, my major fears therefore were:

1. COULD THE FAMILY LIVE ON THE SAME STANDARDS WHERE WE COULD AFFORD THE SAME THINGS WE AFFORDED IN NIGERIA? Would there be a drastic decline in quality of life? And

2. COULD the family remain intact with me seeing my wife (and family) for about a week every two (2) months?


MOST UPPER MIDDLE-CLASS FAMILIES THAT MOVE DO NOT MOVE BECAUSE OF ECONOMIC REASONS. WE MOVE BECAUSE LIFE IS CHEAP, UNCERTAIN, WITHOUT GUARANTEE AND FLEETING HERE IN NIGERIA. WE CANNOT TAKE SUCH A RISK WITH OUR FAMILIES, WITH OUR CHILDREN. WE WILL DO EVERYTHING POSSIBLE TO PROTECT OUR FAMILIES.

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