I've learnt that in this life you shouldn't really trust people..its just you and your God.

Life no balance...

Never trust anybody including everybody

Never put your trust in man, think like u are alone in the world.

Stop lending people money, they will avoid repayment at all cost.

Put you trust in God always, men are wired to disappoint.

Think positive of yourself and never wish anyone evil.As a man thniketh, so is he.

Help if you can, but don't expect anything in return.

God will surely help you in days of adversity.

Trust nobody

DispatcherLagos:
This year I learnt that no condition is permanent.

I used to have a mother full of life in her early 50s.
A woman who can do anything for me.
A loving mother
Sadly she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer on June of this year, she died on July.
I haven't recovered from the shock.
Everyday I keep seeing her face on my head.
I feel like dying with her.
2022 taught me a bitter lesson to be honest

Please be strong

Nobody can really understand the awesomeness of God.

Preachers will try but God is still unimaginable.

God moves in a mysterious way.

Never try to cross the line of speaking against true men of God.

Never cross the line of the sin that God himself will supervise your punishment e.g having an illicit affairs outside marriage.

When you pray, remember that God will answer you but sometimes not as you think, just follow God like a fool.

Never dictate to God how he will answer your prayers, if you wish you can, but remember that God will eventually decide the best way to answer you.

If anyone is passing through problem, never show that you know more than them, if you cannot help, don't be showing that you know too much.

Always develop yourself spirituality with the weapon of continuous prayers and fasting, especially speaking in tongues.

Forget about the fact you are not seeing any tangible results after prayers, one thing is sure, you are moving closer and closer to your breakthrough of unending laughter.

Pray, always pray, never compare yourself to the white people, comparing yourself to the white people or other countries shows that you are not wise. Remember, you are a black man. Destinies are different.
The beginning, the foundation of black men are completely different from the white men.

For men in love/relationship.. Focus on yourself.. Never put ur woman's needs above urs.. As men it's allowed to be self-centered, cos women are naturally selfish in nature.. If she sees a better option she either leaves you or start disrespecting you.. And d painful part is that she will 4get all you've done 4 her and labored in the past.. Be wise.

obembet:


^{THAT ANY GIRL WITH MORE THAN 2 BODYCOUNT IS
USELESS, WASTED AND NOT WORTHY OF A MAN'S COMMITMENT.
What's there to love and cherish in something that has been passed around like football?}

Many ladies want to marry as a virgin but people like your make them have many BODYCOUNT. How many ladies have you slept with?

You're just being hypocritical and hysterical.
YOU LADIES ALWAYS HAVE OPTIONS BUT GREED WON'T ALWAYS ALLOW YOU TO HAVE SENSE .

YOU COULD SAY NO
YOU COULD ABSTAIN
YOU COULD HAVE KEPT YOUR VIRTUOUS UNTIL MARRIAGE, BUT NO, YOU DECIDED TO BE A WH#RE...

Blaming men for making you a WHORÈ is very senseless. If you didn't spread your legs, no one would have conquered you to deposit salivas, sweats and SPERMS into your holes.

Can you blame poor people for buying cheap products?

obembet:
Difficult times often reveal a version of ourselves which we never knew existed.

Although we may be forced to embrace the situation we are in because there is no better choice, it usually proves to be a true test of the strength of our character.

Hard times could be tough and frustrating. Sometimes we lose hope and are uncertain of what the future holds.

Going through repeated failures could force you to look at life differently and question your choices.

Nevertheless, life is a great reminder that there are so many things we have no control over, no matter how hard we try.

In the words of Isabelle Allende, “we all have unsuspected reserve of strength inside us that emerges when life puts us to test.”

according to Obembe Tosin, No one wants to go through tough times. Many people don’t even like to say it when they do.

Finally, If you are going to succeed in life, you have to learn life's most important lessons.

Source: obembe Tosin

don't give up until the final whistle,with zero bank balance I got a lucrative contract on 24th dec,injury time

Nigerians are not ready for the change they so much crave for.


Secondly.... Never be too sure of something, It's not by your human power rather believe that when your time is right, God will come through for you.


Thirdly, when your expectations fail, let self love carry you through because at some point, you would be angry with everyone including God ( that's man's limit of understanding) but desire to smile, to laugh, to be hopeful again just for your beautiful self God made.... You will definitely come around and depression will not win. SELF LOVE

Smoke good weed

Get out of any toxic environment when you can and never look back
Never put your trust in man

FuckSilly:
That 99% of this generation of girls are
SLÚTS
WHORÈS
and HOES.
An average Nigerian girl between the age of 18-25 has BODYCOUNT of 3-8. Average I said. Most in their 20s already have bodycount GREATER THAN THEIR AGE...


That if you never know or a girl will never tell you her true BODYCOUNT.


That if it's not you that OPENED her SHOP, she'll most likely not be loyal or committed to you alone.


THAT ANY GIRL WITH MORE THAN 2 BODYCOUNT IS
USELESS, WASTED AND NOT WORTHY OF A MAN'S COMMITMENT.
What's there to love and cherish in something that has been passed around like football?


Lastly,

If you just got married and you paid full bride price on a girl that's not a virgin and it's not you that disvirgined her, you're a FOOLISH BASTARD.

BRIDE PRICE IS ALWAYS SUPPOSED TO BE DIVIDED BY THE NUMBER OF BODYCOUNT.

What about the guys ?

No matter how hustle don’t ever risk it all take care of yourself and loved ones coz hustling isn’t just about how hard you trying but it’s all grace and favor of God...

2023 is my year sha ... we muuveee

I learnt two things

* Never borrow any living thing money, because they will never payback and if at all they payback, you guys will turn enemies for a loan of 1 week than will turn to 9 months.

* And always spend wisely.

post=119554609:
Things we have learnt from this outgoing beautiful year,
The best year of our lives at [/b] so far...

Hug your loved ones like it might be the last time you see them.

Most of your friends aren’t really your friends.

Attach your definition of success to things that are within your control.

[b]And most importantly and overall ,

Your entire life can change with one year of focused daily effort.

(It happened to us, it could happen to you too, with hardwork along with God's favour and blessings all over you).

Happy New Year in advance Y'all!


E get why.....

And Thanks OP.
Happy New Year in advance.
And Happy 7th Year Anniversary on Nairaland!

Beautiful lessons. What caught my attention was this "Your entire life can change with one year of focused daily effort". Very true

That it might be, maybe another 280 years before Nigeria matures to a level of seriousness, like how developed countries were in the 70s and 80s.
*with wisdom, foresight, and some luck, maybe, nigeria can get on the highway to maturity faster than normal. As of now, we are moving like a sick snail.


In general life goes on, so remember everyday you experience is like an autograph you signed for that day.

I hear one Jay Z yarns some years ago, he say "you wanna make God laugh, tell him your plans".


From my own point of view, the new year and past year, is an intellectual way of keeping track on things. A new year is another day, but another day might not be a new year. So everyday, everyone is a student of life.

Regardless of the year, life goes on.

obembet:



7. Don’t disclose your finance to anyone no matter the level of closeness.

This is what bankers eat your money when you die. Make sure your wife know about your finances. Life is full of uncertainty

I’ll give my wife and kids what they need to survive on before I exit but i will never disclose 100% of my worth when I’m alive to anyone ( except my lawyer)



Besides, soon as my kids are confirmed to be mine , I go don write my will, only my bank and lawyer will know what I worth.


Even if I die now( yet to marry), my brother is my next of kin, he go get everything.. so bank no fit chop my money

-There's really no much difference between free thinkers and their religious counterparts.

-Most Nigerians are really poor with handling cash when it comes to reputation.

-Science don't have all the facts, neither religion has filled that vaccum.

-Take every commentaries you see here as opinions and not the reality.

-Two truth can exist sound conflicting to those used to a particular train of thought.

seanwilliam:
What I’ve learnt so far are
1. virtually all Nigeria girls are hoès
2. Savings is very very important. What you save today will save you tomorrow- save in dollars if possible .
3. Take care of your parents , if you do this, nature has its way of rewarding you .
4. Help your friends in need, not to your own detriment though .
5. A man is respected according to his pocket size.
6. With money, you can virtually get away with anything
7. Don’t disclose your finance to anyone no matter the level of closeness.
8. Act broke among your peers, infact ensure you only portray 10% of your worth
9. Practice delay gratifications
10. In cryptocurrency, knowledge is superior to capital .
11. As a man , within the age bracket 20-30, please and please making money should your topmost priority.

12. Don’t invest in what you have zero knowledge on, if you don’t know what to do with your money , use pigvest safelock for a year until u decide on what to do with money .
13. Take care of your health, and always reward yourself for every goal achieved.
14. Set realistic goals. I know nothing is impossible, but then setting realistic goals won’t put you under unnecessary stress.
15. As a young hustling guy , regardless of the perspective you see it, taking a girl as a priority will get you burnt. In fact, love hurts, the bitterness derived from love is more than enjoyment .
16. Investment is important , especially real estate.
17. Cutting down unnecessary expenses and saying NO most of the time will help your finance in a long run.
18. I am not being misogynistic, but trust me, 90% of time , treating women as trash( not giving a damn, ) will
a. Make her obsessive about you
b. Give you edge and emotional control
c. Ensure your respect . Although, this will work on woman that has interest in you in the first palace , and even if she doesn’t have interest in you , your respect will be there,
19. Don’t look down on fellow men. Trust me, 2 seconds story fit change o. Respect everyone and don’t hold grudges
20. Although family is everything , but regardless, ensure you set boundary for every one..

Beautiful lessons

Friends? There is no such thing as friends. When life comes at you you will be scared and shocked to know thoae who will abandon you. Thank you 2022.

I learnt that there is time for everything, things may not go as we plan but as either God or devil plan it.

We are not always in control

seanwilliam:


I’ll give my wife and kids what they need to survive on before I exit but i will never disclose 100% of my worth when I’m alive to anyone ( except my lawyer)



Besides, soon as my kids are confirmed to be mine , I go don write my will, only my bank and lawyer will know what I worth.


Even if I die now( yet to marry), my brother is my next of kin, he go get everything.. so bank no fit chop my money

I don't like your ideology

Don't mistake kindness for weakness.


People don't mean what they say and they don't say what they mean.


Don't be a slave to money.


Persevere, be consistent, never give up and things will surely get better.

obembet:


Weitj woman do you oooo

My wife of 17 years do me a very strong thing, thanks to doctors

neonly:



I feel u bro well said

thanks bro. Those species are piece of demons in human flesh

To always hammer siofra with condoms

Preshieben:
Most important thing I learnt this year is Never to force anything

Sorry o, guys dem don show you plenty shege and serve you breakfast

This year has been cool and wonderful. God saved me from someone that promised to destroy and kill me here on nairaland. Helping an Ingrate is something I will never ever do again. Abi how can I help someone with my hard earned money and he told me to leave my husband and marry him or else he go kill me. There are lot of psychos on this nairaland o

Never to give up on God ...