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Adanac:
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Free food will never allow some persons take a Bold step.

Deep!

On point

skultrick:
The op made a very valid point. To those condemning him, you're free to continue deceiving yourselves.

Leaving your parents house doesn't mean you're competing with anyone, it gives you that opportunity to be a complete man.

The logic here is that free house, food... means staying in your comfort zone. And staying in your comfort zone may never allow you reach your full potential.


Again, you can continue staying in your papa house.

This is so truee


To those that disagree, when you want to get married, will you bring your spouse to live in your parents house?


There comes an age where you need your own privacy and dignity and again your parents won't respect you.

If you're a woman still living at home, men will need to date you like you're still in secondary school, the same thing for men, even worse.

skultrick:
It's not assumption, it's a fact. Do your research on the dangers of comfort zone. You think paying lesser bills will allow you save more, nah, it doesn’t. Higher income is what allows you to save more and achieve more.

2. Not everyone will be rich or wealthy if that's your definition of success. The bottom line here is that you will achieve more financially when you live that comfort zone.

Most of them are not even saving to build their own house, it's a lie. They're just lazy.

1Sharon:
This is so truee
To those that disagree, when you want to get married, will you bring your spouse to live in your parents house?
There comes an age where you need your own privacy and dignity and again your parents won't respect you

Think of it this way instead, why would a person living in his parent's home consider marriage without first making sure he has his feet on the ground?

1Sharon:
Most of them are not even saving to build their own house, it's a lie. They're just lazy.

If they are lazy then it means they are not ready for the world outside and hence should remain under their parents until they grow a Brain.

Kobojunkie:
Think of it this way instead, why would a person living in his parent's home consider marriage without first making sure he has his feet on the ground?

Exactly, why they need to move out.

1Sharon:
Exactly, why they need to move out.

They move out, get a place and the parents end up having to pay for it?

LilMissFavvy:
A good advice, but not compulsory. It is circumstances/ financial status that should determine if one should rent a place or remain in parents house. What if the parents are peaceful and give out rooms for their mature adult children? What if the parents house is vacant? I hope the OP is not the type who would put pressure on his 30yrs relative. Family should be supportive, family is family.

And which man/woman will respect a person still in their parents house?

People that are 30 should think, if they haven't left now..when will they leave?

Kobojunkie:
They move out, get a place and the parents end up having to pay for it?

Nope, they would pay for it with the money they claim to have been 'saving'

You don't wait until you're ready to take action, you take action and then you become ready.

1Sharon:
And which man/woman will respect a person still in their parents house?

People that are 30 should think, if they haven't left now..when will they leave?

What has respect to do with living at home for Pete's sake? People have different reasons why they do it.

Why look down on someone simply because the person lives with his or her parents ? Would you feel the same way if the parents were living instead with the person then? I mean no be pretty much the same thing if you look at it from another angle... at least for some out there?

1Sharon:
Nope, they would pay for it with the money they claim to have been 'saving' You don't wait until you're ready to take action, you take action and then you become ready.

The statement in bold does not compute at all!

You seem to be working under the assumption that all folks who live at home are lazy and this even after some on here have explained how they contribute to the home financially, pretty much similar to what thye would do if they moved out and were living with roommates.

Kobojunkie:
The statement in bold does not compute at all!

You seem to be working under the assumption that all folks who live at home are lazy and this even after some on here have explained how they contribute to the home financially, pretty much similar to what thye would do if they moved out and were living with roommates.

It doesn't matter how much they contribute. They aren't paying as much as they would have if they were staying on their own.

Ppl that live at home because they can't afford rent know what to do, but they don't want to do it.

Can you still live they way you want even though you contribute? Even if you pay most of the expenses will Africans allow you to inconvenience them in their house?

Moving out let's you get some dignity.

1Sharon:
Nope, they would pay for it with the money they claim to have been 'saving'

You don't wait until you're ready to take action, you take action and then you become ready.

Bruh not everyone living with their parents sits idle all day, I work really hard and I know people who also does, the idea is not rushing out when there's no one pursuing you.

Let's assume your place is few minutes to your workplace and you now intentionally leave home to where you'll now commute for hours to your workplace cause you want to feel independent and to feel uncomfortable.
It doesnt make sense moreover living comfortably isn't a bad thing as long as you're working and making the dough, don't let motivational speakers use comfort zone whine your head.

Moreover I believe it's the women that'll be more worried about this cos all they've always been concerned about their territory which they know might be affected if the husband is still living with his family.

1Sharon:
1. It doesn't matter how much they contribute. They aren't paying as much as they would have[b] if they were staying on their own.[/b]

2. Ppl that live at home because they can't afford rent know what to do, but they don't want to do it.
3. Can you still live they way you want even though you contribute? Even if you pay most of the expenses will Africans allow you to inconvenience them in their house? Moving out let's you get some dignity.

1. Wait, you don't want them to get roommates when they move out to help cut back on that even?
2. Wow... are we still talking of the same country where unemployment is as high as 50% of another one?
3. Aren't you here also assuming that we were all raised in homes where dignity is denied us all?

Well it's good for a man to work hard

A man of 30yrs should not be dependent on his parent for survival

I stopped eating from my parents pot at the age of 24yrs

I have a friend who built 3 houses & bought 4 cars, had 4 kids while he still lives in his father house, he let out 2 out of the 3 building while he moved into the 3rd building just this year. Mind you, this friend of mine built his first house 8years ago.

It's not ok for a man of 30yrs to sit down comfortable eating his parent foods, living rent free, but doing nothing to better his life

You can live in your parents house and still be successful as long as you have planning for your life

If an adult above 30yrs is living a responsible life, has an average job, is still Hussling to get better, is not a drunk or womanizer, then such a person deserves full respect, it is only an irresponsible poorly*raised human who would disrespect the person simply because he/she is still living in parents house.

1Sharon:
And which man/woman will respect a person still in their parents house?

People that are 30 should think, if they haven't left now..when will they leave?

LilMissFavvy:
If an adult above 30yrs is living a responsible life, has an average job, is still Hussling to get better, is not a drunk or womanizer, then such a person deserves full respect, it is only an irresponsible poorly*raised human who would disrespect the person simply because he/she is still living in parents house.

Will you marry a man still living with his parents?

Ibechris2:
Congratulations to everyone of u out there. Welcome to 2023.

And if u know u are 30 and still in ur parents house...pls,do everything possible to leave them. It can never be easy at first but I am sure it would be easy as time goes by.

I was privileged to have left my parents at the age of 19 and I never came back except I want to visit them and spend some time with them.

To be honest here,i really suffered when i relocated to a new environment with not enough cash,no brother ,no sister no one to advice me except me alone. I squatted and things became rough that my parents urged me to come back and manage with them,but eventually it became a success story.

This is 2003,take the bold step and leave ur parents and fight ur way to success and see how life would be with u in the near future. I don't mean to insult anyone here but it is imperative to help oneself before it becomes a thing of regret.

Time waits for no one and if u don't take this actions,the thing is,u will regret not taking an action if old age eventually catches up with u.

Thanks and may God bless u guys.

I'm 32 years old and I'm the only one my parents have and they're in their 70's.
so basically I should leave them under whose care?
[uote author=Omoawoke post=119592441]limit your advice to yourself and try get sense this new year. Not everybody lives in room and parlor or self contain.
Some people papa get mansions in big cities and the child has his/her space. So they should park out and go and rent self contain?[/quote]honestly the way some people even reason ehn.
even had this girl I intended Starting something serious with.
she was pressuring me to leave my parents and rent a house so she'll have all the time to be with me.
funny enough my parents place is more closer to my place of work, also my apartment in my parents compound is like a boy's quarters so you'll have all the freedom in my parents place, also I can also be checking the sales boy working at the shop I erected at my parents compound.
had to dump the bitch

horlahwaley:
Op, This advice of yours is not true in all cases. If i had left my mothers house.the money i used to invest then would have been spent on getting new apartment, furnishings and still be working under somebody today after i have spend the money finish. Also, it makes me focus and not inviting unnecessary girls around that would have cause distractions. And also, if it is only your mother you have got, and only you she has got. You cant just leave her house and go rent a place na. If you doing well with that your decision keep it to your self. No cause depression for some people.

Maxxim:
Bruh not everyone living with their parents sits idle all day, I work really hard and I know people who also does, the idea is not rushing out when there's no one pursuing you.

Let's assume your place is few minutes to your workplace and you now intentionally leave home to where you'll now commute for hours to your workplace cause you want to feel independent and to feel uncomfortable.
It doesnt make sense moreover living comfortably isn't a bad thing as long as you're working and making the dough, don't let motivational speakers use comfort zone whine your head.

Moreover I believe it's the women that'll be more worried about this cos all they've always been concerned about their territory which they know might be affected if the husband is still living with his family.

Honestly, this is one of the best comment.

skultrick:
The op made a very valid point. To those condemning him, you're free to continue deceiving yourselves.

Leaving your parents house doesn't mean you're competing with anyone, it gives you that opportunity to be a complete man.

The logic here is that free house, food... means staying in your comfort zone. And staying in your comfort zone may never allow you reach your full potential.


Again, you can continue staying in your papa house.

such a dumb mentality

Kobojunkie:
So a 30-year-old who lives at home in a house that belongs to his parents, enjoying free food which his parents can afford to give him, and all else, all while saving up to build his own house which he can then move out into is not a complete man?
So a 30-year-old man living with his parents and paying a portion of the bills for and with them, thereby enabling his parents to have some funds to put away for a nest egg or other issues, is not a complete man?

Why do some of you set these outrageous standards for others?

I usually disagree with most of your posts.
but this one has made me see reasons that you are still not completely finished

tunjijones:
At 39 you still stay in your parents house? That's a definition of failure to me. When do you want to start start your life?

Guy na new year before this, start planning of how to move to your own house.

At 26 when I finished my service. One of my cousins asked me to move to a different city so she can help me get a job. She was staying in the heart of the city and in a house almost like a mansion. I had every thing at my disposal except respect. My cousin wi be telling me to go and make noddles for her 15 years old son. My aunty will be telling me to go and buy recharge card for her when her 15 yrs old son dey. I told myself I wld move out after 6 months. Which I did. I moved to a single room apartment in the suburb and it felt like heaven. The freedom, the peace of mind and all that.

It's 7 years ago now and I have been able achieve a lot. I have even started building my own house.

please just shut the hell up..
you should comment

1Sharon:
And which man/woman will respect a person still in their parents house?

People that are 30 should think, if they haven't left now..when will they leave?

just keep quiet.
you know nothing

EbenezerTriumph:
please just shut the hell up..
you should comment

What is this filthy rag saying?

EbenezerTriumph:
I'm 32 years old and I'm the only one my parents have and they're in their 70's.
so basically I should leave them under whose care?
[uote author=Omoawoke post=119592441]limit your advice to yourself and try get sense this new year. Not everybody lives in room and parlor or self contain.
Some people papa get mansions in big cities and the child has his/her space. So they should park out and go and rent self contain?
honestly the way some people even reason ehn.
even had this girl I intended Starting something serious with.
she was pressuring me to leave my parents and rent a house so she'll have all the time to be with me.
funny enough my parents place is more closer to my place of work, also my apartment in my parents compound is like a boy's quarters so you'll have all the freedom in my parents place, also I can also be checking the sales boy working at the shop I erected at my parents compound.
had to dump the bitch
Op, This advice of yours is not true in all cases. If i had left my mothers house.the money i used to invest then would have been spent on getting new apartment, furnishings and still be working under somebody today after i have spend the money finish. Also, it makes me focus and not inviting unnecessary girls around that would have cause distractions. And also, if it is only your mother you have got, and only you she has got. You cant just leave her house and go rent a place na. If you doing well with that your decision keep it to your self. No cause depression for some people.

Bruh not everyone living with their parents sits idle all day, I work really hard and I know people who also does, the idea is not rushing out when there's no one pursuing you.

Let's assume your place is few minutes to your workplace and you now intentionally leave home to where you'll now commute for hours to your workplace cause you want to feel independent and to feel uncomfortable.
It doesnt make sense moreover living comfortably isn't a bad thing as long as you're working and making the dough, don't let motivational speakers use comfort zone whine your head.

Moreover I believe it's the women that'll be more worried about this cos all they've always been concerned about their territory which they know might be affected if the husband is still living with his family.

Honestly, this is one of the best comment.

You're going to dump even more.

If the topic mentioned marrying a wife into a family home, I would not be in support of it. I think we are talking about single people above 30 who still live with parents.

1Sharon:
Will you marry a man still living with his parents?

LilMissFavvy:
If the topic mentioned marrying a wife into a family home, I would not be in support of it. I think we are talking about single people above 30 who still live with parents.

Those single ppl may want to settle down one day.

Nigerians like oppression too much.
Chaii.

You think everyman in their 30's living with their parents is poor or have no planning for himself.

I always see your type setting standards for people because they attained some steps, it's very common with our foolish Nigerian girls but somehow you chose to be a foolish Nigerian man.

The year just started and you have already started mounting pressure on people, I don't see the hurry to live on your own when you don't intend getting married in a few years, one can comfortably buy all the properties he needs when he gets married.

Moreover you don't know how everyone lives, some of us carry 75% of our parental family bills while we plan for ours and others, some guys living with their parents pay more bills than you.

If you don't have family issues there's no need moving out until you want to, just hustle tight and save a lot.

Being lazy has nothing to do with staying with your parents, if you rent an apartment today, after paying your rent you can become lazy again, then hustle to renew it then become lazy again.

Oga OP rest, if we say make we count financial achievements, you nor go see people brake lights.

When i left my father's house i was running a b.sc part time programme all the bills were paid by me we had little misunderstanding and we changed it for our selves and we parted ways differently now i have finished planning for my masters secretly and finding my route out of the country some stupid idiots called are still finding me for family meeting i would just tell them that i have heard them and i would tell them that i would not come so just try and get an accomodation and live in a far place and enjoy your money first before you think of any family member if they ask you for money like 200 k give them 20k to 25k and tell them that is what is available for now

Braveboi1:
you are a compound mumu

Behave civilized
The advice not for you
If you found problem outside doesn't mean others won't find their blessing outside
Read pass
Advice not for u

Magnoliaa:
A man's struggles in life never ends...

This Pill is hard to swallow.

Adanac:
Bros calm down, that is a word someone desperately need to hear and get motivated, when I decided to leave my father's House the first question he ask me was "I hope u re not packing some of my properties" and I said I have it all figured out.
At first, It was tough & rough,but that decision has changed my life Sha
no be say I don make am oo but my progress is upward and forward.....

OP, many will call for your head because they re above that age and still dey eat n tell mama thank you ma.
Free food will never allow some persons take a Bold step.

Many people were chatting me and abusing me Abi how else do they want me to say it?

But wait oh...how e take affect me self.
Some advice can be hard to bear but I wouldn't change what I had written because of one man that wouldn't advice himself.

The advice above is strictly for men and men alone. Women have demonstrated the ability to leave their parents earlier than men. Kudos to them.

This is 2023...if they like let them cry, how e take concern me...some actions have to be taken in a hard way.