Kobojunkie:
So a 30-year-old who lives at home in a house that belongs to his parents, enjoying free food which his parents can afford to give him, and all else, all while saving up to build his own house which he can then move out into is not a complete man?
So a 30-year-old man living with his parents and paying a portion of the bills for and with them, thereby enabling his parents to have some funds to put away for a nest egg or other issues, is not a complete man?

Why do some of you set these outrageous standards for others?

lilvicky68:
Year never even start well una don dey put people under pressure

tunjijones:


At 39 you still stay in your parents house? That's a definition of failure to me. When do you want to start start your life?

Guy na new year before this, start planning of how to move to your own house.

At 26 when I finished my service. One of my cousins asked me to move to a different city so she can help me get a job. She was staying in the heart of the city and in a house almost like a mansion. I had every thing at my disposal except respect. My cousin wi be telling me to go and make noddles for her 15 years old son. My aunty will be telling me to go and buy recharge card for her when her 15 yrs old son dey. I told myself I wld move out after 6 months. Which I did. I moved to a single room apartment in the suburb and it felt like heaven. The freedom, the peace of mind and all that.

It's 7 years ago now and I have been able achieve a lot. I have even started building my own house.

skultrick:


It's not assumption, it's a fact. Do your research on the dangers of comfort zone. You think paying lesser bills will allow you save more, nah, it doesn’t. Higher income is what allows you to save more and achieve more.

2. Not everyone will be rich or wealthy if that's your definition of success. The bottom line here is that you will achieve more financially when you live that comfort zone.

tunjijones:


At 39 you still stay in your parents house? That's a definition of failure to me. When do you want to start start your life?

Karleb:


I'm 45.
Single.
Stay with my parents.

Please advice.

Karleb:


I'm 45.
Single.
Stay with my parents.

Please advice.

You are starting your own in this brand new year right?...

This is exactly why fraud flourish in Nigeria...
By setting this kind of standard.. not minding a lot of people's situations,... many will go into DO or DIE trying scheme.. Just to measure up to the standard Mr A or Miss B has created.. it's sick.

tunjijones:


At 39 you still stay in your parents house? That's a definition of failure to me. When do you want to start start your life?

Guy na new year before this, start planning of how to move to your own house.

At 26 when I finished my service. One of my cousins asked me to move to a different city so she can help me get a job. She was staying in the heart of the city and in a house almost like a mansion. I had every thing at my disposal except respect. My cousin wi be telling me to go and make noddles for her 15 years old son. My aunty will be telling me to go and buy recharge card for her when her 15 yrs old son dey. I told myself I wld move out after 6 months. Which I did. I moved to a single room apartment in the suburb and it felt like heaven. The freedom, the peace of mind and all that.

It's 7 years ago now and I have been able achieve a lot. I have even started building my own house.

Barims:



You are Stupid, that's all I can say

Richy4:


You are starting your own in this brand new year right?...

This is exactly why fraud flourish in Nigeria...
By setting this kind of standard.. not minding a lot of people's situations,... many will go into DO or DIE trying scheme.. Just to measure up to the standard Mr A or Miss B has created.. it's sick.

tommy589:
This austere period is when you want people to forgo free shelter, food etc. Op mind yourself

tydi:
The Op i'm not mistaken in his late 40s managed to see two bottles of tiger beer drink to cross over the new year and he started feeling like he's grown.
Hopefully he lives in face me I slap you apartment with naked urine smelling foam and a plastic hand fan and he thinks he is now a big guy

Karleb:


Start wetin?

All these small small boys will want to use oppression to kill just because they made it quick in life.

It's all fun when you have something going on in your life but it becomes suicidal when you are still trying to find your feet.

Na 45 I 45, I no kill anybody abeg. New year no dey finish..

The5DME:
The person you quoted is a software developer with a remote Job, and earns in dollars. I'm pretty sure he can afford to rent a house if he wants to. If one can save cost by living with one's parent; I see no reason why he/she shouldn't as long as they foot the bills of the house. So; why not?

Maxxim:
If you dey rural area and you struggle with your life, this advice might be applicable, but if you live in lagos where the cost of things are high just stay your papa house and use money renovate am or spend on them your family.

Richy4:



This is exactly why fraud flourish in Nigeria...
By setting this kind of standard.. not minding a lot of people's situations,... many will go into DO or DIE trying scheme.. Just to measure up to the standard Mr A or Miss B has created.. it's sick.

Reggaemich:
Sometimes people want to move out of there parent's house. But sometimes, circumstances beyond there control, hinders them.some examples are (spiritual, emotional, physical, psychological) problems Op, your advice is Good
But na person, wey wear shoe, know were e dey pain nam

skultrick:
"Challenge" in this context means expanding your horizon. If someone pays for my rent, I'll get too comfortable and never think its worth it to try something new. I'll stick to my 9to5 and perhaps live the rat race hussle

Evolutionlove:


Your comment is the best so far on this thread. I know what my eyes saw before i made it because i was birth and brought up in lagos in an average family setting. I have experience what was like not to receive any support or assistance from anyone. I solely iron life out on my own.

You see the problem with foolish people like OP is that they usually use the same yardstick for everyone and they believe life is black and white. It's a normal protocol, good decision anyone can make leaving his/her parent's abode. This process used to be easy not until recently when things changed and price of commodities skyrocketed. For example, I am sure this Mumu Op will be in his Early 40s now and he is still comparing when things was so easy in nigeria then like 20 to 25years ago, When you would just travel down to Lagos especially with nothing and before you know it, things will start bubbling for you. I can go on and on but i will stop here. Currently i have 3 Married Couples in my inbox begging me for assistance but i have made my decision in that regard. Foolish people like OP will remain foolish forever irrespective of their social status. I hate stupid people.

PS:I am comfortable and living in a 3 bedroom flat, I will be moving to my New Site any moment from now. But i hate seeing idiots like OP using same yardstick and same condition for everyone.

Ibechris2:
Congratulations to everyone of u out there. Welcome to 2023.

And if u know u are 30 and still in ur parents house...pls,do everything possible to leave them. It can never be easy at first but I am sure it would be easy as time goes by.

I was privileged to have left my parents at the age of 19 and I never came back except I want to visit them and spend some time with them.

To be honest here,i really suffered when i relocated to a new environment with not enough cash,no brother ,no sister no one to advice me except me alone. I squatted and things became rough that my parents urged me to come back and manage with them,but eventually it became a success story.

This is 2003,take the bold step and leave ur parents and fight ur way to success and see how life would be with u in the near future. I don't mean to insult anyone here but it is imperative to help oneself before it becomes a thing of regret.

Time waits for no one and if u don't take this actions,the thing is,u will regret not taking an action if old age eventually catches up with u.

Thanks and may God bless u guys.

Evolutionlove:


Your comment is the best so far on this thread. I know what my eyes saw before i made it because i was birth and brought up in lagos in an average family setting. I have experience what was like not to receive any support or assistance from anyone. I solely iron life out on my own.

You see the problem with foolish people like OP is that they usually use the same yardstick for everyone and they believe life is black and white. It's a normal protocol, good decision anyone can make leaving his/her parent's abode. This process used to be easy not until recently when things changed and price of commodities skyrocketed. For example, I am sure this Mumu Op will be in his Early 40s now and he is still comparing when things was so easy in nigeria then like 20 to 25years ago, When you would just travel down to Lagos especially with nothing and before you know it, things will start bubbling for you. I can go on and on but i will stop here. Currently i have 3 Married Couples in my inbox begging me for assistance but i have made my decision in that regard. Foolish people like OP will remain foolish forever irrespective of their social status. I hate stupid people.

PS:I am comfortable and living in a 3 bedroom flat, I will be moving to my New Site any moment from now. But i hate seeing idiots like OP using same yardstick and same condition for everyone.

VTJN:
what a life

You're just a replica of me. The only difference between you and i is that I'm yet to find my bearing

I singlehandedly see myself through school without collecting penny from my parents, uncles, aunties et al. I was born into a poor family with 5 siblings. I thought i could improve my family poor standard a little through education as my parents weren't educated. I was the best graduating students in my department. I was cutting jobs at the same time schooling. It wasn't easy though but i keep going

My father helped two of his younger siblings when he hasn't birthed any of his children and none of them could help. We weren't entitled to their money. We were just pushing it with the hope that things will get better someday

The meagre 33k monthly stipend i got from FG during NYSC was used in supporting my siblings and my personal upkeep. I am back to my parents house job hunting with no success so far

I guess Op would easily asumne or suggest i leave my father's house.

Op is obviously the kind of person who easily judged someone without knowing where the person is coming from. Op will judge ladies in their 30s and still single. He will judge some married couples married for years and still childless

People like Op should be avoided by all means in life. One of my course mate relocated to UK yesterday and a friend of mine was indirectly telling me if this guy who was a bench warmer back in school, someone who struggled to graduate has gone to the UK while me being the best graduating students cannot even feed

I told him specifically that there's no specific year designated for one to buy car, owned a house, travel to the first world countries or become financially rich. These things happen as we move through stages of growth. Don't let anyone put unnecessary pressure on you

Although it's not being easy but i do hope i get there someday.

Btw, leaving one's father's house isn't a yardstick to success or failure

Braveboi1:
you are a compound mumu