Mykelslim:
Sons, always marry a woman who you loves you more than you love her.
That way she will always fly around you like bee to honey.

A Woman is not meant to love her man but respect him. A man is meant to love his woman, the woman her children.

The love men think women gives them is not love but respect. If a man lose hold of that, then the relationship is over.

The relationship between men and women is a war and by default women were programmed and more equipped than men and society has given them more edge over men. Men in their ignorance has been surrendering their power to women subtly.

What I have to say about this is deep, possibly will create a thread in the nearest future.

N/B: OP has giving out his power to her hence the denial of sex. Sex is the only thing women bring to the table and they know that better than U and I.
Another thing is that ladies hate f*ckin' a man who doesn't take leadership by accident.

The way you have told the story here confirms you are addicted to sex. Words like "starved", "endure", "sexed my wife", shows you consider your wife as a mere sex object to satisfy yourself alone.

There is no where in the write that you cared to enquire about her feelings or state of mind. It's not normal for a man to want to fuc.k on a daily basis.

Come on man. Look for other things to engage your mind and time. Engage in other positive activities with her. Not everyday sex sex sex.... You are wearing the poor woman out. Sex is not food or air that if you miss it one single day, you feel "starved".

Stillwhites:
It's getting to a year now that my wife began starving me of sex. Honestly I can count how many times I sexed my wife in the last two months and in most cases I initiate the engagement.

She sometimes complain that I love sex too much so I have to endure days without sex. As I type, it's morethan a week that we engaged in adult activity. I contemplated seeing another lady but it's against my Christian faith. How do I handle this situation?

Farfalla:


You don't get my point. I'm not in support of the woman withholding of sex (although there could exist valid reasons for this). My post was a response to the OP's post where he claimed he's good in bed and knows many sexual styles, thus ruling out "poor performance" as a possible reason as to why his wife hates being intimate (with him).

He's talking about knowing many "styles" like it's what makes a man good in bed, when we know that's not the case.

All that regurgitated crap about the OP being a "simp" with no control over his wife is irrelevant to my point.

You're only partially right but being a simp is quite relevant here, even if a guy is a poor performer, if he paid your bride price you better service him and if you don't then be prepared to end the marriage. The OP coming on Nairaland to ask for advice when he should already know the right thing to do is SIMPING 101, forget grammar, we are built differently, abi OP is handicapped?

Stillwhites:
If this is coming from a woman like my wife, then I know my next step. Thank you ma'am.

AND WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THAT A WOMAN WROTE THIS? DO YOU KNOW IF IT WAS A GIRL/LADY WHO HAS NEVER BEEN MARRI3D?
JUMPING INTO CONCLUSIONS WITHOUT PROPER PERUSAL ON SOCIAL MEDIA ADVICES/COMMENTS CAN COST YOU MORE THAN YOU BARGAIN FOR OGA.

USE YOUR HEAD MORE.
FOLLOW YOUR HEART LESS.

IIRE OH.

There’s nothing called you like sex too much most lady give this excuses to cover their act of adultery but trust me if you believe it’s because you like sex too much that’s why she starving you then you’re on the wrong side your wife will never starve you of sex if she really love you if this continue sorry to say you will welcome someone else’s child so just calm down read the situation give her space for a while and care less about her activities let her sort her stuff out herself and don’t ask her for sex that’s why she’s in control the sex stuff so just leave her do your thing and if you think you really need sex badly nothing telling you to cheat but try it elsewhere to see if she will change

Instead of begging her for sex, CHEAT. �

Please check very well, she might be having it with someone else. Put an eye on her, investigate and make sure she is not getting it elsewhere

ogunboy:


Hahaha. Nigga is triggered like his woman friend maria.anus. and running his mouth like a market woman and fish wife. Who come resemble woman wrapper pass. Guy no make me laugh. You can kontinue the simping make e reach 2024. Who no know maria to be a troublesome, mannerless eel on this forum.

Triggered bawo…


I already told you I have no friend named anu.s so obviously we ain’t talking about the same person.

My own Maria is an angel. okay… ?she no Dey pick fights anyhow.

My only advice is stop being a woman wrapper this year. okay? And if you need vaulence as you claim look for area boys for your street. Stop instigating people to battle/trade words while sitting in the comfort of your home. okay?

brain54:

Triggered bawo…


I already told you I have no friend named anu.s so obviously we ain’t talking about the same person.

My own Maria is an angel. okay… ?she no Dey pick fights anyhow.

My only advice is stop being a woman wrapper this year. okay? And if you need vaulence as you claim look for area boys for your area. Stop instigating people to battle/trade words while sitting in the comfort of your home. okay?

Simp... See how you are writing about a woman that bends down to urinate.. nawa o.. masculinity is gone in your family or bloodline... Looking for cheap validation from the inferior gender ode

unamamatoto:
Simp... See how you are writing about a woman that bends down to urinate.. nawa o.. masculinity is gone in your family or bloodline... Looking for cheap validation from the inferior gender ode

Na you be the real mumu…


So because a gender bend down to urinate e mean wetin?

Na you create them that way? I should show my masculinity by insulting and disrespecting women abi? Clap for your thinking!


As you no get respect for your mama people Dey wey get respect for their mama. Any small thing simp. Well I am a proud one. Leave my simp alone

Ewu melimee!

Stillwhites:
It's getting to a year now that my wife began starving me of sex. Honestly I can count how many times I sexed my wife in the last two months and in most cases I initiate the engagement.

She sometimes complain that I love sex too much so I have to endure days without sex. As I type, it's morethan a week that we engaged in adult activity. I contemplated seeing another lady but it's against my Christian faith. How do I handle this situation?

Discuss with her, make her understand how u feel; also ensure you are doing ur duties well in da oda room, not just out to satisfy urself. Try and help her with some chores as well, she may be stressed and going thru a lot.

Pray too.

Ogunboy

brain54:

Na you be the real mumu…


So because a gender bend down to urinate e mean wetin?

Na you create them that way? I should show my masculinity by insulting and disrespecting women abi? Clap for your thinking!


As you no get respect for your mama people Dey wey get respect for their mama. Any small thing simp. Well I am a proud one. Leave my simp alone

Ewu melimee!

illiterate that says masculinity is about insulting women... You are not only a simp but a kid that needs education... You can mention me back when you are learned enough...

unamamatoto:
illiterate that says masculinity is about insulting women... You are not only a simp but a kid that needs education... You can mention me back when you learned enough...

Oh great…
You that can read when did I say masculinity is about insulting women?


With your education you can’t comprehend SIMPLe two or three lines of sentence.

Your own is just to type simp upandan…better go back to primary 1.


I no one even insult your mama yet. You are doing a good job yourself already.

Ode…

You know, if you were a man capable of satisfying a woman in bed, women (at least those willing to have a romantic relationship with you) would WANT to have sex with you- not constantly dread or avoid it, or pretend they like it just to spare your feelings or get it over with.

Granted, there are some women that just don't enjoy sex with men, for reasons that have nothing to do with their partners. But I don't think that's the case here. Mind you, I'm not just talking about changing it so she's not repulsed by sex with you, to the point that it is something that she suffers through because she cares about you... I'm talking about getting to the point that your partner/women actually ENJOY having sex with you, and want to do it... even look forward to it. I assure you, women enjoy sex. Just not with you. At least not right now, unless you do something to change.

Not knowing how to please a woman sexually isn't anything to be ashamed of, it certainly isn't something you're just born knowing how to do. And with more people learning about sex from porn (which is a display of what men fantasize about, not what women actually enjoy), it is no wonder there are men who struggle with this.

What is shameful, however: is men who blame their inability to please a woman sexually on women themselves. It is the most pathetic kind of man that pretends his complete lack of even the most basic sexual ability is the fault of a woman, as if to be a straight women = being treated like a thing mediocre men use to masturbate to, rather than an actual sexual partner.

There are plenty of resources out there to help you with this inadequacy, the most important being actually talking to her about what she likes and enjoys, trying to figure out why you're not providing that and what you can do to change that. Keep in mind there's a lot of scams out there pretending they can help that give horrible advice and steal your money.

So, you can stick around other men who also complain about how women don't want to sleep with them, and be miserable together while blaming women for something that is in your hands to change. Or, you can work to be better, and hold your friends to higher standards. Your wife, their wives will thank you, if you choose the latter.

Any worthwhile woman wouldn't put up with a man who didn't care about or try to sexually satisfy her, especially if they acted as if it were her fault despite obviously not even considering that they have a responsibility to make sex enjoyable for them. And in truth, this message isn't really for you, because I doubt you'll take the message you so clearly need to hear from this, and will keep on being bad at sex and blaming women for it. But I could be wrong.

My true hope is that there's a few women on here that realize that their partner being awful at sex isn't their fault, and it is something they can and should enjoy.

Treating your neighbor as you'd like to be treated includes your partner. Being bad at sex with another woman isn't going to help anything, it will hurt you and your partner, and you obviously already know it is wrong. There is never any excuse to cheat on your partner, but if you're so selfish that you don't try to make sex enjoyable to her, or find out the things that inspire passion in her, she has more of a justification to cheat than you do: because you are the reason your sex life isn't mutually pleasurable, not her. It would still be wrong for her to cheat, for anyone to cheat... I'm just saying that her pretending to like sex with you isn't her responsibility. And since your first thought is 'blame her, and be tempted to cheat', you obviously have no consideration for her pleasure, or for her even as a partner, and quite frankly if you don't change I hope she comes to her senses and finds someone that can offer the bare minimum of what a partner should offer.

Now, I was very careful not to break any of the rules in this reply. Still, I wouldn't be surprised if it was censored/taken down. I haven't been censored here before, but I have been censored elsewhere for saying the same thing.

If you're reading this and considering reporting it/deleting it because it upsets you, just 2 questions:

1. be honest, if this comment was saying things that didn't upset you or feel like a personal attack, would you still flag it? Or are you looking for an excuse to flag it because it seems to be talking about you?

2. If a woman says 'you know, some men are really bad at sex and can't please a woman' and your first reaction is to take it as a personal insult and think 'hey, that's talking about me'!' you already know everything I said here is true and applies to you, and deleting my comment won't hide that or make you forget that fact.

Stillwhites:
It's getting to a year now that my wife began starving me of sex. Honestly I can count how many times I sexed my wife in the last two months and in most cases I initiate the engagement.

She sometimes complain that I love sex too much so I have to endure days without sex. As I type, it's morethan a week that we engaged in adult activity. I contemplated seeing another lady but it's against my Christian faith. How do I handle this situation?

pocohantas:
Marry a second wife.

Really, ma'am, I'm surprised you're giving this kind of advice.

Happy New Year to you!

metaluterus:
First, Happy Birthday to me!


Back to the topic; @OP...My weird advic. She's got no iota of love for you anymore, but only interested in keeping the marriage and having your cash,

the whole truth is this!!! Women ehh

benson4u:
I have the following questions for you, answer honestly please.
1) Was she sexualy molested earlier in her life?
2) Is she the shy type or an introvert?
3) Did you met her a virgin?
4) Has she given birth before?
5) Do you know if she's pregnant?
6) Is she working for someone or she has her own business?
7) Is the work or business stressful or giving her time for you?
Was she like this while you guys were dating?

Forget all these stories. Women have always use sex as only weapon to control their husbands agelong. To them it is about the home control and to you, one of those excuses u put up there and that's the way they want u to see it.

Stillwhites:
It's getting to a year now that my wife began starving me of sex. Honestly I can count how many times I sexed my wife in the last two months and in most cases I initiate the engagement.

She sometimes complain that I love sex too much so I have to endure days without sex. As I type, it's morethan a week that we engaged in adult activity. I contemplated seeing another lady but it's against my Christian faith. How do I handle this situation?

She needs an afrodisiac, case closed

Rubbish advice everywhere. So if a woman doesn't kill herself to satisfy her man sexually, the solution is to get a concubine, second wife or olosho. Very shallow.

Op, your wife's sexual strength simply doesn't match yours. You should have discussed this before marriage to know if she's the type that likes it the way you do.

Your wife is just like me. We don't have high libido. It's a once once thing for us and as a man you should count yourself lucky to have someone like that because people like us have very strong selfcontrol and so you don't have a problem of cheating because of sex. Better than marrying a nympho that will drain you with sex and still sleep with okada man, Keke man and aboki shoe shinner just to satisfy her high sexual urge. ive seen women with high libido condescend that low to get satisfaction and their husbands are tired of them.

You should look for a way to make her want to do it as often as you want it. Not to start looking for how to cheat on her as that will only cause you more harm in the long run. Disease dey outside o.

Get her this tigernut drink. If you can make it yourself, better. Let be taking it often and see how it goes. otherwise, manage her like that. Sex no be food.

AlphaAlex:
some no Dey hear word them think say when babe dey Form hard to get she dey special

bro please can I ask a question?

Stillwhites:
It's getting to a year now that my wife began starving me of sex. Honestly I can count how many times I sexed my wife in the last two months and in most cases I initiate the engagement.

She sometimes complain that I love sex too much so I have to endure days without sex. As I type, it's morethan a week that we engaged in adult activity. I contemplated seeing another lady but it's against my Christian faith. How do I handle this situation?

Nobody is asking u how uve been treating her
First how have u been treating hewhen u treat a woman so bad it gets to a point that she doesn't give a Bleep bout u

Get it elsewhere.

GoodIsGod:


This is one of the reasons I believe the Bible didn't say, "Thou shall not have a second wife"

In fact what it says is "Those who wish to be Pastors, Bishops, Elders and Deacones should be men of one wife"

Christian ladies using sex to punish husbands don't know more than a wife is allowed.

Fool.

Are you talking about the wife you married with your own money? If yes, then come forward for a big knock on your head.

Savagethe21st:
bro please can I ask a question?

go on

Mykelslim:
Sons, always marry a woman who you loves you more than you love her.
That way she will always fly around you like bee to honey.

May God bless you for this input.
This is the plain truth of every Marital success!

Kayberg comma see!

How has your non-sex related communication been? Is she as closed off to you in other parts of your lives?

Kajaard:


She has a worry and cannot open up to her husband for over a year?

Did you read where the op said it has been over a year he last slept with his wife. Is that still a marriage?

You guys just give very useless advice on this forum.

Where did you see over a year? Close to a year and over a year are different things.

Ignoring the time sef, the fact it took him this long to ask her what the issue is shows he's an unserious husband

I no dey like this kind thing

szepasszony:
You know,

like seriously,
your one sided myopic view is very hmm.
like you read the post and this is the best you could come up with?
my God!

Stillwhites:
It's getting to a year now that my wife began starving me of sex. Honestly I can count how many times I sexed my wife in the last two months and in most cases I initiate the engagement.

She sometimes complain that I love sex too much so I have to endure days without sex. As I type, it's morethan a week that we engaged in adult activity. I contemplated seeing another lady but it's against my Christian faith. How do I handle this situation?

What if she loves and adore you before you bleeped up?
What if, she tried so hard to overlook but her heart has been shattered?
What can make a good woman change?
Lies,
cheating,
domestic violence,
No attention from you,
No communication or less sha,
Probably getting less/begged for adult activities from you, before she kuku made up her mind,

(Tasted it outside and she knows the difference....oya sọpe otilor�)

Have a heart to heart conversation with her and stop seeking advises from online inlaws�