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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Nobody: 2:43pm On Jan 08, 2023

Hendrixky:
Not easy

But the quickest way to become a Billionaire is to ensure you make your relatives especially your siblings a millionaire first

Only people with deep sense and critical thinkers will understand my statement above

Ensure you make your relatives millionaires first?

LMAO!
No offence, how old are you please? Because from where I sit, you don't particularly sound like someone who has seen a decent measure of the Nigerian reality.

There are relatives who are bluntly uninterested in turning a hundred thousand into a million naira. They don't have the patience to turn over investments for small but steady profits. They are basically comfortable with the fact that you have a moderate inflow of income and can accommodate their needs and demands whenever they walk up to you. So whatever efforts you put into setting them up amounts to no good. I have two cousins I have particularly made a handful of efforts to help achieve financial stability. Today they want a hundred grand to put in a business idea they have, it's down the drain tomorrow. Next they want a keke for hire purchase purposes, funds are committed into buying it, 2 months later, keke is sold and they're back to calling your line.

Look, we were all created with opportunities, however unequal they may be. The fact you're in a place to lend a helping hand doesn't mean you should die in the process. Sometimes it's okay to shut in, close fences and tend to your own life. Everybody go dey alright finally.

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by dammie4j(m): 2:44pm On Jan 08, 2023

sacajawea:

Bros abeg, shey na Employment dey give 2M monthly?
Which Job? Which industry

Bro, some earn way more. I know some who earn in hard currency and converted up to 8m monthly. I recently saw an opening with USAID for a role I only needed about 2 more years of experience to qualify. Other perks not included. People dey earn money bro. A lot just don't qualify to earn it and some sector entry requirements are out of this world. I know this...

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by LagBlogger(m): 2:44pm On Jan 08, 2023

IgiveLadiesBj:
I doubt that story. He said he makes 2M monthly. So we're talking about 24M+ 13th month...
I strongly doubt it

I would have doubted it too until I watched a YouTube video of an NBA player who made more than 100 million USD in his career but retired bankrupt.

What did he do with most of his money? Spent it supporting family and friends.

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by starpower(m): 2:52pm On Jan 08, 2023

Tell him to read when the body says NO by Gabor Mate. I recieved sense.

Wickedfact:

He is beyond foolish.
Bros, this guy has debts lined up 6 months in advance. Not for him, not for investments, for family. When he got this new job, his mother decided build a bigger house and build another in the village (father is late). Na this mumu dey foot majority of the bills.
As he is, he has uncompleted projects opening mouth to swallow his money.
Do you believe that this fool sponsored his gf abroad?
Meanwhile, he has a brother who is also doing well. That one doesn't answer them.

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Bananapill: 2:52pm On Jan 08, 2023

Irupetepete:
Omo, uneasy lies the head that wears the crown...
I am not the rich relative, infact, I just go by everyday doing the best I can..
I am this person that doesn't know how to beg cos right from onset after sec school, been fending for myself till I got married...
Everyone knows the terrible situation in Nigeria right now so I can't but pity the rich among many poor relatives right now...

I have a junior brother who just came in from outside... He was looking fresh and fly but looking at him yesterday, I almost shed tears...
He has been the one shouldering many responsibilities and he is just 33yrs old...
He said Egbon, you self no need anything? I told him he shouldn't worry that I will manage...
I was eavesdropping one of his call last December and he was lamenting he has spent close to 13m in just 3months of coming home...
The problem we have as Nigerians is, everybody tends to have a problem or the other when their rich or abroad relatives land...
Spending for his immediate family isn't the problem but iru wa, giri wa,(diff. Sort of people) and as per naija mentality, if you don't do, they may inflict you with something or somehow diabolically stop you from traveling back.. The last time he was home was 8yrs ago, he sure me say if he travel again, na till retirement before he go come back....

So share your experience as per the aforementioned topic..

What I advice anyone who has gone abroad and the means should carry any of his siblings. I've seen a family where the elder brother carried his younger ones and today, the family na blast. Even the last boy na big boy for Naija doing his little business.

There are some who refused to carry their immediate siblings and carry other step siblings. Today, he is complaining of too much dependence on him from his immediate siblings while the step siblings do not remember the one who helped th younger ones.
Make anybody no complain especially if they are your siblings. Do something this 2023 to remove load from your head.

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Munzy14(m): 2:54pm On Jan 08, 2023

yrhuhfy113:
this is so apt... I have faced this, traveling from country to country peacefully and enjoying my life till someone told my family that I travel frequently and BOOMMMM all hell of demands broke loose...

I wasn't married so the married ones began to place demands on me, tell their kids to call me so I can be manipulated to give... family responsibilites that I had no business with.

I had to first relocate from the address they all knew... to somewhere they would never be able to find me, then I traveled out... changed my numbers, then I came back to Lagos and put on the FAMILY SIM just to greet them via SMS and remove it quickly before they call.

Since then I have had peace, my own family has had peace, no more demands from extended relations

EVERYONE WILL SURVIVE

What a format.. cheesy

Sometimes you ignore these relatives so you can attend to your immediate family and yourself.

Truth is, with or without You, them go survive.

So you must use your head.

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Orch1981: 2:55pm On Jan 08, 2023

SyrusdeHansome:
De way pple de beg 4 9ja sometimes i de wonder whether we no de shame 4 dis we country. Even 4 dis nairaland u go see different monika begging 4 money like say some pple get minting machine 4 auz. We knw that things r hard but at least don't be a burden to another person. Mek we de get shame small. I get many relatives abroad but the funny thing is that i don't even have any of dia numbers talkless of begging them 4 help. I can't even beg my own father 4 financial help even when i was still a teenager. Back then if i had issue financially the only person i had the boldness of telling was my mom

Na yorubas get begging online

Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by DispatcherLagos: 2:59pm On Jan 08, 2023

All of us are rich in my immediate family so no one is disturbing each other. However, extended family members kept disturbing from one demand to another until we made it clear last two years that they must go through my mom to get us do anything for them. Guess what, my mom that was just 52 died last year August.

I personally know, someone was behind her demise, but Ogun go kill any of them that will call me for any form of help again

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by MrBroke(m): 2:59pm On Jan 08, 2023

I have never begged for money since my existence and that's how it's going to be. Rich relatives no dey my dictionary

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Alsenora: 3:04pm On Jan 08, 2023

Rich and struggling relatives should simply maintain mutual respect and understanding. The later should be industrious, contented with what he has, while striving to be better financially without depending on the percieved richer folk who most often has many people pestering him...the former in my view should be understanding too. He should be helpful if he sees a perceived need of a struggling brother he can readily meet, not necessarily when beckoned. Money has no permanent residence; it can be domiciled in another's tomorrow.

Hendrixky:
Not easy

But the quickest way to become a Billionaire is to ensure you make your relatives especially your siblings a millionaire first

Only people with deep sense and critical thinkers will understand my statement above

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by MarketDispatch: 3:04pm On Jan 08, 2023

God1000:
Plenty Responsibilities, being the sole breadwinner is onerous

If you want to escape, being the Sole breadwinner, do everything possible whilst you can to bring others up on the same ladder as you, you will enjoy it better.

You'll find out that you won't be the sole breadwinner any more since those you have brought up are also capable

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by seanwilliam(m): 3:08pm On Jan 08, 2023

wunmi590:

In this present day government, there's nothing like rich relative, once you start working, you go chop billing both right, left, front, back and centre.

as in .. and it’s virtually impossible to avoid the Billings .

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Karlifate: 3:18pm On Jan 08, 2023

Hendrixky:
Not easy

But the quickest way to become a Billionaire is to ensure you make your relatives especially your siblings a millionaire first

Only people with deep sense and critical thinkers will understand my statement above

There's nothing deep or critical about your comment.

A family where there's unity & love, it's common sense for siblings to help each other out.

Alas! So many dysfunctional families in Nigeria.

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Karlifate: 3:22pm On Jan 08, 2023

lagonovo:
I am not but I know your middle name automatically becomes “Stingy” among the broke ones no matter what you do.
Even if you help regularly, you become a bad person the day you say no to their stories. They offer advice on how to spend and invest and you wonder why they are always broke if they are that smart and disciplined.

LMAO!

Na poor people dey get financial advice and wealth strategies pass. cheesy

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by snowland(m): 3:22pm On Jan 08, 2023

No be small thing. 99% of the time, na to ignore.

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by seanwilliam(m): 3:22pm On Jan 08, 2023

lagonovo:
I am not but I know your middle name automatically becomes “Stingy” among the broke ones no matter what you do.
Even if you help regularly, you become a bad person the day you say no to their stories. They offer advice on how to spend and invest and you wonder why they are always broke if they are that smart and disciplined.

lol , x1000

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Wickedfact: 3:22pm On Jan 08, 2023

sacajawea:

Bros abeg, shey na Employment dey give 2M monthly?
Which Job? Which industry

Financial Services (Fintech)
He's under 30

Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Karlifate: 3:23pm On Jan 08, 2023

Buddha3:

Ensure you make your relatives millionaires first?

LMAO!
No offence, how old are you please? Because from where I sit, you don't particularly sound like someone who has seen a decent measure of the Nigerian reality.

There are relatives who are bluntly uninterested in turning a hundred thousand into a million naira. They don't have the patience to turn over investments for small but steady profits. They are basically comfortable with the fact that you have a moderate inflow of income and can accommodate their needs and demands whenever they walk up to you. So whatever efforts you put into setting them up amounts to no good. I have two cousins I have particularly made a handful of efforts to help achieve financial stability. Today they want a hundred grand to put in a business idea they have, it's down the drain tomorrow. Next they want a keke for hire purchase purposes, funds are committed into buying it, 2 months later, keke is sold and they're back to calling your line.

Look, we were all created with opportunities, however unequal they may be. The fact you're in a place to lend a helping hand doesn't mean you should die in the process. Sometimes it's okay to shut in, close fences and tend to your own life. Everybody go dey alright finally.

No mind am. cheesy

E dey cap

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Demigod22: 3:25pm On Jan 08, 2023

I am not the rich relative, but I pity my immediate elder brother. He is going through hell for family issue especially from my auntie who never get satisfied. She can cry for help two times a week. Her daughter got into 100k trouble, my brother paid 70k. Her house rent, my brother paid, her daughter in University of Abuja school fee, my brother paid.

Our first son children rely on my elder brother for their school fees. His own children, cousins and aunties.

I pity him so much that I don't even ask for anything, but as the last born of the house the guy still blesses me. Like this Christmas, he bought new Dell laptop and iPhone 13 pro Max for me as Christmas gifts. He bought Christmas clothes for all of us, he still settled me with cash.

It's not easy when you are doing well and decided to help in your family.

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by seanwilliam(m): 3:26pm On Jan 08, 2023

faithfull18:

Have you thought about the fact that some of those who have less than 500k in their accounts may have landed properties and investments worth millions

hmm you’re right bro but it still doesn’t negate the fact that Nigeria is the poverty capital of the world .

Having landed properties doesn’t stop you from having millions in cash.
What if you find yourself in an emergency situation? Do you think it’s easier to liquidate those assets?

Having less down 500k in cash is nothing but poverty in the real sense of it ( don’t get me wrong o, I’m just saying ).

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Wickedfact: 3:28pm On Jan 08, 2023

meobizy:
Why do you want Nairalanders to fantasize unnecessarily this hot afternoon? Na brokeys full this place. If them get money, them for no dey here.

Speak for yourself bro.
Poverty hold you for neck no mean say na everybody get the bad luck wey you get.

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by pocohantas(f): 3:31pm On Jan 08, 2023

dammie4j:

I dey tell you. As part of my defense mechanism, I dey avoid view some people status or even post mine at some times cos the e-beggers (WhatsApp branch) go know say you dey online and begin bug you

Na here we dey now o. grin

Ghostmode!

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Treassured: 3:39pm On Jan 08, 2023

Wickedfact:
I have a boy who earns 2M monthly. In December, he collected 13th month making his pay 4M.
First week of January, he chatted me on WhatsApp wanting to borrow 20k. Very stupid a boy.

He's not the only one doing well in his family but since he has decided to be the Messiah of his family, they want to crucify him.

Hmmm 2Wetin??

This can't be True shocked

Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Treassured: 3:44pm On Jan 08, 2023

Irupetepete:
Omo, uneasy lies the head that wears the crown...
I am not the rich relative, infact, I just go by everyday doing the best I can..
I am this person that doesn't know how to beg cos right from onset after sec school, been fending for myself till I got married...
Everyone knows the terrible situation in Nigeria right now so I can't but pity the rich among many poor relatives right now...

I have a junior brother who just came in from outside... He was looking fresh and fly but looking at him yesterday, I almost shed tears...
He has been the one shouldering many responsibilities and he is just 33yrs old...
He said Egbon, you self no need anything? I told him he shouldn't worry that I will manage...
I was eavesdropping one of his call last December and he was lamenting he has spent close to 13m in just 3months of coming home...
The problem we have as Nigerians is, everybody tends to have a problem or the other when their rich or abroad relatives land...
Spending for his immediate family isn't the problem but iru wa, giri wa,(diff. Sort of people) and as per naija mentality, if you don't do, they may inflict you with something or somehow diabolically stop you from traveling back.. The last time he was home was 8yrs ago, he sure me say if he travel again, na till retirement before he go come back....

So share your experience as per the aforementioned topic..

To be a Gallant Man these days ain't no child play. The best Is to carry your siblings along so they can be okay too.

Being Rich In the midst of Poverty Is not always a pleasant sight to behold.

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Treassured: 3:47pm On Jan 08, 2023

havenz:
Gods willing am Still hustling to be rich because rich relatives no the help solve matter.

I..Hustle..And..Pray

That's the SPIRIT.

Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Karlifate: 3:49pm On Jan 08, 2023

dammie4j:
Honestly I so like this thread. I wouldn't say I'm rich yet but doing fine as a single young man here in Nigeria at least for now. Keeping up and reaching out to Nigerian relatives is really a tough one for me. Like this guys target towards the end of the month and you go dey receive all kinds of calls. Even some go offer to pay a visit knowing we'll that they will get something while leaving after virtually looting all my groceries, provisions, beverages and even wears
Those in my area are not exempted. You go fear demands from all round. Just this December, I had to get a bag of rice and asked to be distributed unanimously to people in need around which eventually got casted. Naso dem begin to chase me around oooo, even those that received initially. Some go even write account details for paper end am with God bless you
Guys around sef go dey add you to group for end of year carnival for free flexing and contributions. People weh no get pure intentions from day one. I've peefected to act of ghosting, staying and flexing indoors, avoiding croud and specfic tracks or gatherings and selecting call (unfortunately true caller does work perfectly on ios). I'll just do my best and post the rest

'Fortunately'

Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by emmanuelewumi(m): 3:49pm On Jan 08, 2023

faithfull18:

Have you thought about the fact that some of those who have less than 500k in their accounts may have landed properties and investments worth millions

Predictable cash flow from your assets and investments is Koko. Cash is king and cash flow is the queen

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by seanwilliam(m): 3:50pm On Jan 08, 2023

IgiveLadiesBj:
I doubt that story. He said he makes 2M monthly. So we're talking about 24M+ 13th month...
I strongly doubt it

lol. Be grateful for the kind of fam you find yourself bro.
Some are leeches. In some families , your savings won’t be proportional to your earnings even if you’re single o.

If you don’t stand your ground and damn the consequences, you might be earning 2m monthly and won’t have 100k savings . This is happening bro.

And it’s not also easy to daju. You go Dey pity dem too.

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by seanwilliam(m): 3:52pm On Jan 08, 2023

franchasng:
Young man you are poor and still bragging in your poverty.

My prayer everyday even when I was broke and struggling was for God to bless me so immensely that I will be a blessing to others starting from my siblings, parents, cousins, nieces, nephews, neighbors, employees, kinsmen, my Church, my Pastors and everybody that I come across.

Of what use is my being rich without being a destiny helper to many?

Please pray against the spirit of poverty and rich today poor tomorrow because your attitude may attract such

you are right but everything has limit!

When you give more than you earn or your giving is affecting your finance, then one must put limit.

Even Zuckerberg go get limit !!

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Wickedfact: 3:54pm On Jan 08, 2023

IgiveLadiesBj:
I doubt that story. He said he makes 2M monthly. So we're talking about 24M+ 13th month...
I strongly doubt it

You are only limited by your exposure.
The person in question is my boy. No be them say them say.
I was once offered 8k dollars per month for a development role in the North. 2 weeks in Abuja, 2 weeks in Borno.
I know Blockchain Devs working from home in Lagos earning $20k monthly.
Don't let anyone lie to you that no one can earn that per month. Opportunities dey.

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Re: Your Experience As A Rich Or Only Rich Relative.. by Sweetvie: 3:58pm On Jan 08, 2023

Naija and billing 5&6 grin

I only know my family
Any auntie, uncles and cousins is a counterfeit grin

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