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Akinowon123:
Same baby you wanted to abort here

https://www.nairaland.com/5751460/im-pregnant-sisters-brother-in-law-im

Yes I wanted to abort her because I didn't want to go back to the village, I am happy that I didn't do it because she is the best thing that ever happened to me 😍

Ngozey:
Yes I wanted to abort her because I didn't want to go back to the village, I am happy that I didn't do it because she is the best thing that ever happened to me 😍

Okay nice to know. Know that Your sister can not deny you of your child when you are fully ready to take her. And that is when you have more than enough to take care of her. For now, focus on learning the skills and becoming ur own boss, make money and go for her. I know you miss her, she is your blood but that is part of the sacrifices you pay for what you did. Your sister want the best for you, trust me.

In another case, you can get her to be sending you video recording of her or pictures.

Akinowon123:
Okay nice to know. Know that Your sister can not deny you of your child when you are fully ready to take her. And that is when you have more than enough to take care of her. For now, focus on learning the skills and becoming ur own boss, make money and go for her. I know you miss her, she is your blood but that is part of the sacrifices you pay for what you did. Your sister want the best for you, trust me.

In another case, you can get her to be sending you video recording of her or pictures.

Ok thanks

Ngozey


Unfortunately the female character is in support of her😭😭😭

Well, it's your duty to convince her. Appeal to her motherhood conscience. No matter how long it takes you. Make her understand that you only want visitation rights and if she doesn't agree try someone else, just make sure you exhaust all civil options before going to a lawyer or human rights.

frozen70:
Where are your parents in this home video

Her story is true. Go through her profile, she created a thread in 2020 when she was pregnant.

Ngozey:
Yes she is now a big girl 2 years and 4 months, she hasn't spoken to me since april 2021 when I left her house. Even if I call her with using a different number, as soon as she hear my voice she will cut the call. I don't need her to send me money ,i only need visitations right ,if she allow me i will borrow money for transportation even if it she will not allow me inside her house , that's fine I can see my baby outside of her house . I don't mind spending the night on the street just to see my baby.

If you have the capacity to take to take care of the child, you can get the police or court to collect the child

I don hear this story before

Tell your parents to beg her on your behalf to return the baby to you.

Ngozey:
The same God who created me and you

First off, be sure you are capable of taking care of that child. If you are, get some elderly family members or friends to go with you to your sister's place to plead your case. Ask for forgiveness because getting pregnant while in her care was wrong. Assure her that you are capable of taking care of the child. Go with a gift to show your gratitude for her care of your baby the past two years. You can also try buying a gift for your dad and begging him to intervene in the matter. Godspeed.

Ngozey:
Ok thanks

Update us pls

Keziehenry:
Update us pls

they relocated to Canada , I will never get to see her again 😭😭😭😭

Taking care of a baby is not a child's play especially if you got pregnant for someone who doesn't know the value of having a child... talking from experience

Why not look for a job before going to acquire skill? Atleast that can help you gather some money to kickstart your life once again even though I know it's not going to be easy.
If you are able to save some, please go get your child before they'll use bitterness to maltreat her.

If there's anything I'll do to take care of my child, just for her to be in my custody I'm ready to do it..... Because nobody birthed her for me
All the pains of life I passed through all alone, so make everyone Sabi body.

Ngozey:
they relocated to Canada , I will never get to see her again 😭😭😭😭

Really, hope your family are aware of all these. It's good the took her to Canada but they shouldn't disconnect you from your kid

Ngozey:
they relocated to Canada , I will never get to see her again 😭😭😭😭

Have you heard from them?

Ngozey:
I don't have money for a lawyer unless it is free of charge 😭😭😭

Madam face ur life and leave that pikin alone.
U have nothing to offer now, stop being emotional and face the reality.
If u arrange ur life, u ll still meet her the future.
At 17 u know how to open ur leg instead of facing ur books 📚.

Ngozey:
they relocated to Canada , I will never get to see her again 😭😭😭😭

Any update?

Ngozey, you did not do well at all. Your mother is dead. You have an elderly father that does not care about you in the village.

Your elder sister who is married with a child and living in Lagos knew that suffering in the village might make you to be impregnated by any riff-raff in the village. She was very concerned because you were a minor that was under 16 years by then.

She wanted you to succeed in life.So, she brought you to Lagos to live with her and her family members so that you can go to school and be useful to yourself in future.She also had a plan to relocate her family and you to Canada as soon as possible.

But, you were not interested in having a bright future.You preferred to be having regular sex with a younger boy who is the brother of your sister's husband. Eventually you got pregnant. You went for abortion but did not have enough money to do it till your sister discovered the pregnancy.

Your sister loves you and also honours God. Hence, she did not want abortion for you because you might die or you might not have another pregnancy in life if it is only one child that God wants you to have in life. Also, she knew that abortion was a sin.

So, your sister took good care of you till you delivered safely- antenatal and postnatal. After weaning the baby, she sent you back to the village..This is to prevent you from getting another pregnancy because you preferred having sex to building your future. You can only help someone who has a mindset of quitting poverty and suffering unfortunately you are not in that category.

The money and care your sister wanted to give you was diverted to your daughter. So ,your daughter was taken lto Canada when her family was relocating there. Your daughter will have access to qualitative education, perfect health services, quality life as well as Canadian accent when speaking.The father of your baby was also sent back to the village for his lackadaisical attitude and embarrassing his brother (your sister's husband).

To be Frank, l do not know how your life can improve in the village because learning a trade or fashion design in a village is only good if you want to work in a village. Such skills are not useful in advanced societies or cities except you relearn it again there.

I am surprised that some kids on Nairaland asked you to use a lawyer to get the custody of the child. Of course, your sister would have released her to you in Nigeria if you found means to do that. The implication is that the baby will lack care, be hungry and have a bleak future like you

Instead of worrying about her in Canada with a secured future, have another child if that is your priority and multiply your suffering.

Pray to God for forgiveness. Pray everyday,that God will touch your sister's heart to forgive you and contact you one day But start adding values to your life everyday. Later, God will direct you on what to do. SHALOM.