People get married just because they think they're in love, but in marriage love is not just enough. There are elements that keep couples going in marriages when love begins to fade over time. How compatible are you?

Good question!

Why are you people not saying it as it is.. it's simple the Bobby no longer point like it used to

if u marry who u love..omoh! u will never be tired and will continually find ur patmer attractive...

God know say i for no ever tire for onyeka if to say we went on and married..the lady hold my command baby doll...

but as in reality we love to pursue ppl dat dont love us

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

Reality sets in.
"See finish syndrome ".

Personally,I can stay for weeks to months without seeing my husband and I'm fine.
I even prefer his absence.

There are more important things to bother about,abeg

Waffarianman:
Who say so even with 3 kids I and my wife still find ourselves attractive. Na now our love sweet pass

Definitely, you are financially okey. Otherwise, no woman truly love a man because once you guys have financial challenge, she minds her facebook and you will both begin to live like strangers at home.
The truth is MARRIAGE is a big deceit and I will advise singles guys especially to never venture into it at the expense of their ambitions because that comes with great regret.

Two words: see finish

wow. my marriage is over 10 years and anytime i see my wife half naked, i get full erection. Even when i have headaches, that erection will still come.

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

There is no longer attraction because the lying and deceit has stopped.

The attraction is no longer there as you both face reality

Inversely husbands and wives who have been true to themselves find themselves more attracted after the marriage because they have dealt

with each other in truth and sincerity and continue to do so.

Every man needs something new always

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

How did you arrive at the conclusion, "most married couples"?

I am more attracted to my wife than ever before. I like what I see; well maintained, clean, best cook, descent, better shape than when we got married. You just name it.

When attraction dies between couples, it means they have stopped working on each other and on themselves.

Cheating also makes couples loose attraction to each other. I am yet to see a lady that can beat my wife in the areas I find attractive in a woman. I customised her to my taste, and me to hers. The big O is sure for her 98% of the times.

But this is only possible if your spouse is not already a community well or pole before you got married.

Every spouse can do it too.

siofra:
It's because men marry for lust and when that lust fades, they begin to regret marriage.

And what do women marry for?

siofra:
It's because men marry for lust and when that lust fades, they begin to regret marriage.

But women marry for?
You say?
Louder please!
One characteristics of feminists. Man must take the heap of blames.

See finish!!

oz4real83:
Please edit your post and correct some of the words you use. Some of us reading it lose interest when we see statements like "her wife" or 'his husband" in Nigeria.

I guess you didn't notice the error in yours. You should have typed: correct some of the words you -used."

DaddyCoool:


And what do women marry for?

Ha, my comrade.
Na d same thing me sef just ask o

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

It is normal.
When u buy a new car .........

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

Law of diminishing return don set in.

Cos couples don't renew their marriage vows on daily basis. From day one you must package, repackage & overpackage to continually love your spouse. Marriage is full of stress. Times are changing.

They will start displaying their bad characters that they have been hiding

vacanci:
wow. my marriage is over 10 years and anytime i see my wife half naked, i get full erection. Even when i have headaches, that erection will still come.

I bet you it's not the same for her. You're probably gradually becoming disgusting to her. Why can't things ever be equal in this life??!!

blacksam01:
if u marry who u love..omoh! u will never be tired and will continually find ur patmer attractive...

God know say i for no ever tire for onyeka if to say we went on and married..the lady hold my command baby doll...

but as in reality we love to pursue ppl dat dont love us

Make sure the person, loves you back.
A guy will be shifting heaven and earth to get one babe. Unknown to him, he is also keeping score/records..
When he finally marries the girl after all the challenges, he drops her in the collection box. He doesn't chase her again because he feels he has suffered enough to chase her the first time. Then he just starts using her to satisfy he needs and if she complains or starts talking about validation and her feelings, guy will land her heavy slap. Beatings commence from there
As I said, the guy was unknowing keeping records of her shakara and forming, during the premarital stage and is now revenging.

kinkydude:
Cos couples don't renew their marriage vows on daily basis. From day one you must package, repackage & overpackage to continually love your spouse. Marriage is full of stress. Times are changing.

Too much WORK! Must life be work?? Why not just avoid the headache? Why not just simply be, and enjoy this great gift called LIFE??

Lack of money

Lack of communication

Lack of commitment etc

JASONjnr:


Many people marry because of physical beauty....


When you look deeply and appreciate your partner with her inside beauty, you will always stay loving her.

Marriage is beautiful and the only problem is finding a woman that will stay true to you.


If you love a woman and study her and love everything about her, and she loves everything about you. It's a match-make that can last for eternity.

But if the love was either her looks or her loving you for your money.... When those attributes are gone, the love fades away with it.

Best comment so far. Exactly my thoughts! The purpose for getting married is what determines it all... whether he married cos of external beauty which fades away with time, or for sexual pleasure which they'd get tired of, or because of peer and family pressure, or because of her inner beauty (which lasts for a lifetime). Important thing is to marry your best friend, a lady or man whom you share inner connection with, and one that is beautiful on the inner. With these, you'd never get tired of your spouse.

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

See finish

Vinnie2000:





In Every Romantic Affairs that Last for long, Attractions is bound to GRADUALLY disappear.

Dat's why couples Must Re-invent themselves and change with the times.

As a Man, try different Hairstyles, lifestyles and Spoil ur Wife with Surprises.

For women, Maintain ur Figure, Dress sexy most times and be Spontaneous in the Oza room.
Buy African Roots for ur Husband and Give him Cowgirls, Doggy, Monkey, Angle 90 Sex styles, ,etc..

With Better Doccking b/w a Couple, Their Marriage MUST last.

u Dey crase for head

handsomeyitayo:
can you explain that ? I want to know why ... because am scared of marriage. Nowadays couples are scaring us away from doing marriage. Most men are going through a lots in marriage they won't tell you..

Infatuation dose not prove love and affection is not love



Love takes time

Na see finish dey cause am. Thus, the advise "marry your friend".
True love begins and ends with friendship. Attraction fades with time.

Cos they both stopped pretending

Challenges, emotions and disappointment

Vinnie2000:





In Every Romantic Affairs that Last for long, Attractions is bound to GRADUALLY disappear.

Dat's why couples Must Re-invent themselves and change with the times.

As a Man, try different Hairstyles, lifestyles and Spoil ur Wife with Surprises.

For women, Maintain ur Figure, Dress sexy most times and be Spontaneous in the Oza room.
Buy African Roots for ur Husband and Give him Cowgirls, Doggy, Monkey, Angle 90 Sex styles, ,etc..

With Better Doccking b/w a Couple, Their Marriage MUST last.

No be guarantee. If u like give some men Kamasutra, them go still cheat and regard you as an object.