₦airaland Forum

LarochelE:
It's women who have delusional standards. He mustmust be tall, six pack , good looking, rich, earning 6 figures and all that. But Men lack standard, just have pussy and men will invest in women. What else does women bring to the table in marriage if not their ass and breast? Do you think women will matter in this world of male dominance and competitiveness if God do not give them vagina? (I leave you to think about this). Men build women. Gave them civilization. Train them in school. Find them jobs and still help them do these jobs all because of pussy. A woman that is nobody can easily get upgraded and far ahead in life by a man all because of her vagina. And you still think men asking women to have only beauty quality is delusional? Even, this beauty we're talking about, Nigerian women fall short of it.

Go around. Look at couples. Look at their wife. Can you genuinely say these women are beautiful? Their men look way better than them even with all the Money men spend to make women comfortable in this world. The day men no longer value vagina and have another substitute is the day you truly get to know how Men make women's life better than it should actually be.

Women are generally ugly than women. Men work to get their beauty, get in shape in gym, but women are believe to be born with beauty. And this beauty is lacking among today's women. When you even look at a woman unclothedness, you get disgusted and question yourself if this is what you've been chasing all this while. It's just the urge that keep men chasing and wanting women

Which bring the question, what do women bring to marriage ??

Finally you've gotten to the point.

When you get married, you will know what women bring to marriages. For now, you're free to tout whatever untruth about marriages and women that you please.

Even unattractive men will have strong opinions about women and what should motivate them. Bye.

DaddyCoool:
Well, studies and screenshot below say you are a very rare exception indeed, or misreading, or... (no offense) lying

Everything i have said is the truth. The screenshot you posted may not apply to everyone as it doesnt apply to me at the moment even in a 12 years old marriage.

law of diminishing returns

Before you marry any woman make sure she has one thing you love so much, it can be big ass, Big breast.. etc

I have been in marriage since 20 years now,but I can't still have enough of my wife. Anytime we banged, It seems as if we just met.

I can't stop thinking about that fat soft ass

It's because many married Beauty instead of Character

They married the container instead of the content

Hygiene is very important, mouth odor (oil foods, causes odor, if not washed well) and not cleaning oneself, makes one unattractive.

Also being boring could lead to a loss in interest, always doing the same things, staying in the room, getting too big and fat

Therefore recommends, good hygiene, appreciate your partner and show them that they are wonderful, do new things that challenges you.

Waffarianman:
Who say so even with 3 kids I and my wife still find ourselves attractive. Na now our love sweet pass

You are just lucky

Most of married women are guilty of this,because u don born u go turn urself to old woman,tie wrapper with big belle inside house,no be say u carry belle,sitting room messed up, kitchen unkept,na only man who is also dirty, wount be irritated by this,this are attitude of some women

Goodlady:
Marriage is good n I look forward ⏩⏩⏩ to it.
Why couples don't find themselves attractive is based on desire. Once you decide this is who you ll be with forever, it's sealed.
If it's looks that attracts you, the looks ll fade. If it's money, money fit finish. But the desire to stick to your partner keeps you going when it appear to be rough.
Just like when you buy new gadget, it's so new at first but becomes old gradually. Humans aren't objects though so that's why you v to maintain each other.

All I can say is what a woman might loses in her figure 8 she makes up for in experience and passion. Don't expect to start getting the best out of intimacy with a woman until she gets to her late 40's and early 50's. That's been my experience and I have been married for 20 plus years. I am having the best years of my marriage. The thought of a young woman is as appealing as eating green mangoes.

Before marriage, the ladies are attractive but stay attractive with good manners. I don’t pretend. My wife is more attractive now than before, after ten years. She keeps attracted to me . She sees me as her king and she is my queen .

We had sex many rounds before now but we make love now , just one in a while that has hearts connection . Whenever she travels , I am almost finished and no one else is appealing to me.

It requires continuous effort or persistence.

Lightorder:
Before marriage, the ladies are attractive but stay attractive with good manners. I don’t pretend. My wife is more attractive now than before, after ten years. She keeps attracted to me . She sees me as her king and she is my queen

On my own point of view..........
Personal hygiene.
Manner of approach.
Respect.
Sincerity.
Loyalty.
Obedient.
Positive opinions.
Self esteem.
Lack of conversation.
Poor sex drives ( sex urge ).
Financial depression might make a man pay less attention to his wife .
Other people's opinion .
Are the root causes of marriage couple not finding themselves attractive..

Gee001:
The thing is, most people tend to marry for the wrong reasons. For the guys, it's mostly because of the physical appearance and then a few years into the marriage when it starts "wearing out", they lose interest.

Women marry because of money when things are not going well they become something else

vacanci:
Everything i have said is the truth. The screenshot you posted may not apply to everyone as it doesnt apply to me at the moment even in a 12 years old marriage.

I hear ya. You are a rare exception

seanwilliam:
honestly speaking , if a woman comes visiting, I get tired after two days and I’ll do anything to discharge her.

And if I Dey chase women like this , the moment I yansh her one or two times, the interest no go Dey there again , na she go Dey do the calling and chasing. I fear make this thing no happen to me for marriage

Forget it if you marry because of yansh or boobs you will get tired in one week I swear. Sex is so overrated

winner37:
On my own point of view..........
Personal hygiene.
Manner of approach.
Respect.
Sincerity.
Loyalty.
Obedient.
Positive opinions.
Self esteem.
Lack of conversation.
Poor sex drives ( sex urge ).
Financial depression might make a man pay less attention to his wife .
Other people's opinion .
Are the root causes of marriage couple not finding themselves attractive..

Yeah? How about you are tired of eating the same thing everyday for 10 years??!

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

Age and time are not friends of women.

Their looks decline and they become more irritable as they grow older

Hassanmaye:
Forget it if you marry because of yansh or boobs you will get tired in one week I swear. Sex is so overrated

Marriage is NOT for everybody!!

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

Challenges and bad choice

see finish from both sides

BRATISLAVA:
Finally you've gotten to the point.

When you get married, you will know what women bring to marriages. For now, you're free to tout whatever untruth about marriages and women that you please.

Even unattractive men will have strong opinions about women and what should motivate them. Bye.

Lol. Unattractive men indeed. I've heard you. Thanks

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

How does 3 marriages translate to your topic Mr. Observer? Marriage is hard work by two people. I have been married for the 12th year this year and can say I love my wife more than I did when we first got married. We have times when we're unhappy with eachother but that doesn't last long. I trust her with my life as she trusts me with hers. I made up my mind as a man that my kids will never grow up in the toxic environment. My wife's dad died only last year. 58 years of marriage and they still acted as kids around eachother. Her mom has been ill ever since because they did everything together. It is a journey not a sprint. It is an adventure. I look forward to going home to my wife and kids after a long day. And when we're apart it is hard. Marry who feels the same about you not someone who wanted a title of daddy or mommy or husband or wife. Most people nowadays marry for the wrong reasons. I still wonder till date what my wife saw in me. If she loved me then when I was nobody, with all my baggage. How much more now? Wo, marriages are working. Don't let a few bad eggs deter you.
The challenges will come but a threefold cord cannot easily be broken with God as the third person in your marriage. Be eachother's peace. Shalom.

seanwilliam:
honestly speaking , if a woman comes visiting, I get tired after two days and I’ll do anything to discharge her.

And if I Dey chase women like this , the moment I yansh her one or two times, the interest no go Dey there again , na she go Dey do the calling and chasing. I fear make this thing no happen to me for marriage

Lol. True. These Women don't know this. They think they're invaluable and the world can't survive without them

DaddyCoool:
Yeah? How about you are tired of eating the same thing everyday for 10 years??!

It depends on the type of food that will be prepared for me during the ten days . If food like Rice and sauce or pounded yam I don't mind eating it for ten days ..

Klass99:
For some reason I can't explain this comment trips me to pieces. As in, I like that you are way older than wifey, she's in her 40s, but you guys are overkilling it from what you've shared.

Seven blessings to you, may your home and marriage stay sweet and strong. I like older men abeg, you guys just rock and you stand out, without making much of an effort. I'm guessing you also have the sort of grey but neatly trimmed and kept beards I love like crazy.

Thank you so much. I really appreciate your comment. You've made my day at work already.

Hassanmaye:
You are just lucky

Thank you

How do you know? Are you married?
Every family has its own format, if you really love your wife before you married her, no matter the situation, you will still love her.
When you marry a woman, she has this mentality of I am the woman of the house, you can be flirting with ladies like before and you have to face your responsibilities as a man.
If you don't, you go hear am.
If you have a good woman as a wife she will help you and if you marry a lazy woman, omo you don die.
When dating, know what you want, don't compromise, then you have a good marriage.

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

moneyissweet:
Before you marry any woman make sure she has one thing you love so much, it can be big ass, Big breast.. etc

I have been in marriage since 20 years now,but I can't still have enough of my wife. Anytime we banged, It seems as if we just met.

I can't stop thinking about that fat soft ass