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BreconHills:
All I can say is what a woman might loses in her figure 8 she makes up for in experience and passion. Don't expect to start getting the best out of intimacy with a woman until she gets to her late 40's and early 50's. That's been my experience and I have been married for 20 plus years. I am having the best years of my marriage. The thought of a young woman is as appealing as eating green mangoes.

I want you to share more light on the bolded i also quoted them below, you might be educating someone out there apart from me.

Don't expect to start getting the best out of intimacy with a woman until she gets to her late 40's and early 50's

The thought of a young woman is as appealing as eating green mangoes.

Nothing is scary about marriage, marriage is sweet. Choose the right woman for yourself, don't be who you are not. Don't accept all the responsibilities when dating or you are ready to do that in your marriage.
Marriage is being who you are, no pretence. No be fake love, no be sampling girls. Marriage is for matured man and woman with responsibilities.
Marriage no be romantic movies or zeeworld film, it is a reality with responsibilities.
I am enjoying my marriage.
Use your head and ask God to help you too.

handsomeyitayo:
can you explain that ? I want to know why ... because am scared of marriage. Nowadays couples are scaring us away from doing marriage. Most men are going through a lots in marriage they won't tell you..

LARRYOBRAIN:
If you really love your wife before you married her, no matter the situation, you will still love her.

This is NOT true at all. People change. Situations change. And sometimes you may think you know someone, but you don't know them

BRATISLAVA:
I guess. It's the same reason they are happy to post AI generated images of women, but are terrified to and dare not post that of AI generated men.

Right now, marriages are crashing left and right and center, because the women get unattractive once married. People who look like lizards in jackets saying so.

"Lizards in jackets" keh? Wetin we do you?

Dis one na real see finis for we men.

Whatever ting we do you, mek you forgive us.

Bros, your own too much, you know it was not intentional.

oz4real83:
Please edit your post and correct some of the words you use. Some of us reading it lose interest when we see statements like "her wife" or 'his husband" in Nigeria.

LARRYOBRAIN:
Nothing is scary about marriage, marriage is sweet. Choose the right woman for yourself, don't be who you are not. Don't accept all the responsibilities when dating or you are ready to do that in your marriage.
Marriage is being who you are, no pretence. No be fake love, no be sampling girls. Marriage is for matured man and woman with responsibilities.
Marriage no be romantic movies or zeeworld film, it is a reality with responsibilities.
I am enjoying my marriage.
Use your head and ask God to help you too.

NOTHING is as sweet as FREEDOM. And that's one thing marriage takes away. Nothing can ever beat waking up knowing you can do and be with who you wish, especially if you are a man of means

So many reasons might be responsible.

At first it might be infatuation and not love, some men just wants to make a point that they can impregnate her and nothing else just because of how stressful she was to him or the attention he got when he was chasing her.

Others want to get that title as a married man or baby daddy and nothing more.

Some women forget themselves and thin there is nothing more to it after child birth hence loose guard and grown old, dirty, unkempt, stretch marks etc.

Above all, just try to marry your friend and best friend because its friendship and understanding that sustains a relationship not love,

siofra:
It's because men marry for lust and when that lust fades, they begin to regret marriage.

That is not true infact your assumption is stereotypical

Variety is the spice of Romance. Every time yam yam , at least plantain or eba .

Many people are in marriages with people they have nothing in common with because of SEX!!!

Once a man starts sleeping with a lady that has used "sweetner" gbagam! Or a woman sleeps with a man that can pound her the way she likes, gbagam!
Their brain engine knocks....

They'll over look the red flags just because they want to cum!

THERE'S NO WOMAN WITHOUT A VAGINA
THERE'S NO MAN WITHOUT A ROD

Look at the things that affect life positively before the sex. Those who have ears will hear...

handsomeyitayo:
can you explain that ? I want to know why ... because am scared of marriage. Nowadays couples are scaring us away from doing marriage. Most men are going through a lots in marriage they won't tell you..

Most people marry for the wrong reasons.


Men for ownership, women for the title.

When love is not genuine, this is what you get

akposking:
I want you to share more light on the bolded i also quoted them below, you might be educating someone out there apart from me.

Oh gosh you've set me up. Let me blame someone else. Oscar Wilde who was supposedly a homosexual made a lot of quotes about women. One of which was ( to paraphrase) women age from the neck down and it the last third is the last to age. Ok thats the humorous part.

In my opinion women become more confident, adjust to their partners rhythm with more expertise as they age, they use less raw strength and more guile. They are knowledgeable and experienced.

The caveat is that your "payment" for this performance is making sure her life is moving forward and you have a baseline of security around the family otherwise she will have headache every night and ask you " if that's all you think of" That's for the physical side.

On the human side you get an amazing project manager if she signs up for your project. Your conversations are long and rich and therre is less of the drama with women who are younger - it's that drama that makes me talk about green mangoes. I cannot imagine experiencing that drama again. A woman that comfortable in her skin, is a delight.

Finally back to the physical side - imagine a house that might look ...well not as new as others but when you step in, you enter a world of a delight that knows you very well.

Experience and self confidence counts. And this takes time. Men just need to do their own part.

Did I really say all of that?

Marriage is like a lantern light, if you don't refil it, it dies slowly

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

See finish, that's what its called.

omooba969:
When you visit a remote village where life is relatively simple, you will appreciate marriage btw genuine couple bcoz money is the last thing on their minds.

Money answereth all things , some people mentioned about woman appearance , is it not money that she needs to take care of her body , some men will complain that their wives are not looking attractive, if you know the money some ladies are using to invest in skin care products you will know that one need money to maintain the body .

I have a friend that has black spots all over her face , her husband complained that her face is not looking good , shi shi the man did not drop any money for her to take care the face .

Why complain when you can't provide solution to the person.

Now she has her own money, if you see her face glowing like glass but they're no longer together.

naijapikin2:
I can only speak about what I've heard the men say:
Some women just tend to lower their guard after marriage. They now begin to tie wrapper Instead of putting on bum shorts for your man. Just generally leave themselves unkempt. Hair undone, teeth not brushed, hey ladies your men also like to see you do make up.

I'll be back with more...

na lie o. We don't want any make up

Isabi4lov:
Money answereth all things , some people mentioned about woman appearance , is it not money that she needs to take care of her body , some men will complain that their wives are not looking attractive, if you know the money some ladies are using to invest in skin care products you will know that one need money to maintain the body .

I have a friend that has black spots all over her face , her husband complained that her face is not looking good , shi shi the man did not drop any money for her to take care the face .

Why complain when you can't provide solution to the person.

Now she has her own money, if you see her face glowing like glass but they're no longer together.

I agree we need money to afford basic necessities but not using money as a benchmark for successful marriage.

Btw, can I have your friend's phone number since she's longer with that unappreciative man.

curiosity ..... After watching a moving twice, thrice. You know the rest.

Richie77:
curiosity ..... After watching a moving twice, thrice. You know the rest.

there are some movies I've watched 30 times and I've not gotten tired of

orisa37:
EMEFIELE INTRODUCES NEW NAIRA NOTES.

Na lie o! Udonminit?!

Bros...
U para for op.

oz4real83:
Please edit your post and correct some of the words you use. Some of us reading it lose interest when we see statements like "her wife" or 'his husband" in Nigeria.

The law of diminishing returns.


But when the couple are in Christ, they just keep loving naturally. Why most men stop to love is when the submission by the woman is no longer there. The Holy book says, " men love your wives. Women, submit to your husbands"

No man can love a woman who is a tigress.


Today, I deliberately handled certain household activities that my wife usually handles because her new job is really draining her. She was so pleased and appreciative when she came back and noticed that those stuff have been taken care of. It's the least I can do to help her stabilize. You can reinvent the sparks of your relationship with little acts like this.

Sleekfingers:
Most Nigerian women stop taking care of themselves, after giving birth to kids .....start gaining unnecessary weight,

Stop giving doggy style, Mouth Action.....

I have been married more than 10 years . Still find my wife attractive, after 3 kids.....but lately she has started gaining unnecessary weight....we already talked about it.....or else na to find my small girl be that ooo....

I hope you have remained the same weight that you were before you married her?

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

A lot of factors can be attributed to This. However it is a known fact that when the purpose of a thing isn't known abuse is inevitable.
Most couples don't know the fundamentals of marriage, they simply don't know the true reason why they are getting married.

Marriage is an institution founded by God which can't represent it full nature and purpose without Him.

It's safe to say some of us are lucky in marriage. We don't get tired of each other, hubby and I. He still calls me at work once or twice. He still gives me my peck, cheek or forehead, before he steps out. I still get my breakfast in bed, he still buys goodies from work. We still go shopping together, he still plays his guitar to serenade me, we still gist into the night and watch movies together. He still defends me like a lion from whoever, he still pampers me, That's the best part. Oh! How I love the attention! We are a siamese twin, anyone around us knows this. My dad usually teases us about this.

Just marry your friend, don't have any ulterior motives hidden in your heart when going into marriage. It's a forever adventure.
We're 12 years and still counting.

Marriage reveals all.
Responsibility and reality sets in.
Many can't stand routine.
The need to make sacrifices.
Challenges and pit falls may test the union early.

These and more kick physical attraction out of the window.

Giving way for inner beauty that sustains but many don't possess nor look out for this while courting.

winner37:
It depends on the type of food that will be prepared for me during the ten days . If food like Rice and sauce or pounded yam I don't mind eating it for ten days ..

Yeah, but humans like variety by nature. Unless you are forced to, it's human to want to sample different dishes while maintaining your staple

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

The love is based on body attraction not on the inner person he or she is.

spiceadole:
Reality sets in.
"See finish syndrome ".

Personally,I can stay for weeks to months without seeing my husband and I'm fine.
I even prefer his absence.

There are more important things to bother about,abeg

blood of Zachariah! What if he's banging bitches?

handsomeyitayo:
Hello Nairalanders

I do observe that most married couples don't find their selves attractive unlike when they started their relationship before marriage.

I have experienced three married couples like that.

I remember when this my neighbor brought her wife to be then, this man is very jelous and he always challenge her when he sees her chatting with guys in the compound but some years later, they did wedding and she gave birth to two lovely girls but now all those jealousy of those days, he is not doing that again even if he comes from work he will just over look the person chatting with his wife and he comes back late in the night.. weekend he will be indoor not minding the wife is outside still conversating with neighbors I mean male neighbors,but then who dares go near to interact with her before marriage.

Even the other couples they will be doing as if they don't know each other .. I learnt that he said he doesn't find her attractive no more but what made him marry her? Didn't he see the signs she is not attractive.

Even also it happens to ladies that will later say she is tired of her husband.

It's called see finish...

Devil

1Sharon:
I hope you have remained the same weight that you were before you married her?

Always maintaining my physique......ain't got no protuberances.....