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When you feel you can't come and kill yourself. You japa

I doff for you ooo. Great one.
As ediots plenty for this Nairaland reach, we still get better quality like this.
Take one odogwu abeg

pansophist:
You just described a good man, so tell me how exactly is a good man not your type? When people talk about "type", if I scratch deep a bit, they will mention superficial things that they will probably outgrow, and have no bearing to sustaining a relationship.

You can't have all in one person. You must compromise. If you meet " your type", he probably will have some qualities that you hate. So you must know that you're paying a price if you think you can just dump a good man. You're a lady, and being emotional can be your worse enemy.

To answer your question, you know it's time to move on when your effort has seized to be reciprocated. If you're the only one initiating, sustaining and perpetuating the relationship, then sign off. You'll be hurt, but it's better than loosing yourself.

You can't negotiate on being weak, and staying in a place where your presence is not appreciated is weakness, you'll lose yourself. It's like trying to score a goal, but the goal post is move farther and farther everytime you approach the scoring line.

And as a woman, you should understand your nature. Women are highly neurotic, meaning that you see negativities and pessimism where they are none. Scientist argued that it's because women carry the young, so their sense of danger is sharper than men. Women are physically weak as well, especially during pregnancy.

The last card you should play now is to discuss with him and tell him honestly that you know things have changed since he saw your message, and that you don't want to waste time if there are no future in this relationship. That you fully accepted the responsibility of your mistake.

Then make a decision from his response. You may need the help of a trusted, neutral person, because your emotions may overshadow reasoning. This discussion may be hard, but if you don't have it, you'll pay a costlier price, which is, your time.

As a woman, you can't afford to waste time on a fruitless relationship, I'm sure I don't have to remind this to you. Next time, don't make stupid mistake. You don't have a monopoly of "my type". There are places he wished you were better, but he accepted you. Why can't you do the same?

dem no dey tell blind man rain dey fall,or sun is hot

That’s odd… u claim you love him; and yet u went on asking for someone else’s advice..


Definitely , u asked another guy for an advice… which is totally odd.

Theyemmie:
So from the beginning the relationship was perfect,he was the best ,normally he's not my type of guy,but he was there for me when I was at a low point in my life,we started as friends, then feelings developed, and he was the absolute best,no guy has ever treated me like that
So he asked for my hand in marriage, normally I am a pessimist, I expect the worst,create different scenarios in my head and how I would react when it happens and stuffs
So when he talked about the marriage stuff , I started thinking about what would go wrong (because he's kind of boring ,not spontaneous and not wild a lil bit),so I started thinking if the marriage would be boring and if I won't get tired of him as he's not my usual type of guy

so I sent a message to someone asking for advice ,then mistakenly he saw it and it turned to yam pepper scatter scatter sha
I begged him ,he really cried that I have been stringing him along ,which is not so,I do love him a lot
I begged him sha and we continued the relationship, but the relationship has changed a lot,he's not even asking for my hand in marriage again
I'm the one pestering him
and when I threaten him with break up ,he begs me not to,that he's just taking his time with me
This issue happened 2yrs ago o,how long is it going to take


I just feel I should break up with him,but can't seem to let him go
Is it some kind of pay back?
And I am not getting any younger

You're simply a masochist, read up on its meaning and get corresponding therapy.

This is your problem because he's kind of boring,not spontaneous, and not wild a lil bit)

Theyemmie:
So from the beginning the relationship was perfect,he was the best ,normally he's not my type of guy,but he was there for me when I was at a low point in my life,we started as friends, then feelings developed, and he was the absolute best,no guy has ever treated me like that
So he asked for my hand in marriage, normally I am a pessimist, I expect the worst,create different scenarios in my head and how I would react when it happens and stuffs
So when he talked about the marriage stuff , I started thinking about what would go wrong (because he's kind of boring ,not spontaneous and not wild a lil bit),so I started thinking if the marriage would be boring and if I won't get tired of him as he's not my usual type of guy

so I sent a message to someone asking for advice ,then mistakenly he saw it and it turned to yam pepper scatter scatter sha
I begged him ,he really cried that I have been stringing him along ,which is not so,I do love him a lot
I begged him sha and we continued the relationship, but the relationship has changed a lot,he's not even asking for my hand in marriage again
I'm the one pestering him
and when I threaten him with break up ,he begs me not to,that he's just taking his time with me
This issue happened 2yrs ago o,how long is it going to take


I just feel I should break up with him,but can't seem to let him go
Is it some kind of pay back?
And I am not getting any younger

So men like this de nice bro nice one all this toto think say we no go see toto still Bleep if one hole close another hole must remember must its highlighted open.

MissOpe:
You're simply a masochist, read up on its meaning and get corresponding therapy.

U maybe very wrong to summarise a person's total characters out of few lines of writing

By the way, masochist is usually associated with men especially when it concerns sex.

The op is a lady and her actions are very common with women.

You your self, ur are simply a 100% busy body

Theyemmie:
Yes they were superficial things,and I thought about it and came to my senses,because it's not worth losing him over
And no one is perfect
But now I have messed everything up
Thanks so much for the advice
God bless

You had other guys banging you, and you clearly feel and think the dude wasn't your type.

No worry, menopause no far again. It's just right in front of you. You've suddenly realized that men are no longer coming as a result of old age knocking on you and you suddenly realized that you can't afford to lose him?

Do you think men are fools or what exactly? That guy will dump you and move on to a much more better and younger girl. You're not worth him at all. If I know that Guy personally I will talk to him to dump you immediately.

You're only claiming to Love that young man because he's the only one available for you right now. Others after using you have japa. You think you're Wise?

Aboguede:
U maybe very wrong to summarise a person's total characters out of few lines of writing

By the way, masochist is usually associated with men especially when it concerns sex.

The op is a lady and her actions are very common with women.

You your self, ur are simply a 100% busy body

I'm a busy body just as you're , that makes us both.

"He is not my type of guy."

To be foolish come get pride is worse than a curse. If facts are checked, your type of guy is below the mentality of this guy. It's you who aren't his type of girl.

Cheap is also expensive to some.

tunize:
Evening news paper
Life is so simple but people make it complicated.
‘Treat others how you love to be treated’

Theyemmie:
So from the beginning the relationship was perfect,he was the best ,normally he's not my type of guy,but he was there for me when I was at a low point in my life,we started as friends, then feelings developed, and he was the absolute best,no guy has ever treated me like that
So he asked for my hand in marriage, normally I am a pessimist, I expect the worst,create different scenarios in my head and how I would react when it happens and stuffs
So when he talked about the marriage stuff , I started thinking about what would go wrong (because he's kind of boring ,not spontaneous and not wild a lil bit),so I started thinking if the marriage would be boring and if I won't get tired of him as he's not my usual type of guy

so I sent a message to someone asking for advice ,then mistakenly he saw it and it turned to yam pepper scatter scatter sha
I begged him ,he really cried that I have been stringing him along ,which is not so,I do love him a lot
I begged him sha and we continued the relationship, but the relationship has changed a lot,he's not even asking for my hand in marriage again
I'm the one pestering him
and when I threaten him with break up ,he begs me not to,that he's just taking his time with me
This issue happened 2yrs ago o,how long is it going to take


I just feel I should break up with him,but can't seem to let him go
Is it some kind of pay back?
And I am not getting any younger

You already destroyed things with your hand, you already gave him mental scar and there's no way you can fix that...

Just let him go and move on

This evening newspaper feels too big to apologize to her boyfriend. Pray the simp hasn't taken the redpill already and moved on but I know them simps, they hardly do so you may still have a chance if you humble yourself and apologize now. The part that he cried when you threatened breakup gave him up as simp and I hate their guts with passion.

Theyemmie:
So from the beginning the relationship was perfect,he was the best ,normally he's not my type of guy,but he was there for me when I was at a low point in my life,we started as friends, then feelings developed, and he was the absolute best,no guy has ever treated me like that
So he asked for my hand in marriage, normally I am a pessimist, I expect the worst,create different scenarios in my head and how I would react when it happens and stuffs
So when he talked about the marriage stuff , I started thinking about what would go wrong (because he's kind of boring ,not spontaneous and not wild a lil bit),so I started thinking if the marriage would be boring and if I won't get tired of him as he's not my usual type of guy

so I sent a message to someone asking for advice ,then mistakenly he saw it and it turned to yam pepper scatter scatter sha
I begged him ,he really cried that I have been stringing him along ,which is not so,I do love him a lot
I begged him sha and we continued the relationship, but the relationship has changed a lot,he's not even asking for my hand in marriage again
I'm the one pestering him
and when I threaten him with break up ,he begs me not to,that he's just taking his time with me
This issue happened 2yrs ago o,how long is it going to take


I just feel I should break up with him,but can't seem to let him go
Is it some kind of pay back?
And I am not getting any younger

But u want someone wild and spontaneous..why are u now crying this one ddnt work out as u want



If we ask u what u mean by spontaneous now u wont be able to answer precisely.....U are so confused....the universe sent u what u need...u entered power bike looking for what you want, that u dont even know what it is...


Someone said...we will jam a lot of pple that will like us and even be crazy about us in this life...... but the pple that will want to marry us are not usually more than 2 or 3...u miss you chance, na luck remain..

saphiere:
* When he tries to rule over you. Seeing himself as a lord.
*When he starts acting like a child. (Sadly most men behave this way)
*When he wants your 100% faithfully when he is not married to you.
*When he starts getting jealous unnecessarily.
*When he starts thinking with his third leg instead of his brain.
*When most of the times he talks about sex and want sex than anything else.
*When he does not contribution positively to your life.
*When he starts policing you (checking your phones).
*When he wears one boxer for days.
*When he only bath and clean his house when he is expecting a guest.
*When he cannot take care of your financial needs.
*When he does not respect women.
*When he sees women as sex objects.
*When he has nothing to offer except his third leg (sadly all of them only have that to offer).

Learn to Shut up in an important thread like this.

Stop Fooling and embarrassing yourself online

MissOpe:
You're simply a masochist, read up on its meaning and get corresponding therapy.

How did masochist enter this matter...?? 😂

Nonexisting1:
This evening newspaper feels too big to apologize to her boyfriend. Pray the simp hasn't taken the redpill already and moved on but I know them simps, they hardly do so you may still have a chance if you humble yourself and apologize now. The part that he cried when you threatened breakup gave him up as simp and I hate their guts with passion.

SIMPs are irredeemable F00ls aswear. I just hope that young man has taken the Redpill tablets ASAP so as to dump this evening newspaper immediately.

The werey wanted to play smart by using and dumping the guy but along the lines na the guy outsmart her.

You treated him as an option… now, he’s treating you as an option… you’re mad. And truth be told, he has more options than you. Good luck

Theyemmie:
So from the beginning the relationship was perfect,he was the best ,normally he's not my type of guy,but he was there for me when I was at a low point in my life,we started as friends, then feelings developed, and he was the absolute best,no guy has ever treated me like that
So he asked for my hand in marriage, normally I am a pessimist, I expect the worst,create different scenarios in my head and how I would react when it happens and stuffs
So when he talked about the marriage stuff , I started thinking about what would go wrong (because he's kind of boring ,not spontaneous and not wild a lil bit),so I started thinking if the marriage would be boring and if I won't get tired of him as he's not my usual type of guy

so I sent a message to someone asking for advice ,then mistakenly he saw it and it turned to yam pepper scatter scatter sha
I begged him ,he really cried that I have been stringing him along ,which is not so,I do love him a lot
I begged him sha and we continued the relationship, but the relationship has changed a lot,he's not even asking for my hand in marriage again
I'm the one pestering him
and when I threaten him with break up ,he begs me not to,that he's just taking his time with me
This issue happened 2yrs ago o,how long is it going to take


I just feel I should break up with him,but can't seem to let him go
Is it some kind of pay back?
And I am not getting any younger

My dear you need serious prayer, because you sound like a confused woman. You deserve everything that guy is doing to you.


Go for deliverance asap.

StrongAlphMale:
SIMPs are irredeemable F00ls aswear. I just hope that young man has taken the Redpill tablets ASAP so as to dump this evening newspaper immediately.

The werey wanted to play smart by using and dumping the guy but along the lines na the guy outsmart her.

You are right. Now he is not her type but she has been eating his money all along. This one he is asking for more time to marry her and she is now saying he is not her type, maybe nigga done broke or done smart up and blocked his pocket against her reason why she is crying now. He is the best boyfriend because she has the simp in her armpit and controls him, that's all. Trust this gender at your own risk.

MissOpe:
I'm a busy body just as you're , that makes us both.

Hahaha, yes, I agree.

But being a man and a busy body can not be compared to being an African lady and also a busy body because in my case, I am boosy and strict with natural intelligence and good sense of humour

But a lady with busy body is argumentative in nature and that is little risky

Anyways, I like ur girl if she is also mannared

Ndewo, ronke

Theyemmie:
So from the beginning the relationship was perfect,he was the best ,normally he's not my type of guy,but he was there for me when I was at a low point in my life,we started as friends, then feelings developed, and he was the absolute best,no guy has ever treated me like that
So he asked for my hand in marriage, normally I am a pessimist, I expect the worst,create different scenarios in my head and how I would react when it happens and stuffs
So when he talked about the marriage stuff , I started thinking about what would go wrong (because he's kind of boring ,not spontaneous and not wild a lil bit),so I started thinking if the marriage would be boring and if I won't get tired of him as he's not my usual type of guy

so I sent a message to someone asking for advice ,then mistakenly he saw it and it turned to yam pepper scatter scatter sha
I begged him ,he really cried that I have been stringing him along ,which is not so,I do love him a lot
I begged him sha and we continued the relationship, but the relationship has changed a lot,he's not even asking for my hand in marriage again
I'm the one pestering him
and when I threaten him with break up ,he begs me not to,that he's just taking his time with me
This issue happened 2yrs ago o,how long is it going to take


I just feel I should break up with him,but can't seem to let him go
Is it some kind of pay back?
And I am not getting any younger

Ladies and confusion be like 5&6.

He's not your type. After getting things spoiled by yourself, you're now expecting him to do what exactly?

Women make this mistake alot.

When a guy genuinely likes you, up to the stage he says he wants to marry you, if he's a good guy and you like him a bit, go for it! Coz anything that changes his mind as a result of your "undecidedness" or you stalling like this, thats the end. He will forever have doubts and cold feet about you.

I can say this coz I've been there, and the relationship later died.

Ladies, don't dull o. The older men get, the more options they have, time is our ally in this regard. I cant say the same for ladies. No time. Theres no perfect person anywhere.

Some women are really confused with their life. How can you be confused band still have the audacity to confuse us here. He's a good man at the same time not your kind of man. If he's not your kind of man, why will you go into a relationship with someone that is not your kind of man in the first place? Why will you have to asked someone for advice when you know he's not your kind of man? You would have simply tell him I'm sorry it would work.
I'm average in height and want to marry a woman who's a little taller than me or atleast we're the same height as such I can't do anything with anyone I am taller than her. Some people will create problem for theirselves and start looking for advice. Anything I don't want I can't accept it no matter the condition I found myself because I don't want to displeased myself and please someone else.

emmanuel596:
When he ghosted you that's when you remembered he wasn't you kind of guy....go to hell with your sad story

Theyemmie:

Bitter truth.

When she saw that men are no longer coming for her and that the guy has ghosted her she remembered "he wasn't her type".

She wanted to play smart by using and dumping the guy but reverse was the case here. Werey wanted to eat her cake and have it. ENP everywhere!

Aboguede:
Hahaha, yes, I agree.

But being a man and a busy body can not be compared to being an African lady and also a busy body because in my case, I am boosy and strict with natural intelligence and good sense of humour

But a lady with busy body is argumentative in nature and that is little risky

Anyways, I like ur girl if she is also mannared

Ndewo, ronke

Eat your words bro...

Here you are swimming in an ocean of endless arguments.....and yet you expect cockroaches like you to believe you're bossy and strict..

Strict my latrine.

advanceDNA:
How did masochist enter this matter...?? 😂

I didn't say she's a sexual masochist but an emotional one, a masochist is not only sex related..

Study wide bri

But you just said he’s not your type of guy. Why do you want him to propose to you again?

You’re not a pessimist, you’re a confused soul. There’s a difference. Pessimists are not idi0ts like what you’ve displayed here.

Theyemmie:
So from the beginning the relationship was perfect,he was the best ,normally he's not my type of guy,but he was there for me when I was at a low point in my life,we started as friends, then feelings developed, and he was the absolute best,no guy has ever treated me like that
So he asked for my hand in marriage, normally I am a pessimist, I expect the worst,create different scenarios in my head and how I would react when it happens and stuffs
So when he talked about the marriage stuff , I started thinking about what would go wrong (because he's kind of boring ,not spontaneous and not wild a lil bit),so I started thinking if the marriage would be boring and if I won't get tired of him as he's not my usual type of guy

so I sent a message to someone asking for advice ,then mistakenly he saw it and it turned to yam pepper scatter scatter sha
I begged him ,he really cried that I have been stringing him along ,which is not so,I do love him a lot
I begged him sha and we continued the relationship, but the relationship has changed a lot,he's not even asking for my hand in marriage again
I'm the one pestering him
and when I threaten him with break up ,he begs me not to,that he's just taking his time with me
This issue happened 2yrs ago o,how long is it going to take


I just feel I should break up with him,but can't seem to let him go
Is it some kind of pay back?
And I am not getting any younger

Hahaha

I can swear with all my girls friends that u are a short girl in other words short demon

Anyways, if u are by my side, u go dey colet steady because I know say u go like fight

MissOpe:
Eat your words bro...

Here you are swimming in an ocean of endless arguments.....and yet you expect cockroaches like you to believe you're bossy and strict..

Strict my latrine.