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kingimmade:
@Princedapace kindly reply my PM

Confusedgirlie:
Before I left Canada for Nigeria in 2020, I had heard severally that it was very lonely there for Nigerian immigrants. I didn't quite understand what people meant exactly when they said this. However, over time I now have a very good understanding of this particular challenge with migration. Here are some of the things I've learnt on the way. But first, a little background about me.

I'm an introvert and I like my introversion. It gives me a lot of time to think and to be in my own space which I enjoy a lot. I read, write and love to watch documentaries. Those are the three most important things to me in life. When I lived in Nigeria, I lived a mostly secluded life that didn't have a lot of people in it. Regardless, it wasn't boring to me. I went out when I wanted to and took my time for my own activities.

Since being in Canada, my observations have been that it is a lot lonelier here. The reasons are very obvious: there are not a lot of people around me from a culture I'm familiar with (Nigeria), so it's definitely a lot more difficult to interact with others. That's one key point. Another is that I don't really have to go out to purchase things (even groceries), compared to when I was in Nigeria. I can simply order everything I need while sitting in the comfort of my home. Hence, the temptation is to go this way. In addition, I don't have family around, so I'm mostly by myself. And finally, the few friends I have are often busy, so there's hardly time to get together.

That's about it. I think these are some of the challenges Nigerian immigrants face. But the real question is, do I feel lonely?

The honest answer to that is a No. I find that my life is exactly the same way I lived it in Nigeria, only a lot more convenient and comfortable. I can't trade this for anything. In addition, as an introvert who likes to be by herself anyways, it's just a lot more enjoyable.

Nevertheless, there are steps I'm planning to take to change a few things. I am now taking more opportunities to actually go out and buy things even if I don't have to, e.g groceries, clothes, etc. Secondly, I say hello first to strangers and neighbours and get to ask them a few questions. This I wouldn't have done on the first place. Finally, I downloaded a social media application called clubhouse and have been making new friends in my area using this. As a cautious person, I'm taking baby steps here and not jumping straight into friendships I may not like.

Overall, what do I think of being in Canada as an introvert? I enjoy it. My life and choices are a lot better and I find that I have the time to do much more than I was doing back in Nigeria, not hampered by lack of power or resources.

My advice to others is to gauge their expectations carefully as they come to Canada with or without family. It can be lonely here, but that's not because Canada itself is lonely. It's just because you need to dig deep and find yourself in a new country where family is absent and culture is unfamiliar.

LastProphet:
You don't know what she's talking about, just a classic black way of summarizing everything into what you understand. She doesn't care about your experience and it's not the same. Is your background the same? Did you attend the same kind of schools growing up? Do you have equal exposure? I play in and attend orchestras does that mean every Nigerian knows what that means? You that even lived abroad before should have known better

SURElee:
After your write-up.
People in the same Canada as you have been on this thread asking which Province you are in, yet you are nowhere to reply, yet you say you are lonely?

Even an introvert needs some 30mins to chat and hang out with people before they withdraw into their cherished space of solitude.

Do well to reply so you have well-meaning Nairalanders who are Nigerians to associate with in Canada.

scrolldown88:
If you're life was so enjoyable and perfect, why then do you speak of implementing those measures to change it. Your entire post is a bit contradictory.

I find that most introverts are not being entirely honest with their introversion and desire to socialize. For the most part, a lot know that there's a void of social interaction that they yearn to be filled. But they talk as if they're living in paradise, yet talk within the same epistle, talk of implementing measures to switch up their supposedly perfect life. It's contradictory.
It's also an introvert delimma. I say this cuz I'm one

Confusedgirlie:
Before I left Canada for Nigeria in 2020, I had heard severally that it was very lonely there for Nigerian immigrants. I didn't quite understand what people meant exactly when they said this. However, over time I now have a very good understanding of this particular challenge with migration. Here are some of the things I've learnt on the way. But first, a little background about me.

I'm an introvert and I like my introversion. It gives me a lot of time to think and to be in my own space which I enjoy a lot. I read, write and love to watch documentaries. Those are the three most important things to me in life. When I lived in Nigeria, I lived a mostly secluded life that didn't have a lot of people in it. Regardless, it wasn't boring to me. I went out when I wanted to and took my time for my own activities.

Since being in Canada, my observations have been that it is a lot lonelier here. The reasons are very obvious: there are not a lot of people around me from a culture I'm familiar with (Nigeria), so it's definitely a lot more difficult to interact with others. That's one key point. Another is that I don't really have to go out to purchase things (even groceries), compared to when I was in Nigeria. I can simply order everything I need while sitting in the comfort of my home. Hence, the temptation is to go this way. In addition, I don't have family around, so I'm mostly by myself. And finally, the few friends I have are often busy, so there's hardly time to get together.

That's about it. I think these are some of the challenges Nigerian immigrants face. But the real question is, do I feel lonely?

The honest answer to that is a No. I find that my life is exactly the same way I lived it in Nigeria, only a lot more convenient and comfortable. I can't trade this for anything. In addition, as an introvert who likes to be by herself anyways, it's just a lot more enjoyable.

Nevertheless, there are steps I'm planning to take to change a few things. I am now taking more opportunities to actually go out and buy things even if I don't have to, e.g groceries, clothes, etc. Secondly, I say hello first to strangers and neighbours and get to ask them a few questions. This I wouldn't have done on the first place. Finally, I downloaded a social media application called clubhouse and have been making new friends in my area using this. As a cautious person, I'm taking baby steps here and not jumping straight into friendships I may not like.

Overall, what do I think of being in Canada as an introvert? I enjoy it. My life and choices are a lot better and I find that I have the time to do much more than I was doing back in Nigeria, not hampered by lack of power or resources.

My advice to others is to gauge their expectations carefully as they come to Canada with or without family. It can be lonely here, but that's not because Canada itself is lonely. It's just because you need to dig deep and find yourself in a new country where family is absent and culture is unfamiliar.

Cutehector:
How do you deal with conji.

StrongAlphMale:
This one oloshos and runz girls have been quoting me on nairaland lately. It's obvious you mistake me for one of your customers

SmartPolician:
Loneliness or no loneliness, I am coming to Toronto!

scrolldown88:
If you're life was so enjoyable and perfect, why then do you speak of implementing those measures to change it. Your entire post is a bit contradictory.

I find that most introverts are not being entirely honest with their introversion and desire to socialize. For the most part, a lot know that there's a void of social interaction that they yearn to be filled. But they talk as if they're living in paradise, yet talk within the same epistle, talk of implementing measures to switch up their supposedly perfect life. It's contradictory.
It's also an introvert delimma. I say this cuz I'm one

newcommer:
You write well

Confusedgirlie:
Before I left Canada for Nigeria in 2020, I had heard severally that it was very lonely there for Nigerian immigrants. I didn't quite understand what people meant exactly when they said this. However, over time I now have a very good understanding of this particular challenge with migration. Here are some of the things I've learnt on the way. But first, a little background about me.

I'm an introvert and I like my introversion. It gives me a lot of time to think and to be in my own space which I enjoy a lot. I read, write and love to watch documentaries. Those are the three most important things to me in life. When I lived in Nigeria, I lived a mostly secluded life that didn't have a lot of people in it. Regardless, it wasn't boring to me. I went out when I wanted to and took my time for my own activities.

Since being in Canada, my observations have been that it is a lot lonelier here. The reasons are very obvious: there are not a lot of people around me from a culture I'm familiar with (Nigeria), so it's definitely a lot more difficult to interact with others. That's one key point. Another is that I don't really have to go out to purchase things (even groceries), compared to when I was in Nigeria. I can simply order everything I need while sitting in the comfort of my home. Hence, the temptation is to go this way. In addition, I don't have family around, so I'm mostly by myself. And finally, the few friends I have are often busy, so there's hardly time to get together.

That's about it. I think these are some of the challenges Nigerian immigrants face. But the real question is, do I feel lonely?

The honest answer to that is a No. I find that my life is exactly the same way I lived it in Nigeria, only a lot more convenient and comfortable. I can't trade this for anything. In addition, as an introvert who likes to be by herself anyways, it's just a lot more enjoyable.

Nevertheless, there are steps I'm planning to take to change a few things. I am now taking more opportunities to actually go out and buy things even if I don't have to, e.g groceries, clothes, etc. Secondly, I say hello first to strangers and neighbours and get to ask them a few questions. This I wouldn't have done on the first place. Finally, I downloaded a social media application called clubhouse and have been making new friends in my area using this. As a cautious person, I'm taking baby steps here and not jumping straight into friendships I may not like.

Overall, what do I think of being in Canada as an introvert? I enjoy it. My life and choices are a lot better and I find that I have the time to do much more than I was doing back in Nigeria, not hampered by lack of power or resources.

My advice to others is to gauge their expectations carefully as they come to Canada with or without family. It can be lonely here, but that's not because Canada itself is lonely. It's just because you need to dig deep and find yourself in a new country where family is absent and culture is unfamiliar.

Karleb:
I've often said it, times without number.

No matter how perfect they say their lives are, they are always striving to better it because they lacking in the aspect of socializing.

I admire those who address this and are doing their best about it. But, some so called senior introverts are of the notion that introverts are perfect the way they are, which is wrong and dangerous.

A lot of introverts need help in real life. It's sad they are not being encouraged to go for this help because their senior colleagues believe they are perfect. Nonsense!

One way to help yourself as an introvert is to throw away the "introvert tag", and stop trying to fit in into the pseudo perfect introvert life.

Just do you.

MissTemi1:
U wish. I am happily married. I only quoted u because ur comment is from a bitter soul

JASONjnr:
She's lying about everything, if you carefully read through the lines....

You can't be an introvert and love it, yet wants to go out to buy food stuff when she can literally order them and have it deliver to her door without her seeing the delivery guy face to face.

Why is she trying to make the changes?

She's dying of loneliness and she doesn't have the guts to appeal for someone to come up to keep her company....

Eagba:
A true introvert( not those that are shy or don't know how to socialize, then holed up and start claiming introvert, while they wish to be the popular kid) is never lonely.
As a matter of fact, it's the extroverts that are usually lonely and they can't bear to be alone, so they always looking for the next high to run far from being lonely. While deep inside, they're never ok.

Personally, I hate it when people try to keep me company thinking I'm lonely because I'm alone( in my head I usually tell them to Bleep off n stop invading my privacy).
If the op is looking to make adjustments in her lifestyle, is very normal and you and your likes calling her a lair are actually the confused lots. If I'm indoor for a very long time, my system will seek going out, adjusting, and enjoy a new experience which are perfectly normal and there's nothing wrong with me.
You can even see how she avoided running amok when some folks on here were asking her for her location and contact.

Confusedgirlie:
Before I left Canada for Nigeria in 2020, I had heard severally that it was very lonely there for Nigerian immigrants. I didn't quite understand what people meant exactly when they said this. However, over time I now have a very good understanding of this particular challenge with migration. Here are some of the things I've learnt on the way. But first, a little background about me.

I'm an introvert and I like my introversion. It gives me a lot of time to think and to be in my own space which I enjoy a lot. I read, write and love to watch documentaries. Those are the three most important things to me in life. When I lived in Nigeria, I lived a mostly secluded life that didn't have a lot of people in it. Regardless, it wasn't boring to me. I went out when I wanted to and took my time for my own activities.

Since being in Canada, my observations have been that it is a lot lonelier here. The reasons are very obvious: there are not a lot of people around me from a culture I'm familiar with (Nigeria), so it's definitely a lot more difficult to interact with others. That's one key point. Another is that I don't really have to go out to purchase things (even groceries), compared to when I was in Nigeria. I can simply order everything I need while sitting in the comfort of my home. Hence, the temptation is to go this way. In addition, I don't have family around, so I'm mostly by myself. And finally, the few friends I have are often busy, so there's hardly time to get together.

That's about it. I think these are some of the challenges Nigerian immigrants face. But the real question is, do I feel lonely?

The honest answer to that is a No. I find that my life is exactly the same way I lived it in Nigeria, only a lot more convenient and comfortable. I can't trade this for anything. In addition, as an introvert who likes to be by herself anyways, it's just a lot more enjoyable.

Nevertheless, there are steps I'm planning to take to change a few things. I am now taking more opportunities to actually go out and buy things even if I don't have to, e.g groceries, clothes, etc. Secondly, I say hello first to strangers and neighbours and get to ask them a few questions. This I wouldn't have done on the first place. Finally, I downloaded a social media application called clubhouse and have been making new friends in my area using this. As a cautious person, I'm taking baby steps here and not jumping straight into friendships I may not like.

Overall, what do I think of being in Canada as an introvert? I enjoy it. My life and choices are a lot better and I find that I have the time to do much more than I was doing back in Nigeria, not hampered by lack of power or resources.

My advice to others is to gauge their expectations carefully as they come to Canada with or without family. It can be lonely here, but that's not because Canada itself is lonely. It's just because you need to dig deep and find yourself in a new country where family is absent and culture is unfamiliar.

StrongAlphMale:
From your comment, it's so obvious you're not happy with your marriage else you wouldn't have come here to rant and wail. Very obvious you have other guys banging your pussy on a steady. I really Pity the SIMP dude that married you. Such a pity

JASONjnr:
There's nothing like, classic black way of summarising anything....


Experience and exposure doesn't make people to think alike...

But everyone can relate to people's experiences....

I tell you, abroad way of life is totally different from naija.

An introvert definition of a naija person is different from when a white person tells you he/she is an introvert.

So I tell you I can relate to her experience and she's lying.... You can get deceived if you want.... But stay on that lane....

highchief1:
back then in Nigeria I Dey block road cos traffic just to collect babe number.It was street toasting.Here it’s impossible u can’t even talk to ur Neighbour even though two of u like each other.Everything is on dating app o.u will look very awkward to be talking to anybody one on one.Abroad sweet.U stay in ur house,meet her online?uber her down,una go tidy u Uber her back.

deyplay:
maybe na another country I dey o. Wey babes yapa inside TTC, bustops, malls etc Different countries ass. I tire self. Na me never want unleash my dragon yet. I think say oyinbo no get yansh before. If u see yansh , round ass o that I see every day. Which province u dey self? If u get game as a guy, u go katapult die. But if you are a lizard in Naija. U can't become an alligator here o.

*Update*:just finished wooing one fine Ukrainian student I met inside the TTC bus. Your mindset determines your results. If u believe relationship is hard here, so be it for you

Princedapace:
Congrats.

I love naija and within africa abeg. I love to eat my cultural foods without having to do a lot work abeg. I am not againt anyone traveling. I am just talking about my self.
Nigeria has wack govt and crazy masses, I know. Life is short. I can only visit other countries on vacation, I still love to see my family, my mom, my siblings, enjoy the cultural food.
I have solar installed, I have power 24/7. I drive my small car fully AC, above all, ladies are so affordable here. U can get a stable side chick for as low as 20k per month and kack as u like. Life is too short to waste it.

Also, I earn online which means I can kinda cope with the naira inflation rate since I dont get paid in naira . I know naija is insecure, so, I mind how I move.
I am one hater of Nigeria o. Don't get me wrong. Even if I would relocate, it would be within a more peaceful african country. I just love being around people who look like me more. I no get energy for all that cordination in white man's land.
Like I said, this is my own opinion. I work hard to keep improving my dollar income online and enjoy the umu asa as much as I can.
Babes cheap for here abeg. Nothing dey this life aside p*ssy and money and hopefully, live healthy if possible.
I wish u all the best nne!

They also said Nigeria fit fight war. Oh, well, people in Ukraine never believed they could get into war last year. Well, it happened.
The world is not predicable and death can come at anywhere. War may break out even in the least expected country.

Abeg, if ur income is in naira and it is low, japa if u can o

We just hope for the best as we live the NOW/

highchief1:
lol why do u think most Nigerians abroad don’t want to return again even if they are not making it.Women here are very easy.No1 no woman here will give u their number if they are not ready to lash.No2 they are matured and don’t talk plenty talk once they enter ur house.No3 they eat from their house because they know they may not be able to eat Nigerian food or something else u will offer them.Nigerian girls r too hungry once they know they are having a date tomorrow from today they won’t eat again.A glass of white or red wine here u don tidy.all this pls stop,why are u doing this?is this why u invited me to ur place,it’s our first meeting this is not right.if u touch me again I’ll pick my bag and go.I never hear all those nonsense since I come here.But mind u,the Uber is expensive o.we Dey use 30k to and fro to Uber girl.if her place far u fit pay 50k sef.Nigeria remains cheaper though.cos with 5k then I Dey tidy well.

deyplay:
baba, why u dey pay her uber na? Na escort? No be friend?

Nwachi22:
Story of my life. I’m in Guelph, Ontario.
I’ve never been this lonely.
I miss my friends and family

Bia Nne no too reason am.
I'm available ooo

deyplay:
maybe na another country I dey o. Wey babes yapa inside TTC, bustops, malls etc Different countries ass. I tire self. Na me never want unleash my dragon yet. I think say oyinbo no get yansh before. If u see yansh , round ass o that I see every day. Which province u dey self? If u get game as a guy, u go katapult die. But if you are a lizard in Naija. U can't become an alligator here o.

*Update*:just finished wooing one fine Ukrainian student I met inside the TTC bus. Your mindset determines your results. If u believe relationship is hard here, so be it for you

Confusedgirlie:
Before I left Canada for Nigeria in 2020, I had heard severally that it was very lonely there for Nigerian immigrants. I didn't quite understand what people meant exactly when they said this. However, over time I now have a very good understanding of this particular challenge with migration. Here are some of the things I've learnt on the way. But first, a little background about me.

I'm an introvert and I like my introversion. It gives me a lot of time to think and to be in my own space which I enjoy a lot. I read, write and love to watch documentaries. Those are the three most important things to me in life. When I lived in Nigeria, I lived a mostly secluded life that didn't have a lot of people in it. Regardless, it wasn't boring to me. I went out when I wanted to and took my time for my own activities.

Since being in Canada, my observations have been that it is a lot lonelier here. The reasons are very obvious: there are not a lot of people around me from a culture I'm familiar with (Nigeria), so it's definitely a lot more difficult to interact with others. That's one key point. Another is that I don't really have to go out to purchase things (even groceries), compared to when I was in Nigeria. I can simply order everything I need while sitting in the comfort of my home. Hence, the temptation is to go this way. In addition, I don't have family around, so I'm mostly by myself. And finally, the few friends I have are often busy, so there's hardly time to get together.

That's about it. I think these are some of the challenges Nigerian immigrants face. But the real question is, do I feel lonely?

The honest answer to that is a No. I find that my life is exactly the same way I lived it in Nigeria, only a lot more convenient and comfortable. I can't trade this for anything. In addition, as an introvert who likes to be by herself anyways, it's just a lot more enjoyable.

Nevertheless, there are steps I'm planning to take to change a few things. I am now taking more opportunities to actually go out and buy things even if I don't have to, e.g groceries, clothes, etc. Secondly, I say hello first to strangers and neighbours and get to ask them a few questions. This I wouldn't have done on the first place. Finally, I downloaded a social media application called clubhouse and have been making new friends in my area using this. As a cautious person, I'm taking baby steps here and not jumping straight into friendships I may not like.

Overall, what do I think of being in Canada as an introvert? I enjoy it. My life and choices are a lot better and I find that I have the time to do much more than I was doing back in Nigeria, not hampered by lack of power or resources.

My advice to others is to gauge their expectations carefully as they come to Canada with or without family. It can be lonely here, but that's not because Canada itself is lonely. It's just because you need to dig deep and find yourself in a new country where family is absent and culture is unfamiliar.