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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by Isabi4lov: 12:54pm On Mar 03, 2023
Men with problem sef , this marriage of a thing sef na headache on its own undecided undecided

Women dey too see shege for relationship.
Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by tiswell(m): 12:55pm On Mar 03, 2023
SUPERPACK:
It has to do with inheritance rights in igboland. Only a male is considered when it comes to inheritance, it is also important for the family name to continue in Igbo culture and only a man can do this.

By right it is not compulsory to have a male child and only your husband can decide if he needs one badly and cannot forgo.

I know so many Igbo couple living happily without a male child and are now old.

I am Igbo too and place no importance on male child, all children are important and non is more important than the other.
afonja claiming igbo sad


just getat!

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by EmmanuelScott1(m): 12:57pm On Mar 03, 2023
A ga amuta nwoke, a ga amuta nwoke eji eme gini

Imakwa 😂

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by Omoawoke: 12:58pm On Mar 03, 2023
Vincenzomum:
I am married to a Igbo man. We are based in Italy. We have 4 children 3 together. I have 3 girls for him. I tested positive for baby number 5 and we were discussing about the gender, my husband said something that makes me feel so bad.

He wants a son so bad. He said in Igbo tribe, a man is nothing without a son. I asked him what if we had another baby girl he said he will have no choice but to go to Nigeria and marry another woman who will bear sons for him so he can be a real man.

I asked him if he was serious then he changed his words saying he was joking, he doesn't mind the sex of our baby as long as the baby is healthy that is what matter.

I have been restless since he has mentioned about marrying a second wife even though he said it was a joke but I know that he wasn't joking, he was serious.

I want to know from igbo people, is it true that a man is nothing without a son and also what if the wife only bore female children is it compulsory for the man to marry a second one in Igbo tribe to bear him sons?

That's the truth, forget all this western culture. Genders have their different roles. Give your husband a man!

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by takeit123: 1:04pm On Mar 03, 2023
I'm suprised no one commented that, the male gender determines the sex of the child. The man should accept the fact that he's responsible for making male kids and he should not blame the innocent wife!

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by pandax: 1:08pm On Mar 03, 2023
Vincenzomum:
I am married to a Igbo man. We are based in Italy. We have 4 children 3 together. I have 3 girls for him. I tested positive for baby number 5 and we were discussing about the gender, my husband said something that makes me feel so bad.

He wants a son so bad. He said in Igbo tribe, a man is nothing without a son. I asked him what if we had another baby girl he said he will have no choice but to go to Nigeria and marry another woman who will bear sons for him so he can be a real man.

I asked him if he was serious then he changed his words saying he was joking, he doesn't mind the sex of our baby as long as the baby is healthy that is what matter.

I have been restless since he has mentioned about marrying a second wife even though he said it was a joke but I know that he wasn't joking, he was serious.

I want to know from igbo people, is it true that a man is nothing without a son and also what if the wife only bore female children is it compulsory for the man to marry a second one in Igbo tribe to bear him sons?

If this his 4th or the 5th child of yours isn't male; Please go and get Ovulation Test kit and monitor your peak ovulation day so you can give him a male child (if you do not know how to track it, just drop your ovulation cycle here and we can guide you accordingly).

The bible says "...from the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh"; your husband is damn serious about marrying that second wife and he mistakenly informed you. Be wise

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by takeit123: 1:10pm On Mar 03, 2023
I wonder what people learn in school. Will the woman determine the sex of the child?

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by bikefab(m): 1:11pm On Mar 03, 2023
Igbos bear the name "Obuechina" for a a reason. It literally translates to 'may the compound never close'. It is the male child that continues with the family lineages long after the parents are gone and the females all married and in their husband's homes. It has been an age long tradition. The male child is the symbol of the family strenght and continuity.

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by Nkemsplendid: 1:13pm On Mar 03, 2023
I am igbo and while his assertion is historically true, it is also evolving. Today, wealth is not domiciled only in ancestral lands as was the case many years ago. People have daughters and leave it at that, even for economic reasons. Men have also studied their fathers and how polygamy mostly tore their legacies apart and are staying mostly away from it.

Which uncle can lay claims to anything when there is a will? What is your mischievous uncle's concern with your stock portfolio or crypto wallets? Daughter now come home and pay cash for land, build their homes and everyone queues up sef for souvenirs and freebies. Yabbing those who have no sons happens only among poor folk who count their only claims to wealth in palm trees!

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by 2starboy25: 1:14pm On Mar 03, 2023
No man in this world will come out and tell u that a male child isn't important to him, and it is nt a must to hav a male child in igbo land, when u dont hav a male child in igboland, whoever u quarel with will definitely remind u that u hav no male child " therefore" respect urself in dis gathering, as u see me so i only need 5 children, 3male and 2female yeah

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by SUPERPACK: 1:21pm On Mar 03, 2023
tiswell:
afonja claiming igbo sad


just getat!
Afo nsi. I am from Enugu and live there all my life. Stop the name calling
Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by 07kjb: 1:21pm On Mar 03, 2023
If my first child isn't a son I won't be happy talk more of first three
Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by Segzy19: 1:34pm On Mar 03, 2023
Lady, you better have a plan B to secure the future of daughters. That man does see any value in your girls and won't place any premium on them...

Be guided
Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by Efewestern: 1:36pm On Mar 03, 2023
Chivadoski:
Tell me the tribe that male child is not important ?
I pray God give you a male child to avoid family crises

Well for igbo people it is too important or else a wicked uncle might wanna inherit their properties and wealth when they passes away, no one wants to suffer and see another eat it all

Many culture in Nigeria don't put too much value on male kids. I know for a fact that almost all tribes in Southern Nigeria with the exception of few place no value on male kids.

All kids were treated equally by our forebears. Look at the local law of inheritance in several ethnic group to get the full picture.

In my own culture. Kids regardless of their gender must inherit their parents/grand parents properties.
Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by PDJT: 1:39pm On Mar 03, 2023
-I was once in your husband's shoe, my first wife insisted she wasn't having any more kids, so I accepted it in good faith and married my second wife for peace to reign. It's a free world.

-Yes, a male child is very important in our culture. Other cultures can speak for themselves.

-I suppose you haven't seen Igbo businesses with names like "Okonkwo and sons", "Agu and sons"?

-May God give you sons. Isee!

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by 07kjb: 1:40pm On Mar 03, 2023
Efewestern:


Many culture in Nigeria don't put too much value on male kids. I know for a fact that almost all tribes in Southern Nigeria with the exception of few place no value on male kids.

All kids all were treated equally by our forebears. Look at the local law of inheritance in several ethnic group to get the full picture.

In my own culture. Kids regardless of their gender must inherit their parents/grand parents and properties.


Inheritance isn't the only problem

Who continues the LINAGE?

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by tiswell(m): 1:41pm On Mar 03, 2023
SUPERPACK:
Afo nsi. I am from Enugu and live there all my life. Stop the name calling
enugu kii you there!


Adebowale

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by Kobicove(m): 1:43pm On Mar 03, 2023
It is quite important in Igbo culture

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by okine4real: 1:44pm On Mar 03, 2023
ogwumgbe:


If he's a traditionalist, he might make good his threats but if he's a modern guy, male child means nothing. In igbo culture, a daughter might decide to carry on the family name buy not marrying and give birth to a child illegitimately, so not having a male child is not an excuse for a second wife

Make you dey talk watin you self know fit do? You dey talk like say when your Daughter marry, she no go bear her husband name. Stop giving wrong advice. Even you, am sure if you are married, you already have Male children, so you just talking as if Male children means nothing meanwhile you have yours. Do you know what it means for you to make money, make good money and because you don't have Male children all your property in your village goes to your brothers or Uncles? Imagine you get properties worth 300M and above, and you don't have a Male child, do you know what will happen to those properties? Your brothers and Uncles go collect am, it becomes there own automatically, it's mostly so because even if you have female children, your female children would most likely marry into another State, eg you from Imo State and your Daughters marry from Lagos, Ogun Calabar, your Daughters can't be coming to Imo State anymore, so your brothers and your Uncle's go just dey happy, your Wife self go hear am for there hand.

If you don't have a male, whom would continue the Family name?

If my wife no get Male child as at now when I done hang boot, she go dey sweat for Yash. She go dey sweat for real..... How I go hustle Finish another person go come chop my hustle... And don't even bring that X and Y chromosome stuff, if a woman smart, she suppose no the right time to meet her husband so the chances of getting a Male child would be 80 percent. Meeting your man when you are in your OVULATION.

When you make money if like make you allow civilization take over you, when you become old, you will regret. I know many of them. Nothing like child na child, even Son when dey Mad dey born Son when dey normal and the linage continues. A male Son is very important OP.

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by okine4real: 1:50pm On Mar 03, 2023
Segzy19:
Lady, you better have a plan B to secure the future of daughters. That man does see any value in your girls and won't place any premium on them...

Be guided

Very wrong. I have three Daughters and a Son. Every one of them dey go better school, infact my girls dey more intelligent than my boy, but a Son is important. The worst case scenario if the boy no serious, na only village property him go collect, while I give properties in the city to the girls. All child get there importance, the importance of the male is for him to continue my linage name and take possession of family properties in the village... Both girls and male can't take possession of properties in the city, but for the village, na only the Male fit do am.

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by meeky247: 1:50pm On Mar 03, 2023
A male child is very very important in igbo culture and tradition. Give him one if you can, pray very well that u give him a male child that is only when you become part of the extended family.
Your husband told u the bitter truth and if you cant let him marry another wife in order for him to continue the lineage of his father. It's in Igbo tradition to marry as many wifes as he can care for. Let the light dont quench with him especially if he is the first son of the family. Dont be wicked to allow that man end his lineage because of marriage.
In igbo culture women are important but can not continue the lineage of there father.

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by Steep: 1:50pm On Mar 03, 2023
Both male and female children are equally important.
One should not prefer his female child over the male child or a male over the female child else he or she will destroy his or her family.
Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by IkeIgboNile(m): 1:53pm On Mar 03, 2023
Igbo or not, most men won't be happy without a son no matter how they try to claim modern.
Apart from lineage, in most places you can't take a title without a son because you don't have a successor. No matter how archaic it sounds the birth of a son will bring joy and satisfaction to your husband and his family back home because he'll have a successor.

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by Efewestern: 1:53pm On Mar 03, 2023
07kjb:



Inheritance isn't the only problem

Who continues the LINAGE?

Do people care about lineage or who inherits what's left on ground?

The reason most Igbo people want a male kid is so their offspring takes over from them but that is not so with other Southern tribes. If I give birth to 10 females and 0 male, I won't even be perturbed because I know they will inherit everything I labour for.
Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by BanyXchi: 1:53pm On Mar 03, 2023
Vyzz:
wink



A male child is very important...


In every tribe not just in Africa


But one of my uncle had four girls only and nothing dey happen. They are all grown up now


Another had four boys too only
not really in yoruba culture.

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by PattersonHR(m): 1:54pm On Mar 03, 2023
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Chivadoski:
Tell me the tribe that male child is not important ?
I pray God give you a male child to avoid family crises

Well for igbo people it is too important or else a wicked uncle might wanna inherit their properties and wealth when they passes away, no one wants to suffer and see another eat it all
Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by PattersonHR(m): 1:55pm On Mar 03, 2023
I totally agree [code][/code]
Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by Segzy19: 1:56pm On Mar 03, 2023
What if he isn't destined to have a son?
A man determines the sex of a child, not the woman.... If he likes let him change wives, marry or impregnate all the ladies in his villages, if he won't have a son, he won't still have it....


okine4real:


Very wrong. I have three Daughters and a Son. Every one of them dey go better school, infact my girls dey more intelligent than my boy, but a Son is important. The worst case scenario if the boy no serious, na only village property him go collect, while I give properties in the city to the girls. All child get there importance, the importance of the male is for him to continue my linage name and take possession of family properties in the village... Both girls and male can't take possession of properties in the city, but for the village, na only the Male fit do am.

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by jeff1607(m): 1:58pm On Mar 03, 2023
SUPERPACK:
It has to do with inheritance rights in igboland. Only a male is considered when it comes to inheritance, it is also important for the family name to continue in Igbo culture and only a man can do this.

By right it is not compulsory to have a male child and only your husband can decide if he needs one badly and cannot forgo.

I know so many Igbo couple living happily without a male child and are now old.

I am Igbo too and place no importance on male child, all children are important and non is more important than the other.

The ones who do not male children especially the men don’t go about telling people they aren’t happy , it’s just not Igbos alone but all over the world where any community is family oriented even in Italy male children are highly sort out for , the berluconis , maldinis and other high ranking families in Italy won’t be in existence if not for sons they had even during war it is the male children and adults that are first killed to render a nation or community useless

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Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by KingMack(m): 2:00pm On Mar 03, 2023
That's why there are so many un serious men in the village now..all they do is to do drugs and booze, patiently waiting for their old father to die so they can inherit the old mud house😟
Re: How Important Is A Son In Igbo Tribe by meeky247: 2:01pm On Mar 03, 2023
Reelmii:
That is the correct thing to say


So that you will collect the properties when he die. Hmmmm

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