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I have been very observant of religious ladies lately and honestly, it is not only frustrating but almost impossible to reason with them correctly.

For context, I have dated one or two of them in the past and from what I have seen, i probably will never have anything to do with a "religious" or "holy" lady again in anything concerning relationship or marriage.

Here's why, the brainwashing has become too much.

For most religious ladies, sex feels like the ultimate price in a relationship.

For everything you do for them out of love, it feels to them like you are just trying to get in their pants.

They measure the worth of a man's effort by their p*ssy rather than see a man as a human being, they rather see you as a "pen*s".

Hence any good you do, doesn't mean good.

I don't know if you understand the above.

Secondly, they've been taught to put the cart before the horse rather than the horse before the cart.

Everything to them comes after marriage. "do this"

"no, I can't do that since we are not married"

"do that"

"no I'll only do that after marriage"

Marriage seems like the line they need to cross before they can show affection or love.

But love and happiness needs to happen before marriage. You need to make your partner happy now not after marriage.

Instead of understanding that marriage is the reward and not the process of love, these girls believe marriage is the foundation of love.

Hence as a man, if you are ever dating one, you will find yourself constantly struggling to be loved. You'll find yourself constantly begging to be shown affection. Why? Because they believe they will only show care to you only after marriage.

Any guy who has dated a religious lady can verify this.

Thirdly, they have another authority.

Who is a man who wishes his wife listened to other people more than him?

No man.

"my pastor say" overrides every decision the husband makes.

No need to talk much on this.

And dating to them actually feels like they are doing you a favor rather than being a partner.

Lolz.

Someone feels like you can't find any other girl like her again simply because they've created a line of division between themselves and everyone else.

If you are looking for a healthy, sweet and loving lady. Someone who is warm towards you and not afraid to reciprocate your affections, look outside.

Now this might seem trivia until you are hooked up to the horse and dragged in the mud of frustration as a man.

There's nothing more annoying than being seen as a sin as a man.

Honestly, if I recall some of my previous relationships experiences as I type this, I feel like smashing my phone.

Nothing is worst than being treated as a penis in a relationship.

Nothing.

Stay safe out there. If you find a girl that's good enough and loves and respects you, forget it, you've gotten the jackpot.

No let anyone use religion as a form of "being a good girl" to kee you.

It's even the way these ladies dream about their future husband and home. Lolz.

No go work. They think say by enstranging men, God will give you the perfect man later in life.

As a lady I wish you understood that life is a process. Not a reward.

People get good home through hard work, not a reward from "being good". People get rich from the process of work, not from praying and "i receive it".

Shalom.

typing......

All 9ja girls are useless and wicked. That's why God is always punishing them.

The only problem is that you are confusing sex with the word 'love' that you're throwing around.

You didn't mention anything about character or attitude towards anything else.

Simply because they decide not to fornicate right ??

Well I agree with the " my pastor said" part ... it's silly because most of those pastors are just screwing them up


Say no to fornication

Stephen0mozzy:
The only problem is that you are confusing sex with the word 'love' that you're throwing around.

You didn't mention anything about character or attitude towards anything else.

how come sex is always the first thing that comes to religious people's mind.

Do you know you guys discuss sex way more than you discuss God?

Like I read through and the op never talked about sex.

Autobot05:
Simply because they decide not to fornicate right ??

Well I agree with the " my pastor said" part ... it's silly because most of those pastors are just screwing them up


Say no to fornication

now this is the funny thing.

I sex any lady I'm with. In fact, I don't agree with no sex before marriage, it doesn't matter whether you fell from heaven.

So, obviously you are getting this wrong, just like how those brainwashed girls do.

For you guys, it's always about sex, sex and sex. Once two people are dating, you automatically assume anything they talk about is sex.

Gosh, can't you guys just talk about your God instead of sex?

Stephen0mozzy:
The only problem is that you are confusing sex with the word 'love' that you're throwing around.

You didn't mention anything about character or attitude towards anything else.

sex and love are the foundation of marriage or any relationship.

Take away sex from marriage and it dies.

That's how important sex is. Regardless of how much you try to belittle it.

Just as you belittle the importance of money and yet, 99% of the time in your churches, all you talk about is how to become rich.

I hate that hypocrisy in their relationship.

Queendera:
how come sex is always the first thing that comes to religious people's mind.

Do you know you guys discuss sex way more than you discuss God?

Like I read through and the op never talked about sex.

lolz.

Go to church today and all they talk about is sex.

Sex is this. Sex is that. Sex will do this. Sex will do that.

Yet, most of them never even experienced it. It's like the blind leading the blind.

My first religious girl once said "once we have sex, the relationship will die slowly"

Because she has been brainwashed to believe that nonsense.

A relationship that will last 4 years later.

Crystalom3:
now this is the funny thing.

I sex any lady I'm with. In fact, I don't agree with no sex before marriage, it doesn't matter whether you fell from heaven.

So, obviously you are getting this wrong, just like how those brainwashed girls do.

For you guys, it's always about sex, sex and sex. Once two people are dating, you automatically assume anything they talk about is sex.

Gosh, can't you guys just talk about your God instead of sex?

You're contradicting yourself here @ the bolded



God doesn't support fornication... and I didn't mention the word "Sex"

Autobot05:
You're contradicting yourself here @ the bolded



God doesn't support fornication... and I didn't mention the word "Sex"

not contradiction.

It's the assumption that everything I said earlier was all because sex.

Yes, I f*cked my girls.

But I hate when they feel everything about them, myself and the relationship should revolve around that 30-one hour of pleasure (just so you know, sex is not 5 minutes of pleasure, try telling brother Joshua the next time he's preaching about sex that some of us go up to hours).

I guess in your Bible God agrees with decievers and liars?

Because mentioning fornication and saying you didn't mention sex, is like saying I took it because no one was looking but didn't steal it.

Again a liar and a deciever but somehow feeling righteous because the sister f*cking is a bigger sinner.

It's the same thing with these religious ladies. Instead of being taught to actually be good and work hard, they are taught, all they need is to abstain from sex and everything else will fall in line.

Fornication or no fornication, you are good if you are good and bad if you don't work on yourself.

Sex is not the ultimate. Character, affection, understanding and submission are the ultimate.

Everyone with their choices. You can marry a church girl, a mosque girl or go to brothel and marry. It is all a matter of choice. The bottom line is what works for others may not work for some. And no source of marriage is a guarantee to a successful marriage. It all depends on how matured the two of you are to solve your unavoidable issues that will arise

I as a person do not agree with , no secx before marriage, women often develop affection and love after segs , how can their be a strong bond and love without segs it does not happen.

I have seen many people regret after marriage, complaining about the secx performance of their partner and segs preferences because they simply did not know what each other needs to be satisfied.. those same holy f*cking girls are retired oloshos or even current one whom have spoilt their womb and they know it , only to lure men into marriage..

Even if it's 1 year or 6 months to marriage I must bleep and impregnate you before we move on..

zikter:
Everyone with their choices. You can marry a church girl, a mosque girl or go to brothel and marry. It is all a matter of choice. The bottom line is what works for others may not work for some. And no source of marriage is a guarantee to a successful marriage. It all depends on how matured the two of you are to solve your unavoidable issues that will arise

@bolded.
Exactly the point I have been trying to make.

Instead of teaching girls that all that they need to do is abstain from sex and everything will be alright.

Or that sex is the reason why they will fail in life, not go far or spoil their future.

We should focus on the individual character. Let's mould the child to look inward and choose to be a better person.

Teach these girls what it feels like to love. What it feels like to be loved. How to treat their partner. How relationship is hard work and filled with compromises. How a happy home is not a reward but one of years of trial and errors and mistakes.

Most of these girls are simply not in the business of building. They just want to pack into an already finished and furnished house all because they've been taught that if they keep themselves, then their rewards is a good big man.

Ha. Nowadays I see any holy girl na run I dey run. You no go understand.

Crystalom3:
now this is the funny thing.

I sex any lady I'm with. In fact, I don't agree with no sex before marriage, it doesn't matter whether you fell from heaven.

So, obviously you are getting this wrong, just like how those brainwashed girls do.

For you guys, it's always about sex, sex and sex. Once two people are dating, you automatically assume anything they talk about is sex.

Gosh, can't you guys just talk about your God instead of sex?

Lobatan!

Them no gree for you simply because dem no want make chuk dem and run. Case dismiss

60 % true


I experienced something like this last year



Mo japa

nicerod:
60 % true


I experienced something like this last year



Mo japa

this video is a concrete example of what I'm saying.

Just listen to what this preacher is teaching his congregation about relationships in this 15 seconds clip

This is all shades of wrong

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CpdDiACDsdd/

People, especially women need to start thinking for themselves.

Adding you too @almarthins

Crystalom3:
this video is a concrete example of what I'm saying.

Just listen to what this preacher is teaching his congregation about relationships in this 15 seconds clip

This is all shades of wrong

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CpdDiACDsdd/

People, especially women need to start thinking for themselves.

Adding you too @almarthins

Omo x1000

Crystalom3:
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And dating to them actually feels like they are doing you a favor rather than being a partner.

You should be glad girls are dating your type. What's your problem if a lady refuse to release her pússy?
Even in marriage, your types deserve strict time table before having sex. Cos you are against teachings that warned ladies of being pure. Shey you think say we foolish and we don't know a lot of your short black and broke one boxer short for a week boys are all kids and tell. You v sex with Ngozi, Sade, Amina and you tell John, Ahmed and Obi.
If you think closing legs irritates you, look for a hoe and marry. When you v a girl child, tell her to be a cheerful giver or you say become an anfani adugbo (street benefit).

You are pained you v met girls that didn't give you at all or gave you anyhow you don't like.
Painment

Queendera:
Omo x1000

There are two sides to a coin. He only pointed one side of it.

Goodlady:
You should be glad girls are dating your type. What's your problem if a lady refuse to release her pússy?
Even in marriage, your types deserve strict time table before having sex. Cos you are against teachings that warned ladies of being pure. Shey you think say we foolish and we don't know a lot of your short black and broke one boxer short for a week boys are all kids and tell. You v sex with Ngozi, Sade, Amina and you tell John, Ahmed and Obi.
If you think closing legs irritates you, look for a hoe and marry. When you v a girl child, tell her to be a cheerful giver or you say become an anfani adugbo (street benefit).

You are pained you v met girls that didn't give you at all or give you anyhow you want.
Painment

*pukes

I wouldn't touch your p*ssy even if served on a platter of gold... literally.

And it's one thing to call yourself decent, holy and pure but when you open your mouth, all you spill is profanity that will shock even the devil himself.

But hey, you are holy because you don't f*ck.

And to everyone reading this, you can see the sort of reasoning I keep talking about. They brainwashed these girls to think that only sex matters. No character development, no true righteousness, no true hard work or patience.

God helps the man that marry these mistakes.

Read this. Goodlady.

Don't worry, I don't have time to insult anyone. Everyone is as God created them to be, that's what I've learned from my Bible.

Crystalom3:
*pukes

I wouldn't touch your p*say even if served on a platter of gold... literally.

Your mom na condemn abi. Idiot said he wouldn't touch me. How ll you touch me?
Are we mates or in same class?
Mumuboy that's hungry. Eat and grow sense!

Goodlady:
Your mom na condemn abi. Idiot said he wouldn't touch me. How ll you touch me?
Are we mates or in same class?
Mumuboy that's hungry. Eat and grow sense!

again, a pure and righteous lady but your mouth is filled with bile and all sorts of profanity.

My dear, sex doesn't make you dirty. These things you say. These hatreds you harbor. These malice. These unforgivness. These looking down on other creatures of God.

These things make you unfit and unworthy to be called a child of God or a decent woman fit for marriage.

Not sex.

We have seen non virgins happily married. A good proof that a "good" girl is not defined by sex.

Shalom.

True talk.....

One of the first things I check out when I want to date a lady is to check how religious she is .... if she is that kind that has that mentality "Marriage is the price for sex", I will just silently disengage myself unless she has other undeniable qualities i like.

Most of them feels doing normal stuffs in relationship like cooking, lending helping hand to their partner should be reserved for only men that has married them meanwhile they won't hesitate to collect monetary items and gifts from u and asked to be treated like the only woman in the world. They know how to be very very stingy with emotions.

Crystalom3:
again, a pure and righteous lady but your mouth is filled with bile and all sorts of profanity.

My dear, sex doesn't make you dirty. These things you say. These hatreds you harbor. These malice. These unforgivness. These looking down on other creatures of God.

These things make you unfit and unworthy to be called a child of God or a decent woman fit for marriage.

Not sex.

We have seen non virgins happily married. A good proof that a "good" girl is not defined by sex.

Shalom.

Ori e buru!
After effect of the sense I nailed on your head. Leave me and God alone. Baba knows I no dey pretend. But you this idíotic sex starved boy is here lamenting cos many ladies that you wished to shag don outsmart you.
Lament, wail in pieces. You fit the men in my siggy.

Goodlady:
Ori e buru!
After effect of the sense I nailed on your head. Leave me and God alone. Baba knows I no dey pretend. But you this idíotic sex starved boy is here lamenting cos many ladies that you wished to shag don outsmart you.
Lament, wail in pieces. You fit the men in my siggy.

you feel insulting me will make me Burge to start insulting you back?

Common, levels dey dis life. I don't play in the mud.

Again, deliberately I choose not to insult you. You can give yourself the accolades for your imaginary argument competition you organized and won.

Shalom

jeff1993:
True talk.....

One of the first things I check out when I want to date a lady is to check how religious she is .... if she is that kind that has that mentality "Marriage is the price for sex", I will just silently disengage myself unless she has other undeniable qualities i like.

Most of them feels doing normal stuffs in relationship like cooking, lending helping hand to their partner should be reserved for only men that has married them meanwhile they won't hesitate to collect monetary items and gifts from u and asked to be treated like the only woman in the world. They know how to be very very stingy with emotions.

you get?

Most of them just assume that you are talking about sex whenever you bring on this topic.

Love and happiness is a process. It's like building a house. Marriage is roofing it.

You crown the effort to love and be happy with marriage.

Nowadays, instead of loving and genuinely caring, they want you to marry them before everything.

Crystalom3:
you feel insulting me will make me Burge to start insulting you back?

Common, levels dey dis life. I don't play in the mud.

Again, deliberately I choose not to insult you. You can give yourself the accolades for your imaginary argument competition you organized and won.

Shalom

Ok. Let's say I v been harsh with the insults. You sef know say you deserve small.
But realistically, you don't need to blame any lady that didn't open legs for you or any man. A goodlady isn't trained that way. You must earn sex and it's purely by legal marriage after courtship.
You can only blame yourself for having sexual urges before marriage cos that's what made you to attempt to sleep with those that refused you.

Goodlady:
Ok. Let's say I v been harsh with the insults. You sef know say you deserve small.
But realistically, you don't need to blame any lady that didn't open legs for you or any man. A goodlady isn't trained that way. You must earn sex and it's purely by legal marriage after courtship.
You can only blame yourself for having sexual urges before marriage cos that's what made you to attempt to sleep with those that refused you.

madam I don't earn sex. I don't work for it because it's not something I'm supposed to work towards.

How hard is that for some of you to understand?

It's irritating to see a man building himself and his relationship with a woman and the woman feels she'll "reward" that effort with sex.

Honey, not all men are hungry for it and ready to sacrifice all their life's efforts on the alter of sex.

Sex is not a reward for all the efforts I put into loving a woman. It's vile, irritating and frustrating to even think my woman is thinking that.

It's like saying, the only reason why you love your child as a mother is because you know that one day your child will be the one to take care of you.

How would you feel if that's all your child thinks about for all the love and care you give to them?

It's that mentality that I hate. That deep sitted belief disgust me.

See, there's a reason why I'll never have anything to do with any girl that sees herself as decent or holy or pure. It comes from a very very deep place.

And no, your insult don't mean jack to mean because everything you said was not true.

Goodlady:
You should be glad girls are dating your type. What's your problem if a lady refuse to release her pússy?
Even in marriage, your types deserve strict time table before having sex. Cos you are against teachings that warned ladies of being pure. Shey you think say we foolish and we don't know a lot of your short black and broke one boxer short for a week boys are all kids and tell. You v sex with Ngozi, Sade, Amina and you tell John, Ahmed and Obi.
If you think closing legs irritates you, look for a hoe and marry. When you v a girl child, tell her to be a cheerful giver or you say become an anfani adugbo (street benefit).

[quote author=Goodlady post=121546495]Ok. Let's say I v been harsh with the insults. You sef know say you deserve small.
But realistically, you don't need to blame any lady that didn't open legs for you or any man. A goodlady isn't trained that way. You must earn sex and it's purely by legal marriage after courtship.
You can only blame yourself for having sexual urges before marriage cos that's what made you to attempt to sleep with those that refused you.

A good lady is a good one, Sex or not. Sex does not make u a bad person. That u had sex with someone u love and he turned around does not make u a Fool. We all have bad experiences.

Wether u withhold it or u chose to have sex ... Anybody that will stay with u will stay. I have witnessed a two month old marriage collapse cos of sex. Man complained that it smells and he cant take it any longer. He claimed he was deceived by the lady who chose to goad him on with no sex before marriage only for him to marry and see the reason ok n behind it.

Crystalom3:
you feel insulting me will make me Burge to start insulting you back?

Common, levels dey dis life. I don't play in the mud.

Again, deliberately I choose not to insult you. You can give yourself the accolades for your imaginary argument competition you organized and won.

Shalom

this guy go insult you without insulting you 🤣🤣