✨ Why are Dusty M e n Mad at Ashanti? An Insight into Unactualized Masculinity ✨

Recently, a 'rapper' started a thread on twitter to shame the beautiful artist and star, Ashanti, for going on vacation a lot and being unmarried. The 'rapper' went onto brag that he is married, has kids, and also has a 'rap career'. Well, it's not too difficult to see why a gorgeous, wealthy, talented, and famous woman would trigger some dusty 'musician' we've never heard of - but why do dusties delight in putting down women who are living their best lives and minding their own business? There are so many clips circulating of podcasts where beautiful women get 'humbled' with gleeful m e n in the coments taking to their sticky little keyboards to partake in the negging, age-shaming, and relationship-status shaming. It is the favourite spectator sport for the modern dusty.


Why are these dusties so irked by women, especially beautiful and successful ones? When they're not furiously jerking off to their images and weeping into their crusty old gym socks, these m e n turn to the internet to vent their frustrations at the injustice of human mate selection. Why aren't gorgeous women impressed by dusty p e n i s and crusty pennies? This fills them with impotent rage, because these unactualized men find it too hard to compete for the women they really want and can't have.

Instead of investing that energy into becoming better m e n, they want women 'humbled' and to lower the bar even further so that anyone could step over it and have access to the femininity and beauty that they all crave. Mate competition is actually good for m e n and their masculinity - without the need to compete for women, there would be complete inertia and therefore no progress.

The comedian, Dave Chappelle, observed that m e n only get nice things because women like nice things, and if a m a n could f*ck a woman in a cardboard box, he would.

In the past, the m e n who couldn't compete in the mating game would end up in monasteries, or sent on raids as the vikings did with their young and expendable male population. Nowadays, they start podcasts or mouth off on social media.




By Suha Deeb via Facebook

It's a pity. I'm not even angry with them anymore for hating on women. I just pity them now.

They'll be fine in the end.

Whoever read it should please summarize

@ the first bolded. I see it happen a lot to actresses and musicians like Tiwa Savage, Iyabo Ojo and even Tems and Chimamanda the writer.

Yesterday on Facebook, I came across a post by LegitNG... reading the comments made me sick.

DJ Cuppy said "I don't need a man to complete me but I want one to tell me how awesome I am"... Something like that...

Men were so upset, talking about how she's proud and she would die alone and miserable... She needs a man and her horrible character is the reason she can't get one... Blah blah blah...

The irony is that DJ is a multi-millionaire who wouldn't date any of them even with a gun to her head! Their girlfriends would dump them to be Cuppy for a day!

Like I said, the only thing men have over women is money, success too... Take these away and they are basically worthless and they know it!

very simple answer: AN OPINION IS LIKE AN ASSHOLE, EVERYBODY HAS ONE!

why would you women even care what this man thinks of Ashanti? is he not entitled to his own opinion? or is it that men in your narrow minded world cannot make a negative comment about women?!?!?!?

Lol someone up there talking about dj cuppy and her millions. What women fail to realize is that men don't give a single bleep about a woman's money or success. All they care about is her looks,age,if she's not sleeping around,and her ability to be in a relationship with a high value man.

That's why no matter a woman's achievements,men will always ignore it and ask why she isn't yet married to a man she loves,admires and respects.
Women,you can either cry about it,or accept reality for what it is. It's up to you!

siofra:
It's a pity. I'm not even angry with them anymore for hating on women. I just pity them now.

They'll be fine in the end.

Why is everything always perceived as "hating on the entire female gender" to you people?
Whenever a man says something bad or terrible about a woman, women automatically perceives it as hatred on women. we live in times where feelings comes before Common sense and logical reasoning

La read, la bend...

siofra:
✨ Why are Dusty M e n Mad at Ashanti? An Insight into Unactualized Masculinity ✨

Recently, a 'rapper' started a thread on twitter to shame the beautiful artist and star, Ashanti, for going on vacation a lot and being unmarried. The 'rapper' went onto brag that he is married, has kids, and also has a 'rap career'. Well, it's not too difficult to see why a gorgeous, wealthy, talented, and famous woman would trigger some dusty 'musician' we've never heard of - but why do dusties delight in putting down women who are living their best lives and minding their own business? There are so many clips circulating of podcasts where beautiful women get 'humbled' with gleeful m e n in the coments taking to their sticky little keyboards to partake in the negging, age-shaming, and relationship-status shaming. It is the favourite spectator sport for the modern dusty.


Why are these dusties so irked by women, especially beautiful and successful ones? When they're not furiously jerking off to their images and weeping into their crusty old gym socks, these m e n turn to the internet to vent their frustrations at the injustice of human mate selection. Why aren't gorgeous women impressed by dusty p e n i s and crusty pennies? This fills them with impotent rage, because these unactualized men find it too hard to compete for the women they really want and can't have.

Instead of investing that energy into becoming better m e n, they want women 'humbled' and to lower the bar even further so that anyone could step over it and have access to the femininity and beauty that they all crave. Mate competition is actually good for m e n and their masculinity - without the need to compete for women, there would be complete inertia and therefore no progress.

The comedian, Dave Chappelle, observed that m e n only get nice things because women like nice things, and if a m a n could f*ck a woman in a cardboard box, he would.

In the past, the m e n who couldn't compete in the mating game would end up in monasteries, or sent on raids as the vikings did with their young and expendable male population. Nowadays, they start podcasts or mouth off on social media.




By Suha Deeb via Facebook

Everything you said is true. I think Wike is selfish.

odinson1:
Lol someone up there talking about dj cuppy and her millions. What women fail to realize is that men don't give a single bleep about a woman's money or success. All they care about is her looks,age,if she's not sleeping around,and her ability to be in a relationship with a high value man.

That's why no matter a woman's achievements,men will always ignore it and ask why she isn't yet married to a man she loves,admires and respects.
Women,you can either cry about it,or accept reality for what it is. It's up to you!


Why is everything always perceived as "hating on the entire female gender" to you people?
Whenever a man says something bad or terrible about a woman, women automatically perceives it as hatred on women. we live in times where feelings comes before Common sense and logical reasoning

Nawa for you oo...all this write up for a gender that cant process/apply logic? You get time

Slmgirldippussy:




Everything you said is true. I think Wike is selfish.

😂😂🤣

It's funny how you Nigerian men and women are always fighting each other here on nairaland..🤣🤣🤣

Where's peace?

Samantha124:
It's funny how you Nigerian men and women are always fighting each other here on nairaland..🤣🤣🤣

Where's peace?

We dont fight them me dear...they fight us because we dont want to commit to them and they know hunger will kill them if we dont court/marry them🙂

Banilla:
Yesterday on Facebook, I came across a post by LegitNG... reading the comments made me sick.

DJ Cuppy said "I don't need a man to complete me but I want one to tell me how awesome I am"... Something like that...

Men were so upset, talking about how she's proud and she would die alone and miserable... She needs a man and her horrible character is the reason she can't get one... Blah blah blah...

The irony is that DJ is a multi-millionaire who wouldn't date any of them even with a gun to her head! Their girlfriends would dump them to be Cuppy for a day!

Like I said, the only thing men have over women is money, success too... Take these away and they are basically worthless and they know it!

OK if women don't really need men as y'all claim then what's stopping women from also being successful like men, thereby rendering men worthless. What's stopping them

As always, everyone is victimizing themselves and putting a blame on each other.🤣🤣🤣

Such things make me appreciate my SA men and women more.. You'd never see us fighting each other online.

Lemos14:


We dont fight them me dear...they fight us because we dont want to commit to them and they know hunger will kill them if we dont court/marry them🙂

Samantha124:
As always, everyone is victimizing themselves and putting a blame on each other.🤣🤣🤣

Such things make me appreciate my SA men and women more.. You'd never see us fighting each other online.

We are not saying Nigerian men dont have their own flaws but at least we are ready to take accountability for it...but tell a Nigerian woman the truth and she will tag you a woman hater...that's where the main problem is..they are loud, opinionated and very entitled with nothing to offer except sex..most of them shouting here cant even cook

Samantha124:
As always, everyone is victimizing themselves and putting a blame on each other.🤣🤣🤣

Such things make me appreciate my SA men and women more.. You'd never see us fighting each other online.

There's gender war every where......anbits not hatred, its all cruize cos we still marry each other every saturday....... if you are looking for love only go to ur countries forum where men and women dont bicker as u claim

Yawn!!!
The victim card players are at it again

Banilla:
Yesterday on Facebook, I came across a post by LegitNG... reading the comments made me sick.

DJ Cuppy said "I don't need a man to complete me but I want one to tell me how awesome I am"... Something like that...

Men were so upset, talking about how she's proud and she would die alone and miserable... She needs a man and her horrible character is the reason she can't get one... Blah blah blah...

The irony is that DJ is a multi-millionaire who wouldn't date any of them even with a gun to her head! Their girlfriends would dump them to be Cuppy for a day!

Like I said, the only thing men have over women is money, success too... Take these away and they are basically worthless and they know it!

So basically when a man finally as money, success he does not need to be faithful, loyal, responsible and committed to any woman because all that his meaningless. His money goes away and the lady goes away!!!

odinson1:
Lol someone up there talking about dj cuppy and her millions. What women fail to realize is that men don't give a single bleep about a woman's money or success. All they care about is her looks,age,if she's not sleeping around,and her ability to be in a relationship with a high value man.

That's why no matter a woman's achievements,men will always ignore it and ask why she isn't yet married to a man she loves,admires and respects.
Women,you can either cry about it,or accept reality for what it is. It's up to you!


Why is everything always perceived as "hating on the entire female gender" to you people?
Whenever a man says something bad or terrible about a woman, women automatically perceives it as hatred on women. we live in times where feelings comes before Common sense and logical reasoning

You're not smart.

The topic isn't: what's a man's definition of a high value woman.

Read to comprehend.

DJ Cuppy is fu**ing rich and happy, regardless of what you say. That's the point. What you and the other poor miserable men think doesn't matter, never did. You think if DJ Cuppy lowered her standards, she wouldn't find a man?

The only thing that gives men the right to say, "I want this or that in a woman" is money... When he doesn't have that but she does, his opinions are valueless. Keep bullying her tho. She doesn't know you exist

I'm not looking for love.

WatchYourSix:


There's gender war every where......anbits not hatred, its all cruize cos we still marry each other every saturday....... if you are looking for love only go to ur countries forum where men and women dont bicker as u claim

What if they can't cook? What's wrong with that?

I mean cooking is not only for women as we all get hungry at the end of the day.

Lemos14:


We are not saying Nigerian men dont have their own flaws but at least we are ready to take accountability for it...but tell a Nigerian woman the truth and she will tag you a woman hater...that's where the main problem is..they are loud, opinionated and very entitled with nothing to offer except sex..most of them shouting here cant even cook

Samantha124:
What if they can't cook? What's wrong with that?

I mean cooking is not only for women as we all get hungry at the end of the day.

Theres everything wrong with marrying a woman who cant cook..just like theres everything wrong with marrying a man who cant provide..and the fact that you're defending something like this just keeps proving that most of you ladies are the same. End of story

I'm not defending anything.

I mean why make cooking only a women thing when we all get hungry and need to eat at the end of the day?

My own father is a great cook and my only brother, who's now late was also a good cook too.

Lemos14:


Theres everything wrong with marrying s woman who cant cook..and the fact that you're defending something like this just keeps proving that most of you ladies are all the same. End of story

narite:

So basically when a man finally as money, success he does not need to be faithful, loyal, responsible and committed to any woman because all that his meaningless. His money goes away and the lady goes away!!!

Blame men who call women useless because they only bring their feelings to the table... Your gender claims superiority for the sake that they have money.

Samantha124:
I'm not defending anything.

I mean why make cooking only a women thing when we all get hungry and need to eat at the end of the day?

My own father is a great cook and my only brother, who's now late was also a good cook too.

Check my comment again I modified it.
And read in between the lines you know very well what I'm saying

Banilla:


You're not smart.
The topic isn't: what's a man's definition of a high value woman.
Read to comprehend.
DJ Cuppy is fu**ing rich and happy, regardless of what you say. That's the point. What you and the other poor miserable men think doesn't matter, never did. You think if DJ Cuppy lowered her standards, she wouldn't find a man?

Lol why so aggressive? This is why men don't tell you people the truth most times.
Do you not understand that no matter how rich and happy you are as a woman,men won't give a damn? That's my whole point, I don't know why you're saying I'm not smart and can't comprehend.
Nobody cares if she's happy as long as she's getting older with no husband ( though in cuppy's case, she's likely to get married by next year)

You said there's everything wrong with marrying a woman who can't cook as if cooking is only for women... Or maybe you men prefer eating raw food, I don't know.

It's more like saying bathing is only for a certain gender because both bathing and cooking are essential in every human's life, both males and females.

Lemos14:


Check my comment again I modified it.

Samantha124:
You said there's everything wrong with marrying a woman who can't cook as if cooking is only for women... Or maybe you men prefer eating raw food, I don't know.

It's more like saying bathing is only for a certain gender because both bathing and cooking are essential in every human's life, both males and females.

Stop shifting the goal post I'm not saying men cant cook sometimes but it is the sole responsibility of the wife

If a go out to work hard to bring most of the resources to the house I expect that you make meals for me when I get back from work...yes there may be times that the wife may not be feeling well or so and you can help her out but dosent mean it's not her main responsibility

If the woman is a house wife or she doesn't have a demanding job, then of course, she can do that.

But what if we both have demanding jobs and you'd find that sometimes I have to work late?

Or the woman's job has got more long hours than that of the man, what then? Will the man just sit at home hungry and waiting for the woman to come home at 9pm to cook?

Lemos14:



Stop shifting the goal post I'm not saying men cant cook sometimes but it is the sole responsibility of the wife

If a go out to work hard to bring most of the resources to the house I expect that you make meals for me when I get back from work...yes there may be times that the wife may not be feeling well or so and you can help her out but dosent mean it's not her main responsibility

Samantha124:
If the woman is a house wife or she doesn't have a demanding job, then of course, she can do that.

But what if we both have demanding jobs and you'd find that sometimes I have to work late?

Or the woman's job has got more long hours than that of the man, what then? Will the man just sit at home hungry and waiting for the woman to come home at 9pm to cook?

Then they can work that out between themselves but just to let you know that husband and wife have their basic responsibilities.

Banilla:
Blame men who call women useless because they only bring their feelings to the table... Your gender claims superiority for the sake that they have money.

You said money, success is the only significant thing and it is what a woman is really interested in. The rest are garbage.

So a man should spend his time chasing money right? If this is what you are saying, then; I believe commitment, responsibility are all useless. Women does not need those things, money is the thing above all a lady want from a man. Once a man can give a lady money satisfying, then the rest does not really matter. Is this a Yes or No