Nackzy:

Madam am not married, but your husband is going through what we call chronic gambling addiction, have been in that shoe, am still struggling to come out of it completely, one needs discipline, commitment, financial prudency, planning, openess n maybe lastly prayers, gambling is indeed a sin

EmekaBlue:
Always on his phone rings a bell

Check with style from afar if it's Green page or Red page

Bet9ja vs Sportybet.

Don't think too much! You will be fine someway,somehow, someday

Ogadimma! Life is hard

Charlestotle22:
I Believe a lot is going on with him. I suggest you calmly identify what the issues are and get advice for either his pastor or his kindreds. Depending on your culture, don't make more babies and also focus on starting up work or business for your own survival. Don't follow other men, they will destroy you. Thank you for speaking out. Don't kill yourself.

Kobojunkie:
Gambling is not a sin. It is instead a mental illness and most gamblers already aware of their problem by the time they become adults. Prayer does not heal gambling instead a change of lifestyle, and a commitment to it does. If Prayer was the key to gambling, then the millions of gamblers who attend your churches should have been free from it by now.

Also, it is wickedness when a gambler goes on to marry and then afflict other human beings, including children, with his burden. That is not love but wickedness. This man is not a victim.

Sirchiboy:
..
Really feel pity for you.
You are a such a good lady.
God bless you for this.
Just be strong and everything will be fine.
Is your husband a church goes?
If yes then you need to take him to your pastor and discuss with him for prayer and counselling.
Your husband is a future millionaire and the devil is fighting hard to disorganise his life so you have to be prayerful.

imagrg:
What did you see in him that made you marry him?

By the way, has he paid your bride-price?

If so, did he borrow the money with which he married you?

If that's the case, I believe that, that's what he is repaying.

Women and flamboyant life-style.

You could be one of the reasons he had been borrowing. He may have been borrowing to please your reckless demands when he was dating you.

My advice to men is that you must work on yourself first before having a relationship because this gender called women can ruin you financially.

mechanics:
■ That won't change the fact that God answers all prayers, when one pray in doubt and sin, God will not answer such prayers,
■ there are so many testimonies prayers have done in the life of so many people and in my life also, my advice is for you not to discourage anyone seeking his or her life challenges through prayers.

Dearlove2me:
The truth is right now, I feel like going somewhere for a while. I feel like I need rest. Somewhere I can forget about all my problems and breathe a fresh air.
My husband has not been honest with me since the beginning of this marriage and I doubt if this is an attitude of a man that loves

He has always been in debt even before I married him. and he wouldn't let me know what he do with the money he keeps borrowing from people. Even my friends I introduced to him, he is owning them and can't pay back.

The bad side is, he borrows and stop picking their calls not respond nicely to them.
He behalves badly to them.
I'm suspecting he's into some kind of addiction that demands money. Maybe gambling but he wouldn't tell me.
He's constantly on his phone.

He is owning loan app everywhere. To the extent that the app had to send hurrible messages to his contact's lists including his bosses, office colleagues and my relatives.
It's so embarrassing and tiring.
He has apologized several times that I should give him time to work on himself to stop an addiction, but he refused to explain what it is. Claiming that I might leave him if I know.
But he has not changed abit.
We are always hungry in this house. No baby food for my 6months old baby, no pampers and everything is total struggle. I quit my job last year but I'll soon start job search once my baby grow a little.
In this house, If I don't look for food, then, we starve, I don't look for means of getting pampers, food, wears,then my baby will suffer, because his daddy is not capable of providing anything for us. It's so annoying.

I have dreams before I married him, but right now, I feel lost. There's no romance, no love, no affection in this marriage anymore, as I wouldn't even let him touch me because of the stress, suffer he constantly brings on us.

Money I raised to start up a business, (340k) I ended up using it to pay for his debt last two months because the people were always coming to embarrass us in the house and neighbors were coming to pleade on our behalf. I had to clear up the loan, yet he couldn't explain what he did with the money.
With that start up capital, I would have been growing by now, but here I am. Still at the zero point.

I'm really tired
I'm so confused here.
What should I do?
What would you advise?

mechanics:
We are saying the same thing.

Dearlove2me:
The truth is right now, I feel like going somewhere for a while. I feel like I need rest. Somewhere I can forget about all my problems and breathe a fresh air.
My husband has not been honest with me since the beginning of this marriage and I doubt if this is an attitude of a man that loves

He has always been in debt even before I married him. and he wouldn't let me know what he do with the money he keeps borrowing from people. Even my friends I introduced to him, he is owning them and can't pay back.

The bad side is, he borrows and stop picking their calls not respond nicely to them.
He behalves badly to them.
I'm suspecting he's into some kind of addiction that demands money. Maybe gambling but he wouldn't tell me.
He's constantly on his phone.

He is owning loan app everywhere. To the extent that the app had to send hurrible messages to his contact's lists including his bosses, office colleagues and my relatives.
It's so embarrassing and tiring.
He has apologized several times that I should give him time to work on himself to stop an addiction, but he refused to explain what it is. Claiming that I might leave him if I know.
But he has not changed abit.
We are always hungry in this house. No baby food for my 6months old baby, no pampers and everything is total struggle. I quit my job last year but I'll soon start job search once my baby grow a little.
In this house, If I don't look for food, then, we starve, I don't look for means of getting pampers, food, wears,then my baby will suffer, because his daddy is not capable of providing anything for us. It's so annoying.

I have dreams before I married him, but right now, I feel lost. There's no romance, no love, no affection in this marriage anymore, as I wouldn't even let him touch me because of the stress, suffer he constantly brings on us.

Money I raised to start up a business, (340k) I ended up using it to pay for his debt last two months because the people were always coming to embarrass us in the house and neighbors were coming to pleade on our behalf. I had to clear up the loan, yet he couldn't explain what he did with the money.
With that start up capital, I would have been growing by now, but here I am. Still at the zero point.

I'm really tired
I'm so confused here.
What should I do?
What would you advise?

Dearlove2me:
The truth is right now, I feel like going somewhere for a while. I feel like I need rest. Somewhere I can forget about all my problems and breathe a fresh air.
My husband has not been honest with me since the beginning of this marriage and I doubt if this is an attitude of a man that loves

He has always been in debt even before I married him. and he wouldn't let me know what he do with the money he keeps borrowing from people. Even my friends I introduced to him, he is owning them and can't pay back.

The bad side is, he borrows and stop picking their calls not respond nicely to them.
He behalves badly to them.
I'm suspecting he's into some kind of addiction that demands money. Maybe gambling but he wouldn't tell me.
He's constantly on his phone.

He is owning loan app everywhere. To the extent that the app had to send hurrible messages to his contact's lists including his bosses, office colleagues and my relatives.
It's so embarrassing and tiring.
He has apologized several times that I should give him time to work on himself to stop an addiction, but he refused to explain what it is. Claiming that I might leave him if I know.
But he has not changed abit.
We are always hungry in this house. No baby food for my 6months old baby, no pampers and everything is total struggle. I quit my job last year but I'll soon start job search once my baby grow a little.
In this house, If I don't look for food, then, we starve, I don't look for means of getting pampers, food, wears,then my baby will suffer, because his daddy is not capable of providing anything for us. It's so annoying.

I have dreams before I married him, but right now, I feel lost. There's no romance, no love, no affection in this marriage anymore, as I wouldn't even let him touch me because of the stress, suffer he constantly brings on us.

Money I raised to start up a business, (340k) I ended up using it to pay for his debt last two months because the people were always coming to embarrass us in the house and neighbors were coming to pleade on our behalf. I had to clear up the loan, yet he couldn't explain what he did with the money.
With that start up capital, I would have been growing by now, but here I am. Still at the zero point.

I'm really tired
I'm so confused here.
What should I do?
What would you advise?

Kobojunkie:
Stop lying!

We are not saying the same thing. If we were then you would understand why it is wrong to ask OP to pray for her marriage and her husband..

mechanics:
You just said that God does not answer the prayer of a sinner, is that not what I said, check my messages, I don't agree with what you said, prayer is the key to any problem, if you don't believe, stick to your own belief.

Kobojunkie:
1. Stop lying! The only man God ever gave a wife as a helper to was Adam, and that same man turned around and blamed God for giving him a woman who caused him to fall. Do you know what God did right after that? God washed His hands off of marriage by placing a curse on women in marriage. God made Marriage of the world of men and not of the Kingdom of God. Jesus Christ reaffirmed this in His teachings when He made clear in Luke 20 vs 34-36 that your marriages are of this world of men and not of the Kingdom of God nor in God's plan for anyone. Matthew 10 vs 34 - 38, among other places, makes this fact even more clear.

2. So, rather than focus on salvaging what is left of her dignity as a human being, and maybe regaining all that has been lost to her, she should sit as a counselor, trainer, and what else, monitor over a grown man who chose of his own will to destroy his life and that of his children? You, people, are wicked. How many of you will in fact do the very same if you were to find yourselves saddled with a wife fighting an addiction of any kind?

3. She should be psychological in her approach? WOW... OP please do not heed advice of this kind at all. I can guarantee you that if the shoes were on the other foot, these same people would not even think twice before bailing as fast as their feet can fly from the marriage. They wouldn't even leave a goodbye note in their case. If you were a man, they would never advice you in the same way. It is because you are a woman that they invoke even the name of God — against God for that matter — in their attempt to persuade you to sit back and continue in the sinking sand you have come to realize.

Timiolutomi:
■ What sort of theory is that?
That God has washed his hands out of marriage
Lol... You are cunning with your response, and I can see that you are making deliberate attempt to improve what is proven Biblically, by attempting to use a supporting Bible verse that does not correlate with the topic to prove a point that does not not exist.

■ Anyways, I do not have words with you...
I have given the woman an advice base on how I was led to do so... The Holy Spirit will direct her on what advice to follow.

Drameeja:


Western collapse is accelerating, thanks to the senseless washington criminals.

Eteka1:
DON'T leave your husband because he's in trouble (wether self-inflicted or not). Talk to your pastor to pray for and counsel him. He needs your help to get out of this.

Kobojunkie:
1. I didn't write what is clearly written in Genesis 3 vs 16-22. That message is 1000s of years old. That you think it theory means your problem is with believing in God, none of mine.

2. What you gave her were lies wrapped around the mentions of God. Stop rambling about a Spirit you know nothing of abeg! How can a Spirit that Jesus Christ said only those who are Holy can have guide a woman who never even mentioned she believed in God in all of her OP?

Romanoff:


She didn't marry herself. Both families came together to marry her, it's wise for the families to be aware before she leaves.

Drameeja:

When Trump called naija a sh!thole, did you think he was joking? 😂

Naija the zoo collapsed since, that's no news. Every id!ot knows this...

The news now is that the epic collapse of the world's largest terrorist state is accelerating.

Here's the surprising thing - "Weak" Russia is leading the unravelling & dismantling of the rogue hegemon.
"All mighty" terrorist nato is scared to give "small" Putin the Saddam/Gaddafi treatment. SHAME!

Kobojunkie:
You claimed God answers all prayers but that ain't what God said. He instead said He only answers the prayers of those who are HOLY and judging from the fact that no one in all of your churches can boast of having all of their prayers answered by God, it means that even with their few testimonies here and there, a ratio no different from that obtained by those who don't even believe in God at all, it means that your churches are filled with sinners.

God never said prayer is the key. Instead, He definitely stated that it is only by Obedience that one can get through to Him. So wherever it is you continue to get your particular narrative regarding God from, it ain't from scripture at all.

1stGenAmerican:


But you’re in Nigeria harassing me about a supposed Western collapse and pointing fingers at government criminals here on the other side of the Atlantic? I can get up from my desk right now, drive to a bank and use an atm or see a teller to withdraw all the cash I want and need, can you? You’re in a country that has already collapsed and instead of trying to pick it the hell up for the sake of your future generations, you’re obsessing over another person in another place that is enjoying a quality of life that you’ll never taste? You look crazy and deranged to anyone with even a child’s sense.
Generator fumes and your empty belly have apparently taken a toll on your sanity. I have nothing to do with your life being pitiful. Instead of harassing me, a woman that is a stranger to you, take your ass over and harass your male leaders that are squandering away all of your birthrights. I hate so called men who act like sissies and harass women while cowering to other men. Leave me alone and go fill potholes in the road or go build something.

naijainstinct:
lol. Funny how I was just urging her to also take your advise. Bro, my eyes see shege. Thank God for my wife. I will forever adore that woman. I lost moneyyyyyy.
My money, her money, money people entrusted with me. That 7m sef go be understatement. I used to receive monthly SMS charge debit of N4000+ just to show you the volume of my monthly debit transaction on gambling. I intend to write a book on my experience and how I overcame. I still feel the urge to gamble sometimes but when I think about how I almost slashed my own throat because I gave up on myself......Hmmm!