Beolly:


school fees for two children in secondary School pass 1 mill? Cut your coat according to your clothes. There are far cheaper quality school, that will give you value for money than the exorbitant ones.

JASONjnr:
Marriage is more than responsibilities...


Marriage is far from how you view and understand it.

Responsibilities is just a task. Marriage is a command from God.


I didn't understand marriage untill I planted a tomato at the backyard and I was always going every morning to observe and check for changes an watering it.

My friend thought it was all about watering it. But in real sense, it used to bring joy to me seeing that I was able to grow something and it was wonderful...

Need I say that I was stocking alot of it on the fridge and dashed some out? Later I also included pepper to the family and with eggs at home, I was always sure of a good breakfast....

The beautiful seeds the produced.



Like I said earlier....

Marriage isn't a responsibility.... If you're poor and stingy, you'll always have this mentality.

If you're not, you will enjoy its beauty!

Adexgentle005:
My brother I couldn’t believe I’ve spent 100k in just two months. Money for this, money for that. It’s really crazy out there! Sometimes I think about that too, is it not better to be single and have peace of mind?

seanwilliam:
God bless you . This shows that you’re a responsible man
Not all men are lucky to have women that ‘support’ financially, even if she does, you should not rely on that 100% .
Hmm. . But ehn 100k in two months as a married man is very fair o.


It’s far more easier to save as a single man.

How? When you’re single, you only spend what you want , you can ignore billings you’re not comfortable with , no one can compel u except you’re generous or a simp. infact you can decide to be extremely thrifty , and it’s more easier to adjust and adapt to any situation. You can decide to suspend morning and afternoon food, you can decide not to sub to cable, you can decide to even sleep if you have little change in your account. It’s easier to take risk and you’re open to different opportunities.

But when you’re married, it’s impossible to do all that. No matter how wicked you are , you can’t watch your own wife and kids go hungry , 90% of time , you’ll have to consider your family before taking any decisions.
Except you’re financial buoyant , you can’t just buy any cloths, shoes, for yourself. You can’t go to expensive restaurant without thinking about what to give your family the next day .


If you have money in your acct, you’ll still be scared , 70% of time you’ll be experiencing heart palpitations, you’ll not want them to lack.

Technically as a man, when you marry, you’ve given up your freedom and comfort for others.









That’s why , a man needs to be smart and ‘prayerful’ while choosing life partner , not all women worth these sacrifices.

Adexgentle005:
I could have kids without getting married. What’s meeting with expectations of life? And yes I would be a happier single man at my age. I’m still young!

Adexgentle005:
Tell me what’s more again than responsibilities?

Raalsalghul:


Nigeria happened to them.

Katcall:
how do you have sex?

Acidosis:


Yes, definitely. I'm definitely not comparing him or his spending pattern with anyone... But really, 100k in 2 months is 50k in one month.

50k will never be too much for a married anywhere in the current day Nigeria. Okada men spend more. The key word there is "current day Nigeria." By the time you buy cooking gas, pay bills (electricity, waste, security, and data), you're already going over 30k in one month so I'm wondering how he feeds his family.

seanwilliam:
God bless you . This shows that you’re a responsible man
Not all men are lucky to have women that ‘support’ financially, even if she does, you should not rely on that 100% .
Hmm. . But ehn 100k in two months as a married man is very fair o.


It’s far more easier to save as a single man.

How? When you’re single, you only spend what you want , you can ignore billings you’re not comfortable with , no one can compel u except you’re generous or a simp. infact you can decide to be extremely thrifty , and it’s more easier to adjust and adapt to any situation. You can decide to suspend morning and afternoon food, you can decide not to sub to cable, you can decide to even sleep if you have little change in your account. It’s easier to take risk and you’re open to different opportunities.

But when you’re married, it’s impossible to do all that. No matter how wicked you are , you can’t watch your own wife and kids go hungry , 90% of time , you’ll have to consider your family before taking any decisions.
Except you’re financial buoyant , you can’t just buy any cloths, shoes, for yourself. You can’t go to expensive restaurant without thinking about what to give your family the next day .


If you have money in your acct, you’ll still be scared , 70% of time you’ll be experiencing heart palpitations, you’ll not want them to lack.

Technically as a man, when you marry, you’ve given up your freedom and comfort for others.









That’s why , a man needs to be smart and ‘prayerful’ while choosing life partner , not all women worth these sacrifices.

Adexgentle005:
So how’s marriage more than just responsibilities when your family can’t even afford the basic necessity of life? Without money your marriage is dead on arrival. It won’t even make sense anymore and not having an understanding woman is even worse. You are own your own my brother. It sucks!

Hardcore11:
Jesus I'm scared

Adexgentle005:
😏What is actually sweet about marriage? What ridiculous decisions are you talking about? Ridiculous decision is that I got married or what? I bet you are not even in a relationship talk more of thinking of getting married. You don’t know shit bro.

IyaebeTheGreat:
I'm 60+ and you should be asking about my grandchildren

thunderbabs:


What's your advice for the unlucky brothers who marry wrong fits? You know how these things can be. Majority of married men are having it rough.

Kobojunkie:

2. You are still lying to yourself! You don't want to accept that the reason your marriage is the way it seems to you has primarily to do with the fact that you chose to strangle yourself with the rope called hypogamy, simple.

stevups:



I'm made to tell you, you don't know what you are saying. If you remove responsibility from marriage nothing remains... absolutely nothing!

sslcrypt:


You live in fantansy land, for a place like Nigeria I can say I have resided here long enough to conclude marriage definition here is all about bills. The populace is significantly poor due to terrible minimum wage and bad welfare, which is no existence. Couple that with poor infrastructure and security, marriage can only be equated to more like financial transaction. I have helped lots of couples who are friends with my wife and I have seen many marriages always on the verge due to lack of financial stability. So author the thread is absolutely correct.

JASONjnr:


You just profiled the entire women... O'wrong

I've met women that will go broke with you and ensure that things work out.

Not all women stand up to abuse men... Some also go out to cut on the house expenses to bring back a balance.

If you go and marry a woman that never loved you had made it clear she wasn't going to suffer and you tmdidnt know what it means ..then that is far from the discussion.

JASONjnr:
Marriage is more than responsibilities...


Marriage is far from how you view and understand it.

Responsibilities is just a task. Marriage is a command from God.


I didn't understand marriage untill I planted a tomato at the backyard and I was always going every morning to observe and check for changes an watering it.

My friend thought it was all about watering it. But in real sense, it used to bring joy to me seeing that I was able to grow something and it was wonderful...

Need I say that I was stocking alot of it on the fridge and dashed some out? Later I also included pepper to the family and with eggs at home, I was always sure of a good breakfast....

The beautiful seeds the produced.



Like I said earlier....

Marriage isn't a responsibility.... If you're poor and stingy, you'll always have this mentality.

If you're not, you will enjoy its beauty!

Akalia:
If na only 100k you spent in 2 months then your expenditure isn't high.

Bro I blow like over 200k every month as a family man. It's a huge responsibility and I am glad shouldering it by God's grace.


I think what we married men need to is to support our wives to start a business or get a job so that they too can contribute. After all the Bible calls a man's wife a help mate. Abi no be so?

joyousever:
And which religion said it's compulsory to get married or an abomination to have kids outside marriage? In Christianity, where is it recorded that one MUST get married?

djon78:



Bro shoe get size
What of the ones that pay 2-3 mill a term.

Forget the quality of education gotten can't be compared to cheaper ones

Still parents are paying them

Prayer na make God steady bless hustle so these kinds of expenses are easily met.

We never talk summer holidays oo
Taking 4 children with there mum for summer vacation to the UK, or US or Dubai how much alone you think there air ticket alone go cost? Still men dey run am for this street

Just pray Baba God to double your hustle

To be a man no be a days job

Adexgentle005:
How is marriage more than responsibilities? Go broke and watch how your wife disrespect you and call you all kind of names. Then you will know marriage is not more than responsibilities.

pocohantas:


I was shocked to see the 100k but I restrained myself because fingers are not equal. I am not sure I can do 50k in a month _less than $100. Maybe that is why I am a gold-digger. I wouldn’t like my husband to create thread over 50k a month. 😩

horlahwaley:
as in comparing my spending patterns to his, i can say i am actually doing good as a bachelor. Spend a minimum of 2.5k daily only for feeding excluding data and clothing. I am even considering marriage these days. Do you think the expenses for feeding will reduce when one gets married?

Acidosis:


Are you kidding? 100k in two months and you're complaining? Guy! 😃

Ishilove:

Adexgentle005:
My brother I couldn’t believe I’ve spent 100k in just two months. Money for this, money for that. It’s really crazy out there! Sometimes I think about that too, is it not better to be single and have peace of mind?