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Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by virginboy1(m): 6:19pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
TheMaterialist: In a society were standard of living is very poor, how do one expects family units to thrive. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by virginboy1(m): 7:11pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
FromTopToBottom: Word!!! |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by virginboy1(m): 7:33pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
tete7000:Let's be fair to some extent, you can't compare those days to these days. It's extremely choking now... |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by Kobojunkiee: 8:46pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
jaxxy:Dating and marriage has always been traditionally a poverty alleviation scheme where the man offers the woman the benefit of carrying out all of her financial needs and responsibilities in exchange for her submission. Why you have yet to realize these things is the reason why a lot out there are struggling as far as making a decision on your relationship paths in life. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by jaxxy(m): 9:32pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee: when u date broke girls this is the mindset u unconsciously and arrogantly bt naively adopt to the detriment of safety while providing u with a false marriage security when infact u are seen as nothing more than a paycheck not a human. based on the personality I seek in girls I have dated mostly independent girls and maybe due to the fact I didn't grow up around hungry dependent girls and neither to I have a dependent mindset myself I don't usually get attracted to girls who are lazy and searching vigorously for sm1 to depend on financially. its a red flag for anything genuine and a turn off until I see reasons to feel otherwise. if a girl needs needs money or financal security I would rather help her on a neutral ground or a strictly business grounds bt love will never be in that picture because that's not how love works as far as I'm concerned. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by Nobody: 1:20pm On Apr 21, 2023 |
virginboy1: Poor people are more likely to give birth to more children. In a capitalist society, the best way to become rich is to become a Producer, instead of consuming mindlessly. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by Probz(m): 7:55pm On Sep 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee: Spoken like a true never-left-the-village person. |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by Kobojunkiee: 9:11pm On Sep 04, 2023 |
Probz: |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by Probz(m): 11:49pm On Sep 04, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee: Get out of my sight. |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by BigBashiru: 1:16am On Nov 09, 2023 |
Are your children not special? Didn’t you get those children through marriage? It’s not all about having kids but meeting with expectations of life. Would you be a happier man single at your age? Children aren't special because according to the Holy Books, all human beings are born with a sin nature and that the heart of man (including babies) is evil and desperately wicked - who can know it? |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by BigBashiru: 1:22am On Nov 09, 2023 |
jaxxy: You said "dated" independent girls. The independent girls don't need marriage.....if they getting married it's either being out of religious convictions (even then they do it when they want not when you want) or because they value more permanent companionship (don't forget they hv had bfs in their earlier life)... |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by francisobiabo(m): 7:24am On Nov 09, 2023 |
Could you debunk his views/opinion with relevant point. You are free to air your view which may be borne out of a superior reasoning. Thank you Probz: |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by jaxxy(m): 8:02am On Nov 09, 2023 |
BigBashiru: an independent girl doesn't have to be problematic, rude or difficult like some of u imagine in ur heads. yes some are bt same ways there are broke girls that are rude and ridiculous. The only difference is some of the rude broke/dependent girls can be controlled with ur money which in truth is only being delusional cos anytime they have the upper hand their real selves will show up and shock u. I rather date and deal with people being their authentic self. marriage is not Nollywood acting. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by Nobody: 8:20am On Nov 09, 2023 |
Bonnywest: Yes. Society expectations unconsciously force am to marry |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by kkins25(m): 12:02am On Nov 10, 2023 |
But who force you to marry na? You guys sometimes think like robots. You live life on one simple formula. If age > 30; marry. if married; give birth to children. In this formula, no considerations for state of economy, no financial plan, no retirement plan, no nada. All in the name of "We don't know what God will do." You can marry and enjoy the sex that drove you to marry without accumulating more expenses (children)... Don't rush to give birth, but una no go hear. But naija man, you always want the woman to leave her work and move in with you without a plan. All on "God will provide." If both of you were employed, sebi you wouldn't need to split your paycheck into six. naaaa.... You guys like to pepper you neighbor. You've gone to rent a house with rent that's draining you financially and mentally. You've quickly pump seed into your wife, so, now she can't work. Plus, it'll be difficult to get back. Go and find one bridge, take a dive down, and enjoy the blurry sky-view from the bottom of the river. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by Probz(m): 1:20am On Nov 10, 2023 |
francisobiabo: Leave the village. See the world a little more. Then you won’t need to ask. |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by Nobody: 3:29pm On Nov 10, 2023 |
Probz: What is wrong with being in the village. I have seen the world and now crave the village life so badly. |
Re: Marriage Is Just all About Responsibility, Nothing Special. by Probz(m): 3:42pm On Nov 10, 2023 |
Skyview01: Difference being you’ve seen the world. Nothing wrong with the village but certain colonial inherited biases won’t be unchecked until you allow yourself gain a new perspective on life. See how the version of marriage they’re idealising isn’t a reality, a practicality or even a desirability elsewhere in the world. It does have to be said. |
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