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I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by UYEMDO35(m): 5:16pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
Please bear with my grammatical errors In a couple of months, I will be turning 27 and I feel am far behind my mate and I'm not successful with whatever I choose to do.... No achievement to boast of, I already feel like a failure, some times I goes into depression because of the huge responsibility ahead of me.... When I was 18yrs, I was so sure of what I was going to become but as time goes on everything started falling apart. My story goes dis way..... I believe I have been living my life for the sake of my Dad.... Who has always been in control of everything concerning me.... While growing up at the early stage of my life Dad and my late stepmom were very strict on us..( I and my brother), I have always live a life of fear... We were never permitted to have friends not even associating with my distance relatives Because dey see them as evil. I was never social and I live a boring life throughout even getting to dis present stage. I have always been a loyal son to my Dad, always submissive and obedient to him. Even the school I went to, it was my Dad's choice.on getting there i got to discover it was a part-time programme instead of Full-time, I informed Dad about it and he instructed me to continue with it.since am not the one paying for my school fees. I knew I was never going to do well because I was too young to put in for part-time program... I believe part-time is meant for the working class people..... Fast-forward I graduated and it's been a year that I've been waiting to obtain my statement of result. And according to a friend of mine, he told me it might take up to 3years before it will be ready and I think it's just too much. I'm begining to lose patience. As soon as i rounded up my studies, Dad ask me to come home... And now, here I'm with Dem. Things has been very rough for me ever since I came back home, I'm Just stranded always indoor, no freedom to do whatever I want to do. Few days back i went to check what I can lay my hands to do just to get little cash, At least to maintain myself and take care of some of my essential needs but when I came back home, I was been caution to mind the way I go out otherwise it won't be funny. {Just imagine} At dis stage when am supposed to be totally independent am still asking my Dad to give me money to have my haircut, to buy boxers ,foot wears and so on. Sometimes I get insulted before been given. When I was in school Dad married without my consent on returning home..... My stepmom now looks down on me as a failure including my younger siblings..... I'm just tired of everything .... I have always try not to apply force so that I won't messed up everything for myself.i try not to do anything illegal in other to keep my good reputation but Right now, I want to stand out and become the best version of myself.... I don't mind going extra mice just to achieve my purpose.... If I don't make a choice now, I will be kicked out from the house anything soon....and I believe my step mom is working towards that becuz she sees me as an obstacles to d house. My Dad is an influential person he has promised to secure a job for me by d time my result would be out and how long do I need to wait.... But I think that's just am empty promise becuz a time will come when he will force me to lve his house. And right now. I'm tired of saying thank u ma thank you sir..... It's just too much me and I believe anytime soon dey might even as me to start watching plate...... I think I'm a loser already and Right now am considering leaving the house at least to start from some where. |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:24pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
UYEMDO35: you can either A) follow what your father wants you to do and blame him for whats happening to you OR B) do what you want to do with your life and accept the consequences of such action. good luck in your choice, but tremember to stay away from p0rn video and/or always lock your phone, lol!! |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by GboyegaD(m): 5:28pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
What school was it and what program did you do? Why is it taking years to get your statement of result? Until you know what is delaying the results, it is very difficult to advise you. In the meantime, if you are a social science student who is cool with been an accountant, you can register for and complete the ACCA in three years which gives you a BSc from Oxford Brookes University and also, a professional certificate that is widely accepted both in Nigeria and Overseas. 1 Like |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by UYEMDO35(m): 5:35pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
MrBrownJay1:thanks bro. But what does porn video got to do with dis.... 😡😡😡😡. I no like ham. 1 Like |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:39pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
UYEMDO35: are you not the one a few days ago that told us your story of getting busted with p0rn on your phone? 2 Likes |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by Neverslumber(f): 5:40pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
Don't kill yourself over what you see on social media 1 Like |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by UYEMDO35(m): 5:46pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
GboyegaD:Yah! I'm a social science student and i study political science/edu..... I really don't know why d result is taking long to be released. |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by UYEMDO35(m): 5:49pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
MrBrownJay1:Yah! But I don't watch it, dey only saw it on my phone. |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by GboyegaD(m): 5:50pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
UYEMDO35: Were you the only one in your program? Have others gotten their results? At this time, you can either petition the university to the Nigerian University Commission or take them to court. 1 Like |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by UYEMDO35(m): 5:55pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
GboyegaD:Well! I'm not the only student that took part on that program. I and my fellow colleagues are still waiting patiently for the result. |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by GboyegaD(m): 5:57pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
UYEMDO35: You guys should take action. It seems you guys feel the school is doing you a favor or how do you explain you graduated and your result is yet to be collated and released? 2 Likes |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:59pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
UYEMDO35: i guess you dont watch p0rn but p0rn appeared on your phone by miracle, abi?! 2 Likes |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by UYEMDO35(m): 6:03pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
MrBrownJay1:May God have mercy on you |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by UYEMDO35(m): 6:05pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
GboyegaD:Thank you, sir..... I think I need to inform my colleagues so that we could take necessary action. |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:06pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
UYEMDO35: 3 Likes |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by Samsunny99: 8:14pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
Omo I no fit read that long epistle My two Kobo na live life your way though rightly life no be competition and remember self development |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by easytig(m): 9:14pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
Try and be more social to people both guys and girls mostly in your age bracket,even if they snub you ,just smile and greet them again,just warm up to people in church or mosque,a little greetings here and there, don't toast d girls,just compliment them and introduce yourself ,be friendly,dress well,smell nice,can you drive,if not try learning,the earlier the better.you are young,pick interest in a lot of things.by the way what tribe are you. 1 Like |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by Brownshoe: 9:20pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
Sue them to court. |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by Kobojunkie: 9:30pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
UYEMDO35:1. Do you mean you literally sit home all day doing nothing at this age? 1 Like |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by UYEMDO35(m): 10:13pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Yes ooo. |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by Kobojunkie: 10:22pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
UYEMDO35:So, you were also at home doing nothing when you created this other thread? https://www.nairaland.com/7347149/decided-accept-new-changes-place#116922302 1 Like |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by UYEMDO35(m): 10:29pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Actually I created that thread when I was still in school, I was into teaching den... And as soon as I rounded up my program, I had to quit and come back home. |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by UYEMDO35(m): 10:32pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
easytig:Thank you,sir. dis is really helpful. I'm a native of Akwa ibom. |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by Kobojunkie: 10:38pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
UYEMDO35:1. You had to quit or you chose to quit so you could go back home and curl up in the safety of home? Tell the honest truth at least to yourself in this. 1 Like |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by UYEMDO35(m): 10:46pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:You no serious, English na ur mate. I chose to quit becuz Dad wanted me to come home and I thought maybe when I come over I might see a job that's far better than the one I was into. |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by Kobojunkie: 11:00pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
UYEMDO35:1. Did your dad promise you that he had a job waiting at home for you or something? By the way, I do not think or reason as you do so from where I sit, you seem to prefer to heap the blame for your many bad decisions on your dad. This bad decision, for example, you blame your father when you admit to quitting the job you had on hand without first making sure you had another to fall back on. |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by UYEMDO35(m): 11:32pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Actually Dad as been sending me feeding money while in school and due to much responsibility he's shouldering he had no choice than to ask me to return.... Though! I blame my Dad for not giving me the freedom that I deserve. My Dad is a kind of person that doesn't want is children to far away from home so that's why I had to oblige and come over. Although, the money I was receiving at my place of work can't even cover-up some of my needs that is why I chose to quit. My Dad is not always at home and that makes it very complicating for me becuz I would have sit him down and tell him my next plan |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by Kobojunkie: 11:40pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
UYEMDO35:1. According to you, you had a job and hence freedom but you chose to give it up in order to return home to your Dad. I don't understand exactly how you expect freedom to be given to you when it instead seems you ain't ready for it, and this from your own action. 2. Why does your dad need to be at home and why do you feel you need to run your plans by him? I really don't get it. Here's a question I need to ask at this point in order that I make sure I am not creating problems where for you here.... are you developmentally challenged? |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by UYEMDO35(m): 11:51pm On Mar 28, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:I'm sound and healthy |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by Kobojunkie: 12:14am On Mar 29, 2023 |
UYEMDO35:1. My diagnosis is you need to do some serious work on your ability to critically reason your life, your situation, and resolve as an individual so you can better comprehend your situation as you actually ought to. Since you are able to access the internet, then I suggest you start by downloading a copy of books on the subject of logical/critical reasoning/thinking so you can begin to grow your mind and as such become able to logically analyze your decisions, and the world around you, including your life. I recommend you begin with the book Being Logical because it is tailored to the beginner. There are other books out there on the very same subject, and I have taken the time to list other recommendations. All of these books are available for download from PDfDrive.com, and I believe they will be of great benefit to you. As you read through each, endeavor to put into practice everything you learn towards critically reasoning your many day-to-day issues. The key is to put into regular(continuous) practice what you learn so you become a more logical being than you are today. ■Being Logical ■The Art of Thinking in Systems ■A Practical Guide to Critical Thinking and Deciding What to Do and Believe ■A Rulebook For Arguments ■A Workbook For Arguments ■Critical Thinking and Problem Solving ■The Art and Craft of Problem Solving Download the first book today, and start off right away. Since you say you do nothing all day, devoting the entire month of April to this endeavor will be a good place to start. After you have worked hard at this task, you can come back by the end of April to maybe ask your question again — create a whole new thread and OP argument — to show you have critically reasoned your situation and maybe come to a better understanding of how you got to be where you are today. |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by frozen70(f): 12:53am On Mar 29, 2023 |
UYEMDO35: Just be a little bit patience and loyal to your family Meanwhile discus with him that you want to learn a trade while waiting for your result He will reason with you As for your step mum, she us in the position to make things difficult for you and to make things easier for you in that family All you need is avoid argument or issues with her |
Re: I Feel I'm Far Behind My Mate, Will Turned 27 In Months Time by Hypnotise: 5:54am On Mar 29, 2023 |
Go and learn how to barb hair |
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