guys go for your spec, don't let love deceive you, love is not everything... there's more to life.poverty sometimes is contagious.
If you have a leech as a girlfriend that's poor and jobless , you will hardly see opportunities.The world has changed

Good talk

Goodlady:
Good talk

thanks

I'm tired of all these motivational talks abeg I don't need to date any girl to push myself. They nothing but unnecessary distraction.

I guess u are still single or doesn't have any experience yet ..

It doesn't matter u can date a working class woman and yet will not contribute 1 naira to assist the home and yet u can date a poor lady and doors will open for u until u invest her too and she will assist u and both of you will be successful later one..


Go and verify dating a working doesn't determine if a man will enjoy or have a peaceful or successful home

Ashawoman82:

Guys it's high time we knew our self worth..you are a hustling dude, let's say u earn 100-150k and u are trying to grow, why should u date a poor girl that earns nothing, why can't u go for your class, at least a working class that earns as little as 70k.
This is the problem most of we guys have, rather than date women with prospect that could open doors for us and be very supportive, you choose to date poor woman that would bring all her poor family issues for you to solve, why won't u be poor forever..
The little income u could save and invest or use to get some certifications, build your skills or even start a small scale business, you'll be spending all in your poor girlfriend, how would u ever succeed eh...
If you don't maximize your potential by associating with like minds or people far better than you, my dear you will never succeed.

guys go for your spec, don't let love deceive you, love is not everything... there's more to life.poverty sometimes is contagious.
If you have a leech as a girlfriend that's poor and jobless , you will hardly see opportunities.The world has changed

Working class or not all of them are the same the only God can give you a good wife .
Nigeria woman are very greedy to them self . They were born with the mentality men most do everything for them even the rich actresses still do sugar daddy and politicians for more money . Just pray you meet a woman that will appreciate anything you do for her and she also as human sympathy to support you with out asking her to do it . I done Taya for naija woman . Why are they like that now.

Tayorshd87:
I guess u are still single or doesn't have any experience yet ..

It doesn't matter u can date a working class woman and yet will not contribute 1 naira to assist the home and yet u can date a poor lady and doors will open for u until u invest her too and she will assist u and both of you will be successful later one..


Go and verify dating a working doesn't determine if a man will enjoy or have a peaceful or successful home

if u read my post well, you should have understood stood it better, i said the supportive type,not just working class ..u guys should learn to understand posts ...how many percentage of ppl do Thier poor wife or girlfriend open doors for ? I'm just being logical here.

Sammy101111:
Working class or not all of them are the same the only God can give you a good wife .
Nigeria woman are very greedy to them self . They were born with the mentality men most do everything for them even the rich actresses still do sugar daddy and politicians for more money . Just pray you meet a woman that will appreciate anything you do for her and she also as human sympathy to support you with out asking her to do it . I done Taya for naija woman. Why are they like that now.

You made some sense though.

Point of Correction, They were not born with Entitlement Mentality. But Nigerian men mould them to be that way.

It's a good thing to care for females but it shouldn't be at the detriment of the male or should be an entitlement thing.

Tutor them on how to appreciate VALUEs, Let them also go through the process of creating VALUEs so they will have first hand experience.

Nigerian men have to start doing it in a way that even the Female themselves will be ones praising and appreciate you people for your little efforts.

A lot of Nigerian men from all class have lowself esteem and the only thing they woo their women with is MONEY.

Until you men start retracing your steps by doing the needful. You will keep building a useless valueless society and The Menace will keep growing.

As a masculine man, your motivation should not come from a woman. Take your inspiration from higher entities.

Anunakeeh:


You made some sense though.

Point of Correction, They were not born with Entitlement Mentality. But you Stupid Nigerian men mould them to be that way.

It's a good thing to care for females but it shouldn't be at the detriment of the male or should be an entitlement thing.

Tutor them on how to appreciate VALUEs, Let them also go through the process of creating VALUEs so they will have first hand experience.

You nigerian men have to start doing it in a way that even the Female themselves will be ones who will start to praising and appreciate you people for your little efforts.

A lot of Nigerian men from all class have lowself esteem and the only thing they woo their women with is MONEY.

Until you men start retracing your steps by doing the needful. You will keep building a useless valueless society and The Menace will keep growing.

No vex

I don shout tire for here, but many no de listen. They spoil women finish, then wonder why they can't wife them up.

I don tell men tire, be strategically greedy. Let her call you stingy, it's better than been called a maga. Because as a person that have been loved by multiple women, I never spent at all.

Infact, she don't want your money because she wants to pass a good impression that she is not a leech, which is good. But the ones that are money hungry and show it don't like you, she doesn't care if he leaves.

The money he is giving is the only thing that makes her tolerate him. How some men disrespect themselves to be in this kind of useless Union baffles my soul. Do you hate yourself Mr man?

As e dey pain you, na so e de pain me. But Naija men has laid their bed. Make them lie on top am.

Ashawoman82:
if u read my post well, you should have stood it better, i said the supportive type,not just working class ..u guys should learn to understand posts ...how many percentage of ppl do Thier poor wife or girlfriend open doors for them ? I'm just being logical here.

Great I love your invaluable responds ☺️

In all it depends on individual fate and what works for Mr A may not work for Mr B ..
That's d ironu of life

Some are already angry be ause they married reckless poverty stricken liabilities.

No apology to that. This nairaland wey tribalist fool. Even if u write something wey make sense,if ur name no conform to their tribe,they will start talking like drunkards and even abusing u.

Whether they like it or not, there is no gain in marrying a liability.
It is simply a drawback.

Very good talk but at the same time it does not count, make God just dey help us.

Tayorshd87:


Great I love your invaluable responds ☺️

In all it depends on individual fate and what works for Mr A may not work for Mr B ..
That's d ironu of life

sure, but all things being equal, a struggling guy should avoid dating poor girls, girls that are so poor that unwill have to provide basic things for them, it's that bad .

You're very correct op.

In this time and age, no smart guy would marry a lady from a poor background. Even if her family is poor, she must have worked herself out of that poverty gene before she can be considered for marriage.

Guys should stop inheriting and spreading poverty genes from poverty-stricken ladies! A word is enough for the wise.

Ashawoman82:
sure, but all things being equal, a struggling guy should avoid dating poor girls, girls that are so poor that unwill have to provide basic things for them, it's that bad .

You are absolutely right

Well, as a hustling dude, I agree with that. However, as a made man, go for the lady without anything yet to her profile.

That is what Seatrade said o, not me. I am only spreading his gospel.

Gerrard59:
Well, as a hustling dude, I agree with that. However, as a made man, go for the lady without anything yet to her profile.

That is what Seatrade said o, not me. I am only spreading his gospel.

Its true.
There's many advantages and sweetness in marrying a woman that's a woman,not the ones that survival has made them become men!
Most ladies that are earning well have lost touch with their femininity which is what a man looks for in a woman,amongst other attributes.
This is why it's very hard to stay in longterm relationships with such women unless you bring yourself very low in you're in similar income brackets or you're way way higher than her in the food chain,which subconciously command her respect.
But then again,if you've attained such level,what are you doing with her in the first place?
Working women are for struggling men,Period.

Ibechris2:
Some are already angry be ause they married reckless poverty stricken liabilities.

No apology to that. This nairaland wey tribalist fool. Even if u write something wey make sense,if ur name no conform to their tribe,they will start talking like drunkards and even abusing u.

Whether they like it or not, there is no gain in marrying a liability.
It is simply a drawback.

Because you're still in survival mode,that's why you trade femininity for earning potential for fear of the unknown and expenses and livelihood support in the home.
When you get sure of your stand,you won't say this anymore ..
Survival race makes compromising situations look like prizes.

SeaTrade:
Its true.
There's many advantages and sweetness in marrying a woman that's a woman, not the ones that survival has made them become men!
Most ladies that are earning well have lost touch with their femininity which is what a man looks for in a woman, amongst other attributes.
This is why it's very hard to stay in longterm relationships with such women unless you bring yourself very low in you're in similar income brackets or you're way way higher than her in the food chain,which subconciously command her respect.
But then again,if you've attained such level,what are you doing with her in the first place?
Working women are for struggling men,Period.

The poverty situation in Nigeria made it so. In prosperous countries where work plenty, the ladies don't exhibit such traits, at least in most of their lives.

SeaTrade:
Its true.
There's many advantages and sweetness in marrying a woman that's a woman,not the ones that survival has made them become men!

Most ladies that are earning well have lost touch with their femininity which is what a man looks for in a woman,amongst other attributes.

This is why it's very hard to stay in longterm relationships with such women unless you bring yourself very low in you're in similar income brackets or you're way way higher than her in the food chain,which subconciously command her respect.
But then again,if you've attained such level,what are you doing with her in the first place?
Working women are for struggling men,Period.

This is just my reservation with the topic.

In Nigeria, a man stands a high chance of success with a struggling woman than a made one.

Success brings out the bad side of many of our women for reasons I don't understand.

This Nigeria wahala just too much.

Gerrard59:


The poverty situation in Nigeria made it so. In prosperous countries where work plenty, the ladies don't exhibit such traits, at least in most of their lives.

I've been to a lot of places and trust me,it's a pattern.
You are saying work plenty, you think nursing ,care,warehouse,dental assistant,cubicle wonder and some basic skilled jobs are considered good jobs in those countries brackets?
A lot of women you've met there are just getting by hence has no reason to be arrogant.
Try and date the ones untop of their corporate game and come back.
Dey play.
Except the ones that are from very wealthy families and have had it soft from birth,you're likely to find similar behaviours to their naija counterparts.

Anunakeeh:


You made some sense though.

Point of Correction, They were not born with Entitlement Mentality. But Nigerian men mould them to be that way.

It's a good thing to care for females but it shouldn't be at the detriment of the male or should be an entitlement thing.

Tutor them on how to appreciate VALUEs, Let them also go through the process of creating VALUEs so they will have first hand experience.

Nigerian men have to start doing it in a way that even the Female themselves will be ones who will start to praising and appreciate you people for your little efforts.

A lot of Nigerian men from all class have lowself esteem and the only thing they woo their women with is MONEY.

Until you men start retracing your steps by doing the needful. You will keep building a useless valueless society and The Menace will keep growing.

Read the bolded very well and listen to how you sound, These has nothing to do with low esteem, stop making it look as if the men are the cause and the women are victims, which Nigerian woman would pay attention to a man wooing her when the man has no shishi?

So what happens to the women that earns little or more above us?
We shouldn't go for them ? Or they'll turn us to house boi.

Meh just Bleep and have kids, I won't even advice my worst enemies to marry these modern gals, especially the ones in school (not saying all are bad, but 95% of them are wash).
But men are the problem, the moment a nigga start making little bucks, he remembers that Angela has big boobs, Cynthia can ride for Africa, all manner of rubbish starts running through he's head.

If you see a hardworking girl (either trying to make it or trying to topup her parents' 'We've-made-it'),you'll leave her cuz she has no ass,boobs,expensive wigs,etc.To you,she's not modern,she's not a big girl.
You'll refuse to see the reason she's not doing all that even though she's earning money.
You'll refuse to see the demand her future is demanding at that particular stage in her life and leave her,then go for the one that's looking for any available guy to rip and sustain her big girl life.
When she's then done with you,you'll 'Nigerian-girls' everywhere thinking every girls are the same.
Y'all need to mind how u bash ladies.
A lady earning even 100k can still be in poverty and make you poor too and a 'Poor lady' can be very rich with just a little help and make you very rich too.You guys need to stop dating Lazy girls and those with rotten mentality of 'I am a woman,na man go marry me'.That will help you guys show respect to ladies where its necessary.
Just know who and what you're dealing with.

Ashawoman82:

Guys it's high time we knew our self worth..you are a hustling dude, let's say u earn 100-150k and u are trying to grow, why should u date a poor girl that earns nothing, why can't u go for your class, at least a working class that earns as little as 70k.
This is the problem most of we guys have, rather than date women with prospect that could open doors for us and be very supportive, you choose to date poor woman that would bring all her poor family issues for you to solve, why won't u be poor forever..
The little income u could save and invest or use to get some certifications, build your skills or even start a small scale business, you'll be spending all in your poor girlfriend, how would u ever succeed eh...
If you don't maximize your potential by associating with like minds or people far better than you, my dear you will never succeed.

guys go for your spec, don't let love deceive you, love is not everything... there's more to life.poverty sometimes is contagious.
If you have a leech as a girlfriend that's poor and jobless , you will hardly see opportunities.The world has changed

Lots of sense....