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luminouz:
And so?

You are her Christ the Redeemer? Her Superman or Batman to the rescue?

What brings Christ into this Matter?
Boy,you need to reason and moreover nobody is forcing any man to marry a single mother

SIONKPO1:
Brother,Would you think same if your sister has a child and she is single?
We shouldn't discriminate against single mothers,thou they have their flaws

If my sister is a single mom, I would love her regardless because she is my blood but I wouldn't advise anyone to marry her. She knows that already

SIONKPO1:
What brings Christ into this Matter?
Boy,you need to reason and moreover nobody is forcing any man to marry a single mother

Yen yen yen!!!

You don't know women like I do. That woman with.two boys is no saint. Unless the father of those kids are dead, nothing justifies his choice as a single guy to marry her in my opinion. She may be the greatest woman in the world but popping out two boys for another man already told me okafor's law will always happen

luminouz:
If my sister is a single mom, I would love her regardless because she is my blood but I wouldn't advise anyone to marry her. She knows that already

Let be be so
What if your daughter is a single mother,would you still advice any man not to marry your daughter ?

luminouz:
Yen yen yen!!!

You don't know women like I do. That woman with.two boys is no saint. Unless the father of those kids are dead, nothing justifies his choice as a single guy to marry her in my opinion. She may be the greatest woman in the world but popping out two boys for another man already told me okafor's law will always happen

Don't bring Christ into this matter,A woman having child(Ren)might have messed up but that doesn't mean that she can't pick up her life

SIONKPO1:
Let be be so
What if your daughter is a single mother,would you still advice any man not to marry your daughter ?

Even if you use my mother, my answer stays same.

SIONKPO1:
Don't bring Christ into this matter,A woman having child(Ren)might have messed up but that doesn't mean that she can't pick up her life

I have brought Christ to it and I want Christ in it. Since you love the woman so much, call OP and marry her yourself. Shikena

I'm getting bored with you. And I hate getting bored with anyone.

luminouz:
I have brought Christ to it and I want Christ in it. Since you love the woman so much, call OP and marry her yourself. Shikena

I'm getting bored with you. And I hate getting bored with anyone.

Your Opinion not mine but stop the discrimination.
We Blacks are quick at criticizing whites of discrimination but it is more amongst us.

SIONKPO1:
Your Opinion not mine but stop the discrimination.
We Blacks are quick at criticizing whites of discrimination but it is more amongst us.

I told you to go ahead and marry her since I won't and OP won't. I pity your life. I trust you have sisters and mom...they will reformat your brain quick when you bring her home.

The most haters of single moms are women in the prospective husband's family.

Bro run.

luminouz:
I told you to go ahead and marry her since I won't and OP won't. I pity your life. I trust you have sisters and mom...they will reformat your brain quick when you bring her home.

The most haters of single moms are women in the prospective husband's family.

Okay,

SIONKPO1:
Brother,Would you think same if your sister has a child and she is single?
We shouldn't discriminate against single mothers,thou they have their flaws

The way my siblings and I were brought up eh, you are on your own should such decisions be taken. Not one, but two? Ah

We were trained that actions have good or bad consequences, and you alone would face them.

There is condom, abortion and postinor.

Gerrard59:
The way my siblings and I were brought up eh, you are on your own should such decisions be taken. Not one, but two? Ah

We were trained that actions have good or bad consequences, and you alone would face them.

There is condom, abortion and postinor.

I accept,condom is not 100%,Abortion is not adviceable,postinor has side effects.
Getting pregnant before marriage is bad but we shouldn't discriminate against them

Single mother?

Your bondage is loading

SundayNightGist:
It all started one bright Tuesday morning as I was ruhing to my office aelt Egbeda from Igandko. I happened to sit beside this beautiful young lady. From her looks, if anyone had told me the real identity of who I was seated beside, I would never ever have believed. This lady looked plum, fair, fresh, sexy, and classy- but most of all, she looked young- like someone in her late twenties.

As the danfo we boarded took off shakily due to age, I adjusted a little to balance well as I was seated by the door with the conductor hanging beside me. But I was uncomfortable still even after all the adjustments I made. The funny thing though is that this discomfort for me was coming from within and not as a result of the rickety bus I was in. And guess what? It was all caused by this beautiful angel seated right beside me.

So after so much fear of possible rejection and so many back-and-forths with self-talk within me, I finally manned up and decided to start talking to her. No, I did not say hi first. I simply used the popular traffic situation on that axis to make my entry.

Shockingly, she responded quite well! I was excited and continued chatting with her till I got to my bus stop at Pipeline. Our conversation went so well that it was unbelievably easy for me to collect her number. Somehow, I noticed she was happy to meet me too.

But funny me still found it hard to reach out to her afterward. It took me three whole weeks after we met inside that bus to sum up the courage to call her. To my surprise, she was not offended at all. In fact, she just laughed it off and made me feel so free talking to her over the phone.

One thing sha led to the other from there and we started seeing each other often. Only for her to confess to me that she is a single mom of two boys. She is twenty-eight. I have grown to love her so much as she pampers me a lot. In fact, she even spends her money on me at times, buying me gifts I never asked for. She wants to finish me with love. Anytime I try to refuse her gifts, stating that I am the man and the one who is even supposed to be spending more on her, she will get offended so much so that she might even not talk to me for days. I do feel pity for her doing all these but she seems to love me even more than I love her.

After dating her for a little over a year now, she's saying she wants us to settle down together but I'm having serious concerns about settling down with her.

In fact, my friends do tell me that I have hit the jackpot of true love and I'm tempted to believe them myself, just that I have reservations about her being a single mom. Now, before you judge me, here are the reasons why I'm worried about agreeing to settle down with her:

1) What if she's been pretending all along just to get me to marry her? What if what she really wants is a man who will train and provide for her and her two sons, hence the reason for her submission and endless show of love… Also, why did her baby daddy leave her if she has been the good woman she's assuring me of being?
2) What if her baby daddy decides to return one day and have his way again? Won't I be the one to lose out in the end? Okafor’s law on my mind right now
3) She may never have true intimate connection with me in the long-run
4) And her sons, what if they grow up to hate me?
5) What if she's just using me to get back at her baby daddy? (To make him jealous)

Or is something wrong with me? Is this an opportunity of a lifetime I'm about to throw away just like that? I'm seriously bothered. Please advise a brother.

SIONKPO1:
I accept,condom is not 100%,Abortion is not adviceable,postinor has side effects.
Getting pregnant before marriage is bad but we shouldn't discriminate against them

The deed - pregnancy - has been done, but the consequences are socially and economically terrible. Pregnancy affects women, whether unmarried or married, way more than men. There are options for preventing a child from being born. If those options are not utilised, anything she sees, she should take it like that.

People need to be held accountable for their actions. That is an important aspect of responsible living.

Bro, don't do it. Run for your life. Getting married to single mothers will never go well. Unless you are not man enough. Tow kids yet she is single. If it's just one kid, I might say maybe the first one was by mistake.

Now let me tell you this. Do you think you are the first guy to chop her? I have come to notice that most single moms are submissive when dealing with single guys. And some guys have noticed that and they are taking advantage of thier situation.

Some of hates men after many men have taken advantage of them. I wonder what happened in her situation. 🤔

Gerrard59:
The deed - pregnancy - has been done, but the consequences are socially and economically terrible. Pregnancy affects women, whether unmarried or married, way more than men. There are options for preventing a child from being born. If those options are not utilised, anything she sees, she should take it like that.

People need to be held accountable for their actions. That is an important aspect of responsible living.

Yeah,you are absolutely correct.
Ladies really needs to be enlightened on prevention of unplanned pregnancies

Op, what's the name of the Lady?
I wan confirm something.

IkeIgboNile:
If the baby daddy isn't dead, run for your life.

Abi ooooo. Exactly

Rokiat:
If what led her to be a single mother isn’t something beyond her control like she was married before and her husband passed away or she was married and got divorced because of abuse etc then be very careful.

I still can’t wrap my head around why women would be complaining about niggas but then open their legs and have a baby with them out of wedlock.

Having a man’s child is the highest honour you can give him and as a woman being a single mother comes with so many disadvantages such as well read this thread. For all we know she could be a good woman but that stigma is there hence why you are apprehensive. So I don’t know why women risk it to give niggas kids free out of wedlock when you are the one at disadvantage.


Women will be complaining about not cooking or cleaning for no man that’s not their husband but will gladly open their legs wide and receive his seeds and give him a baby free of charge out of wedlock make it make sense.


Being a single mother is tough and should not be normalised (out of wedlock offcourse) and you have other women enabling them throwing babies showers when bi..tches get pregnant for these good for nothing dudes no what we need is to bring shame back so women can stop doing this to themselves. It doesn’t do you any good in the long run to be popping babies for these men free of charge without him putting a ring on it. It is absolutely unbelievable and doing it over and over again is what baffles me. Shouldn’t women be more smarter by now in this time of information to have Educated themselves enough to know if a man doesn’t commit fully to you aka marry you, stop giving them children just stop.

Ya all out here flipping the game on us, making men the prize giving them kids free of charge. What did that man give you in return other than his presence? The worst one is seeing 3 different women being baby mama for the same man fighting ove that man attention. Goodness gracious someone that couldn’t even give you his last name. Using your bodies and wombs and risking your lives to give children to men without marriage. My generation so damn lost.

Dem dey ever get sense

seanwilliam:
Op, you’re a very wicked person. After you don sleep with her multiple times? After u don make her cum and lick her tow tow wifh your useless mouth ?

Una go Dey complain say good women scarce , God kon sugar your tea, he dash you complete package with 2 extra goodies , yet you’re complaining .
From her behavior can’t you see she’s a very good woman , can’t you see it’s her ex fault?. U better man up and do the needful and don’t forget to take good care of her two kids, you can even will your properties to them. .






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Didirin agba. Ob’efon labata, oyobe ti..

U go learn

jagorinho:
Betking handicap 2:0 --- 6.78 odds
Bet9ja handicap 2:0------6.00 odds

You wan start your own match with 2 goals down abi, as u be Bayern Munich.
Her love stratification is as follow
1. Those 2 kids
2. Money
3 the father of those kids
4 maybe you...yes!!! You

I know you won't pray this kind of life for your enemy, you are just a tool for her, nothing more and don't be cajoled about her niceness to you, she is fattening you up for '" slaughter"....


I rise!!!

True talk. 'Maybe you'

phorget:
OP have you ever seen any football match that starts with 2 : 0? Dont allow the lady to run you on an aggregate of 2 : 0 when it's just you that will be on the losing end.

If she's so angelic then her baby daddy wouldn't have abandoned her.

That's called HANDICAP.

dontrulee:
Op, what's the name of the Lady?
I wan confirm something.

You no go like collect the lady phone number join?

superCleanworks:
That's called HANDICAP.

You wicked oh

pryme:
So this is the woman trying to kill you?
Don't you see you have lost all credibility?

Abeg help me baba
I no wan die

LIVINGICONREBOR:
You see those punch lines you reeled out yourself, nah the reason why u must flee. You are a young man for christ sake, start ur life on a clean slate with no other person's baggage. 🤔🤔

But I love her, that's the problem
And she seems to love me too...

seeker121:
Run ooo talking from experience most of dem pretend to get what they want.

Besides have you heard her own side of the story what led to their separation.

Ehen? Dem dey pretend?

As for the bolded, I will talk about it in another writeup this week (I promise you)

mrrandomguy:
Run as fast as you can.

I once opened a popular thread about dating single mothers.
https://www.nairaland.com/6353049/what-ought-know-single-mothers

Omo, I don dey fear laidis

Thank you for the link and your advice. I will read it
I pray I get the courage to do the right thing. I no wan suffer

Therepentant:

E shock you?

SundayNightGist:
But I love her, that's the problem
And she seems to love me too...

Please stop. This is childish reasoning. You love her and she loves you too so now you feel you can marry her and live happily ever after?

You could love her and she could be a narcissist, have anger issues, a bad mother bad wife, dirty, terrible homemaker, disrespectful, lack good communication skills, attitude problems, bad in bed/hate sex the list goes on but since you love her you will be happy right?

Smh

Reminderz:
lol you think she's doing all those things for free abi? have you ever heard of an animal called chameleon? how they can change suddenly due to the situation they find themselves? that's women for you...

she's doing all that to trap you, and you see those free gifts that's she's giving you and that your friends that's also decieving you that you've hit jackpot, when shit hit the fan, they won't be there to save you... if she was single and still young without any kids, I bet she will never go that length to impress you... free things like this have led men to their doom

why didn't the man that left her stay with her since she's all nice and faithful? have you bothered to ask about her past relationship? how do you even know if the kids are not from different fathers? see ehn flee... are you guys having sex already, I guess you are... if you are, another method of trapping you faster? don't carry another man baggage...

Thank you for your advice. I will share what she told me about her past relationship this coming week here on Nairaland.
I have been trying to get her to do DNA test because of the boys but she has been saying don't I trust her? That with all the love she has been showing me why am I still asking for DNA, that what's my business with that since the children are not mine anyway... Don't you think she has a point? Abi this love thing don dey turn my head ni? Because normally I no be mumu but this single mother matter just get as e dey be me