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Don’t bring “independent woman” idea to marriage, singer Harrysong, tells woke women

Singer, Harrysong has lament the idea of being an independent woman, especially in marriage.

“We’re sick and tired of this independent woman shit” Harry song said following a post on his story.

Harrysong made this statement on a post he made via his Instagram story. He wrote:

“If you still believe in marriage and love to build your own home with your dream partner Stay in your parents house work and grow from there, let him marry you from there”

“We need to bring back good home up bringing, fear of God and respect, we re sick and tire of this whole independent woman shit. My money is our money. It’s more than enough for us. Just ask anything, I’ll do it”.

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woke indeed.

Independent woman dey sweet for woman wey depend on her self financially but depends on the husband emotionally.

This is not for everyone to understand.

Una must collect Independent woman o, shey na una dey ask wetin them dey bring to the table. Una done tire?

Quite frankly, every woman forming "strong and independent" is useless ...

Every human being on the earth will come to a point where they'll have to be independent, IT'S NORMAL...

So coming online to shout "strong and independent" like a crazed goat is nothing short of stupidity!! ...

Abi are women still thinking of being a dependent even at 30? When your hands & legs are 100% functional? ...

The same people asking what they bring to the table are the people that want them to still be dependent. You can't eat your cake and still have it. I've said it here over and over again, feminism isn't just for women. Everyone benefits when women are fairly independent. When they work hard, earn and contribute to home funding, the pressure we face as men in this country is reduced. The men only need to adjust and also learn to be fairly independent too. Learn to do some basic chores or cook on certain days. This is the recipe for a happy home. It doesn't take away mutual respect.

Couples are supposed to be inter-dependent in the sense that one can easily focus on one thing at any point knowing the other is there to take care of other things, not that the woman and the children should depend on one man to provide for the family while she does home economics. The issue with this is that they get so much used to these society-created roles that when one party is temporarily unable to function, everything breaks down.

etrange:
Couples are supposed to be inter-dependent in the sense that one can easily focus on one thing at any point knowing the other is there to take care of other things, not that the woman and the children should depend on one man to provide for the family while she does home economics. The issue with this is that they get so much used to these society-created roles that when one party is temporarily unable to function, everything breaks down.

Everything!

You're independent already so what are you doing at the table. Enjoy your independence, by the time the human race starts facing serious danger of extinction, all these civilized ideas you'll have will become traditional. Good home training can't be too much to emphasize on or can it?

Romanoff:
Una must collect Independent woman o, shey na una dey ask wetin them dey bring to the table. Una done tire?

In sabinus voice " independent girl don thief 2 polo o "

Autobot05:
In sabinus voice " independent girl don thief 2 polo o "

I still love my independent woman

Lol

Tb19:
You're independent already so what are you doing at the table. Enjoy your independence, by the time the human race starts facing serious danger of extinction, all these civilized ideas you'll have will become traditional. Good home training can't be too much to emphasize on or can it?

So y'all are tired of independent women bringing something to the table?

Make una talk wetin una really want o.

etrange:
The same people asking what they bring to the table are the people that want them to still be dependent. You can't eat your cake and still have it. I've said it here over and over again, feminism isn't just for women. Everyone benefits when women are fairly independent. When they work hard, earn and contribute to home funding, the pressure we face as men in this country is reduced. The men only need to adjust and also learn to be fairly independent too. Learn to do some basic chores or cook on certain days. This is the recipe for a happy home. It doesn't take away mutual respect.

Couples are supposed to be inter-dependent in the sense that one can easily focus on one thing at any point knowing the other is there to take care of other things, not that the woman and the children should depend on one man to provide for the family while she does home economics. The issue with this is that they get so much used to these society-created roles that when one party is temporarily unable to function, everything breaks down.

There is a catch though.

For a set of Nigerian women it is empowerment without responsiblity

My money is for me and the children, your money is for carrying the family.

I saw some women like this at work. Always dressed to the nines, latest vehicles etal, because for them their salary was basically flex money.

I said it, you Nigerian guys are the ones who corrupted your women.

You don't want them getting good jobs and providing for themselves, yet you complain that they only agree to marry you for your money... Why wouldn't they marry you only for your money when you don't want them making their own money?

You guys are your own problem.

IyaebeTheGreat:
woke indeed.

Let’s say he’s addressing people like you

Iyaebe you no even tell us how you plan to marry

obinna58:
Let’s say he’s addressing people like you

I'm highly dependent ooo, infact if I have my ways I won't want to do anything while raising my kids. I'll love to give them my 100% attention.

obinna58:
Let’s say he’s addressing people like you
Iyaebe you no even tell us how you plan to marry

Aunty say she neva ready oo say she stil get plenty time.

GloriousGbola:
There is a catch though.

For a set of Nigerian women it is empowerment without responsiblity

My money is for me and the children, your money is for carrying the family.

I saw some women like this at work. Always dressed to the nines, latest vehicles etal, because for them their salary was basically flex money.

This is mostly in your head, bro. It's the disposition you already have towards women that makes you think they are driving big cars simply because they have no responsibilities at home. You are not in thier homes, you don't know about thier family dynamics. But you just say that to yourself because it makes you feel better about not driving such cars yourself. If it was a man flexing big cars, would you have assumed it's because he has no responsibilities at home or would just call him a rich man? Of course, the ladies in question might have rich husbands and some of them have just one or two kids at most. Likewise, a man with a rich wife and a couple of kids would have more resources to himself for flexing. The truth is, couples are richer when they pull resources together and you'd probably be flexing like those women if your wife had a high paying job too.

Not denying the fact that there are women who earn a lot but still leave financial responsibilities to thier husbands. As unfair as that sounds, the activities of those women don't define the whole gender. We need to stop trying to put the female gender into box. Just like men, there'll always be good and bad women. Feminism isn't just about empowering women. It's also about sensitizing everyone, changing our mindset as men and women and sharing responsibilities without prejudice. So addressing your so-called catch is one of the goals of feminism. And that's why I said in first comment that it's not for women alone. In fact, you'd be surprised at how many ladies out there kick against the concept.

etrange:
The same people asking what they bring to the table are the people that want them to still be dependent. You can't eat your cake and still have it. I've said it here over and over again, feminism isn't just for women. Everyone benefits when women are fairly independent. When they work hard, earn and contribute to home funding, the pressure we face as men in this country is reduced. The men only need to adjust and also learn to be fairly independent too. Learn to do some basic chores or cook on certain days. This is the recipe for a happy home. It doesn't take away mutual respect.

Couples are supposed to be inter-dependent in the sense that one can easily focus on one thing at any point knowing the other is there to take care of other things, not that the woman and the children should depend on one man to provide for the family while she does home economics. The issue with this is that they get so much used to these society-created roles that when one party is temporarily unable to function, everything breaks down.

Apt as f.uck bro, pick up each other's slack, work as a team and compromise where necessary. It's a good thing a balanced and nuanced take can still be found in the sea of dross, bigotry and vitriol that is this site.

IyaebeTheGreat:
I'm highly dependent ooo, infact if I have my ways I won't want to do anything while raising my kids. I'll love to give them my 100% attention.

🤢 That's sad.