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Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by tiger2080: 8:53pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
@ OP truth been told ur wife is a stingy,selfish,self centered woman.such woman are BAGGAGE.It is this type of woman that lead a man to early grave.of what use is ur wife if she can suport you.Why place an ungrateful woman that is never satisfied on salary monthly when she earn her money.you pay all the bills.you use own hands to spoil the ungrateful woman.she never have any love for you.this is the kind of woman that can kill u an takeover.shine ur eyes be watchful.Dont say u were not warn. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by dmgr(m): 8:54pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
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Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Charly68: 8:57pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Every man should provide for his family..no matter what your wife is earning..God will bless you more and more as you purpose to play your role as the father of the house. Father means source . Source of supply ,blessing and wisdom etc. Your wife knows how to help you where necessary. She will do that without stress. She may want to see your faithfulness in providing for household first before knowing what to do. To me ,it is unmanly to sit down with your wife and be discussing shared responsibility . Be the man and see God making room for you 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Kobojunkie: 9:02pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
teemy:1. I doubt a traditional woman with her own mother can become second-rate in her own marriage. The man dey do himself in that case. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Kobojunkie: 9:03pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
mployer:1. There are traditional folks out there who open stores or petty businesses with their own money for their women. Nothing wrong with the woman having her own gig in traditional marriage at all. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Kobojunkie: 9:05pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
ebenholer2:You know say all of these things na choice too? Na women dey choose to sit in such marriages of their own freedom. So.... to each his own, I guess. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Zedoo(m): 9:13pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Lol. It’s interesting to see how common sense is lacking. Your wife does not and will never love you...all she wants to do is spend recklessly. She’s not talking about investments or trustfund for kids just gimme gimme. The problem is not the money it’s the lack of empathy and consideration. Una no go look well go marry. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Kobojunkie: 9:17pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Charly68:Leave God and His mention out of this brain damage abeg! 1 Like |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Zedoo(m): 9:17pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Charly68: How much does her father make. Sometimes use wisdom. A man is supposed to take care BUT he foots all bills gives her monthly allowance and she’s still complaining. My problem with women is not asking for money it’s what you do with it. Buying high end fashion and forming my husband is rich and you’ll want to kill the man when children come along instead of planning/investing ahead of time. Any sensible woman that her husband provides everything for should be looking to increase wealth not splash money on crap because it’s the good days. It will ALWAYS come back to haunt you. Especially when your children start approaching their teen years and you’re close to retirement with nothing to show for it. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Femmyfamous4u(m): 9:33pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
jessylaurel: Alright thank you. However, times and times again, I have shown capabilities in all of this and as well as her family. I'm seeing it from your angle though that even if we earn same income, her money is hers and mine is ours. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Femmyfamous4u(m): 9:34pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
FKMagazine: She actually does but with complaints and she expects allowance too. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by ppogba: 9:34pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
This guy is in trouble and unfortunately, hin no see person tell am. Happiness in marriage, joy in marriage, problems in marriage and sorrow in marriage ALL start from day one. When people dis- countenance the importance of pre- marriage counseling, the outcome is disaster. Amy attempt to alter the situation now, especially reducing the monthly sum will lead to chaos. So, alaye double your hustle, slave on so that woman no go divorce you. Kpele. I get my own for bodi. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Femmyfamous4u(m): 9:36pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Isabi4lov: Why will I lie? It is my family and if you don't believe, that's your cup of tea. Don't you think they also copy stories here and put on Facebook? |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by favour32(m): 9:50pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Simp theory: The husband MONEY na everybody own while the wife MONEY na only her own. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by NoToPile: 9:55pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
BRATISLAVA: I read some posts and I am truly amazed, some men actually want to ensure the wife has no savings by making her pay for feeding so that she won't make mouth later on. I don't blame traditional women and full housewives sometimes. Try to extend the equity to caregiving to the children nau katakata will burst. The equity no dey reach that side lailai, only for money matters. 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by samwillyco1(m): 10:00pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Op reset her brain by sharing the bill 55 - 45 and invest in your future or let her go, she is selfish and greedy, marriage is a union/partnership and and one man business. Infact tell her to go if she can't contribute to the success of the marriage . Let me tell you the hard truth she maybe spending her own money on her ex-boyfriend. Finally una no do friendship before you carry the problem. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by simplepee(f): 10:12pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Give her pocket money if she insist. 2k monthly no go kill you. Make e no pass 2k sha unless you are billionaire, if not na die you dey so.. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by pansophist(m): 10:43pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Didn't you guys date before getting married? Your problem is a foundational one, meaning her behavior is who she is, or perhaps, she just removed her mask? marriage is a partnership, not a place to burden the other. A lot of women are still stuck in the old mindset that it is only a manś money that should be spent, and their money is for them alone. They hide under the ´´ a man is the provider´´ as a way not to assist when they can see that the home is lacking, making me question their love for the man. But one thing you can use to judge anyone that says he/she loves you is to ask yourself this question, ´´are you a beneficiary of their material benevolence´´? In other words, is giving one-way, not both ways? Do they disappear, find excuses, manipulate their ways with sophisticated arguments about why they can't help you, and try to make you feel guilty on top of that? If your wife scores the above, then she does not love you. I also wonder how you men end up in situations like this. I mean, you were not born yesterday, and you are obviously not an idiot, so how does it happen that you are caught in this mess? How is it possible that you can even marry a woman that doesn't help you, does not love you, and is comfortable with it? Did you beg her to marry you? The kind of problems some guys suffer in the hands of women shocks me honestly. You married a helpmate, not a burden-mate. If she is making your life difficult instead of softening it, why are you with her in the first place? marriage is a revealer. It is like an exam hall, you can only pass it by preparing before the exam. If giving and helping her husband is beyond her, then mehn, I feel sorry for you. You married wrongly. I hope I am wrong. But if you will be a good man to a woman who cant help you, then you choose wrongly. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Xkale1996(m): 11:05pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
EriMma1:I pray never to marry ur type, useless wicked soul, you don't have pirt at all, I spit all over ur face 1 Like |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Xkale1996(m): 11:05pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
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Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by EmmyDJourno: 11:10pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Give her, she is your wife It’s all about the gesture, not the money When you need, you can always get from her as long as she is happy 1 Like |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Isabi4lov: 11:24pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Femmyfamous4u: It's actually your own cup of tea , how will bloggers eat if you don't share your family problems online . Nairaland copys more stories from Facebook especially relationship stories, the said woman is complaining now on how bloggers are waiting for her to post life stories, so that they'll have something to sell to their own audience. You guys should learn how to put #copied at another person's story . |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by t4real19(m): 11:35pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Honestly she is foolish |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by MartinsD12(m): 11:40pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
emmanuelewumi:That's the truth that's the more reason women needs to contribute immensely to the upkeep of their children because they benefit more than men when such children grow up and start making money , you are definitely right. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by MartinsD12(m): 11:47pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:This is modern age , we are no longer in that traditional kind of marriage setting of our forefathers and if you say traditional marriage let me remind you that marriage then was based on farming even the wives then helps in farming too , so for a woman in this modern age to keep her money to herself alone it's very selfish and wicked, she doesn't care anything about the survival of that marriage or even want to prolong the man's life |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Kobojunkie: 11:51pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
MartinsD12:1. The reality in Nigeria for what is the majority of Nigerians is not colored by your private ideas abeg. Traditional marriage remains the most widely accepted form of marriage in Nigeria even today. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Alaga2222(m): 12:22am On Apr 03, 2023 |
This one don marry wahala put for house....My questions still remain, is it that you guys don’t date before marriage or what? Cos I believe you should have known the kind of a woman you want to get married to |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by hairyman(m): 6:23am On Apr 03, 2023 |
You should not expect your wife to pay bills. That is your job. Just as she is expected to keep the home in order. If she buys stuffs in the home, refund her in full. Now the above is the ideal situation. If it happens that you cannot foot all the bills comfortably then you should have married a woman smart enough to have no qualms with contributing. You should also be smart enough to have no qualms with cleaning and doing dishes etc, in payment for her contribution. So long as both of you are smart enough to not expect to get things for free, then with a little conversation, you will be fine. But under your apparent present circumstance, do not give your wife an allowance. She is a grown adult who earns a living, lives rent free and bill free. Therefore an allowance makes no sense. That she expects it is somewhat off-putting. You will be establishing a routine that you will not be happy with. Once such an allowance is peanuts to you, ofcourse give it to her. A GOOD woman should be cared for. But why didn't you discuss these things before marriage? Perhaps you guys should discuss these things before you start having kids. If both of you disagree, it is best to leave now. Because these things regarding money can be a real headache (a very real headache), if you married a lady who cannot learn (as most people are unfortunately, being of average and lower than average intelligence) Femmyfamous4u: 1 Like |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Femmyfamous4u(m): 7:13am On Apr 03, 2023 |
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Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by tyboy(m): 7:29am On Apr 03, 2023 |
[b] EriMma1:[/b] Lazy thing, by their post you shall know them. Sex is all they have to offer. ewu 1 Like |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by kemmytheyray(f): 7:30am On Apr 03, 2023 |
Yes, you are right, her money is hers, yours is for the family, that's why you are the head and that's why she must be submissive,, BUT you must make a wise decision, don't start what you can't finish, if you are just 2,and newly married, 40k is too much for soup monthly after you have bought foodstuffs, do all you should do as a man, your blessings will increase as the family grows, don't share bills with a woman , it's not the best, but do what you can afford and save well, don't overspend in a bit to satisfy her, give her basic needs, take your eyes off her money, warn her not to add money to anything, she should cook what your money can afford . I hope you understand. God bless you 1 Like |
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