BRATISLAVA:
Lol. Nice.

That baby will def make noise here. Eyes open to see it.

bugatti02:
Start a project in your name only...... Make sure the title documents are kept private. Then. Keep building while she take care of the house and all.

Magnoliaa:


Do you want to be its godparent? 🙈

olamilarks:


Na so my wife start this allowance talk recently, I refused it with a strong face, go and meet your daddy for a pocket money!

Kobojunkie:
1. Tell OP ooo!

BRATISLAVA:
Yes.

ukaface:
Did you guys discuss this before marriage?
If you did then why art thou complaining
If you didn’t, why didn’t you? Don’t you know finance is one important thing to discuss before starting a family?

Now you Dey drop question for Nl, Abeg o

Magnoliaa:


😅

Klass99:


She's the one, you can always tell from her self righteous, judgmental, I holy pass and foolish posts.

She was also identified and called out with this current moniker by people who are very familiar with her NL post history.

Kobojunkie:
1. We are talking here about traditional marriage which is endorsed by Nigerian law.

fortunateme:
■ The law I sited for you covers all forms of marriage recognized by law. Check out VAP act again.

BRATISLAVA:
I won't be around to change the diapers, and that's the best kind of baby. Your baby.

Kobojunkie:
1. She works and she makes good money so you are not married to a "liability" yet you want to live as though you are, why?

2. She works and makes good money so you are not married to a "liability" yet you want to live as though you are, why?

Did you know that if you and your wife shared the bills 50-50 or even 60-40, while you are both responsible for the upkeep of your family, it will also help you both make wise decisions for the sake of your marriage and family - number of children you can both handle, how much to put aside as a couple for their future, emergency savings, business investments, etc.?

Magnoliaa:


Why do I feel like you're referring to something else entirely? 🤣

I don't know. Anyhow...well, let me go and breast-feed it. C U L8er. 🤭

Kobojunkie:
1. Can you provide a reference to this VAP where it states that it is illegal for a man to sit as a traditional husband — 100% financial responsibility — in marriage when the woman earns income?

EriMma1:
This is why I'll never marry an average income earner because they can complain and press calculator? See all of them here. Calculator pressers.
That is why i advise men not to get married until they have a high income job, to avoid all this kind of headache but no, that small thing dangling under can't wait to start eating what the big boys are eating. They just jump enter marriage with 120k salary and start punching calculator here and there.

So when it comes to giving your wife money, mathematics go enter am?. You can't give her money to maintain that same body you mount every now and then? Na him you turn financial expert seeker/adviser.? SMH. This generation of men have lost it.

Na this kind things make marriage no dey hungry me again because if all a man can offer is to panel-beat my body and not care whether knots and bolts don dey loose or find it difficult to give me when I request, then ill rather live singularly, work and take care of myself without stress or any body knacking me up and down with no benefits or care. abi you wan dey chop me make i no chop you back? Damn! Na wa o.

Oga, give her pocket money. Na that one she go take know say she marry. Men are supposed to spend on their wife's, working class or not. That is why igbos name their wifes Oriakum, "eater of my wealth". It is your obligation to spend on her. I'm guessing you're Yoruba otherwise mouth no go gree you come talk this kind thing outside. I'm sure all your supporters here na Yoruba men. Kobojunkie number one.

limcar:
when I marry, you will contribute 50% if not I send you back to your father's house

correctguy101:
■ Your opinion makes sense to this ancestor. I support every man who spends even lavishly on their women but if you no get and you wan dey force yourself dey do wetin your power no reach, smh, I pity your future.....If you had given her a wrong impression about your financial status, Mr man, go and clear yourself and confess your sins so the small girl no go dey think say the money dey and you no wan show her love. Married people and their wahala sef...

limcar:
when I marry, you will contribute 50% if not I send you back to your father's house

fortunateme:
■ No the law says that if both parties are working then both parties should contribute to family upkeep.
Check section 12 subsection 2
https://lawnigeria.com/2019/11/violence-against-persons-prohibition-act-2014/

PARADIZEPRIEST:
Even if ya woman is president if you dont give woman money,no sweet marriage ooh!! Money and woman na five and six.High corruotion in Nigeria is caused by women,most of the gobernors and govt people get 20wives per person And girlfriends uncountable,their children nko over 40 in numbers. Census dey come to confuse naija people

Femmyfamous4u:
Hello all, I need to know if I'm doing some things right or over reacting.

My wife and I just married some months ago and we just spend here and there on stuffs. I bought food stuffs in the house and told her I will place her on 40k monthly to cover for soups and all and I expect her to add to it if it's not enough.

I foot all bills- house rent, Power, and all . She earns a decent 6 figures salary also which is slightly higher than mine without the allowances I get.

She expects me to still give her another allowance apart from the 49k I give her for food.

Each time she buys stuff in the house she always want me to pay back in full; most times, I just pay a part of it which she always frowns and complains about.

It appears she has a notion that her money is her money and mine is ours.

My income is more than hers though.

Do you think I should still give her personal pocket money?

EriMma1:
This is why I'll never marry an average income earner because they can complain and press calculator? See all of them here. Calculator pressers.
That is why i advise men not to get married until they have a high income job, to avoid all this kind of headache but no, that small thing dangling under can't wait to start eating what the big boys are eating. They just jump enter marriage with 120k salary and start punching calculator here and there.

So when it comes to giving your wife money, mathematics go enter am?. You can't give her money to maintain that same body you mount every now and then? Na him you turn financial expert seeker/adviser.? SMH. This generation of men have lost it.

Na this kind things make marriage no dey hungry me again because if all a man can offer is to panel-beat my body and not care whether knots and bolts don dey loose or find it difficult to give me when I request, then ill rather live singularly, work and take care of myself without stress or any body knacking me up and down with no benefits or care. abi you wan dey chop me make i no chop you back? Damn! Na wa o.

Oga, give her pocket money. Na that one she go take know say she marry. Men are supposed to spend on their wife's, working class or not. That is why igbos name their wifes Oriakum, "eater of my wealth". It is your obligation to spend on her. I'm guessing you're Yoruba otherwise mouth no go gree you come talk this kind thing outside. I'm sure all your supporters here na Yoruba men. Kobojunkie number one.

EriMma1:
This is why I'll never marry an average income earner because they can complain and press calculator? See all of them here. Calculator pressers.
That is why i advise men not to get married until they have a high income job, to avoid all this kind of headache but no, that small thing dangling under can't wait to start eating what the big boys are eating. They just jump enter marriage with 120k salary and start punching calculator here and there.

So when it comes to giving your wife money, mathematics go enter am?. You can't give her money to maintain that same body you mount every now and then? Na him you turn financial expert seeker/adviser.? SMH. This generation of men have lost it.

Na this kind things make marriage no dey hungry me again because if all a man can offer is to panel-beat my body and not care whether knots and bolts don dey loose or find it difficult to give me when I request, then ill rather live singularly, work and take care of myself without stress or any body knacking me up and down with no benefits or care. abi you wan dey chop me make i no chop you back? Damn! Na wa o.

Oga, give her pocket money. Na that one she go take know say she marry. Men are supposed to spend on their wife's, working class or not. That is why igbos name their wifes Oriakum, "eater of my wealth". It is your obligation to spend on her. I'm guessing you're Yoruba otherwise mouth no go gree you come talk this kind thing outside. I'm sure all your supporters here na Yoruba men. Kobojunkie number one.

Kobojunkie:
1. Love ke? Love does not sit as if a god over another abeg! That whole traditional arrangement where the man sits as king over his woman was never about love but about making sure the man's ego is at least pumped in marriage.

correctguy101:
■ This daddy does not remember talking anything about love in his earlier post. Ah yes, like I said before, your post makes sense and the second part of this post I quoted resonates heavily with this ancestor. Marriage in the first place was as exactly as you put it, to subdue, possess, and yes maybe satisfy the vanity of man to feel superior over the women folk. That was why it was created in the first place . Well, today we all know that's a failed project. So everybody just dey act on their own now. We now subconsciously understand marriage is just a ceremony. Most of us can skip the ceremony if we want to or even postpone it indefinitely. As for you, your eye too open, I dey suspect say you be another daddy wey dey form small boy for NL. Old man talk true o...

emmanuelewumi:



I don't think you are married, I think that is the arrangement with 70% of the marriages. The women are saving and investing their own money, while the men are claiming sole provider.


Some of these women will now support when they are in their 50s or when the children will be in the University, I am referring to working class women.

They decided to support at this stage because pepper no too dey for the man again.

The children will believe their mothers sponsored their university education.

Life expectancy in Nigeria is about 55, by that time the men would have died.


One of the tricks to prolong your life as a man in Nigeria.
1. Live below your means
2.Dont try to impress anybody
3. Save and invest for the future.
4.Pray for the best, plan for the unexpected and prepare for the worst

Kobojunkie:
1. The vast majority of said men live in poverty in today's Nigeria. They chose hypogamy for their sake and are reaping the curse of poverty that goes along with it.

2. OP knows he will likely lose his sit as a god in his marriage if he tells his wife to contribute financially to the upkeep of the marriage and family and that causes panic in many Nigerian men. That is why he is here.