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Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by gbadexy(m): 9:54am On Apr 02, 2023 |
fortunateme:When that rainy days come, Oyo is your case if not prepared. It has been like that from time immemorial. Nothing to be angry about but be prepared for. 7 Likes |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Mindlog: 9:54am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Deception, then later you see some creating threads like this as many deliberately choose not to discuss finances before marriage. 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by virginchaser(m): 9:56am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Femmyfamous4u: She needs a senior lady to re orientate her otherwise that will be beginning of break up. Some do have mentality that if they don't collect it someone else will do. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Gloriagee(f): 10:22am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Wat about investments? Wat about school fees? You need to have a discussion with her on this. Wat does she do with her income? If shes saving, will the savings be available to you? Truly this should have been spelt out before marriage. Who bears wat and your savings plan. Come up with a monthly budget too. Femmyfamous4u: |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Kobojunkie: 10:23am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Mindlog:I suspect that ain't far from OP'S truth.
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Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Femmyfamous4u(m): 10:26am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Gloriagee: She likes to look at her bank account and say yes, u have made XYZ or complain that I had certain amount but It has depleted to this usually after she buys some things in the house like groceries. ,Y major worry is that she doesn't assist her own family much. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Femmyfamous4u(m): 10:29am On Apr 02, 2023 |
234GT: I even initiated an idea that we create a joint account for our unborn children with the aim of saving like 20k each in the account she should non-commital response. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Gloriagee(f): 10:37am On Apr 02, 2023 |
As I said, you need to have a discussion with her like yesterday. Her orientation is clearly different from yours and i see you being short changed and ultimately resentful, if this is not nipped in the bud. Some people are hoarders or stingy even to themselves. Note you said shes stingy even to her family. There was a thread about a woman whose family was complaining about her stinginess , though without more info on her circumstances in canada. I bet you, she will be stingy in marriage, even without intending to. Some women build houses and watch their husbands pay rent. What a mess! Unfortunately, money is one of the 3 leading causes of divorce so you have to tread carefully. Explain to her that you are bothered cos theres rent, u need to buy land, soon you will be paying fees so she needs to be your helpmeet and try to earn her trust. I wish you Gods wisdom. Femmyfamous4u: 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Kobojunkie: 10:38am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Femmyfamous4u:1. Marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman. ■ Did you have the conversation with her before marriage about how you would both share the financial responsibilities involved in your union? ■ And did you reach some sort of agreement as far as what share each person is meant to bring to the table or something along those lines? Not having that conversation before marriage only to the try to force it on her afterwards amounts to deception abeg! You need to go back to the negotiation table to renegotiate your agreement if you want her to happily accept what may be a new reality for her in marriage. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Kobojunkie: 10:41am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Femmyfamous4u:1. When did you initiate this idea? Before or after marriage. If you didn't broach any of it before marriage then definitely she would rightly feel shortchanged since it is likely you gave her the impression that she was entering into a union where you would be responsible for all of the financial burden. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by faithfull18(f): 10:47am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Yes, according to your topic. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Femmyfamous4u(m): 11:04am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: It was after marriage but really? is it okay for any lady going into marriage with the mentality of not contributing even though she earns? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Raalsalghul: 11:04am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Femmyfamous4u: Most Nigerian women don't believe in financially supporting their spouses. 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Femmyfamous4u(m): 11:06am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Mindlog: There is no deception anywhere. I did not deceive her at all. although somehow the topic did not come up but I felt it is only reasonable to do. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Raalsalghul: 11:07am On Apr 02, 2023 |
labake1: From a perspective, it's true. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Raalsalghul: 11:09am On Apr 02, 2023 |
EriMma1: In your 40s and you still don't have sense Mercychen. Look at what a matured woman is spewing. Did you even read the Op's story? 11 Likes |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Raalsalghul: 11:12am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Femmyfamous4u: Which kind childish question be this? Didn't you gauge the mentality of your wife before marrying her? Seems like you assumed, no wonder we have this thread. Kobojunkie was right afterall. 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by pedestal82(m): 11:19am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Do a simple calculation, her saving 50% of her salary for ten years. Compare that with what you are able to save currently for same number of years. Wake up bro, there is a need to have a conversation about family finances. Femmyfamous4u: 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Biglittlelois(f): 11:26am On Apr 02, 2023 |
Raalsalghul: Lol how do you know she's Mercychen? 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by RenaissanceGuy: 11:56am On Apr 02, 2023 |
That's silly. That woman may end up building a house secretly, putting it for rent and collecting huge sums, without you knowing, at least for some years. 10 Likes |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by ibechris(m): 12:20pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
What were u guys discussing during courtship...? I guess nothing! There is still room for adjustment but i doubt if this is good for a progressive family. "Your money is our money and my own is mine" has made many family regressed badly beyond explanation,and it is the mentality of a suspicious woman 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Klass99(f): 12:29pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
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Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by yemmit90: 12:41pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Femmyfamous4u: I feel your pain man, financing family alone these days is not an easy task at all. Let me teach one thing, selfish women hardly listen to peaceful talk or suggestions especially the ones that will curb their excess. You don't need to discuss anything with her or sit her down blablabla, just find some excuses and drop the money you feel is OK that will give your chance to save and invest. Stop listen to her complaints, if the money is not enough, tell her to add to it or borrow you till you get enough money. By the time you do this for 6 months, she will get use to it and stop bordering you on some bills. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by zed7: 12:58pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
My wife works but I foot all the bills because I choose to. Although she buys things for the house on her own accord. I'm a traditional man and I choose to take care of everything. I don't give her an allowance though, just occasional gifts, monetary or in items. I'm not advising for people to do same, split the bills if that's what works for you. My handling all the bills comes with its advantages, my wife doesn't begin to challenge me unnecessarily. When women contribute with you, they start seeing you as equals instead of you being the captain. Maybe I should clarify, try to marry a woman you earn far more than. I've never believed in being with a woman who is in the same financial bracket as me. Women are not wired to be providers. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by ProtectMyMoney: 2:40pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Since you both work, try this out. Be responsible for all the major spending in the house and drinks. Let your wife be responsible for only and all the food in the house. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by vincenteger: 2:58pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Things you should have discussed b4 marriage is what you want to discuss after marriage. Her money is her money oo 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by musiliyukayode(m): 3:01pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
"Marriage is a strategy, there is no guarantee for its success" How many women really prefer a home to a house? A woman who needs a home will not put pressure on her Husband and will remain faithful, Sincere and committed till death do them apart. Her money is her money while your money belong to all of you in the house. The only stranger a man is having in his house is his wife. When the chips are down she relocate back to her father's house and leave the children with the Ex as so called.Marriage is a deceit. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by CaptainFM1: 3:09pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
No. Collect from her instead! |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by Aboguede(m): 3:10pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Working class wife Nigerians and anyhow talking is like bread and beans 1 Like |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by engrrichie92(m): 3:11pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Praisepriest: That last line..."Women will push into well and claim innocence" is too valid 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by PixelPlexus: 3:12pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Money is a big subject This should have been taken care of during courtship and if this is not handled amicably now in this early stage, a time will come when if you dont bring money you will not eat, so I recommend going to the drawing board and define responsibility and financial budgeting. |
Re: Should I Give my working Class Wife Allowance? by SmartyPants(m): 3:13pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
I am just wondering how you met, dated, got engaged, visited your parents, then got married, and till today you have not discussed finances. People are interesting! 11 Likes 2 Shares |
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