EriMma1:
This is why I'll never marry an average income earner because they can complain and press calculator? See all of them here. Calculator pressers.
That is why i advise men not to get married until they have a high income job, to avoid all this kind of headache but no, that small thing dangling under can't wait to start eating what the big boys are eating. They just jump enter marriage with 120k salary and start punching calculator here and there.

So when it comes to giving your wife money, mathematics go enter am?. You can't give her money to maintain that same body you mount every now and then? Na him you turn financial expert seeker/adviser.? SMH. This generation of men have lost it.

Na this kind things make marriage no dey hungry me again because if all a man can offer is to panel-beat my body and not care whether knots and bolts don dey loose or find it difficult to give me when I request, then ill rather live singularly, work and take care of myself without stress or any body knacking me up and down with no benefits or care. abi you wan dey chop me make i no chop you back? Damn! Na wa o.

Oga, give her pocket money. Na that one she go take know say she marry. Men are supposed to spend on their wife's, working class or not. That is why igbos name their wifes Oriakum, "eater of my wealth". It is your obligation to spend on her. I'm guessing you're Yoruba otherwise mouth no go gree you come talk this kind thing outside. I'm sure all your supporters here na Yoruba men. Kobojunkie number one.

teemy:
■ That's always been why traditional women have been second-rated in their homes. You bring, I bring, allows both parties to have equal say in the marriage.

mployer:
■ A traditional man will require she quit her job. Is she ready for that? Allowing her to work is enough allowance.

ebenholer2:

YEA NIGERIA CULTURE HAS MADE WOMEN SLAVES OR INFERIOR TO THEIR HUSBAND THEREBY WOMEN EVEN LOOK UP TO THEIR HUSBANDS BEFORE BUYING A COMMON SALT IN THE HOUSE. BUT MOST HOUSEHOLDS WITHOUT SUCH MENTALITY ARE ALWAYS EXTREMELY SUCCESSFUL IN ALL REALMS.

Charly68:
■ Every man should provide for his family..no matter what your wife is earning..God will bless you more and more as you purpose to play your role as the father of the house. Father means source . Source of supply ,blessing and wisdom etc. Your wife knows how to help you where necessary. She will do that without stress. She may want to see your faithfulness in providing for household first before knowing what to do. To me ,it is unmanly to sit down with your wife and be discussing shared responsibility . Be the man and see God making room for you

Charly68:
Every man should provide for his family..no matter what your wife is earning..God will bless you more and more as you purpose to play your role as the father of the house. Father means source . Source of supply ,blessing and wisdom etc. Your wife knows how to help you where necessary. She will do that without stress. She may want to see your faithfulness in providing for household first before knowing what to do. To me ,it is unmanly to sit down with your wife and be discussing shared responsibility . Be the man and see God making room for you

jessylaurel:


That is your job. You're responsible for every bills in the house and also for her allowances. Moreover the 4ok is too small with the hike of prices in the market.
However she can decide to assist, I guess she feels it's to early to be footing Bill's when you just got married you have to show her that you're capable of taking care of the house alone before kids start coming.

FKMagazine:




My opinion: If truly she's earning 6 figures as u claimed & she truly loves u sincerely, she shud support you in financing your home expenses on a monthly basis.

Isabi4lov:


Liar

With same amount and the writing style

Most stories here are from Facebook groups

I don't need to argue this with you ,

If this is your story for real , you should communicate this with your wife first before bringing it here for advice.

Knowing well that people could be judgemental.

BRATISLAVA:


Just to tell you how dishonest their quest for "equality" is.

The calculator brigade are full of it. There's nothing that makes sense to them in a relationship apart from money and how to rail against women's earnings because that's the only fulfillment they will have in life.

They've found the productive women of their wet dreams and extended fantasy. But there must be a catch, as they're never satisfied.

EriMma1:
This is why I'll never marry an average income earner because they can complain and press calculator? See all of them here. Calculator pressers.
That is why i advise men not to get married until they have a high income job, to avoid all this kind of headache but no, that small thing dangling under can't wait to start eating what the big boys are eating. They just jump enter marriage with 120k salary and start punching calculator here and there.

So when it comes to giving your wife money, mathematics go enter am?. You can't give her money to maintain that same body you mount every now and then? Na him you turn financial expert seeker/adviser.? SMH. This generation of men have lost it.

Na this kind things make marriage no dey hungry me again because if all a man can offer is to panel-beat my body and not care whether knots and bolts don dey loose or find it difficult to give me when I request, then ill rather live singularly, work and take care of myself without stress or any body knacking me up and down with no benefits or care. abi you wan dey chop me make i no chop you back? Damn! Na wa o.

Oga, give her pocket money. Na that one she go take know say she marry. Men are supposed to spend on their wife's, working class or not. That is why igbos name their wifes Oriakum, "eater of my wealth". It is your obligation to spend on her. I'm guessing you're Yoruba otherwise mouth no go gree you come talk this kind thing outside. I'm sure all your supporters here na Yoruba men. Kobojunkie number one.

Xkale1996:
I pray never to marry ur type, useless wicked soul, you don't have pity at all, I spit all over ur face

Femmyfamous4u:


Why will I lie? It is my family and if you don't believe, that's your cup of tea. Don't you think they also copy stories here and put on Facebook?

emmanuelewumi:



Those who did that, were forced to do it in the future when the man is down with strokes in his 50s, the man could not make the type of money he was making in the past.


I tell women close to me to make sure they assist their husbands in the education of their children, because they have more to benefit than the husband


No matter what a man spends on the education of his children, before the man gets N10 from the children the mothers would have gotten N100.

Kobojunkie:
1. She is not being selfish as under the traditional marriage arrangement, she is allowed to keep her money for herself. OP did not conveniently mention to her prior to marriage that what he wants is a different kind of marriage agreement.

MartinsD12:
■ This is modern age , we are no longer in that traditional kind of marriage setting of our forefathers and if you say traditional marriage let me remind you that marriage then was based on farming even the wives then helps in farming too , so for a woman in this modern age to keep her money to herself alone it's very selfish and wicked, she doesn't care anything about the survival of that marriage or even want to prolong the man's life

Femmyfamous4u:
Hello all, I need to know if I'm doing some things right or over reacting.

My wife and I just married some months ago and we just spend here and there on stuffs. I bought food stuffs in the house and told her I will place her on 40k monthly to cover for soups and all and I expect her to add to it if it's not enough.

I foot all bills- house rent, Power, and all . She earns a decent 6 figures salary also which is slightly higher than mine without the allowances I get.

She expects me to still give her another allowance apart from the 49k I give her for food.

Each time she buys stuff in the house she always want me to pay back in full; most times, I just pay a part of it which she always frowns and complains about.

It appears she has a notion that her money is her money and mine is ours.

My income is more than hers though.

Do you think I should still give her personal pocket money?

Isabi4lov:


It's actually your own cup of tea , how will bloggers eat if you don't share your family problems online .

Nairaland copys more stories from Facebook especially relationship stories, the said woman is complaining now on how bloggers are waiting for her to post life stories, so that they'll have something to sell to their own audience.


You guys should learn how to put #copied at another person's story .

You're fool. Get off my mention if you have nothing reasonable to say. If your sense served your sense sense served you right, you will know that a;; the stories she posts can't be her life stories alone. Believe whatever you want, ,wave me the Bleep alone!

EriMma1:
This is why I'll never marry an average income earner because they can complain and press calculator? See all of them here. Calculator pressers.
That is why i advise men not to get married until they have a high income job, to avoid all this kind of headache but no, that small thing dangling under can't wait to start eating what the big boys are eating. They just jump enter marriage with 120k salary and start punching calculator here and there.

So when it comes to giving your wife money, mathematics go enter am?. You can't give her money to maintain that same body you mount every now and then? Na him you turn financial expert seeker/adviser.? SMH. This generation of men have lost it.

Na this kind things make marriage no dey hungry me again because if all a man can offer is to panel-beat my body and not care whether knots and bolts don dey loose or find it difficult to give me when I request, then ill rather live singularly, work and take care of myself without stress or any body knacking me up and down with no benefits or care. abi you wan dey chop me make i no chop you back? Damn! Na wa o.

Oga, give her pocket money. Na that one she go take know say she marry. Men are supposed to spend on their wife's, working class or not. That is why igbos name their wifes Oriakum, "eater of my wealth". It is your obligation to spend on her. I'm guessing you're Yoruba otherwise mouth no go gree you come talk this kind thing outside. I'm sure all your supporters here na Yoruba men. Kobojunkie number one.