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Chidi2022:
Bad men always get good wives, while Good men get bad wives...

Olamidegal:
I am one year and three month old in marriage , my husband elder sister has her shop in front of our house , somehow the land belongs to there late mother who gave it to them .
The problem is my sister inlaw is very intrusive, always trying to have a say in the marriage , one time I have resisted her interference, she reported me to their father who came to the house to warn me that the elder sister is there to be leading both me and my husband in the marriage as an experience woman who is ten years old in marriage , I find this annoying but I just had to keep quiet .her workers do come into my house to pick anything from my kitchen or the room and use it carelessly . One time I got back home and I saw one of the wrapper I use in backing my baby tied arround the waist of one of her workers and I wasn't so cool with it , I told her to wash it and return it for me that I do not joke with that wrapper , she refuses , the next day I saw the wrapper on the floor very dirty and I was very angry I told her to go wash it and return it , she told me she can't cos she's not the only one that uses it and that it's my sister in law that brought it out, I told the girl that she should never enter my house to pick anything again when my sister in law arrived she started blackmailing me with so u cannot leave ordinary wrapper , if you say she shouldn't enter the house that means u pursued me and all..I had to stand my ground it's not just about the wrapper anymore , it's the fact that the girl was rude to me I am 10 years older than this girl and that I insist that she shouldn't enter my house again, she said stuffs like i am rude to her as well so I shouldn't bother about the girl being rude and left . Now she started acting up , but I make sure I greet her everyday and move on , I no longer sit with her or discuss with her sometimes she doesn't answer and sometimes she answer somehow , this girl of hers never greeted me again after that day .
Now the challenge is she had gone to report me to the father as usual , the father calls my husband and I don't know what they discuss but he has stopped talking to me in the house , he's always supporting his family anyway and his father has stopped calling me as well all of the calls themselves from time to time discussing me most times my husband run outside to answer there calls ..was I wrong in my approach, what could I have done better it looks like I am living among people that hate me they all stay close

Jozilinn:
May God help marriages check out Mr aloys on Facebook this is exactly what is happening in that drama.

Karlifate:
It's because the deceptive men know what to say to entice the (naive) lady.

Also, the ladies have the false of ego attached to the "I tamed & I changed the bad guy"


The "good men" are simply men that can't enforce their boundaries as at when due.
They believe being 'nice' at all times, will also make other people to be 'nice' towards them.

Hence they become an easy prey for manipulative women.

Fiscus105:
A foolish man hears from one side and starts acting gragra, if u like belong to missogyny, gay or whatever. I'm less concerned.

Then, elders usually say ..... "husband house is the place where women learn" I doubt if you have proper upbringing for you to hear those words of elders!

Thank God u read where she said, her husband is now surporting sister and family.

When husband finally done with her and thrown her house, I biliv she would come to ur own house, thank God u re finding it difficult to have serious relationship with girls, .....she will come to your house to dominate you and ur family.

Olamidegal:
seriously this people has access to the house , I don't see any reason why I should be territorial , my sister in law goes to my shoe rack wear my best shoes casually , she takes my best jewellery and I just let it slide ,one thing I realise is that my sister in law discuss all sort of things in front of her workers who are 10 years and 12 years younger than me and those girls started reacting based on that, I left work when I got married because of distance and I start applying for job that will be of close proximity to my husband house but I got pregnant immediately after marriage which marred my search for job so I started learning fashion designing anyway , my baby is 4 month now and I have started applying for job again, my sister in law is always going on and on about how I couldn't get something doing making reference to hiw hardworking she was when she was pregnant and all, this is a woman that shamed me that I gave birth through cs because i am lazy . Even while learning my fashion designing and as I was pregnant I cook for my husband 2 times daily atleast, do his laundry , iron hus clothes and clean the house everyday . She and my husband still sit to say stuffs like I am too relaxed because he is making me too comfortable

Chidi2022:
Your first and second paragraph is contradictory....Go back, read and make amendment...

teegurl2:
Yoruba People.

And before you come for me. Am yoruba too.


Their mindset is that your an outsider. And you have to be treated like one. And the intrusion never stops.

This is what you ll do. You have to apologize to them. Yes! Everyone of them. Smiles and all. Make dem commot your name for their mouth.

Thereafter lock up in a very matured way. Greet who you have to greet, don't waste time discussing with anyone about anything.

Don't even discuss about light. Always give an excuse for wanting to leave a discussion, calmly.

And please get busy. Don't be at home always.

Familiarity breeds contempt. So be careful please.


Dear single ladies please observe very very well before you marry into some families.

Fiscus105:
I haven't read half of ur post when I stopped reading, having realised that indeed u need marital tutorial, I pray ur marriage won't scatter before 5 years of ur marriage, I noticed of high ego in you and a wife who will not accommodate in laws for whatever reason and above all anger issues.

AN HUMBLE WIFE WOULD HAVE PICKED UP HER WRAPPER AND WASHED IT HERSELF AND LET THE SLEEPING DOG LIES.

I biliv that 70% of marital issues that are coming up in ur marriage are caused by you, because of ur domineering tendency.

if ur story is true, I will tell ur husband that he has succeeded wifed" his boss.

Karlifate:
Simply put; you can't comprehend.

No dey disguise

Gloriagee:
Just negodu. So many women have died daily pleasing men that already feel emasculated like you perhaps by their income or bosses or wateva. Humble my ass!

ChybuzzDD:
I believe you urgently need a new life.
You have been so much damaged.

Chidi2022:
Which automatically mean you don't have sense, because if at all you have an iota of sense,, You will never believe that a good man is one who can't enforce boundaries as at when due...
If you were sensible, you would know the difference between enforcing a boundary and keeping to the enforced boundary..
ever heard of something called stubbornness?
You stupidly quoted me and i replied you, the next thing is for you to remember that your senior sister can't comprehend...

Karlifate:
😂😂

My silly father turned my naive mother into a Frustrated 🐐

Now she can't stop bleating.

Chidi2022:
Sorry dear.. now i get why you are visibly hurt.

Karlifate:
LMAO! 🤣🤣

Onye Therapist

Chidi2022:
Ewu go back and read what i turned your quote into.... always jumping like a cricket

Karlifate:
No. I like football, not 🏏
Also, forward ever & backward never. 💯

Chidi2022:
Akuko na story....cry to death.

Karlifate:
Good to know you're a professional wailer.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Chidi2022:
says a crying mantis...wail to eternity...i will never agree to your opinion...

Karlifate:
😂😂
I don't care about your phoolish agreement.

Chidi2022:
Neither do i care about your phoolish opinion...

Karlifate:
Yes, because your daft brain couldn't comprehend.

Chidi2022:
why should my brain comprehend with the opinion of someone whose IQ is a single number.

Olamidegal:
I am one year and three month old in marriage , my husband elder sister has her shop in front of our house , somehow the land belongs to there late mother who gave it to them .
The problem is my sister inlaw is very intrusive, always trying to have a say in the marriage , one time I have resisted her interference, she reported me to their father who came to the house to warn me that the elder sister is there to be leading both me and my husband in the marriage as an experience woman who is ten years old in marriage , I find this annoying but I just had to keep quiet .her workers do come into my house to pick anything from my kitchen or the room and use it carelessly . One time I got back home and I saw one of the wrapper I use in backing my baby tied arround the waist of one of her workers and I wasn't so cool with it , I told her to wash it and return it for me that I do not joke with that wrapper , she refuses , the next day I saw the wrapper on the floor very dirty and I was very angry I told her to go wash it and return it , she told me she can't cos she's not the only one that uses it and that it's my sister in law that brought it out, I told the girl that she should never enter my house to pick anything again when my sister in law arrived she started blackmailing me with so u cannot leave ordinary wrapper , if you say she shouldn't enter the house that means u pursued me and all..I had to stand my ground it's not just about the wrapper anymore , it's the fact that the girl was rude to me I am 10 years older than this girl and that I insist that she shouldn't enter my house again, she said stuffs like i am rude to her as well so I shouldn't bother about the girl being rude and left . Now she started acting up , but I make sure I greet her everyday and move on , I no longer sit with her or discuss with her sometimes she doesn't answer and sometimes she answer somehow , this girl of hers never greeted me again after that day .
Now the challenge is she had gone to report me to the father as usual , the father calls my husband and I don't know what they discuss but he has stopped talking to me in the house , he's always supporting his family anyway and his father has stopped calling me as well all of the calls themselves from time to time discussing me most times my husband run outside to answer there calls ..was I wrong in my approach, what could I have done better it looks like I am living among people that hate me they all stay close

Karlifate:
Simply because your daft brain only comprehend foolish opinion(s).

Chidi2022:
While your daft brain with no IQ left, only make silly and senseless opinions...

Karlifate:
Says the Chief Senseless Officer (CSO).

Chidi2022:
Says the only senseless fool who only lives his life by the opinion of people's tweets on nairaland...