Olamidegal:
my husband does not want my family to interfere in our marriage at all, he does not like any member of my family because when I was pregnant, there was a time we had issue and my mother called him to take things easy with me and all he got really angry and was rude to my mom he said my mom was supposed to instruct me to come beg him not preach to him to thread softly because whenever we have little issue he takes it to his family and his sister and dad are there the next day compelling me to kneel and Beg him. He told me that day that my family does not matter in the marriage that its only his family that matters cause they are husbands family. I try not to involve my family in any issue after that cos i really hate the way he spoke to my mom

ahnie:

When you get too familiar with in-laws,and throw yaself at them,this is what you get.
It's best to set boundaries at the beginning to avoid ishi's like this.

@sunbestie darl...I ve bn ban on food section,seems the spambot hates us conversing in our native lingua.

Ban ends on 5th this month.

Olamidegal:
he's supporting his family by keeping malice with me in the house, he always supports his family , his sister can never do any wrong in his eyes. I live like an outsider in this marriage because my husband believes his father and sister are his family and they must be satisfied if I want ti see his good side

Gloriagee:
■ Sis, you got this. I can't understand why a human being will want another person
terrified of him, not to mention a terrified wife. You are being emotionally abused and i wont be shocked if you're being physically abused as well. If you are being physically abused, get out ALIVE. Practice self affirmation, speak positively to yourself and tell yourself you don't deserve this. Pray for yourself too and your spouse if you think there's a negative influence at play and otherwise he's a good guy but if there's physical abuse, RUN first.

Kobojunkie:
1. Please, let's stop propagating that evil bullsheet that a man or woman should not be held accountable for their actions in all cases. It is partly to blame for why so many women sit tight in abusive situations when they ought not to. And no, God is not going to come down to save anyone from or in marriage.

Olamidegal:
Good evening sir and Ma s, I feel a bit taken aback doing this but I am just kind of desperate right now, things didn't get any better, I have gone to beg the sister like some people suggested and even my husband as well and have kept a safe distance , but she wasn't so pleased with the distant I kept , she kept saying things I don't even know to their family member as usual about how I am not regarding her just because I don't discuss anything with her anymore, I greet her with respect and go my own way every now and then , everyday I kept getting threatened by there dad about how they will throw me out for disrescting hus daughter and my husband as usual is just following his family trend I don't know what plans they are making but I can't even put my thought together because I'm afraid one day they will just come together and fufil there threat ..please I really need a job , I am based in lagos ikorodu and I don't even mind relocating to any state if there's accommodation, I have a six month old daughter as well! Anyone that can help me with a job please help I've been trying to apply and I am not getting much of a call back . Please help me I really need a job . I studied political science and I have 4 years experience in customer service role

Fiscus105:
I haven't read half of ur post when I stopped reading, having realised that indeed u need marital tutorials, I pray ur marriage won't scatter before 5 years of ur marriage, I noticed of high ego in you and a wife who will not accommodate in-laws for whatever reason,and above all anger issues.

AN HUMBLE WIFE WOULD HAVE PICKED UP HER WRAPPER AND WASHED IT HERSELF AND LET THE SLEEPING DOG LIES.

I biliv that 70% of marital issues that are coming up in ur marriage are caused by you, because of ur domineering tendency.

if ur story is true, I will tell ur husband that he has succeeded wifed" his boss.


ANYBODY CAN SAY WHATEVER FROM NOW TILL TOMORROW, IF YOU ARE A WIFE AND YOU FIND IT HARD TO ACCOMMODATE YOUR IN LAWS , YOU WONT HAVE PEACE.

REASONS WHY SINGLE MOTHERS LITTER EVERYWHERE.

Olamidegal:
■ Good evening sir and Ma s, I feel a bit taken aback doing this but I am just kind of desperate right now, things didn't get any better, I have gone to beg the sister like some people suggested and even my husband as well and have kept a safe distance , but she wasn't so pleased with the distant I kept , she kept saying things I don't even know to their family member as usual about how I am not regarding her just because I don't discuss anything with her anymore, I greet her with respect and go my own way every now and then , everyday I kept getting threatened by there dad about how they will throw me out for disrescting hus daughter and my husband as usual is just following his family trend I don't know what plans they are making but I can't even put my thought together because I'm afraid one day they will just come together and fufil there threat ..please I really need a job , I am based in lagos ikorodu and I don't even mind relocating to any state if there's accommodation, I have a six month old daughter as well! Anyone that can help me with a job please help I've been trying to apply and I am not getting much of a call back . Please help me I really need a job . I studied political science and I have 4 years experience in customer service role

Kobojunkie:
Wow... Sounds like the situation became a lot worse after the begging. Not sure what you went to beg for by the way. Please consider heading back to your family home if you feel the condition is no longer conducive in that home abeg! I am not certain how long it will take for you to get a job but at least if you are in a place where you can get your mind more settled, you can move forward from there to seeing what you can find.

Mindlog:


The most important thing you need to do right now, is to pack your things, that of your baby leave that family when they are not around, go back to your birth family and end that marriage from your family's house!

Until you leave that toxic environment and marriage, you will never achieve clarity on how to rediscover yourself and move ahead with your life.

Olamidegal:
■ I just went to beg like Emabinu ma (im sorry ma) and she told me now that i have come to beg her is now the time she will show me . i have talked to my parent about this my father did not want me back home, he said I can't come back to his house , I really do not have anywhere to go ,
■ I just need a job so that I can rent a small place and start my life

Olamidegal:
I really wish I have the means to because I do not have any peace here this is 12:22 am I can't find sleep and thus sleepless night has been going for long

Olamidegal:
I just went to beg like Emabinu ma (im sorry ma) and she told me now that i have come to beg her is now the time she will show me .i have talked to my parent about this my father did not want me back home, he said I can't come back to his house , I really do not have anywhere to go , I just need a job so that I can rent a small place and start my life

Olamidegal:
I am one year and three month old in marriage , my husband elder sister has her shop in front of our house , somehow the land belongs to there late mother who gave it to them .
The problem is my sister inlaw is very intrusive, always trying to have a say in the marriage , one time I have resisted her interference, she reported me to their father who came to the house to warn me that the elder sister is there to be leading both me and my husband in the marriage as an experience woman who is ten years old in marriage , I find this annoying but I just had to keep quiet .her workers do come into my house to pick anything from my kitchen or the room and use it carelessly . One time I got back home and I saw one of the wrapper I use in backing my baby tied arround the waist of one of her workers and I wasn't so cool with it , I told her to wash it and return it for me that I do not joke with that wrapper , she refuses , the next day I saw the wrapper on the floor very dirty and I was very angry I told her to go wash it and return it , she told me she can't cos she's not the only one that uses it and that it's my sister in law that brought it out, I told the girl that she should never enter my house to pick anything again when my sister in law arrived she started blackmailing me with so u cannot leave ordinary wrapper , if you say she shouldn't enter the house that means u pursued me and all..I had to stand my ground it's not just about the wrapper anymore , it's the fact that the girl was rude to me I am 10 years older than this girl and that I insist that she shouldn't enter my house again, she said stuffs like i am rude to her as well so I shouldn't bother about the girl being rude and left . Now she started acting up , but I make sure I greet her everyday and move on , I no longer sit with her or discuss with her sometimes she doesn't answer and sometimes she answer somehow , this girl of hers never greeted me again after that day .
Now the challenge is she had gone to report me to the father as usual , the father calls my husband and I don't know what they discuss but he has stopped talking to me in the house , he's always supporting his family anyway and his father has stopped calling me as well all of the calls themselves from time to time discussing me most times my husband run outside to answer there calls ..was I wrong in my approach, what could I have done better it looks like I am living among people that hate me they all stay close

Skyview01:
How old is your husband? 15?

You are being disrespected because your husband has failed to take a stand for you before his family members.

No body in my family can try that shit with my wife and my house is strictly off limit to family members on both sides.

There is nothing you can do but talk to your husband to act like a man and protect his home.

Olamidegal:
I am one year and three month old in marriage , my husband elder sister has her shop in front of our house , somehow the land belongs to there late mother who gave it to them .
The problem is my sister inlaw is very intrusive, always trying to have a say in the marriage , one time I have resisted her interference, she reported me to their father who came to the house to warn me that the elder sister is there to be leading both me and my husband in the marriage as an experience woman who is ten years old in marriage , I find this annoying but I just had to keep quiet .her workers do come into my house to pick anything from my kitchen or the room and use it carelessly . One time I got back home and I saw one of the wrapper I use in backing my baby tied arround the waist of one of her workers and I wasn't so cool with it , I told her to wash it and return it for me that I do not joke with that wrapper , she refuses , the next day I saw the wrapper on the floor very dirty and I was very angry I told her to go wash it and return it , she told me she can't cos she's not the only one that uses it and that it's my sister in law that brought it out, I told the girl that she should never enter my house to pick anything again when my sister in law arrived she started blackmailing me with so u cannot leave ordinary wrapper , if you say she shouldn't enter the house that means u pursued me and all..I had to stand my ground it's not just about the wrapper anymore , it's the fact that the girl was rude to me I am 10 years older than this girl and that I insist that she shouldn't enter my house again, she said stuffs like i am rude to her as well so I shouldn't bother about the girl being rude and left . Now she started acting up , but I make sure I greet her everyday and move on , I no longer sit with her or discuss with her sometimes she doesn't answer and sometimes she answer somehow , this girl of hers never greeted me again after that day .
Now the challenge is she had gone to report me to the father as usual , the father calls my husband and I don't know what they discuss but he has stopped talking to me in the house , he's always supporting his family anyway and his father has stopped calling me as well all of the calls themselves from time to time discussing me most times my husband run outside to answer there calls ..was I wrong in my approach, what could I have done better it looks like I am living among people that hate me they all stay close

Olamidegal:
I am one year and three month old in marriage , my husband elder sister has her shop in front of our house , somehow the land belongs to there late mother who gave it to them .
The problem is my sister inlaw is very intrusive, always trying to have a say in the marriage , one time I have resisted her interference, she reported me to their father who came to the house to warn me that the elder sister is there to be leading both me and my husband in the marriage as an experience woman who is ten years old in marriage , I find this annoying but I just had to keep quiet .her workers do come into my house to pick anything from my kitchen or the room and use it carelessly . One time I got back home and I saw one of the wrapper I use in backing my baby tied arround the waist of one of her workers and I wasn't so cool with it , I told her to wash it and return it for me that I do not joke with that wrapper , she refuses , the next day I saw the wrapper on the floor very dirty and I was very angry I told her to go wash it and return it , she told me she can't cos she's not the only one that uses it and that it's my sister in law that brought it out, I told the girl that she should never enter my house to pick anything again when my sister in law arrived she started blackmailing me with so u cannot leave ordinary wrapper , if you say she shouldn't enter the house that means u pursued me and all..I had to stand my ground it's not just about the wrapper anymore , it's the fact that the girl was rude to me I am 10 years older than this girl and that I insist that she shouldn't enter my house again, she said stuffs like i am rude to her as well so I shouldn't bother about the girl being rude and left . Now she started acting up , but I make sure I greet her everyday and move on , I no longer sit with her or discuss with her sometimes she doesn't answer and sometimes she answer somehow , this girl of hers never greeted me again after that day .
Now the challenge is she had gone to report me to the father as usual , the father calls my husband and I don't know what they discuss but he has stopped talking to me in the house , he's always supporting his family anyway and his father has stopped calling me as well all of the calls themselves from time to time discussing me most times my husband run outside to answer there calls ..was I wrong in my approach, what could I have done better it looks like I am living among people that hate me they all stay close

LaShawn:


How is it going now?
Send me an email where I can talk to you.

Olamidegal:
.. nothing much Haa changed , I was able to get a teaching job the pay is very poor and all the money goes into transport and trying to fend for myself , I was hoping to atleast save and rent a room apartment, but I couldn't, i have not even be able to save ordinary 10k .you can reach out to me on ogunleyeolayinka54@gmail.com . Thanks ma

Olamidegal:
.. nothing much Haa changed , I was able to get a teaching job the pay is very poor and all the money goes into transport and trying to fend for myself , I was hoping to atleast save and rent a room apartment, but I couldn't, i have not even be able to save ordinary 10k .you can reach out to me on ogunleyeolayinka54@gmail.com . Thanks ma

Olamidegal:
my husband does not want my family to interfere in our marriage at all, he does not like any member of my family because when I was pregnant, there was a time we had issue and my mother called him to take things easy with me and all he got really angry and was rude to my mom he said my mom was supposed to instruct me to come beg him not preach to him to thread softly because whenever we have little issue he takes it to his family and his sister and dad are there the next day compelling me to kneel and Beg him. He told me that day that my family does not matter in the marriage that its only his family that matters cause they are husbands family. I try not to involve my family in any issue after that cos i really hate the way he spoke to my mom

Ohizman73:
Did you not first date your husband before settling with him as a wife. which involves knowing his family and viewing them. Then also knowing where you are to reside during marriage and such necessary stuff that involves cohabition.all these have to have been sorted out b4 you took in.

Intergrated:
madam go your family house. Until that man is ready for the marriage. I hate reading stuffs like this. In law it's advised you separate first and see if there would be changes

Olamidegal:
my father refused , he would not allow me to come home , I am still begging him till today