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Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by MrAgbako: 3:16pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
siofra:Nah man wey una wan kill una dey find. U no wan make the husband go work again? You don think about the stress too?. Come make I dash u belle wey i go reject make u know how the things dey be. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by Rokiat(f): 6:00pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
MrAgbako: Even if the husband works he should take some time off work when his woman puts to bed to help her. |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by Jozilinn: 7:12pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
lilyheaven:Thank you it's not a must for someone to come to omugwo for you, Let someone help you two weeks,then you are good to go after all you have the experience now. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by Jozilinn: 7:15pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
MrAgbako:It depends on his type of work...and the mentality of the husband too. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by VTJN(m): 7:20pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
MrAgbako:The man should take a break from work to look after his wife and baby 4 Likes |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by MrAgbako: 9:33pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
Rokiat:Rest We both know whatever little effort he might put in is not enough and there is even one dummbo that quoted me telling me the husband should quit his job to help is wife. Abeg watin family go chop if man no work. Thunder wey go fire that guy still dey do press up 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by MrAgbako: 9:36pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
VTJN:Thunder wey go fire u still dey do press up ... If a man don't work to have money will any woman marry him in the first place. E be like bomb dey ur head 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by lilyheaven: 9:44pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
Yes ooo! Kobojunkie: |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by lilyheaven: 9:46pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
Hehe 😉 thunder is not firing any body. Federal government has approved 14 days maternity leave for fathers 🤩 MrAgbako: |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by lilyheaven: 9:53pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
I’m sure you are living in Africa. Your wife will divorce you abroad , with this ideas of yours When you marry a wife you love dearly, you will do everything for her MrAgbako: 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by LilMissFavvy(f): 9:55pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
Since your mother and your husband have refused to help you, I think you should look for a caring friend and go live till your child is three months. Save your self, unless you don't want your body to heal fast. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by MrAgbako: 10:44pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
lilyheaven:Lol Y'all pathetic lot. Love seams to be one sided thing for you myopic lot. Wait o. U womenfolks sef no fit do everything for una husbands since y'all claimed to love him. Even if you no fit do kitchen works employ housemaid nah.. So going to work and providing for the family is not love abi? Until I wash kitchen plates that is when you will accept it is love abi. I no blame una. I blame those weak men responsible for this nonsense. Look enh lemme address your properly. I live in Nigeria. I was born and raise up here and I am proud of my heritage. I won't say much but if you expect a man like me to do extra at home after all that stress from work then you in for a long thing and if perhaps let assume a Western or white woman wish to be my life partner. I will laid own my rules and regulations and she must comply to it. I'm that kinda dude that turn a woman into anything I want her to be... So quick talking and go pick up your dilldo sexxx toy 5 Likes |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by Rokiat(f): 10:49pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
MrAgbako: Well he should try harder. |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by WesternPanzer: 10:58pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
The kind of things I usually read on this forum baffles me sometimes. Hello, anything that concerns my personal happiness is a RED LINE for me. If your mother's presence in the house will cause you one bit of discomfort or unhappiness... By All means, let her not come! Why are you even bringing it to the public forum for advice? Do you need Public validation for your comfort and privacy? You mother is obviously trying to manipulate you emotionally. You owe her nothing. She owes it to you to train you as her child. Never allow her to manipulate you with the emotional "After all I did for you" claptrap. Pursue your peace of mind and happiness. Very important! |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by Ilekokonit: 11:29pm On Apr 10, 2023 |
Ijelenwanyioma: If you feel like the above, then phone her to tell her how you feel and how her presence for omugwo may push you into post natal depression but if she refuses to see reason then you have to be blunt and tell her not to come so that both you and her can have peace of mind but you have to be firm because there is no point risking your mental health to satisfy anyone. If you are not bold enough to tell her not to come to her face or over the phone, then write a letter to her detailing how you feel and also asking her not to come for omugwo and get a courier to deliver it to her at a time you know she will be at home and this should do the trick. Your mum will get over your insistence on her not coming maybe not immediately but in a year or 2 she will get over it. |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by VTJN(m): 6:58am On Apr 11, 2023 |
MrAgbako:If the woman was working will you say this? Will she take permission from her work to look after her husband or not? Many men do take some break at work whenever their wife put to bed. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by lilyheaven: 8:07am On Apr 11, 2023 |
You don’t eat? Because of kitchen utensils. Is kitchen utensils the only work at home. Besides, She never complained she can’t take care of her kitchen. And who told you she’s not working? Your ego is too much, bring it down. Wicked soul. MrAgbako: 3 Likes |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by bigdammyj: 6:43pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
Noted. |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by sameoldguy: 6:44pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
If you don’t want her to come that’s fine. She’s your mother after all. Glad she’s not your mother inlaw. But quick question, are you sure she is really your mother? As in the woman that gave birth to you? You need to start asking some questions o. Why is it that it’s only women who attack women in marriage the more? Mother attack daughter, mother inlaw attacks daughter inlaw? You never hear cases of father inlaw and son inlaw or father and son. Women would stress you from childhood till they are all old. 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by ednut1(m): 6:47pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
You need to tell her before coming. If not make she dey her dey. Some African parents need to be dealt with by clearing them. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by sparko1(m): 6:55pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
Ijelenwanyioma: Honestly though, why would you get pregnant again, two children is enough, considering the pain you went through, you guys are trying oh! 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by Freelancerr(m): 6:56pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
Tell her not to come. Let your husbands mother come instead. |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by biggy00000(m): 6:58pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
Your mum is your mum and she will not change. If your MIL can come around to help out-cool. If you have younger sis that can help out -cool. Your hubby should have "erected" bathing n changing diapers and feeding babies now. Tell your mum your family have been blessed with a baby and you will come see her as soon as you can as you do not need her to start stressing to come around |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by Socratiz: 6:59pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
You have valid reasons for not wanting her to come for omugo. The question you need to ask yourself is What would happen if she does not come? You must prepare to live with the consequences of stopping her from coming. The truth is, nothing will happen. It's not advisable you subject yourself to emotional stress so soon after childbirth otherwise it could lead to PTSD. Give yourself peace of mind to take care of your baby. By the way, make sure you get the support of your husband on this so that if your mum raises dust, both of you can fight it. Wishing you a safe delivery 1 Like |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by Ogbaba123: 7:01pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
Ijelenwanyioma: you don’t sound mature enough to be making babies Secondly, is your husband also having stitches or pushing any baby through his v*gina? Thirdly, if you cannot make decisions for yourself and wellbeing it leads back to my first statement If you don’t want your mum to come simply tell her not to bother and tell her straight that the last time wasn’t a pleasant experience for you |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by Lamanii22(f): 7:10pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
Ha that’s a terrible thing for her to do, a true mother won’t do that to her child |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by Rechargeam247(f): 7:19pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
How did she know you are pregnant?? |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by toprealman: 7:20pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
Ijelenwanyioma:Grow up, take control of your life. Narcissist people regardless of who they are should be addressed squarely! |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by CoalitionNaija(m): 7:21pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
Abeg for your mental health, discuss with ur husband for someone u trust from his side to come. Omugwo na turn by turn. You can schedule a visit for your mother during dedication if u are from the side that wait at least 3-6months for Childs dedication . Some mothers get touch touch for head. Ijelenwanyioma: |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by Hallabee1(m): 7:21pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
Aje.... When our mother get to that age, 60+, they behave that way,she is your mum, you just have to understand her at that age ... |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by Monaboo(m): 7:21pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
My neighbor a Yoruba woman gave birth. She said in the Yoruba tradition, it's is her husband's mother (her mother-in-law) that will come for her Omogwu. The mother-in-law came a day after birth. Spent only a week and left. Everybody shock. At the end, It was her own mother that was coming from home to take care of her. Bottom line, if your mother will come and not help you, then politely tell her you can handle yourself. Then call that other lady to come and help u. |
Re: I Don't Want My Mother To Come For My Omugwo by harmony75: 7:24pm On Apr 11, 2023 |
Let her come after 6 months and let the other lady help you after delivery it is very stressful for what some of our mothers do my mom did the same to my younger sister when she came for omugwo. Please stay strong and happy after you're recovered she can come so for you not to be unhappy so you heal fast! |
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