From a friend though


Am the last born in my family and there are too many ups and downs and wahala in my family because it was a polygamous home and my father was one of the man I mistakenly ever met on earth and unlucky for me he is my father 😭😢
So how I wish I should start my life with my own fresh lineage from my wife and children. Like I don't want to be part of the father tree again.

I gave birth 3days ago and I don't want my son to bear my surname 🤔 I want my own name to be his surname so my father lineage will be cut off
☹️

Please is there any future implications in this decision?
Or rather something bad behind this decision??

Thanks 😌

Sighs!

Tayorshd87:
From a friend though
Am the last born in my family and there are too many ups and downs and wahala in my family because it was a polygamous home and my father was one of the man I mistakenly ever met on earth and unlucky for me he is my father 😭😢
So how I wish I should start my life with my own fresh lineage from my wife and children. Like I don't want to be part of the father tree again.
I gave birth 3days ago and I don't want my son to bear my surname 🤔 I want my own name to be his surname so my father lineage will be cut off
☹️
Please is there any future implications in this decision?
Or rather something bad behind this decision??
Thanks 😌

I believe all that is required is that you write your name on his birth certificate and then indicate the first name and last name (include any other names if necessary) you wish for him to bear right there in the same certificate?

The kind things some men dey think sef'' wetin concern my father concern my precious kid. Your father did mistake u don't like fine, now it is left for u correct those mistakes in ur time. Oga stop been too emotional abeg
Use whatever name u like it is ur son.

There is no problem about that
Let him bear your name

There are many people using their father first name as their surname...e plenty for naija here....so no biggy..

No implication.

I know someone whose children bear his native name as their surname as he said he wants his own surname to end with him and his children bear his own name,

Hmmm


The fruit doesn't fall far from the tree...

my father was one of the man I mistakenly ever met on earth and unlucky for me he is my father

Don't know why ifind this so funny......


You don't wanna have anything to do with your father.. and you have a son now... Ijust pray your son doesn't choose same path!!!

My kids are using my name and heaven didn't fall I believe you can do same

There’s no implication my bro na u know wetin ur eyes de see you should have just moved on jeje Li some people go just de give u some funny details here way go de make u feel
Bad. Abeg move on my bro God bless your son.

In fact it was tradition in Yoruba culture for sons to bear their own names until Christianity brought us surnames. All my great-grandfathers' siblings surnamed their first names.

My father and my God, may I never be such a deadbeat father that my children will decide to crop my name from his lineage. May such lot not be my portion in life in Jesus mighty name. Amen!!!

Oga stop worrying yourself. Only me and my wife are bearing my last name. My daughter is bearing my first name as her last name. There is nothing absolutely wrong with what you intend to do.

If you want to begin a new chapter with your kids fine but have in mind that one of them must take after your hated father.

I have a British friend who boast of their family name. He said the name have been in the family for 600 years. And I believe there must have been scoundrels and all sorts along the line in the family but none of them planned to changed that name anytime soon.


OP, I hope you don't plan to call him, Samuel Peter or Francis Emmanuel or Philip Paul?
Abeg we be Africans o.

First step to complicating your child's life...

1. Make his surname different from yours.

When you face challenges later in life because of this, you will reminder the day you changed it and regret.

Nothing wrong. Ur surname is not even ur father name. And if you investigate you will not even know where rhe name comes from.

I have met alot of people who surname are English especially in south south and south east. Example goodluck Jonathan.

People rejoice when a boy is born because of the continuity of the lineage. A man should not change surname just like that because of history attached to it. You don’t like your father, fine be a better father to your children but the lineage should continue

Tayorshd87:
From a friend though


Am the last born in my family and there are too many ups and downs and wahala in my family because it was a polygamous home and my father was one of the man I mistakenly ever met on earth and unlucky for me he is my father 😭😢
So how I wish I should start my life with my own fresh lineage from my wife and children. Like I don't want to be part of the father tree again.

I gave birth 3days ago and I don't want my son to bear my surname 🤔 I want my own name to be his surname so my father lineage will be cut off
☹️

Please is there any future implications in this decision?
Or rather something bad behind this decision??

Thanks 😌

You have every right to name your child or children any of your three known names

It has no documental implications

It has no family implications

Its your choice to do so, so far your wife is consented to that

So go ahead and name your children surname to be any of your documented name

As a matter of fact, they can bear your two other names as a compound name, excluding your surname

Assuming you are Mr Kojo Peter efe

They can bear Peter Efe

They can bear Peter

They can bear Efe

It will be idle if your wife bears same with your children

Tayorshd87:
From a friend though


Am the last born in my family and there are too many ups and downs and wahala in my family because it was a polygamous home and my father was one of the man I mistakenly ever met on earth and unlucky for me he is my father 😭😢
So how I wish I should start my life with my own fresh lineage from my wife and children. Like I don't want to be part of the father tree again.

I gave birth 3days ago and I don't want my son to bear my surname 🤔 I want my own name to be his surname so my father lineage will be cut off
☹️

Please is there any future implications in this decision?
Or rather something bad behind this decision??

Thanks 😌

My brother woke up one day with a question. He asked us who will bear his father's name if all of us including his future children keep bearing our family surname, which was the name of our paternal grandfather. He was also a polygamist
Here and there, the young man made up his mind and changed his surname to our father's direct native name. Some siblings joined him in changing theirs as well, but I maintained the family surname because I know that as soon as I get married, I will change all.
Unless by facial resemblance, otherwise if you visit us and we decide to introduce ourselves by our full names, you might begin to wonder why we all are bearing different surnames.

So do what makes you comfortable. And if it requires change of name in the dailies, you can go ahead with a classified advert. But try to be discrete about it for the time being.

Your story reminds me of me, infact I just changed my 6 year old daughters surname to mine. I firstly went to a Health center and paid 1k for it. Thereafter went to her school and changed her name on the school portal. Paid 5k for the change of name through the court issuing an avidavit. Since yours is still young you won't need all that stress. I had to do what I did cos my own dad was involved in my divorce and was even the one that hired a lawyer for mu ex all in the bid to take my daughter away from me. I know I can't change my surname cos of my BVN, passport and the likes but it's what it is.

No implications whatsoever .

We don't know the meaning of our surname,no tangible meaning has being given till date .

All those NigerDelta "foreign" names,so my brothers are using my Dad's first name as their children's surname.

Just change it on all necessary documents and get a court affidavit.

Treat to forgive your dad ,so you kid(s) don't inherit unforgiving and bitter spirits from you.

Very possible
Am planning same
Am starting a new family
I can't bear my enemy name

OKOATA:
Your story reminds me of me, infact I just changed my 6 year old daughters surname to mine. I firstly went to a Health center and paid 1k for it. Thereafter went to her school and changed her name on the school portal. Paid 5k for the change of name through the court issuing an avidavit. Since yours is still young you won't need all that stress. I had to do what I did cos my own dad was involved in my divorce and was even the one that hired a lawyer for mu ex all in the bid to take my daughter away from me. I know I can't change my surname cos of my BVN, passport and the likes but it's what it is.

Old men of nowadays Dey on kolos🤣🤣🤣🤣

Lance008:

Old men of nowadays Dey on kolos🤣🤣🤣🤣

Not really, he feels he's evil. But what's waiting for him will be worse, he even sent my mom out of the house they built together cos he had the house documents and sold the house. He will learn soon.

OKOATA:
Not really, he feels he's evil. But what's waiting for him will be worse, he even sent my mom out of the house they built together cos he had the house documents and sold the house. He will learn soon.

Make he learn to be honest
Their own don too much

Wonder

Damnnn niggar
I understand
Your lineages is some how broke

If not you won't be saying this

No matter what we do not cut off our ancestors

Even that little boy from extraction 2 movie was still loyal to the family of his father ( the naggazi)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2DNoFXD4Bjo

Yes. It is possible. You can use your first name as his new surname.
I know a lot of people that did this.

Pray to be poor and dependent on your wife and her father, then you can adopt her surname and ur son can also.

Since you don’t want to have sense and shame