Why are you begging a woman who wants to be with you, only when things are good, and run when shit hits the fan?

Sorry for the emotional distress.

Op,
I feel your pains but the truth is that you cannot fend fpr your family presently.

My advice is to concentrate on your apprenticeship and probably send monthly allowance to your wife's account however small. This will do two things for you.
One, show that you are responsible
Two, show a trail the you are sending money for their upkeep.

I am sure you will still bounce back after the apprenticeship.

God bless

GeorgeForeman:



With another man? Hmmm

it's possible

What your wife needs is money and not love.

Make money, and she will come back.

abba09:
if she japa with my kid i will move on nd have another kid with another woman

Better stay alone than stress someone’s daughter.

Kid marry kid,MONEY must INVOLVED

They are fine. Focus on yourself Mr man.

Let your wife go. Accepting her back will cause you more depression, as she will be totally out of control.
Focus on your new apprenticeship and develop yourself, and I'm very such this skill fetches money, and in the end you'll see who come begging, but don't accept her because she's no more yours!

EriMma1:
Money go, woman go. When I was warning you guys in my post that a woman needs to be taken care of if you want your marriage to last, some empty skull said I too like men matter. Now see.

This skill is what you ought to have learnt first, then build your financial security before talking about marriage but You men like putting the cart before the horse.

Number 2, marriage is not for children. Forget the general opinion that it's better to marry a younger girl. mature ladies are still far better in terms of managing hard times and handling tough situations unlike your 23 yr old who has not been through lifes hurdles or surmounted challenges on her own. Prolly she just moved in with you from her parents house where everything is being done for her.

As long as you're still broke and can't meet her needs yet, no amount of begging will make her come back cos that was why she left in the first place.

Focus and complete your skill training. Make sure you learn it very well and start sourcing for jobs.. Also keep looking for a regular job to sustain in the meantime. Forget about her but try to send upkeep for your child

If you hammer tomorrow, look for a mature lady and marry.

All this 20s ladies without tangible source of income rushing into marriage with average Nigeria guys, I pity all of you. You people think marriage is childs play. Make una dey play.

But Bill Gate wife leave am. Jeff Bezos wife leave am, na lack of money make them leave too?
These are amongst the 4 Richest men in the world.
What you said is called, fallacy of generalization.
There are still many good women who are not all about money, same as good men who are not all about sex.

Munzy14:

You dey advise who conji hold..🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

It is same as advising a woman in love.

A buhari/Tinubu supporter.

Or Nwoke ji cash...

Self developement is key to sustainable wealth/income.

But Zombiedients are more fanatical than any other supporters

Listen bro.
You can't force or beg her to come back to you okay, especially when the family are very much in support of her leaving.
And since you didn't state here that you have abuse her in any form, be it emotional, phycological or physical abuse, so here is my take.
If your child is less than 10years old, you can't take him or her back by any means, except if she's jobless and can't take care of the child because she have a bad character or mental health issue that you can prove to the court of law.
So, you can't be in need of the warm embrace of a woman that left you because she's impatient enough to stay with Because you are broke.
So here are my final advice to you.
It's either you left her go for two year while you pay her child support for your child,then file for divorce after two years of separation, or you go and work very hard to get money so that you can be able to provide for a woman that can't really manage with you and would leave if you go broke again.
Choose one.

isabi2lof:
Sorry for what you're going through

But same you guys have been saying Nigeria women are giving you guy headaches, and you guys can actually do without us

You women naturally give men headache, maybe you guys should try being the breadwinner and we'd see how you cope

mykymyk101:
Let your wife go. Accepting her back will cause you more depression, as she will be totally out of control.
Focus on your new apprenticeship and develop yourself, and I'm very such this skill fetches money, and in the end you'll see who come begging, but don't accept her because she's no more yours!

Very good. The wife Japa from fake love. Using her as a free cook, house help, child bearer, nanny and sex worker, while not even providing the bare minimum. He should go take care of himself or employ all the above to take care of him.

Wotoporiously speaking

First of all, if you no get money no even reason marriage Mattias

Secondly to the story at hand; that act of hers alone shows lack of respect and an attempt to kidnapping; taking your child away from you without your presence says alot about her intent, infact the whole action is bleeped up.

Thirdly, if I was you I would also take the child from her unknowingly or knowingly...na to track her na hin remain, the rest would have been History...make them come with full battalion of soldiers or police come ask me why, then we can now have a real talk.

That kid is both y'all kids, she ain't got no right to take that kid away from you without your consent, it baffles me that most females in this forum saw nothing wrong in her act or should I say that's just the way they are wired.

Best believe me if I was you I will take my kid and forget about the hoe you describe as a wife.

You dey soft for your wife na why, I don see family wey the man no get shishi and he no dey gree support shishi too but them no born the wife well make she wake up one morning carry the pikin them run... at least your own you dey even remit pass wetin you dey collect but I guess you're too soft ma nigga to take action against your wify.

Lastly, Incase you no get mind to run am street, better still go to police file a missing child's report saying your child is missing that your wife kidnapped your child and left without your notice and you can't find them..since she wan claim say she get sense.

But you can take the L, sit down and keep crying like a SIMP

GeorgeForeman:
I had to create a new account specifically for this post.

Today makes it 7 months my left with my kid.

I married my wife in feb 2021 in a low key ceremony.I have known my wife for years before get married to her as we lived in same compound.She is from Imo and I am from Enugu state.She is 23 and i am 26

We have a daughter together.Trouble began about 7 months after my daughter was born,my wife always complained i dont give her enough money for upkeep.I work as a security guard for a company earning 75k monthly.Out of that 75k,I remit 40k to her monthly for upkeep.She is a school teacher but i don't really know how much she earns.

Given the situation of things in the country,I know she may be right when she says the money i give her isn't enough but i am genuinely trying my best.it hasn't been easy.

Asides from her nagging about upkeep money,my wife is a good woman.She cooks and takes good care of our daughter.

Things got worse when the company i was working for folded up.I think the owner got involved in some shady deals and the company building and assests were confiscated.I was without a job for some time and we were surviving on my savings and and some menial jobs i was getting.

Times were hard.I opened up to my wife that i want to learn cctv And solar panel installation.I viewed this as a good skill to learn and have.I enrolled and i am an apprentice now learning alongside some other boys.

My wife couldn't bear any longer and she left with our kid without informing me.I have called her mom to beg.She said she will talk to her.I don't even know where she is though i heard she stays with her aunty.

I have begged her to return home to no avail.The issue is affecting me emotionally and mentally.I mean i'm already having a hard time trying to learn this skill,why should my wife add to it?

I really need the encouragement and warmth of my wife especially now i haven't been feeling fine for some time

Did not hear anything about her parents/ immediate family.

What has been her view on finances in marriage during courtship?

You don't even need to beg her or her family at all. Leave her alone for the time being. Focus on developing urself and turn ur life around. She will come back herself on 2 knees begging to be even a side chick. There was a time I was in the same position like you. My wife left me for another man and even abandoned my daughter, who I took up. I forgot about her and develop myself. And things turn around. I'm well okay today with 3 houses and 3 cars. She sent heaven and earth to beg, but for where. She still calls every time but I only pick occasionally. My man, hustle. Plenty women will be chasing you and you won't even know who to pick.

sorry but don’t look for her forget her concretrate make money position will look for you... God just help you take your problem away focus on how to earn money but if you want her back by force I can help you but you will regret it better let it go

Samantha124:
What does the last chat says? Anyone to translate?

It is a romantic works
Please now my love

If all you wrote is nothing but the truth...
In my candid opinion, this is a typical LOVELESS MARRIAGE ... she doesn't love you!

The best revenge in life is success
Just concentrate and be focus brother, thinking about who doesn't love you will increase your pain
Your prayer now should be, may she never meet you back the way she left you
I wish u well in your huzzle

Hmmn.. That's nice.

Thanks for the translation.

greatiyk4u:


It is a romantic works
Please now my love

75k salary and you rushed to get married. How do you even cope with such salary. Rent and food alone especially in the major cities is killing. Na wa o. When will you finish learning work? When will you be good at it? When will you start getting clients? Pikin go go school na. Pikin must chop. You don't have sense op and you are even Igbo. What's wrong with all these small Igbo boys now making Stupid decisions like this. You guys should go and check yourselves o

GeorgeForeman:
I had to create a new account specifically for this post.

Today makes it 7 months my left with my kid.

I married my wife in feb 2021 in a low key ceremony.I have known my wife for years before get married to her as we lived in same compound.She is from Imo and I am from Enugu state.She is 23 and i am 26

We have a daughter together.Trouble began about 7 months after my daughter was born,my wife always complained i dont give her enough money for upkeep.I work as a security guard for a company earning 75k monthly.Out of that 75k,I remit 40k to her monthly for upkeep.She is a school teacher but i don't really know how much she earns.

Given the situation of things in the country,I know she may be right when she says the money i give her isn't enough but i am genuinely trying my best.it hasn't been easy.

Asides from her nagging about upkeep money,my wife is a good woman.She cooks and takes good care of our daughter.

Things got worse when the company i was working for folded up.I think the owner got involved in some shady deals and the company building and assests were confiscated.I was without a job for some time and we were surviving on my savings and and some menial jobs i was getting.

Times were hard.I opened up to my wife that i want to learn cctv And solar panel installation.I viewed this as a good skill to learn and have.I enrolled and i am an apprentice now learning alongside some other boys.

My wife couldn't bear any longer and she left with our kid without informing me.I have called her mom to beg.She said she will talk to her.I don't even know where she is though i heard she stays with her aunty.

I have begged her to return home to no avail.The issue is affecting me emotionally and mentally.I mean i'm already having a hard time trying to learn this skill,why should my wife add to it?

I really need the encouragement and warmth of my wife especially now i haven't been feeling fine for some time

One man's reason and excuse for quiting is another man's passion and motivation for getting result.
Ask yourself what you want to make off the situation, yes it's gonna be quite trying to do it without your wife being there, but grind and make progress.

na wa ooo


I want to tell all men here who are married and unmarried that the only power you have or you will have over your woman is Money, because money will bring her respect, if you can provide. If you can't provide you are finished.

My wife (A medical doctor practising in Sweden) was earning far higher than me after my organization gave us pay cut during Covid-19 but I never let her know. Because if she knows her woman real character will be exhibited.

Your wife shouldn't know how much you earn if she can't tell you how much she earn. NEVER!!!

Even if you get promoted and start earning higher never let her know.

Women pockets are connected to their Kpekus the moment she start spending on you, her juice in her Vagina dries up, automatically no more feelings again.

If you want to get your wife back, start faking rich when you get a better job, ignore her and posting pictures on your SM or give people she have their contact to post them so she could see. Just Ignore her, I say Ignore her.


Na she go run come back

you where just 26 with 75k salary, the only thing that enter your head was to get married to a young girl of 23years with a teaching job probably with salary of 30k, what’s wrong with you people? Instead of you to develop yourself more with your small 75k salary, you allow them to deceive you with usual talk of I marry my wife when I was earning 15k lol, you didn’t just marry oo you also rush born children with your 75k salary... until you finally became jobless, then God decide to give you a second chance by making your wife to go away with the kids so that you use that opportunity to build yourself and be stable financially, nw you came your to disturb us cos sex done Dey hungry you, if your wife was around who knows another pikin for done enter, Oga I feel like slapping you like this. Guy learn your skill and master it very well, then get back on your feet financially and go look for your kids. As for your wife na you know.

GeorgeForeman:
I had to create a new account specifically for this post.

Today makes it 7 months my left with my kid.

I married my wife in feb 2021 in a low key ceremony.I have known my wife for years before get married to her as we lived in same compound.She is from Imo and I am from Enugu state.She is 23 and i am 26

We have a daughter together.Trouble began about 7 months after my daughter was born,my wife always complained i dont give her enough money for upkeep.I work as a security guard for a company earning 75k monthly.Out of that 75k,I remit 40k to her monthly for upkeep.She is a school teacher but i don't really know how much she earns.

Given the situation of things in the country,I know she may be right when she says the money i give her isn't enough but i am genuinely trying my best.it hasn't been easy.

Asides from her nagging about upkeep money,my wife is a good woman.She cooks and takes good care of our daughter.

Things got worse when the company i was working for folded up.I think the owner got involved in some shady deals and the company building and assests were confiscated.I was without a job for some time and we were surviving on my savings and and some menial jobs i was getting.

Times were hard.I opened up to my wife that i want to learn cctv And solar panel installation.I viewed this as a good skill to learn and have.I enrolled and i am an apprentice now learning alongside some other boys.

My wife couldn't bear any longer and she left with our kid without informing me.I have called her mom to beg.She said she will talk to her.I don't even know where she is though i heard she stays with her aunty.

I have begged her to return home to no avail.The issue is affecting me emotionally and mentally.I mean i'm already having a hard time trying to learn this skill,why should my wife add to it?

I really need the encouragement and warmth of my wife especially now i haven't been feeling fine for some time

garriAndsugar:
you just have to concentrate and learn the job so you can be useful to yourself and family.
hustle so that when she returns you can also add another wife incase one goes the other one will remain

God bless you scatter..
Leave that guy to be dulling until he will have heart attack and die off, if a woman leaves you when it is hard for you, please what is the use of that woman?

Until she kills you before you get sense abi? Let her be. Your daughter will find you when it’s time. Please stay away from her headache.

Brushstrokes20:
If all you wrote is nothing but the truth...
In my candid opinion, this is a typical LOVELESS MARRIAGE ... she doesn't love you!

So what if it is a loveless marriage? The vast majority of marriages in Nigeria are not based on love but convenience for both the man and woman involved. So why force standard that likely didn't factor there in the beginning?

GeorgeForeman:
I had to create a new account specifically for this post.


Asides from her nagging about upkeep money,my wife is a good woman.She cooks and takes good care of our daughter.

Things got worse when the company i was working for folded up.I think the owner got involved in some shady deals and the company building and assests were confiscated.I was without a job for some time and we were surviving on my savings and and some menial jobs i was getting.

Times were hard.I opened up to my wife that i want to learn cctv And solar panel installation.I viewed this as a good skill to learn and have.I enrolled and i am an apprentice now learning alongside some other boys.

My wife couldn't bear any longer and she left with our kid without informing me.I have called her mom to beg.She said she will talk to her.I don't even know where she is though i heard she stays with her aunty.

A woman who flees at the first sign of hardship is not worth fighting for.

GeorgeForeman:
I had to create a new account specifically for this post....

she left when there was no money. The solution is to make money(or be in your feet again) then tell her to come back or convince her to come and brave it with you as it should be.

I can imagine the divorce rate among Israelites during famine if this was how people run away because of lack of money.

A redpiller got served cold breakfast.
Go n make money.p

ferry1:
The best revenge in life is success. Just concentrate and be focus brother, thinking about who doesn't love you will increase your pain Your prayer now should be, may she never meet you back the way she left you
I wish u well in your huzzle

Was it love from his end when he married her and had a baby on top all while under the shackles of poverty?

Abeg, make una una try dey understand love separate from your libidos.