I started dating this girl 15 years ago. Tight body, good personality, all is well. Got married. Things continue to go swimmingly. Her mom is in her 80s and is quite overweight. A few years into the relationship I saw an old picture of her mom when she was much younger and she looked almost exactly like my wife. Started getting worried. Wife turned 40 a few months ago and her chin is starting to get flabby. Just like her mom’s. Her tits are also starting to sag. They’re huge, which was always a plus, but since last summer they’ve started expanding, but in a bad way. She’s starting to widen out in the middle. Her arms and legs are getting thicker. Basically, she’s starting to get her mom’s body. This is despite the fact that she eats right and exercises regularly. Genetics seem to be overriding her good decisions. And it’s happening rapidly. I’m having a harder time finding her sexually exciting. Which sucks, because her personality is still top tier. I’m afraid within 3 or 4 years she’s going to look hideous. And I’ll be a horrible bastard if I leave her just because she got fat, through no fault of her own. Can anything be done here? Like I said, she takes care of herself. Is there any way to fight genetics, or am I destined to have a fat cow for a wife?

DrAbdulSuleman:
I started dating this girl 15 years ago. Tight body, good personality, all is well. Got married. Things continue to go swimmingly. Her mom is in her 80s and is quite overweight. A few years into the relationship I saw an old picture of her mom when she was much younger and she looked almost exactly like my wife. Started getting worried. Wife turned 40 a few months ago and her chin is starting to get flabby. Just like her mom’s. Her tits are also starting to sag. They’re huge, which was always a plus, but since last summer they’ve started expanding, but in a bad way. She’s starting to widen out in the middle. Her arms and legs are getting thicker. Basically, she’s starting to get her mom’s body. This is despite the fact that she eats right and exercises regularly. Genetics seem to be overriding her good decisions. And it’s happening rapidly. I’m having a harder time finding her sexually exciting. Which sucks, because her personality is still top tier. I’m afraid within 3 or 4 years she’s going to look hideous. And I’ll be a horrible bastard if I leave her just because she got fat, through no fault of her own. Can anything be done here? Like I said, she takes care of herself. Is there any way to fight genetics, or am I destined to have a fat cow for a wife?

I’m lost for words and utterly angry that someone would use such nasty language to describe and qualify his wife. Body shaming her and her aged mom is the height of the insult and see finish.
Well to each their own, whatever rocks your boat!

DrAbdulSuleman:
I started dating this girl 15 years ago. Tight body, good personality, all is well. Got married. Things continue to go swimmingly. Her mom is in her 80s and is quite overweight. A few years into the relationship I saw an old picture of her mom when she was much younger and she looked almost exactly like my wife. Started getting worried. Wife turned 40 a few months ago and her chin is starting to get flabby. Just like her mom’s. Her tits are also starting to sag. They’re huge, which was always a plus, but since last summer they’ve started expanding, but in a bad way. She’s starting to widen out in the middle. Her arms and legs are getting thicker. Basically, she’s starting to get her mom’s body. This is despite the fact that she eats right and exercises regularly. Genetics seem to be overriding her good decisions. And it’s happening rapidly. I’m having a harder time finding her sexually exciting. Which sucks, because her personality is still top tier. I’m afraid within 3 or 4 years she’s going to look hideous. And I’ll be a horrible bastard if I leave her just because she got fat, through no fault of her own. Can anything be done here? Like I said, she takes care of herself. Is there any way to fight genetics, or am I destined to have a fat cow for a wife?

Better to have a cash cow ... Anyway reduce her carbohydrates intake , let her take a walk regularly.. disclaimer my input is not guarantee to work.. better still call Teni makanaki

I really don't know what to say because only people that have been in your shoes will have better advice for you
This one pass me

Reduce carbohydrates by 90%• her tits can't stand forever hope you know.

What can humans do to satisfy human beings

You married a good woman and common sense didn't tell you of all the things she has had to endure in living with you all these years?
You come online to boldly call her a fat cow??
Your so called good wife is a fat cow in your mind...

Why are everyday Nigerians so incapable of appreciating that they are not perfect and are also being tolerated by other people?

DrAbdulSuleman:
I or am I destined to have a fat cow for a wife?

Lord of our days you sure this woman is your wife? The same woman who birthed your lovely children? How can you use such derogatory words? Truly you are out of line and you should be ashamed of yourself.

Offcourse it is within your right to want your woman to keep in shape for herself and you as well but please don’t disrespect her in the process.

Talk to her about it while it's still early because if she becomes fat, there won't be any going back.

Be brutally honest with her while reminding her how much you love her, or suggest that you go to the gym together.

DrAbdulSuleman:
I started dating this girl 15 years ago. Tight body, good personality, all is well. Got married. Things continue to go swimmingly. Her mom is in her 80s and is quite overweight. A few years into the relationship I saw an old picture of her mom when she was much younger and she looked almost exactly like my wife. Started getting worried. Wife turned 40 a few months ago and her chin is starting to get flabby. Just like her mom’s. Her tits are also starting to sag. They’re huge, which was always a plus, but since last summer they’ve started expanding, but in a bad way. She’s starting to widen out in the middle. Her arms and legs are getting thicker. Basically, she’s starting to get her mom’s body. This is despite the fact that she eats right and exercises regularly. Genetics seem to be overriding her good decisions. And it’s happening rapidly. I’m having a harder time finding her sexually exciting. Which sucks, because her personality is still top tier. I’m afraid within 3 or 4 years she’s going to look hideous. And I’ll be a horrible bastard if I leave her just because she got fat, through no fault of her own. Can anything be done here? Like I said, she takes care of herself. Is there any way to fight genetics, or am I destined to have a fat cow for a wife?

Omo

DrAbdulSuleman:
I started dating this girl 15 years ago. Tight body, good personality, all is well. Got married. Things continue to go swimmingly. Her mom is in her 80s and is quite overweight. A few years into the relationship I saw an old picture of her mom when she was much younger and she looked almost exactly like my wife. Started getting worried. Wife turned 40 a few months ago and her chin is starting to get flabby. Just like her mom’s. Her tits are also starting to sag. They’re huge, which was always a plus, but since last summer they’ve started expanding, but in a bad way. She’s starting to widen out in the middle. Her arms and legs are getting thicker. Basically, she’s starting to get her mom’s body. This is despite the fact that she eats right and exercises regularly. Genetics seem to be overriding her good decisions. And it’s happening rapidly. I’m having a harder time finding her sexually exciting. Which sucks, because her personality is still top tier. I’m afraid within 3 or 4 years she’s going to look hideous. And I’ll be a horrible bastard if I leave her just because she got fat, through no fault of her own. Can anything be done here? Like I said, she takes care of herself. Is there any way to fight genetics, or am I destined to have a fat cow for a wife?

That you used the word "fast cow" to describe bn fat in your last statement is derogatory in my opinion. Especially, where it may involve your wife!!!
Your wife will not be young forever... The best you can do is to keep her fit and live her beyond her body shape and stature.

kingreign:



I’m lost for words and utterly angry that someone would use such nasty language to describe and qualify his wife. Body shaming her and her aged mom is the height of the insult and see finish.
Well to each their own, whatever rocks your boat!

I was trying to be civil until I read the last part.
God is going to purnish that man for body shaming that lady. He is such as a stupid fool tagging his wife a fat cow. I don't know him, but I have just developed natural hatred for him as a man. Disgusting

DrAbdulSuleman:
I started dating this girl 15 years ago. Tight body, good personality, all is well. Got married. Things continue to go swimmingly. Her mom is in her 80s and is quite overweight. A few years into the relationship I saw an old picture of her mom when she was much younger and she looked almost exactly like my wife. Started getting worried. Wife turned 40 a few months ago and her chin is starting to get flabby. Just like her mom’s. Her tits are also starting to sag. They’re huge, which was always a plus, but since last summer they’ve started expanding, but in a bad way. She’s starting to widen out in the middle. Her arms and legs are getting thicker. Basically, she’s starting to get her mom’s body. This is despite the fact that she eats right and exercises regularly. Genetics seem to be overriding her good decisions. And it’s happening rapidly. I’m having a harder time finding her sexually exciting. Which sucks, because her personality is still top tier. I’m afraid within 3 or 4 years she’s going to look hideous. And I’ll be a horrible bastard if I leave her just because she got fat, through no fault of her own. Can anything be done here? Like I said, she takes care of herself. Is there any way to fight genetics, or am I destined to have a fat cow for a wife?

Invest in her looking good. If she is a great wife as you speak then she deserves all the investment in her looks. I normally don't subscribe to cosmetic surgery but whatever will help her is worth investing in. There are very few good women out there and when you have one you need to cherish her. Trust me, if you try some other woman out there you will likely fall into the hands of hoe that will thoroughly deal terribly with you and destroy your joy...all for a few minutes of sexual pleasure.

Make she begin fast

So?

Create a situation that would trouble her. Having sleepless thought about the situation will reduce her fat. I used to try it, hope it works for you

I'm very sure that you are aging beside her and she is likely not attracted to you. Leave her alone and she will definitely find another man to satisfy her, even with aging. Many women have died during surgical procedures trying to please men. Your wife is exercising but age catches up with everyone. Instead of putting pressure on her, let her live her life as an aging person. If you go for young girls, realize they only want your money. They don't find you attractive. If you wife goes for a man, they will give her money because of her body. In the end if she leaves you, none of those young girls will stand by you if you get sick. I feel certain your wife will be well taken care of in her old age if you leave. I say all of this because your feelings may be valid, but your reaction is very unwise for a mature man.

Man register her in a gym. Coming here to say harsh words about your wife isn't fair.

When you love someone, you love them for no reason…. Since she eats right and exercise then that shouldn’t be a problem, she cannot kill herself…. And why would you use a condescending word like ‘fat cow’ to describe her genetic stature…. We can’t all be the same forever, just love your wife even at her worst…


If that’s you on your dp, then you aren’t perfect either, your cheek is robust tooo plus you are aging too, why not just age together, eat right and exercise together, some slim people can’t even go jogging or do aerobics like your wife, just be grateful and look past every imperfections

NaBanga:
I'm very sure that you are aging beside her and she is likely not attracted to you. Leave her alone and she will definitely find another man to satisfy her, even with aging. Many women have died during surgical procedures trying to please men. Your wife is exercising but age catches up with everyone. Instead of putting pressure on her, let her live her life as an aging person. If you go for young girls, realize they only want your money. They don't find you attractive. If you wife goes for a man, they will give her money because of her body. In the end if she leaves you, none of those young girls will stand by you if you get sick. I feel certain your wife will be well taken care of in her old age if you leave. I say all of this because your feelings may be valid, but your reaction is very unwise for a mature man.

This man is a Ph.D. earning top dollar and residing in a very prosperous area of Southern California. Let him enjoy his life with the young woman that he clearly prefers as a red-blooded male. He can afford to hire them as carnal knowledge consultants while he has medical insurance so he does NOT need any woman to "stand by him" in his old age for moral support.

Life is way too short to be lived in regret over missed opportunities to feel the luster and resilience of youthful fit women. Let him enjoy his life to the fullest and stop preaching and moralizing. In short, paddle your own canoe, and Dr. Suleman will do the needful as indicated by his own conscience and desires.

DrAbdulSuleman:
I started dating this girl 15 years ago. Tight body, good personality, all is well. Got married. Things continue to go swimmingly. Her mom is in her 80s and is quite overweight. A few years into the relationship I saw an old picture of her mom when she was much younger and she looked almost exactly like my wife. Started getting worried. Wife turned 40 a few months ago and her chin is starting to get flabby. Just like her mom’s. Her tits are also starting to sag. They’re huge, which was always a plus, but since last summer they’ve started expanding, but in a bad way. She’s starting to widen out in the middle. Her arms and legs are getting thicker. Basically, she’s starting to get her mom’s body. This is despite the fact that she eats right and exercises regularly. Genetics seem to be overriding her good decisions. And it’s happening rapidly. I’m having a harder time finding her sexually exciting. Which sucks, because her personality is still top tier. I’m afraid within 3 or 4 years she’s going to look hideous. And I’ll be a horrible bastard if I leave her just because she got fat, through no fault of her own. Can anything be done here? Like I said, she takes care of herself. Is there any way to fight genetics, or am I destined to have a fat cow for a wife?

She needs to change up her diet and her exercises, the two major things that directly affects ones health (other than stress).

YouTube should be your research ground, they are sexy looking women that are within and over yours wives age bracket whose bodies can give any man a hard on. Watch their videos, read the comments. Learn from what they did (and are doing).

And your wive need to understand what you are trying to do, lucky for you she even does work out, MOST women dread it.

Goodluck.

DrAbdulSuleman:
I started dating this girl 15 years ago. Tight body, good personality, all is well. Got married. Things continue to go swimmingly. Her mom is in her 80s and is quite overweight. A few years into the relationship I saw an old picture of her mom when she was much younger and she looked almost exactly like my wife. Started getting worried. Wife turned 40 a few months ago and her chin is starting to get flabby. Just like her mom’s. Her tits are also starting to sag. They’re huge, which was always a plus, but since last summer they’ve started expanding, but in a bad way. She’s starting to widen out in the middle. Her arms and legs are getting thicker. Basically, she’s starting to get her mom’s body. This is despite the fact that she eats right and exercises regularly. Genetics seem to be overriding her good decisions. And it’s happening rapidly. I’m having a harder time finding her sexually exciting. Which sucks, because her personality is still top tier. I’m afraid within 3 or 4 years she’s going to look hideous. And I’ll be a horrible bastard if I leave her just because she got fat, through no fault of her own. Can anything be done here? Like I said, she takes care of herself. Is there any way to fight genetics, or am I destined to have a fat cow for a wife?

She is 40 for christ sake.

You want her to remain a teenager forever?

Believe it or not, her skin is going to sag even more.

She is going to have wrinkles.

She wouldn't escape grey hair either.

Beauty fades.

Just hope that her charming personality remains.

For better for worse.

Was that not your vow?

AndroidAI:


She is 40 for christ sake.

You want her to remain a teenager forever?

Believe it or not, her skin is going to sag even more.

She is going to have wrinkles.

She wouldn't escape grey hair either.

Beauty fades.

Just hope that her charming personality remains.

For better for worse.

Was that not your vow?

Actress and bikini marketer Liz Hurley is 57 years old this year. There is NO excuse to get fat and unattractive at any age below 70

Fake husband wey no get joy, dey compare your wife to a fat cow. Small time you go begin dey chook pr**k up and down before you fail to realise say na wetin u order, na him u get.

Fat Mother= Fat Daughter

mykymyk101:
Fake husband wey no get joy, dey compare your wife to a fat cow. Small time you go begin dey chook pr**k up and down before you fail to realise say na wetin u order, na him u get.

Fat Mother= Fat Daughter

No carry anoda man load put for head. Face ya life. Di man get money full ground. Leave am to do wettin hin like for dis life.

Jakumo:


Actress and bikini marketer Liz Hurley is 57 years old this year. There is NO excuse to get fat and unattractive at any age below 70

Do you know how many restorative surgeries she does yearly?

AndroidAI:


Do you know how many restorative surgeries she does yearly?

She exercises regularly and is otherwise 100% natural. Women who are out of shape, fat, and matronly always try and blame their inability to afford plastic surgery as the cause of their own profound laziness and gluttony. Well, the result is that they will be replaced by a newer model secretly or in the open.

Chronic obesity is a rampaging EPIDEMIC among African American women and this guy's monstrous wife is a victim of that lazy gluttonous mentality. He must truly be at his wit's end to clearly identify himself in this forum while issuing such a passionate cry about his growing frustration over his wife's ballooning girth that is killing his sex drive and driving him to distraction.

Jakumo:


She exercises regularly and is otherwise 100% natural. Women who are out of shape, fat, and matronly always try and blame their inability to afford plastic surgery as the cause of their own profound laziness and gluttony. Well, the result is that they will be replaced by a newer model secretly or in the open.

Chronic obesity is a rampaging EPIDEMIC among African American women and this guy's monstrous wife is a victim of that lazy gluttonous mentality. He must truly be at his wit's end to clearly identify himself in this forum while issuing such a passionate cry about his growing frustration over his wife's growing girth that is killing his sex drive and driving him to distraction.

OP is not only talking about weight, he is talking about sagging breasts and pouch that comes as a result of having kids, he is talking about double chin.
No amount of exercise will remove a tummy pouch from childbirth, that is stretched skin from pregnancy, no diet or exercise will lift breasts, no diet or exercise will totally remove double chin.
This OP seems to have money. There is something ecalled a "mummy makeover" that takes care of the mommy look. A lot of women that look good after childbirth in Europe and North America do the mommy makeover.
Nothing stops him from registering her (with her consent) for a mommy makeover.

Never use derogatory words on the one you love or Cherish....if you really do.
As for the saggy parts and things.
40 is not too old for a woman to start looking old.

We have seen women in 50's still looking sharp.
What makes women get out of shape is eating habits, no matter the exercise it won't work.
Women who tend to be oversize have bad eating habits, nothing like genetics.

Jakumo:


She exercises regularly and is otherwise 100% natural. Women who are out of shape, fat, and matronly always try and blame their inability to afford plastic surgery as the cause of their own profound laziness and gluttony. Well, the result is that they will be replaced by a newer model secretly or in the open.

Chronic obesity is a rampaging EPIDEMIC among African American women and this guy's monstrous wife is a victim of that lazy gluttonous mentality. He must truly be at his wit's end to clearly identify himself in this forum while issuing such a passionate cry about his growing frustration over his wife's growing girth that is killing his sex drive and driving him to distraction.

Op mentioned that his wife do exercise and eats right. He also clarified that genetics is probably the main culprit, which is beyond anyone's control. So it's not her fault. He either learns to deal with it, or perhaps divorce or marry a second wife with the banging body that he wants.

If he truly loves her, the changes in her body wouldn't be a problem. This is where communication comes in. They need to sit down and profound a solution, even if it means increasing her workout routine or better yet, seeing a doctor for a physical evaluation. It could be a symptom of an underlying illness.

DrAbdulSuleman:
I started dating this girl 15 years ago. Tight body, good personality, all is well. Got married. Things continue to go swimmingly. Her mom is in her 80s and is quite overweight. A few years into the relationship I saw an old picture of her mom when she was much younger and she looked almost exactly like my wife. Started getting worried. Wife turned 40 a few months ago and her chin is starting to get flabby. Just like her mom’s. Her tits are also starting to sag. They’re huge, which was always a plus, but since last summer they’ve started expanding, but in a bad way. She’s starting to widen out in the middle. Her arms and legs are getting thicker. Basically, she’s starting to get her mom’s body. This is despite the fact that she eats right and exercises regularly. Genetics seem to be overriding her good decisions. And it’s happening rapidly. I’m having a harder time finding her sexually exciting. Which sucks, because her personality is still top tier. I’m afraid within 3 or 4 years she’s going to look hideous. And I’ll be a horrible bastard if I leave her just because she got fat, through no fault of her own. Can anything be done here? Like I said, she takes care of herself. Is there any way to fight genetics, or am I destined to have a fat cow for a wife?

It's not genetics

What time does she eat dinner?

She should avoid eating food 2 hrs before she goes to sleep

Does she snack a lot?

Does she eat sugar and processed foods?

How vigorous is her exercise schedule?

By the time you check all these things, you will have the right answer.