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Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by AngelicBeing: 1:48pm On Apr 23, 2023
Globad:
The woman...

There's a reason the significant effort of family planning is on the woman.

The woman receives and if she's not willing or ready, the sender sends in vain. This is true most of the time
Hehehe, lol at the sender, sends it in vain otherwise called, back to the Sender's or backfire during Prayers, una go kill person with laugh for nairaland.com cheesy
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by Globad(f): 1:52pm On Apr 23, 2023
AngelicBeing:
Hehehe, lol at the sender, sends it in vain otherwise called, back to the Sender's or backfire during Prayers, una go kill person with laugh for nairaland.com cheesy
cheesy cheesy
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by primeache: 1:52pm On Apr 23, 2023
They would both be fine with time
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by emerged01(m): 1:54pm On Apr 23, 2023
sync:
So I and my friends went to visit a friend that just put to bed her 5th child.

This child was unplanned for as they had already stopped having children.

She narrated to us how her husband was furious when she told him she was pregnant. He blamed her for not taking the necessary precautions.

This brought a debate between us, who actually is responsible for an unplanned pregnancy.

Is it majorly on the woman who knows her cycle and carries the pregnancy but was still careless or on both the man and wife for not working closely together to ensure what needed to be done is done
Both of them.
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by oluwasegun007(m): 1:54pm On Apr 23, 2023
The doctor
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by isabi2lof: 1:56pm On Apr 23, 2023
Both of them

For every Giver there must be a Receiver 😅😅
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by Karleb(m): 1:58pm On Apr 23, 2023
If you are a serious person, it should be your fault whether man or woman.

But man should take responsibility here, women are emotional and most are broke, na you go still dey take care of the family including yourself, so why leave such to the care of a woman?
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by FireUpNow(m): 1:59pm On Apr 23, 2023
Both. It's a collective responsibility to bring forth children.
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by nkwoemeka(m): 2:04pm On Apr 23, 2023
Konji on the man and submissiveness of the wife are to blame
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by muykem: 2:13pm On Apr 23, 2023
Wife is fully responsible for family planning. They use to give them lectures in hospital during antenatal.
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by mmsen: 2:14pm On Apr 23, 2023
Who carries the baby?

That is the person you need to look at. Ultimately the responsibility falls on the woman.
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by Flier: 2:16pm On Apr 23, 2023
Only the arm implant method can not fail,other methods is just like sending invitation letter to another child because they will fail at some point
So if you want peace of mind,do the implant (Nexplanon)
The good thing is cost 5000 naira or free in some places and it takes less than 2 minutes to be done
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by GAZZUZZ(m): 2:22pm On Apr 23, 2023
alfredo4u:
Nobody's fault, God can't give u what u can't train.....




But, if u can take kia of them all, fire on.....


After all, we dey 7 for my house, and my parents are enjoying it now ......



Gifts from here and there.......



17 grand children....Mumcy is still 65, Popsy is late....


Multiply if u can
De play...
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by StagethemTVee: 2:26pm On Apr 23, 2023
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by GloriousGbola: 2:27pm On Apr 23, 2023
Any married father will tell you - unless there are fertility issues if madam decides she wants another pikin, it will happen and there is nothing you can do about it.
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by securitywatch50: 2:28pm On Apr 23, 2023
Have you asked yourself what caused your father's untimely death
alfredo4u:
Nobody's fault, God can't give u what u can't train.....




But, if u can take kia of them all, fire on.....


After all, we dey 7 for my house, and my parents are enjoying it now ......



Gifts from here and there.......



17 grand children....Mumcy is still 65, Popsy is late....


Multiply if u can
Before advising others to follow your parents pattern.
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by Nobody: 2:31pm On Apr 23, 2023
sync:
So I and my friends went to visit a friend that just put to bed her 5th child.

This child was unplanned for as they had already stopped having children.

She narrated to us how her husband was furious when she told him she was pregnant. He blamed her for not taking the necessary precautions.

This brought a debate between us, who actually is responsible for an unplanned pregnancy.

Is it majorly on the woman who knows her cycle and carries the pregnancy but was still careless or on both the man and wife for not working closely together to ensure what needed to be done is done
Simple question for you. Who is the head of that family? When u answer that, then you have the answer to your question
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by Nobody: 2:32pm On Apr 23, 2023
securitywatch50:
Have you asked yourself what caused your father's untimely death Before advising others to follow your parents pattern.
Good question? People never factor in the effect of stress on our lives.
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by InspektorRino: 2:33pm On Apr 23, 2023
I’m surprised that nobody blamed IPOP for the pregnancy. Mhhh does it mean that IPOB is innocent?
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by Nobody: 2:33pm On Apr 23, 2023
GloriousGbola:
Any married father will tell you - unless there are fertility issues if madam decides she wants another pikin, it will happen and there is nothing you can do about it.
Really? There is nothing you can do about it?

Have yoy tried googling that?
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by Nobody: 2:34pm On Apr 23, 2023
nkwoemeka:
Konji on the man and submissiveness of the wife are to blame
Sex is not submissiveness in marriage!
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by phemmyfour: 2:41pm On Apr 23, 2023
sync:
So I and my friends went to visit a friend that just put to bed her 5th child.

This child was unplanned for as they had already stopped having children.

She narrated to us how her husband was furious when she told him she was pregnant. He blamed her for not taking the necessary precautions.

This brought a debate between us, who actually is responsible for an unplanned pregnancy.

Is it majorly on the woman who knows her cycle and carries the pregnancy but was still careless or on both the man and wife for not working closely together to ensure what needed to be done is done
Both
What stopped the man from using condom even if the family planning method fails.

When a team concede goals, both the attackers and defenders should be blame
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by thatigboman: 2:44pm On Apr 23, 2023
Man is the head of the family naa.
Why even having a debate about birth when millions are doing IVF and adopting just to have a child
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by DisLifeSha: 2:46pm On Apr 23, 2023
Giving birth is not an achievement. I'm a single child from a single mother and am suffering seriously


alfredo4u:
Nobody's fault, God can't give u what u can't train.....




But, if u can take kia of them all, fire on.....


After all, we dey 7 for my house, and my parents are enjoying it now ......



Gifts from here and there.......



17 grand children....Mumcy is still 65, Popsy is late....


Multiply if u can
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by occfx: 2:53pm On Apr 23, 2023
eyinjuege:
It's both their responsibility.
Men can wear condoms, have vasectomies to prevent pregnancy.
Women can do contraceptives too. Knowing your period is not a sure way of preventing pregnancy as your period can change due to stress, hormones for whatever reason
If you have a very fertile woman, you are in trouble. Even family planning no dey work
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by Pojomojo: 2:55pm On Apr 23, 2023
sync:
So I and my friends went to visit a friend that just put to bed her 5th child.

This child was unplanned for as they had already stopped having children.

She narrated to us how her husband was furious when she told him she was pregnant. He blamed her for not taking the necessary precautions.

This brought a debate between us, who actually is responsible for an unplanned pregnancy.

Is it majorly on the woman who knows her cycle and carries the pregnancy but was still careless or on both the man and wife for not working closely together to ensure what needed to be done is done
The man, he should use rubber or go lock up his d!ck
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by nedekid: 2:55pm On Apr 23, 2023
In my opinion, the woman.
As op said, she knows her circle. She also should know necessary steps to take to prevent pregnancy, eg pills, inserts, jabs etc.
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by Pojomojo: 2:56pm On Apr 23, 2023
occfx:
If you have a very fertile woman, you are in trouble. Even family planning no dey work
Says who?
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by simpleseyi: 2:56pm On Apr 23, 2023
My wife isn’t using any family planning. I perfected withdrawal method right from about 15 years. I have grown to be a pro. Two kids over 12 years marriage, no pills, no condom, no contraceptive. I take after King Solomon.
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by simpleseyi: 2:58pm On Apr 23, 2023
alfredo4u:
Nobody's fault, God can't give u what u can't train.....


But, if u can take kia of them all, fire on.....

After all, we dey 7 for my house, and my parents are enjoying it now ......

Gifts from here and there.......

17 grand children....Mumcy is still 65, Popsy is late....

Multiply if u can
You are the one the devil wants to use to ruin people’s future. Please ask your wonderful mummy if she ever paid over one million naira as school fees for secondary school education
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by Moniya4Real(m): 3:01pm On Apr 23, 2023
Never! Wear condom to have sex with my wife. Over my dead body.



eyinjuege:
It's both their responsibility.
Men can wear condoms, have vasectomies to prevent pregnancy.
Women can do contraceptives too. Knowing your period is not a sure way of preventing pregnancy as your period can change due to stress, hormones for whatever reason
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