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Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by Pojomojo: 3:01pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
almarthins:Wife her na |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by olabrinks(f): 3:11pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
Flier:the best contrceoption ever! It has not failed me only downside is irregular bleeding but it will stop after like 7 months from when you get it 2 Likes |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by SeedofAbraham: 3:32pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
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Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by victorVIC1(m): 3:43pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
N3TRAL: Quite insightful |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by missyblissy: 3:56pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
The woman is responsible. If you leave some men, their wives will give birth to more than they can train. Madam it is your responsibility. If you are done giving birth to the kids you and your hubby can train, Aunty wear family planning. Some men object to this, if they do, madam your life is at rsik woth every pregnancy you carry. Na grace of God they hel us women. Aunty put the family planning without his consent. No be your hubby they go heaven ans back during labour. Do yourself a favour ans do the needful. Or tie your tubes when your done. It is a woman's responsibility 1 Like |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by eyinjuege: 4:01pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
Moniya4Real: Then stop complaining if she keeps falling pregnant |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by ItisWell22(f): 4:22pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
[b][/b] Globad: Herein lies the reason your friend’s husband has put the blame on her… 🤭 |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by 1Sharon(f): 4:27pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
Africans really don't know how to use contraception! It didn't fail. YOU failed to use it correctly. Unexposed ignorant Nigeria men, they say they don't want to use condoms on their wives . They will say condoms are only for oloshos or Gfs. But wearing it cost you guys nothing. Female contraceptions affects a woman's hormones, mood and weight. 3 Likes |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by 1Sharon(f): 4:39pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
phemmyfour: White people use condoms alot in their marraiges but African men think it's beneath them. They believe it's only for oloshos. I'm tired of the ignorance with Nigerians. 1 Like |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by adjoamu: 4:51pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
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Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by phemmyfour: 5:22pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
1Sharon:They will tell you that they are not enjoying it. Foolish excuse 1 Like |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by Moniya4Real(m): 5:28pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
Bro calm down! Withdrawal method no Dey fail an expert. eyinjuege: |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by nairalanda1(m): 5:33pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
sync: The debate is unnecessary. The problem here is that neither of them have gone to a hospital for proper counselling on family planning methods. Till they go there, both of them are to blame Advise them to get counselling first, then we can talk. |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by missyblissy: 5:34pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
1Sharon: If the family planning method is affecting yiur health, then tie your tubes. 1 Like |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by missyblissy: 5:37pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
Moniya4Real: Over fail dey worry this method. 1 Like |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by missyblissy: 5:42pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
sync: They are both to blame. When you know you are done, you either go vasectomy or tie your tubes. This procedure doesn't affect your sexual satisfaction.. Like I said earlier, the woman should take all precautions not to fall pregnant again. Na her body oooo. |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by 1Sharon(f): 5:51pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
missyblissy: You want the woman to tie her tubes when you can simply use a condom? Why are you Nigerian men dense like this? The ego is out of this world! 3 Likes |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by manchyme: 5:54pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
eyinjuege: That period you're talking about I'll advice you put your mouth in topics you have experience in, as in personal experience. Do you have personal experience on that? For me, knowing your period works perfectly. |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by caandi: 6:12pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
Pls the both parties are to be blamed sometimes, but most especially the husband!! I know of a friends elder sis who had issue with the husby cos of this same topic Her baby was not upto two years, she was on a family planning method but it was not suitable for her body so she decided to stop it cos the negative impacts were more Still trying to balance her life, she kept on telling her hubby the situation of things The man blankly refused saying he wants a child Anytime they get intimate this man will refuse using condom She told him her body is not yet ready to carry another child Atlast when the thing entered; she found out and told the man she was going to abort The man went livid with anger and sent her packing to her fathers house saying all sort of rubbish Ahswear Africans are too backward If it were to be abroad The man and woman would decide they don’t want to have children for some couple of years or hey Will adopt and African man will never agree to this Even a poor man will be claiming his wife must birth 10 children for him cos his mum has dem many Stupid mentality Mtcheeww 2 Likes |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by missyblissy: 6:16pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
1Sharon: As the man no gree wear condom nko. What do you do? It's your body and your decision shey if he impregnates you again , you will go and abort abi. Why not save yourself this emotional truama. If the man refuse to wear condom, then buy female condom abi. Wear your own condom. Case close 2 Likes |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by 1Sharon(f): 6:25pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
missyblissy: It's the woman's body, but does the child belong to only the woman, will the woman alone raise the child? Conception is a joint effort and couples need to both come to a compromise |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by eepeepook: 6:29pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
Dumb topics once again. It’s 2005, I see. |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by N3TRAL: 6:34pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
1Sharon: Nigerian women enable them- fact. I give women maximum respect and they mock me for being too "white". Drop-dead fine and productive guy like me 😂 SMH 1 Like |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by 1Sharon(f): 6:36pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
caandi: Thank you!! This is exactly what I'm trying to tell them. Their ego is out of this world, and their intelligence doesn't match it. Their close mindedness is very irritating. I don't know why married Nigerian men see it as taboo to use condoms. It's not for olosho's and GF's, it's just a contraceptive. It literally cost them nothing to use it. But female contraception affects women In so many different ways. Relationships are all about compromise. Both couples may not like condoms, but nobody's health is being affected. 2 Likes |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by 1Sharon(f): 6:53pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
N3TRAL: The women too are clueless. But na white ppl dey pro for this family planning issue. 1 or 2 kids max and a dog. They birth what they can handle. But Africans look at them and laugh 2 Likes |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by N3TRAL: 7:09pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
1Sharon: It's hard to be the enlightened individual or have a different perspective from the usual view of the narrow-minded African society. Most African women genuinely believe that they're beneath men and are lower than their husbands in the scheme of things. Gender discrimination is a factor that hinders birth control in Nigeria. Most women still feel guilty and unfulfilled if they don't give birth to male children. Many women believe that men are things that cannot control themselves and must be satisfied despite the female's unsound body at the moment. Many women are submissive to the fear that if they do not give into their husbands desires that are to their detriment, he would be justified to find another lady outside. Nigerian women are far from emancipation. Religion is a major obstacle. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by missyblissy: 8:17pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
1Sharon: I agree its a joint effort if the couple makes the decision together. Not in our African society where most men are clouded by Am the man mentality anything i say goes. Some women are married to these men so what should they do? Stop sleeping with their husbands an cause problems for themselves. Omo wisdom is profitable to direct oooo. Make them use their head. Na one life God give everybody if your candle off, e don off oooo nothing fit on am again. |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by missyblissy: 8:19pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
manchyme: Not when you have irregular period oooo. E go surprise you |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by sweetman2022: 10:17pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
caandi:Please stop hasty generalization about African men. Agreed that some are stupid and foolish, that's why they give birth to what they can't train. Well most times, they suffered for it by carrying responsibility beyond their power. You will now see them getting older than their peers and die early. Any of my generation that falls into this hell, I will never give a single fck about the person. The worst part is that most of this men are fully educated. Some will even further their studies after their first degree, yet simple family planning is a big deal to them. 1 Like |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by almarthins(m): 10:31pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by Unrated900(m): 10:46pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
Good point though quote author=Godswillu post=122696033]From the comments I can tell that most of you are not married. The woman is to blame Let's look at it from this angle If the husband want a child and the wife says she is not ready. Do you the woman will not get pregnant no matter how many times they make love. But on the other hand if the wife want a child (in most case they don't tell their husband they want a child) and the husband says he is not ready. The one time they make love the wife will get pregnant. And the wife will blame it on the husband as if once you have given birth to the number of children you want no more love making for the man. The married men and women in the house can confirm[/quote] |
Re: Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband by sweetman2022: 11:10pm On Apr 23, 2023 |
Karleb:Your last statement should make every man reasonable to take charge and not wait for the wife. |
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