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Re: Coping With In-laws by NoToPile: 5:36pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
Be polite, be respectful be nice to them Treat them well when they visit. Good people will always reciprocate the gesture. |
Re: Coping With In-laws by Nemesis0147(m): 5:36pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
Whyzaid:d |
Re: Coping With In-laws by Westerhoffe(m): 5:38pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
mike4zeal: AI in action. 1 Like |
Re: Coping With In-laws by achimendy(m): 5:38pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
Whyzaid: What about illiterate wife, with illiterate parents and friends?? Is a two way thing my dear. |
Re: Coping With In-laws by correctguy101(m): 5:38pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat: Dey play... |
Re: Coping With In-laws by ceeceeuwa: 5:40pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
One way or the other we are people's in-laws. Ask yourself,how do you treat people married to your family,or the people you married into their family? It is always easy to judge when you view it from a third party angle. 4 Likes |
Re: Coping With In-laws by Socratiz: 5:54pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
While ther are unfriendly in-laws ther are also disrespectful wives. It's not all marital problems that are caused by in-laws, many are also caused by the attitude of the wife. These days we see lots of ladies who have no iota of respect and honour for others. They prance about with an air of entitlement and speak with so much pride that sensible in-laws would prefer to avoid them. I submit that everyone needs high level relationship skill to succeed in life. Each person needs to learn how to initiate, build and maintain a healthy relationship that is beneficial to you and the other person. Remember, you have in-laws today. In a few years time you will also become an in-law to your children's spouse. Let's all build a healthy community where we can all grow, flourish and support one another. 6 Likes |
Re: Coping With In-laws by MadarasBlade(m): 6:18pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
Persephone1: Funny how a man hater wants to get married lol |
Re: Coping With In-laws by GboyegaD(m): 6:27pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
In all, be yourself. Do not compromise on your person to please others as it will only steal your peace. Let your spouse know who you are and be very sure s/he appreciates a family and you. That way, together, you can define what you want for your home. As individuals, respect your families and do not cut them off. Integrate the other family as they begin to appreciate who you are. 2 Likes |
Re: Coping With In-laws by na2016: 6:50pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
Whyzaid: You definitely have a problem and you are naive. Haven't seen and heard of very difficult educated in-laws? And who told you, in-laws here refers to the man alone? In-laws from the woman side can also be a problem. Statistics has even shown that majority of divorce is from in-laws. |
Re: Coping With In-laws by abobote: 6:53pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat:Get a man first that will agree to marry you before you start talking about inlaws |
Re: Coping With In-laws by Nobody: 7:04pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
MadarasBlade:Funny how you think only Nigerian men exist. |
Re: Coping With In-laws by Gentlevip: 7:06pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
This is meant for the women folk |
Re: Coping With In-laws by hairyman(m): 7:12pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
JovialJune:This implies already that you do not see them as family. Why should they try to ride you? Will your siblings try to ride you? Will you set boundaries for them? If you will of course set the same boundaries for your in-laws. I put my mother on a monthly stipend. I also put my in-laws. My mother will always tell my sister's, if you know how you treat me, treat your parents-in law exactly the same way. Perhaps your mother needs to have a talk with you. It is best that when you want to marry, you discuss this with your potential spouse. For people like me who value family, inlaw or otherwise, if you come with attitude towards my family while I treat yours like I was taught to do, you will have to go find another person whose family is so discordant that he/she doesn't care. |
Re: Coping With In-laws by advanceDNA: 7:22pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat: ...u wey go old pass all your in-laws... Dem go dey dobàle for you naaa 1 Like |
Re: Coping With In-laws by advanceDNA: 7:22pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
abobote: Ewooo ....See vawulence |
Re: Coping With In-laws by advanceDNA: 7:24pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
MadarasBlade: Baba e shock you too? 1 Like |
Re: Coping With In-laws by Lamanii22(f): 7:30pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
I currently live with my in-laws… it’s been great so far but I set boundaries, I don’t agree with some of the things they say sometimes but I disagree in love… |
Re: Coping With In-laws by Diligent1(f): 7:42pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
For in-laws, what I do is that I first take everyone of them as my family. Whenever I am around them, I engage them with discussions about life generally with respect. If I now discover that there is one with hatred every time, even if the person abuse me if I cannot turn it to a joke and laugh it off then I try my best to avoid the person rather than replying the person which will now cause biggerr fights in the family. |
Re: Coping With In-laws by Nobody: 8:02pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
Diligent1: You're a wise woman. That's what I keep telling people. If you take them as your own family, problem is mostly solved. And if there's any of them that's bad, respectfully handle them just like you do your family members. Or just totally avoid them. Even men too, who have in-law issues, should do same. Fighting your in-laws will either make you a bad person, or make your spouse a bad person. |
Re: Coping With In-laws by tobenuel(m): 8:16pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
This thread is not about Nollywood |
Re: Coping With In-laws by Nobody: 8:21pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
No! Way to deal with in-laws is to stay on your personally constructed lane. Whoever walks it without permission will then have you to contend with. 1 Like |
Re: Coping With In-laws by Whyzaid(f): 8:37pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
Dmeji4444:yes |
Re: Coping With In-laws by Whyzaid(f): 8:43pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
na2016:Take It easy pls, life no difficult as you take am. |
Re: Coping With In-laws by AbdulAkpan: 8:50pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
Whyzaid: My dear, you are very wrong. My useless inlaws are educated, but I have suffered a lot of neglect, humiliation and insult from them. I am so happy the kind of strong mind I have. I have stopped all kinds of visit or communication with them. We are all in Abuja, but I don't communicate with them. My wife was in my support, but after a quarrel that happened between us, she started ganging up with them. My wife has used all manner of manipulation and insults, to make me go back to her useless family, but I promised her that I will never do such a thing. The most funny thing is they are forming too big to apologize to me. I have told my wife if she is so much interested in her family, she can go and live with them. Two priests that are in the know, even told my wife that her family is wrong. Although they advised me to forgive them, but I told them I can never impose forgiveness on them. That will lead to see finish. Without justice, there will be no peace. 1 Like |
Re: Coping With In-laws by Kobojunkie: 9:31pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
Whyzaid:So, if the in-laws are uneducated, na red-flag be that.. Got it! AbdulAkpan:..so maybe not so clear cut. |
Re: Coping With In-laws by MadarasBlade(m): 9:43pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
Persephone1: I do not really care about you liking Nigerian men, was only suprised about you liking men.. Goodluck. |
Re: Coping With In-laws by DevilSignature: 9:55pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat:who go marry u sef? |
Re: Coping With In-laws by Nobody: 9:56pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
DevilSignature:Definitely not a small boy with a small minded mind and an Oloko give away like you. |
Re: Coping With In-laws by DevilSignature: 10:00pm On Apr 25, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat:ur type na just knacking you are good for Constant knacking Steady knacking, that's what u are good for Definitely not marriage |
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