i left home 4yrs ago because of hardship and move to abuja if there will be a better opportunity, still hoping for better opportunity and managing my life here in Abuja . i enter into a relationship with a lady, this lady got pregnant for me, we both decide to keep the pregnancy and get married i was somehow worry because of my present financial status but i summon courage and asked her to take me to her parent.

She took me to the woman she claimed to be her mother, but the woman open up for me that shes not her biological mother that she only asked for the lady to stay with her to train her.

However, We open up to the woman about the pregnancy. thinking the woman we eat me up, but to my surprised, she started calling the girl all sorts of names, she told me the bad characters of the lady. she narrated how the lady has been telling her she's is always a virgin, that she's not in for any boyfriend talkless of sex (me i didn't meet her virgin) Another thing that scared me is that the woman said the lady's village is tough and since she brought the lady to her house, they have being facing different attacks and things stop going well.... and so on. Now the woman said since I've got the lady pregnant i should prepare to follow her and the lady to the village to see her biological parent and introduce me to them that i will be the one to pay all the transport fare for the journey (now, i don't have enough money).

Another issue is about all these things the woman said about this lady, i'm seriously afraid to show up again for the journey to the village or to marry her. None of my family member is here with me. three days ago my phone screen got broken and cant get any of my relatives contacts. i'm alone here in Abuja.

Now i'm thinking to pack my things and run away.

Your Advice please.

Find a prophet. Find a deliverance church, explain to the pastor


Do not run otherwise.youll.regret. Take some days off o find a pastor. Tell her you need some time off. Find car parks and market places to find work.


Deliverance and the hard work is what you need

Easylife2020:

Now i'm thinking to pack my things and run away.

you and the lady JUST DECIDED to keep the pregnancy when you don't even know anything about her at all. I am sure you don't even know her date of birth or how many people are in her family.

You dey do raw but you no get money. You left home for 4 years now you are going back empty handed because you were thinking with your preek. 🤣

Op run away

Them don trap this one... u better carry the cross u put on urself

Still don't understand why broke guys fvck without condom, only to come and complain about the girl,her family or some other thing.

My advise is man up and face your responsibilities and stop looking for cheap excuses.

Until you understand and get hold of your financial status, avoid relationship with anyone both male and female.

While guys will put you under peer pressure, girls will bring you extra hands to feed.

As for the child, you don't deserve it now.

But your inability to use your phone to contact your family but you have been able to tell us your predicament on nairaland

run for ur dear life

Jaapa for your life oo

Easylife2020:
i left home 4yrs ago because of hardship and move to abuja if there will be a better opportunity, still hoping for better opportunity and managing my life here in Abuja . i enter into a relationship with a lady, this lady got pregnant for me, we both decide to keep the pregnancy and get married i was somehow worry because of my present financial status but i summon courage and asked her to take me to her parent.

Imagine that a guy impregnated your sister and ran away

They say "Don't test the depth of a river with your two feet". You should have counted the cost before getting down with her into premarital sex. Guy are not smart they allow their Erection determine their Direction in life. You don't have money, you came to hustle only to hit the ground running controlled by erection not discretion. You will bear the consequence sha. Whether the girl carry bad luck gene or her family background is bad you will bear it. All these boys quick to impregnate 'available ladies' I hope you even know your genotype before you start producing sicklers. As the smart guy above advised hustle and deliverance dey ya head now. Deliverance ma no be automatic na only if the girl gree repent and break covenant before e go work Good luck all hope is not lost, you fit be millionaire in 3 years from now what can God not do? Only repent and live clean.

Your problem is easy, just look for a plate and join those beggars you see on Abuja roads, make your plate bigger so that you will get more money, then go and do "odeshi" with some of the money before following her to the "tough village", nonsense story

michlins:
Until you understand and get hold of your financial status, avoid relationship with anyone both male and female.

While guys will put you under peer pressure, girls will bring you extra hands to feed.

As for the child, you don't deserve it now.

But your inability to use your phone to contact your family but you have been able to tell us your predicament on nairaland

i use a stranger phone... im so confuse now

U never balance with even one leg u dey do Rawlings... Na una dey make NL babes see men finish, just imagine the nonsense thread u open? Wait the future is female gang dey come for ur goat head

I want to ask where that courage to wife her and keep the kid came from.

Are you even sure the child is yours??

Future thread of an abandoned child looking for his/ her father.

How are you sure the woman is telling the truth.

Was the girl present when the woman was saying all these.

You left home because of hardship and you went into relationship immediately, you even got her pregnant and decided to keep it, you have made your choice already you don't need anyone's help

Foodqueen:
Future thread of an abandoned child looking for his/ her father.

How are you sure the woman is telling the truth.

Was the girl present when the woman was saying all these.

YES

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U no get money ur pr@ck dey stand...u say u dey hustle wen did u get d tym to woo nt to talk of intimacy..and atlast na abnormal smtin u enta...pray well bro

What if the woman just hates the girl and wants to deliberately make her life difficult? Maybe because the girl is better than her kids, or the woman dislikes her mother.

I have an aunt like that, the woman never liked me to a point that I don't know what I did to her... From a very young age she always compared me with my siblings and would constantly tell me how they're better than me.

She just has this natural hatred towards me to a point that my family is even aware of if and they no longer take her seriously whenever she'd start bad mouthing me.

I still remember one time I asked her a simple none offensive question and she started yelling at me and went ahead and told me mom that I'm trying to kick her out of the house... When my mother tried to caution her, she got angry.

Don't listen to that woman because some women were born to hate and destroy.

A lady who lied to you about her virginity is capable of deceiving you at any giving instance..

Since you couldn't hold your body, why not use condom

You got to Abuja and forget the pains you passed through cos of sex

Shameless

🤡🤡I realized that you're an irredeemable clown when I saw this comment you made for a post you created.

Easylife2020:
....for over a long period now, ibo man has been refused to rule Nigeria and there's a purpose for that. "The purpose is too scary"

Don't forget that Peter Obi is an Ibo Man and the scary purpose still hold.

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Easylife2020:
....for over a long period now, ibo man has been refused to rule Nigeria and there's a purpose for that. "The purpose is too scary"

Don't forget that Peter Obi is an Ibo Man and the scary purpose still hold.


Any advise given to him would be wasted because this man, won't use it.

See you, see village.!

Your village people don succeed you.

Just hustle money go see her people.

If abj too tough for you, find your way go back villa go dey farm or start any business there.

Last last, you go survive.

There are some people living in that your same village doing better than you.

Tell her that you won't marry her. You don't have to marry someone because you got them pregnant.

She can keep the pregnancy if she wants to. She'll just be your baby mama. Nothing more

When theyll be telling you people to close your legs and zip up, some rotten animals will be shouting "holier than thou" up and down, encouraging nonsense all over the place.

Why are you people like this? You know you can't cater for yourself enough but you'll be engaging in sexual activities knowing full well you can't take full responsibility if pregnancy happens or to what end do you people engage in the act for?
Something that can be avoided with just little self control, you people will fall ruthlessly into it just because of smelly 5 mins madness. Now you've put yourself in a deep mess that you don't even know how it will end, you're seeking advice. What kind of advice exactly? To tell you to run and risk being conjured back with voodoo or made to run mad? Abi you no hear the kind of family she comes from? A very bad sign now, your phone screen has cracked, you think it's ordinary? Dey play.

When you were doing the do, you had a mind of your own. So use that mind to figure a way out of the mess you got yourself into.

More are still indulging in premarital sex knowing they don't have money to feed themselves o. Pregnancy will happen, then their sense will start working.

princefrank76:
See you, see village.!

Your village people don succeed you.

Just hustle money go see her people.

If abj too tough for you, find your way go back villa go dey farm or start any business there.

Last last, you go survive.

There are some people living in that your same village doing better than you.

THANKS

Fast and pray. God will reveal something's to you.