Exodus15v11:
As a Doctor and as your Dad, he has your best interests at heart. He's in the best position to guide and advise you accordingly, and is trying to do just that. It's up to you to listen.

Besides, these are normal pre-marriage protocols and he asked you to do them first, so it only makes sense that she does the same. I don't see the big deal in asking her to also do them, unless you're afraid to ask.

PoliteActivist:
How e take consign your papa? Suppose you or she no want children nko? Na by force?

beekind:

Guy please don't address my dad like that.

beekind:

Let me explain, he says he is not forcing her but if she does not take the fertility test he will not attend the wedding, and he is very likely to prohibit my mom from also attending the wedding and maybe other family members too.

That puts me in a very difficult spot, very difficult spot.

beekind:

Guy please don't address my dad like that.

beekind:

Let me explain, he says he is not forcing her but if she does not take the fertility test he will not attend the wedding, and he is very likely to prohibit my mom from also attending the wedding and maybe other family members too.

That puts me in a very difficult spot, very difficult spot.

Flier:
The father requested to see it and that is where I think the father is wrong! This guy seems to be one of those daddy’s boys,a real father will never request to see his sons fiancées medical report.This is straight from Nollywood script.
At 38,a well trained son should be a able to successfully processed advice without external interference

Flier:
The father requested to see it and that is where I think the father is wrong! This guy seems to be one of those daddy’s boys,a real father will never request to see his sons fiancées medical report.This is straight from Nollywood script.

beekind:

Standing my ground will mean my dad, mom and other members of my own family will not attend the wedding cos my dad said he will not attend the wedding if she does not do a fertility test.
No I haven't met her physically yet, we have only been dating online for 10 months now and haven't had a chance to visit Naija but I am visiting naija and will spend 4 months in naija when I visit later this month.

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

Eriokanmi:
Even at my age, I still listen to my parents and that doesn't make me a mumu man. I feel sorry for this generation. My oldest sibling is approaching her 60s. My parents still gives her a knock whenever she goes wrong. All these ''I've come of age and can decide on my own'' mentality will only mar this generation than make them.

beekind:

Guy please don't address my dad like that.

pacesetting:
You are the one putting yourself in a difficult situation. Didn't you say he asked same of you and you agreed? Why will it be difficult for you to tell her what your dad wants? This is also an opportunity to know who you are marrying and how she reacts to certain things in your family. Be BOLD. It shouldn't be an issue at all. If it is, and you're worried how she will feel, then I don't think both of you are ready for marriage .

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

Aijeez:
Let her take the test but you should not share her result with your Dad, unless she authorises it. You also send your own test result to her. His fear is understandable but tell him you will have another doctor look over the results and advise you. This is very important, if you intend for your family to have any respect for your wife, if and when you eventually marry.

beekind:
I am a 38 year old Nigerian American citizen dating a 26 year old Nigeria girl.
I grew up in Nigeria but travelled out to the USA when I was 25 years old, I am a citizen now and doing really well for myself.
I met a beautiful and godly Nigerian girl on facebook and we have been dating for some months now we are now thinking of marriage, she is in Nigeria while I am in the USA.

Some weeks ago my dad asked me to do some tests and send to him, (He is a medical doctor), I did them, turns out to be fertility tests and all was perfect.
I just told him about my fiance and my plans to get married in some months time and he said she has to do fertility test before he can agree to the marriage.

This was very shocking for me as he insisted that it is his position, I haven't told my fiance cos I dont know how to and my fiance is scheduled to pay my parents a visit for the first time in Port Harcourt in 2 weeks time.
My fiance is from Delta but lives in Portharcout as my parents while we are from Port harcourt.

My dad has said if I cannot tell her that he will, what do you guys think ?

Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

pacesetting:
You are the one putting yourself in a difficult situation. Didn't you say he asked same of you and you agreed? Why will it be difficult for you to tell her what your dad wants? This is also an opportunity to know who you are marrying and how she reacts to certain things in your family. Be BOLD. It shouldn't be an issue at all. If it is, and you're worried how she will feel, then I don't think both of you are ready for marriage.

Smartguyboy:
I wonder how some people reason sometimes as if you are not going to do it even without your father asking abi you plan to marry Facebook Nigeria girl without doing fertility test?

beekind:


Honest advise please and admin kindly push to front page for wider advise.

Thanks.

perryy:
I wish I listened to my mum then. Guy, you better listen now or regret later. That is all.

beekind:

Guy please don't address my dad like that.