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Good Evening,

I got married 11years ago, my mother in-law has always in the picture of everything in our home and has total control of my wife. My wife cannot object anything she says even when I, as her husband challenged it. 90% of the major issues we had as a couple were caused by my mother in-law. After 11years, I decided to confront her to stop controlling her daughter and stop interfering in our marriage and home. I confronted her and my wife left the house. Her reason for leaving the house is that I disrespected her family.

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you should have done that the FIRST time the mother interfered in your family matters...11yrs of letting her mother believe she was in charge, is way too long and now a waste of energy to try to correct it.

22rockbottom:
Good Evening,

I got married 11years ago, my mother in-law has always in the picture of everything in our home and has total control of my wife. My wife cannot object anything she says even when I, as her husband challenged it. 90% of the major issues we had as a couple were caused by my mother in-law. After 11years, I decided to confront her to stop controlling her daughter and stop interfering in our marriage and home. I confronted her and my wife left the house. Her reason for leaving the house is that I disrespected her family.

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Maybe you shouldn't have waited for 11 years before challenging her. It's always best to set the proper foundation from the beginning, otherwise whatever happens you just have to find a way to tolerate it. As it stands now you either go and apologize to them or wait and see if your wife will come to her senses

22rockbottom:
Good Evening,

I got married 11years ago, my mother in-law has always in the picture of everything in our home and has total control of my wife. My wife cannot object anything she says even when I, as her husband challenged it. 90% of the major issues we had as a couple were caused by my mother in-law. After 11years, I decided to confront her to stop controlling her daughter and stop interfering in our marriage and home. I confronted her and my wife left the house. Her reason for leaving the house is that I disrespected her family.

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Does her Mom also control her when una wan do?

22rockbottom:
After 11years, I decided to confront her to stop controlling her daughter and stop interfering in our marriage and home.

You want to start mixing the cement after it has turned to a rock. good luck with that.

Such holds are first broken spiritually. Attempts at just physical correction is an exercise in futility.

I remember the beating I gave my inlaw in a dream as they were instigating quarrels in my home. The next day after the beating, they called their daughter for a meeting and advised her to go live in peace in her home. You could actually feel they were forced to call for that meeting.

So this is spiritual problem?

Nebes:
Such holds are first broken spiritually. Attempts at just physical correction is an exercise in futility.

I remember the beating I gave my inlaw in a dream as they were instigating quarrels in my home. The next day after the beating, they called their daughter for a meeting and advised her to go live in peace in her home. You could actually feel they were forced to call for that meeting.

How did you confront your mil? Would you be fine if your wife used same style on your mother? She said you disrespected her family...there are a million and one ways to politely ask in laws not to meddle in your affairs without being offensive fa.

Anyways, on a brighter note, the message has been passed across and mama wont be meddling in the future even when you need her to meddle...if there is a future. All of una go dey alright.

effeminate men everywhere.

Why waving on a train that has already left.... you should corrected this early why wait for good eleven years before the action ....

You goofed up from the start, but never too late tho, allow her go, pretend to be nonchalant about her absence, fake a close relationship with a female friend or random girl, only send money for your child/children's upkeep, and make sure you look happy always...


Her brain will come back to reset and she will realise she's giving out her food to the dogs by herself.... Please don't cheat on her

You managed to spin the narrative that the mother in law is evil. Share the core details of what happened and stop trying to tell the tale with you as the victim in it


Watch fools begin to vilify the woman and her family.

Hypocrite

If una don taya to marry make una scatter the marriage haba🤧
From morning to night we dey busy dey settle Marital crisis on Nairaland while those in the outgoing government are busy signing concessioning agreements and awarding contracts to their cronies while we are being distracted by people failinginmarriage

Guy, there's a thread that has been running for long on this platform called Red Pillers you can get some few insights on how to handle and treat women with love while putting them in their place and getting the desired respect from them as an alpha male without simping

Damnnn niggar
Isoright

Thank God for you two load removed,inter cool joint and order some nkwobi and is ewu.

Let her go!

If my wife dares leave my house for 24hrs, then she'll stay out permanently.

Cos she'll have a hard time explaining the man she went to visit.

Hmmm

waiting for the full details

22rockbottom:
Good Evening,

I got married 11years ago, my mother in-law has always in the picture of everything in our home and has total control of my wife. My wife cannot object anything she says even when I, as her husband challenged it. 90% of the major issues we had as a couple were caused by my mother in-law. After 11years, I decided to confront her to stop controlling her daughter and stop interfering in our marriage and home. I confronted her and my wife left the house. Her reason for leaving the house is that I disrespected her family.

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For 11 years you have been tolerating this? Divorce her and get another woman man.

Men are a vulnerable species in the world .

If ur wife goes missing , u r the first suspect according to police . If ur wife goes to parents house after quarrel and does not come back . The blame will be upon you, either by neighbors or ur friend .

The popular opinion is .
You might have done some thing to her ,that why she left .

Receive sense and leave her for a while

Allow her go! That's one less burden for you. The mother-in-law cannot be Mistress in her own house and be Madam in yours! Do not panic, because she's coming back and when does, it'll be on your terms. Do not bother about what people say - their opinions and whatever they say count for nothing in your marriage. If you lose your grip on your destiny now, for your destiny is at stake here, then the man in you has become impotent.

Receive sense and leave her for a while
She believed in feeding you

Lol... I hope she left with her belongings?

nifemi25:
Why waving on a train that has already left.... you should corrected this early why wait for good eleven years before the action ....

The matter tire me ehn