| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by djseanjohn77: 3:28pm On May 28, 2023 |
aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏
Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.
Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.
My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.
My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation As men, this is one reason we need to pray for a sustained ability, no insult, she is just exhibiting a trait synonymous to every female folk out there. They can't handle change, as such their emotions get the better of them. Once what you usually offer declines, it is jus a matter of time, that'swhy they are always the first to leave in a relationship. I am in my mid 40s, so I suppose I have a good experience of life. She is your mum, talk to her while she can still listen, otherwise, assist your dad (unknown to her) if you can, if she gets to know, she will accuse your dad more of turning you against her. The danger is, once her mind is made up, she is only waiting for a comfort landing place, once that happens, a woman can leave a man at any bleeping time, it doesn't matter what you have sacrificed, or how good you were, their emotions is run my what they feel at the moment, and what they need at the moment. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by vickydevoka(m): 3:28pm On May 28, 2023 |
1Sharon:
As a child stay out of your parents relationship
Your dad may be poisoning your mind against your mum.
What did your father do? Something must have brought it on.
I love women thinking, the always come up with " something must have caused it" . But when it comes to women suffering, you won't hear them saying anything 3 Likes |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by djseanjohn77: 3:28pm On May 28, 2023 |
aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏
Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.
Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.
My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.
My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation As men, this is one reason we need to pray for a sustained ability, no insult, she is just exhibiting a trait synonymous to every female folk out there. They can't handle change, as such their emotions get the better of them. Once what you usually offer declines, it is jus a matter of time, that'swhy they are always the first to leave in a relationship. I am in my mid 40s, so I suppose I have a good experience of life. She is your mum, talk to her while she can still listen, otherwise, assist your dad (unknown to her) if you can, if she gets to know, she will accuse your dad more of turning you against her. The danger is, once her mind is made up, she is only waiting for a comfort landing place, once that happens, a woman can leave a man at any Bleep-ing time, it doesn't matter what you have sacrificed, or how good you were, their emotions is run my what they feel at the moment, and what they need at the moment. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by ObalendeCMS: 3:30pm On May 28, 2023 |
Your dad could be a SIMPle man or a beta male.
Don’t mind all those ayamatanga women disguise as wife & mother.
These mothers “trained” the current crop of girls we have on the loose. |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by Poisonousman: 3:30pm On May 28, 2023 |
1Sharon:
As a child stay out of your parents relationship
Your dad may be poisoning your mind against your mum.
What did your father do? Something must have brought it on.
You've never said anything meaningful in your life before.. your attitude stinks 3 Likes |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by AfonjaPriest: 3:31pm On May 28, 2023 |
aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏
Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.
Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.
My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.
My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation My guy, don't waste time. Once your dad is not around, talk and reason with her. Be too polite in your approach. If she doesn't agree with you, watch her to see if she would change. If she persists with the attitude, try to reach her the hard way - give her your venom, she'll get the message that you ain't joking. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by Elev82014: 3:32pm On May 28, 2023 |
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
First of all, you should blame the impostor in A$$ Hole Rock and your outgoing Presidiot, the idiot who fails to reason with his head, Muhammad B0K0HARI, who put the country in the worst shape it has ever been thus dwindling the fortunes of MOST families with his incompetence and maladministration. 1 Like |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by UYEMDO35(m): 3:32pm On May 28, 2023 |
1Sharon:
As a child stay out of your parents relationship
Your dad may be poisoning your mind against your mum.
What did your father do? Something must have brought it on.
See them, dey must surely back-up their female gender and that's why I have decided to remain single. I can't let any woman to takeaway my joy and happiness all in d name of marriage. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by BrotherFolake: 3:33pm On May 28, 2023 |
😎
Simp everywhere.
Op, your father must be a SIMP, why would your father has only one option. If you want to marry, make sure you have many options, so that you can Divorce anyone and marry another without wasting time.
That's why i have upto 500 Girlfriends, I don't even know whom to marry anymore.
Op, your father is simply a SIMPle man 6 Likes |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by victorazy(m): 3:36pm On May 28, 2023 |
aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏
Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.
Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.
My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.
My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation  dey play till your Pman die with BP then u go man up |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by Sanguine(f): 3:37pm On May 28, 2023 |
aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏
Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.
Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.
My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.
My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation The reverse is the case here. My father, as far as I can remember, never treated my mother right. Always speaks ill of her to us, talks down on her, beats her sometimes. He doesn't listen to anybody, nobody can talk to him. Recently, he beat her sore. She called us and reported him to us. None of us the children stay at home. I got angry and decided she cannot continue staying in that toxic house. I planned with my siblings and we moved her out of her husband's (our father) house. Talking to my father for the purpose of calling him to order is a sheer waste of valuable time. My mother is in a much better place now, happy and very much at peace. My father can live all the alone he likes or wants to for all I care, until he realizes his misdeeds and tenders a genuine apology (if he ever does). You don't treat another human being you didn't create anyhow, just because you are the husband (or wife, as the case may be). Let your father separate from your mother for a while, moreso for his own sanity and peace of mind. No one ever does well in a toxic environment. I bet you your mother will come to her right senses and behave herself. You don't know the value of what you have until you don't have it. I hate nonsense! 4 Likes |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by Satazaa: 3:37pm On May 28, 2023 |
my brother pursue this matter with the wisdom of Solomon, firstly discuss the issues with your father alongside your other siblings and all of you should expectedly be on the same page about the bulling and everyone should confront and caution her with clear expectations and specific behavior that y'all expect her to discontinue forthwith, your father doesn't drink, womanize and yet he gets treated like trash? And people expect you not to intercede? C'mon, who in Nigerian family this days can provide all thier family needs endlessly, even the big men are crying too so what audacity does she have to be treating him because of lack of money, women are by and large very vindictive and vile and like my father used to say, don't ever think you know a woman until few decades into your married life after you have trained children and he equally told me to never spend lavishly on our wedding but rather on the wedding anniversaries, cos you may actually be splashing fortune on a woman that may end up killing you the husband  4 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by sylve11: 3:39pm On May 28, 2023 |
Exodus15v11:
You don't see abuse and overlook it. Talk to your siblings and get other family members involved if you must. She is abusing him and you also said he doesn't work well like before, hence for the sake of his health and longevity, y'all should stand up for him. You said no one has warned her sternly, which is probably why she hasn't stopped. She can't bully all of you join, can she? Speak up and put a stop to it asap.
Nicely put together.  1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by AmazingELixir: 3:40pm On May 28, 2023 |
aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏
Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.
Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.
My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.
My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation Do no such thing young man...A popular adage goes thus "what an elder see sitting a child clutching on a tree top cannot see". Now this is what you should do....engage your dad in a heart to heart discussion concerning your pains seeing how your mom talks and disrespect him and your plans to confront her on that...hear what your dad has to say, he must have one or two words of wisdom for you...if he eventually gives you the go ahead do so as your father's child (respectfully) and not like some kind of loose cannon, your mother is your mother no matter what. If she refuses to change, try convincing your Dad to come and stay with you for sometime away from your mom....maybe she hasn't felt his absence before that could be the perfect factory reset. If you are in a position to assist financially please do so as your pocket permits but never insult your mother make she no bring curse upon your head ooh, you're still very young what you need from your parents are blessings not otherwise. Your dad is a perfect example why men of old are far more matured and balanced than the grown up babies parading themselves as guymen these days. So OP learn from your dad how to be patient with women...the girls of today are worse off oo. My 2 cent 1 Like 2 Shares |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by sylve11: 3:41pm On May 28, 2023 |
Columbine:
This gives credence to the saying that a man is loved because of what he can provide, or by the value he can give.
I won't be surprised if your mum is bringing little or nothing to the table, yet she's not under pressure, she's just loved.
This exactly scenerio is playing out in most families, many married men are dying in silence, especially those of them who tend to live a quiet life.
You need to talk to your mum, don't be too light with it, and neither be too harsh with it but be very serious about it.
U can guarantee you that the only thing still keeping the family is you- the children, that is how it is in most family, blame poverty!
To the young man out there, know this; apart from God, your parents and siblings, nobody loves you unconditionally, the love you get is pegged at the value you offer.
Neither your wife, children or even the society love you, they only love what you offer, take it away and it's just a matter of time, you'll see your "loving" wife and children disrespect or treat you with disdain, moreover, the wife/ mother may be a housewife or even uneducated, but is loved unconditionally by the children and even you, I don't know why it's so, I'm even a victim of this biased love, I blame nature!
Men are endangered specie, Men please stay woke, do everything possible to marry atleast a woman that respects God, that even if she hated you, but for God's sake will force herself to love you, if it's even possible.
The world is not fair to men, but I'll still rather choose to be a man in my next life, if their is. Hmmm  |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by Ephatah: 3:41pm On May 28, 2023 |
This happens alot when the man doesn't have a steady source of income. Some women tend to look down on the man.
Don't scold. Talk to her maturedly. Wish you d best 1 Like |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by Gwan2(m): 3:43pm On May 28, 2023 |
bestman09:
Some women become devil when the husband couldn't provide as before.
A man will be taking care of the family for over 20 years without any issue but if he have a problem and unable to provide for at least 1 year, you'll see the devil in the wife This is the sole reason. As a man and bread winner, the greatest fear and challenge is losing your source of income to provide efficiently for your family. Trust me, that is when you will know why the bible says hell has no fury like a woman scorned. She may endure with you for some time and give you less problems especially if she see the potential in you to get up and regain your provisional role. But if she has weighed you and see that is the twilight of career probably due to age or incapacitation, most especially if there's no business on ground or something to keep the family going sustainably....Jesus, your life will be full of miseries.
Not all woman, but again, only very very few will contradict what i depicted in similar scenerio. God no go shame us
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| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by Beey(f): 3:45pm On May 28, 2023 |
aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏
Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.
Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.
My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.
My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation It portrays a very bad character image, when a parent begins to demean the other parent in the presence of children. I think you need to unite as siblings, don’t know how many you are. As you warn your mom, let your siblings & dad be present. You all must unite & threaten to disown her if the behavior doesn’t change . But why is your dad too so calm? Can’t he put your mom in her place? Simply stop eating her food or providing her with even a coin since she’s ungrateful. He should sleep in a separate room, leave very early & return late. Give her Cold War. Let her work to provide & see how she does. Mtcheeeew! 5 Likes |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by infofta(m): 3:45pm On May 28, 2023 |
I cannot say what exactly could be the reason.
Most Nigerian women take advantage of gentle men.
Ask your dad first what the problem is generally.
If you must call her it must be advice and warning of severe at the end of the call.
Without warning of consequences, she will simply go to him after the call and make the house a living hell for him. |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by Assassina: 3:46pm On May 28, 2023 |
BrotherFolake:
😎
Simp everywhere.
Op, your father must be a SIMP, why would your father has only one option. If you want to marry, make sure you have many options, so that you can Divorce anyone and marry another without wasting time.
That's why i have upto 500 Girlfriends, I don't even know whom to marry anymore.
Op, your father is simply a SIMPle man you never get hiv before sha  1 Like |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by sylve11: 3:47pm On May 28, 2023 |
mechanics:
She's taking advantage of his gentility, if not she won't behave the way she's acting. That's just it. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by MechanicMike: 3:49pm On May 28, 2023 |
aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏
Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.
Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.
My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.
My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation  |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by MechanicMike: 3:49pm On May 28, 2023 |
aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏
Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.
Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.
My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.
My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation ...is she lightskin? |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by toprealman: 3:49pm On May 28, 2023 |
aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏
Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.
Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.
My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.
My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation You mean you have had this chat with her all these years? |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by Benjanni(m): 3:51pm On May 28, 2023 |
BrotherFolake:
😎
Simp everywhere.
Op, your father must be a SIMP, why would your father has only one option, who does that  . If you want to marry, make sure you have many options, so that you can Divorce anyone and marry another without wasting time.
That's why i have upto 500 Girlfriends, I don't even know whom to marry anymore.
Op, your father is simply a SIMPle man Odogwu 1 of nairaland i hail oo  3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by chaloskyx: 3:52pm On May 28, 2023 |
The reason is your mom married him for his money and not for love and when the money dried up she saw no point loving him 2 Likes |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by Rubbiish(m): 3:54pm On May 28, 2023 |
Aonkuuse:
Bro you really need to intervene oo before she will kill him for you people. Men are not speaking out in marriages. But also don't rush in confronting your mother ooo, just talk to her because maybe your father did something that is making her behave like that. Below in bold is what the father did from the op & we all know it is typical for women to start misbehaving when things are no longer rosy for their husbands aidameoryou:
He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by Nusooo: 3:55pm On May 28, 2023 |
aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏
Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.
Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.
My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.
My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation I suggest you should keep quiet and watch as a responsible child, you don’t mingle to your parents matter, it’s not your responsibility to correct anyone of them, unless if you want to receive one of those swear/cause, your father can fight for himself. 1 Like |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by Gwan2(m): 3:57pm On May 28, 2023 |
infofta:
I cannot say what exactly could be the reason.
Most Nigerian women take advantage of gentle men.
Ask your dad first what the problem is generally.
If you must call her it must be advice and warning of severe at the end of the call.
Without warning of consequences, she will simply go to him after the call and make the house a living hell for him.
I don't think it is a matter of taking advantage of gentlemen.....Men naturally water down their firmness, 'machoness', ruggedness with age in a marital setting. This could be due to being battered left, right and centre by socioeconomic issues, 95% financial responsibility in family upbringing and life generally. Wives on the other hand get more grip of the home as time goes, connecting more with the children and influencing the husbands decision through the leverage of the children.
Now, for some unreasonable women who unfortunately are the majority, they use this transition of power to their advantage and wreck havoc on the man, especially if he is not financially buoyant or has lost his financial sources. Some of the women that endured the man's womanising years use the transition of power to revenge. 6 Likes |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by aidameoryou: 3:58pm On May 28, 2023 |
Nusooo:
I suggest you should keep quiet and watch as a responsible child, you don’t mingle to your parents matter, it’s not your responsibility to correct anyone of them, unless if you want to receive one of those swear/cause, your father can fight for himself. Can't stand it bro, that man can do no wrong 1 Like |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by aidameoryou: 3:59pm On May 28, 2023 |
toprealman:
You mean you have had this chat with her all these years? Never talked bout it with her 1 Like |
| Re: My Mum Bullying My Dad Is Getting Out Of Hand!!! by FuckTheMod: 3:59pm On May 28, 2023 |
1Sharon:
Honi rah nuu. If the story was the opposite now, you would have said all sorts of rubbish against the man, without thinking the woman could have hurt him. You've have also advised he should report the case to the police or human rights... HYPOCRISY! 1 Like |
