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Temioolajide:
Pls how do i deal with my junior brother?

I'm 19 yrs old and he is 17
He is very spoilt and stubborn
I just finished having a confrontation with him because i locked the window in our room cus the breeze entrying was much and it was making the cotton to fall.

He came in the room where i was reading and started shouting that the room is smelling calling me insultive name like olorun,obun room that isn'tsmelling at all.a new room.

When my mom intervened he starts saying she's always supporting me which he always says..

He thinks he can fight me but i don't just want to destroy that his mouth that is running like tap so i had to control my temper because he is a slim person and I'm more muscular.

Imagine when he had a surgery my mom spent over 120k on the surgery yet he still has the balls to talk any how to her.

Pls how do we bring him to order
Note: Our dad is late

Thanks much

You really need to beat the shit outta him and not fight him. It will create a sense of fear & respect in him that will last till you leave planet Earth

Lol.. whenever I see things like this makes me wonder. How? Growing up in a very large family, we still knew that respect is not to be taken cheaply. No matter how I played with the younger ones the respect is there always. Even in university days my younger ones go run enter ur life if u talk bad about me for their presence when I'm not there. I thank God for the kind of siblings I got sha. Till date even the ones when money long anyhow if I open mouth talk Dem must quiet and take my word... Extended family including. The only time I beat my immediate younger bro was because he came home dead drunk and destroyed my laptop and those days laptop na big deal. I beat shege from em body. He gave me a swollen lip tho but I bloody am seriously. Next day my guy go report to police say cultist won kill am. When police hear say na me them tell am to go and settle at home. Na our mutual friends still intervened sha. Funny enough na my aruba for the family be that 😄

obinna58:
You’re bossing him around, look at you, you want to handle your age mate, I hope he gives you wotowoto
You and bro Dey you go lock window without asking if he’s fine with it


If you respect someone you’ll get respect back

You wont read post fully you just open mouth waaaaa...didnt you see where he said that the boy usually talks to his mom anyhow and is rude in general? You're using example of window as if it's that very day that he started being rude...the op is two years older than his brother and can still discipline him it dosen't matter the gap the 17 year old should still have respect for his brother...he has developed a sharp mouth because they've not been drilling him

Temioolajide:
Pls how do i deal with my junior brother?

I'm 19 yrs old and he is 17
He is very spoilt and stubborn
I just finished having a confrontation with him because i locked the window in our room cus the breeze entrying was much and it was making the cotton to fall.

He came in the room where i was reading and started shouting that the room is smelling calling me insultive name like olorun,obun room that isn'tsmelling at all.a new room.

When my mom intervened he starts saying she's always supporting me which he always says..

He thinks he can fight me but i don't just want to destroy that his mouth that is running like tap so i had to control my temper because he is a slim person and I'm more muscular.

Imagine when he had a surgery my mom spent over 120k on the surgery yet he still has the balls to talk any how to her.

Pls how do we bring him to order
Note: Our dad is late

Thanks much

open the goddamn window, close window chocks me. work on having your own house so you can control your window. he is speaking because he is disturbed, though in a very bad way,hes frustrated. I did something similar to a roommate when i woke up and couldn't be breath because of his perfume,i was very tired, needed to rest badly but not opening windows and the perfume choked me from sleep.
i apologized for my words but had to go out or else i would die from chock

Runnerzz:
Lol.. whenever I see things like this makes me wonder. How? Growing up in a very large family, we still knew that respect is not to be taken cheaply. No matter how I played with the younger ones the respect is there always. Even in university days my younger ones go run enter ur life if u talk bad about me for their presence when I'm not there. I thank God for the kind of siblings I got sha. Till date even the ones when money long anyhow if I open mouth talk Dem must quiet and take my word... Extended family including. The only time I beat my immediate younger bro was because he came home dead drunk and destroyed my laptop and those days laptop na big deal. I beat shege from em body. He gave me a swollen lip tho but I bloody am seriously. Next day my guy go report to police say cultist won kill am. When police hear say na me them tell am to go and settle at home. Na our mutual friends still intervened sha. Funny enough na my aruba for the family be that 😄

It depends on the family, some family even if you senior your junior with 6 months, they'll always ring it to their ears that you're the senior but some families don't care about that, which brings a lot of disrespect.

mariahAngel:
For the sake of your mum, do not fight (beat up) your younger brother. Please o!
She might not be able to bear her sons fighting.

Have and keep having patience with him, I believe he'll change eventually.
Whenever he starts to act all aggressive and stubborn, talk to him in a calmer tone.
Tell him not to talk back at your mum also.

He is going to beat him up, when mama is not around. So when mama gets back, the spoilt boy wouldn't have the balls to cry like a chicken to the mom.

Beating is very necessary in the lives of your ones. It instils fear, respect and almost boundaries, if they tryna get outta line next time

udemzyudex:
It depends on the family, some family even if you senior your junior with 6 months, they'll always ring it to their ears that you're the senior but some families don't care about that, which brings a lot of disrespect.

True it really depends on the family

HacheNoire:
Have you beaten him before?

You need teach him a lesson he will never forget. That’s the way you can create limits and set boundaries.

Take him to a field where no one can separate you, and beat him VERY well. I mean very well. If you can afford boxing gloves, get two pairs for both of you.

If he insist, beat him till he raises up his hands. Make sure you do until you are tired, and make sure he does not run away. I will suggest upstairs of an uncompleted building cos he might want to flee.

Come back and thank me.

Hmmmm na before...... Now one can just die if he resort to physical violence

MrAmbrose:
Ignore him.

You can't ignore a pest forever.

HardBishop:
Hmmmm na before...... Now one can just die if he resort to physical violence

They are still young.

Young boys are supposed to fight and wrestle

mariahAngel:
For the sake of your mum, do not fight (beat up) your younger brother. Please o!
She might not be able to bear her sons fighting.

Have and keep having patience with him, I believe he'll change eventually.
Whenever he starts to act all aggressive and stubborn, talk to him in a calmer tone.
Tell him not to talk back at your mum also.

NASO una dey spoil children, OP, u need to give him a thorough beating to reset his brain.

Temioolajide:
Exactly my mom can't bear it when we beat up each other...

I will talk to him in a calm tone next time
Thank u Mariah

I was once in your shoe, and I the only way out is to show his that you are his older brother and as bad as it sounds, you will need for keep your relationship aside and mend him well. So that any day he remembers it, he will advise himself. And of course the day you decide to do that make sure it's about him disrespecting your mother.

Rayban25:
You wont read post fully you just open mouth waaaaa...didnt you see where he said that the boy usually talks to his mom anyhow and is rude in general? You're using example of window as if it's that very day that he started being rude...the op is two years older than his brother and can still discipline him it dosen't matter the gap the 17 year old should still have respect for his brother...he has developed a sharp mouth because they've not been drilling him

Instead of people to respect each other someone be acting as boss, he even said he’s more muscular
You’re the one who doesn’t understand, thread here is not talking about the mom, it’s about a brother who thinks his almost twin brother is stubborn
What the hell!! Where’s is the respect here.

oluwaseyi0:

unpopular opinion here

take things very very easy, you guys are more or less twins

17 and 19 are same age range

it's not like you senior him with 10years or you can pay his school fees or feed him

you probaly have friends his age, and he probably has friend your age who don't boss him around like you are desperate to do

I'm 3 years older than my best friend and I don't see myself way older than him, we are even classmate in higher institution

drink cold water and always talk things out with your homie, try to understand his view and let him understand yours

let him understand he will sometime need to compromise just like you will also need to compromise

don't mind all those shouting beat him as if he is you 6years own brother are just setting you up for more adversaries

Hahaha the way my mom birthed 6 of us in my house in quick succession; highest gap between any two kids is one year, 3months.
When one kid is 17 ; the elder is like 18 years, 3months. More or less like complete agemates . Yet the elders like to impact it to ur skull that they are older and wiser and must be respected and treated like elders.

Omo we fight tire while growing up. Especially since our dad sadly was late.
Everyday world war one and two between one nonsense senior wanting to boss sb around. Na so our widow mother dey cry cry. Sometimes, na full street dey seperate fight. Thank God she did not die of heartbreak🙏. One fight episode sef, a stubborn younger one refused to turn down volume of TV, furious me instantly grabbed the TV and broke it on the floor . Then the dare devil carried knife to stab me. Omo Fight burst out. Neighbours advised my mom to call police on us . ( chai:l cant imagine myself now breaking TV l bought with my hard earned money. Fvck it . Things so easy to do as dependant minor not paying bills and nyash nor dey pepper. )

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As we grew older, and everybody left home to their universities and only saw each other and had a full house during christmas & 1st semester break; Confrontations became lesser. Aggression died down like it was only a phase of growing up. We were happy to see each other and miss each other after long time off.
Infact my medical doctor sibling , would choose not to come home at all whenever school vacates. He Rarely was home for any shenenigans from rude (Agemates aka Younger siblings ) Two days to christmas, he breezes in from schoool and goes back days after christmas to his comfy personal Apartment rented in his school town bills footed by mother.
By the time one or two kids went for youth srrvice and some got married and left the house; Absolute PEACE that passeth all understanding returned to the house. The matriach of the family still looks back at those days with a sigh of relief.

mariahAngel:
What if something happens to either of them in the process? 😰

Op, don't you have any uncle your brother revere?

Wetin wan happen to them ?? My mother have personally invited soldiers to discipline me, i no die na, i only look back, and appreciate those moment.

Don't fight with your brother no matter how stubborn he is. --if you fight him and wound him, he will never forgive you.. Now this is my advice don't beat him unless he touches you or push you, punch 👊you, etc. Then show him you are the senior beat him very well I mean show him seniority but don't use weapon, beat 👊him with hand, slap, punch, or grab him from the back and be lifting him up and down. I swear he will come back to his senses. I no say make you beat him to dead just small shaking he will believe. Those 17 and 23 they worry so much.

oluwaseyi0:

unpopular opinion here

take things very very easy, you guys are more or less twins

17 and 19 are same age range

it's not like you senior him with 10years or you can pay his school fees or feed him

you probaly have friends his age, and he probably has friend your age who don't boss him around like you are desperate to do

I'm 3 years older than my best friend and I don't see myself way older than him, we are even classmate in higher institution

drink cold water and always talk things out with your homie, try to understand his view and let him understand yours

let him understand he will sometime need to compromise just like you will also need to compromise

don't mind all those shouting beat him as if he is you 6years own brother are just setting you up for more adversaries

First sensible comment I'm seeing
Op is talking like his brother is his son lmao
On top 2 years gap 😂😂

obinna58:
You’re bossing him around, look at you, you want to handle your age mate, I hope he gives you wotowoto
You and bro Dey you go lock window without asking if he’s fine with it


If you respect someone you’ll get respect back

Exactly 💯
E think sey na secondary school junior-senior relationship

sisisioge:
Biko no mind him o. Remember he had a surgery not long along. The silly pikin needs to be treated with other measures but not violence. Chai....they are just so stuipid when so young. It is well fa.

And I cant think of what you should do to him too...
Sorry

Instead, get guys to tie him up for you, get better pankere or koboko, and do the needful.

oluwaseyi0:

unpopular opinion here

take things very very easy, you guys are more or less twins

17 and 19 are same age range

it's not like you senior him with 10years or you can pay his school fees or feed him

you probaly have friends his age, and he probably has friend your age who don't boss him around like you are desperate to do

I'm 3 years older than my best friend and I don't see myself way older than him, we are even classmate in higher institution

drink cold water and always talk things out with your homie, try to understand his view and let him understand yours

let him understand he will sometime need to compromise just like you will also need to compromise

don't mind all those shouting beat him as if he is you 6years own brother are just setting you up for more adversaries

You nailed it. Weldone.

@op should please ignore those kids advising him to beat up his brother. At 17 to 20 years old is a very fragile age bracket. The mentality that you are done with secondary school and a big boy now but not ready to take responsibility is what's doing both of you. Please man up, at 19, you will be responsible for your action under law. Calm down for your brother, and please don fight him.

EJEGBULEJE:
Instead, get guys to tie him up for you, get better pankere or koboko, and do the needful.

That sibling nor jam sb like me. Dem nor born that senior sibling when senior me with 2years gap well, when l get him agemates as friends & classmates. He better leaves me tied forever, coz sb like me if he looses me; will certainly plan retaliation and arrange guys to tie him up when he least expects and swoop on the fvcking sibling and lash him koboko back.

Temioolajide:
Pls how do i deal with my junior brother?

I'm 19 yrs old and he is 17
He is very spoilt and stubborn
I just finished having a confrontation with him because i locked the window in our room cus the breeze entrying was much and it was making the cotton to fall.

He came in the room where i was reading and started shouting that the room is smelling calling me insultive name like olorun,obun room that isn'tsmelling at all.a new room.

When my mom intervened he starts saying she's always supporting me which he always says..

He thinks he can fight me but i don't just want to destroy that his mouth that is running like tap so i had to control my temper because he is a slim person and I'm more muscular.

Imagine when he had a surgery my mom spent over 120k on the surgery yet he still has the balls to talk any how to her.

Pls how do we bring him to order
Note: Our dad is late

Thanks much

You both should watch Andrew Tate. That way he’ll understand why you guys have to unite as brothers

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HacheNoire:
Have you beaten him before?

You need teach him a lesson he will never forget. That’s the way you can create limits and set boundaries.

Take him to a field where no one can separate you, and beat him VERY well. I mean very well. If you can afford boxing gloves, get two pairs for both of you.

If he insist, beat him till he raises up his hands. Make sure you do until you are tired, and make sure he does not run away. I will suggest upstairs of an uncompleted building cos he might want to flee.

Come back and thank me.

Person wey den do surgery for? Funny guy ..
At OP keep your distance and watch respect set in. Over familiarity and maybe you play too much together so...

EJEGBULEJE:
Wetin wan happen to them ?? My mother have personally invited soldiers to discipline me, i no die na, i only look back, and appreciate those moment.

You must've been very stubborn.

Temioolajide:
Pls how do i deal with my junior brother?

I'm 19 yrs old and he is 17
He is very spoilt and stubborn
I just finished having a confrontation with him because i locked the window in our room cus the breeze entrying was much and it was making the cotton to fall.

He came in the room where i was reading and started shouting that the room is smelling calling me insultive name like olorun,obun room that isn'tsmelling at all.a new room.

When my mom intervened he starts saying she's always supporting me which he always says..

He thinks he can fight me but i don't just want to destroy that his mouth that is running like tap so i had to control my temper because he is a slim person and I'm more muscular.

Imagine when he had a surgery my mom spent over 120k on the surgery yet he still has the balls to talk any how to her.

Pls how do we bring him to order
Note: Our dad is late

Thanks much

May the soul of your dad rest in peace. Just be patient with him.He will soon realise how important you are in his life and vice versa.

Temioolajide:
Pls how do i deal with my junior brother?

I'm 19 yrs old and he is 17
He is very spoilt and stubborn
I just finished having a confrontation with him because i locked the window in our room cus the breeze entrying was much and it was making the cotton to fall.

He came in the room where i was reading and started shouting that the room is smelling calling me insultive name like olorun,obun room that isn'tsmelling at all.a new room.

When my mom intervened he starts saying she's always supporting me which he always says..

He thinks he can fight me but i don't just want to destroy that his mouth that is running like tap so i had to control my temper because he is a slim person and I'm more muscular.

Imagine when he had a surgery my mom spent over 120k on the surgery yet he still has the balls to talk any how to her.

Pls how do we bring him to order
Note: Our dad is late

Thanks much

If you result to violence then he is your older brother.

As your prayers are coming true for your success in school and career then you should pray for good family life. The Devil sees you are weak in this area on your praying for family so has decided to attack you in this area of your life.

Avoiding Vain Repetitions is about equal prayer for every aspect of your life. Avoid praying only for success and money and over doing this asking while neglecting family prayer.

taylor88:
19 and 17

Two of una need someone older to handle una two

😂

Temioolajide:
Pls how do i deal with my junior brother?

I'm 19 yrs old and he is 17
He is very spoilt and stubborn
I just finished having a confrontation with him because i locked the window in our room cus the breeze entrying was much and it was making the cotton to fall.

He came in the room where i was reading and started shouting that the room is smelling calling me insultive name like olorun,obun room that isn'tsmelling at all.a new room.

When my mom intervened he starts saying she's always supporting me which he always says..

He thinks he can fight me but i don't just want to destroy that his mouth that is running like tap so i had to control my temper because he is a slim person and I'm more muscular.

Imagine when he had a surgery my mom spent over 120k on the surgery yet he still has the balls to talk any how to her.

Pls how do we bring him to order
Note: Our dad is late

Thanks much

You think it’s by muscles? Anyway sha!! Your brother has joined bad gang and wants to test his guts on you.Maybe soonest he will.

Oga lock him up and beat hell out of him.

Still remember how my brothers beat me black and blue . I don't know the evil spirit that was in me, I was just talking back to them, I didn't insult ooo abi na, I no remember jare. The kind slap I received, Omo I was seeing star, both of them beat me ehhh, I was just shouting kill me ooo kill me, mom was around she didn't even interfere, she stayed outside until they finished beating me. Till date I respect them I don't talk back at them I will just keep quiet and be looking. Omo I chop beating no b small, Dem tell my mama mk she buy drugs for me, I no even gree eat dat nyt 😂.

It is not your brother's fault . I guess your father was never around. If he were... then it's his fault for grooming the little monster instead of putting him in check. If no dad.... then your mom for petting him ... sparing the rod and spoiling the child. He has no respect for anyone... including her. My advice... you need to put him in check. When next he enters your room ... find an excuse ... he spoke too loudly or whatever ... lock the door ... simply tell him he has gone too far with the disrespect.. and beat him down... you have to beat him badly... not bloody... but badly... heavy punches to the stomach... few to the face... bust his lips if need be... that will shut him up for a while and keep him away from his friends. The beating you must give him must be such that he must fear you .... fear if he disrespect his mother she may complain to you and he will get a repeat. Do this..... and I will guarantee you he will gather our test and respect on his own moving forward. People do things mainly because they suffer no consequences.
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Play Russian roulette aim at the knee. He will be a changed man before the third click. Suspense is important too.