Media145:
Two people who loved each other so much in the past now turned against themselves and have now become bitter enemies after some years. So do you think this is ordinary?

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Dominque
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AOM4J

David in an attempt to deliver Israel, he said, "is there not a cause" There are lot of reasons for this,to start with,the kind of love in these days between couples are love at first sight. This love is not genuine. Its Eros and infatuation. I once met a white Lady l wanted to friend,"l told her,l loved you!" She replied " just like that, you are just being fascinating about me"
Secondly, the wicked one has polluted the world with lust and all forms of immoralities to the extent that, most ladies and their men counterparts wouldn't want a permanent marriage.They say they want open marriage.
Moreover, most men are not ready to bear responsibilities, they say marriage should be 50/50.On the other hand, women see marriage as men ventures only.
In addition, any marriage not built on solid rock is bound to collapse. This is because the great God that instituted it,has the manual to check, when the wine finishes and what to do.
Nonetheless, there are perversions in the world. A suasion where men are marrying men,so also women marrying women turning things contrary to God's ordained plans. Such marriage cannot work,it will only breed pains,agony, hatred and all forms of evils. There are more to these but just to highlight fews.

Dada4me:


Not everyone parading themselves as Christians are really Christians.

The word Christianity is being redefined to suit our lifestyle rather than make our lifestyle suit Christianity.

So top pastors that are divorced and even remarried are not Christians?

Research on Evangelicals in the US.
Divorce rate among the Evangelical Christinans in the US are the same percentage of ordinary, non Christian people

They are all Christians even Bible believing, Bible thumping Christians

And Nigeria Christians that always claim over righteous and holier than though are not much better Christians than these Christian blocks

Especially when it comes to financial matters and issue of integrity. Nigerian Christians no reach these ones.

So don't come and tell me they are not Christians
They are better Christians than many that claim it

taylor89:
Your parents living together till death isn’t a yardstick for good marriage

The reason for divorce and bad marriages of today na material things

You used your C300 Benz of 12million to snatch a hustling guys babe and tomorrow you’ll expect her to be faithful when a man who divers 2022 Lexus LX600 of 80 million

Another reason is too much of sexual expectations in marriages

Man would dump his organic wife at the sight of a big ass BBL lady

Woman will dump her organic man looking for a billionaire with 6 packs that has cucumber penis that can last 80hrs

The other day I overheard a woman defending her promiscuous act shouting on top of her voice that she cheated because her husband doesn’t give her head

I shock. Bcuz since them born me till today I never hear my mom telling my dad to give him head

Who invented this head giving sef

You can’t even use the word head in public again unless you have to be specific like head of charger head of fish head of family

Thank you for breaking it down like this. My marriage has crashed since October 2022 and we are yet to make our divorce official because the lady's father is having stroke and her mother is already late, (though I've told the family to give me a date so we can officially end things) and I want him to recover a bit, then do the do.

Material things these days have really ruined marriages.
You are not good on the bed, yet your character is the worst ever. You are too selfish. You can't do anything for me. I don't cheat on you, yet you threatened to kii me? I cook by myself. Wash, sweep, do literally everything by myself, yet you will stab me over and over and over? My sick mother has been my duty alone to take care of. You can’t even give her a cup of water. I clean her up. In fact, I do over 90% of things for her. All you do is to pick fight with a woman with stroke long before you were even married.

You'll kii me and report yourself to the police? What did I do wrong? I never cheated on you. I provide for the family. You said you can only do what you want to do.

See, coming from a dysfunctional home is bad. You quarrel my mum, can'teven give her your food. You disagree even with your own dad for telling you to be obidient to your husband. You go out and come back any time you want, and you said I dare not raise my hand on you. You are the only person that is right.

Above all, poor parenting is just the real problem. All your siblings I know, that have stayed with us exhibit the same laziness and lack of respect.. All you know is your siblings and your parent's family.
Your best friend is your smartphone and your sister. You only get up from bed after 10 AM.. Jizzzzz!!!

See, I'm done. No chance of ever staying in such a failed marriage. I tried to be patient with the marriage simply because of our only child, for him to have sibling(s)... But you are most likely gonna kii me even before we can have a new child.

Mbanu....

Its over. Upbringing is really key for either success or failure of marriages.

I used to discourage divorce but now, better divorce than loose anyone's life.

Everything the OP said in this thread i totally agree with him, writing from experience. It is only God that is keeping my marriage if not for loooong my marriage would have gone down the drain. My wife came from a broken home and i can tell you for free that this thing tells on the marriages of the children, especially if the home was broken when the children were still kids. But if the home was broken when the kids are grown up, it may not have much effect on them because at that age they already know what is good and bad so they can judge to a large extent if the fault is from their mum or dad and then they will strive to avoid those loopholes in future to ensure their marriage do not end like that of their parents. But you see all these ones that broke up when their children are still kids? It takes the grace of God and a very good upbringing on the part of the mum to enable them to stay in marriage. In summary, my brother if you marry a lady from a broken home, you will fight a lot of spiritual battles to keep your home. Its best if the lady has the same understanding because it becomes easy when both of you are fighting the devil together. But its a big battle but if you dont give up but hold on to God and be steadfast in prayers, you will surely overcome. Take it or leave it.

Marriage has to be enjoyed, and when there is constant abuse and endurance for years with no change, take the next exit for peace of mind.

fixitbyjal:
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I TRACK lost or stolen devices
A TRIAL will convince you

Really?

HonestJOE:


Thank you for breaking it down like this. My marriage has crashed since October 2022 and we are yet to make our divorce official because the lady's father is having stroke and her mother is already late, (though I've told the family to give me a date so we can officially end things) and I want him to recover a bit, then do the do.

Material things these days have really ruined marriages.
You are not good on the bed, yet your character is the worst ever. You are too selfish. You can't do anything for me. I don't cheat on you, yet you threatened to kii me? I cook by myself. Wash, sweep, do literally everything by myself, yet you will stab me over and over and over? My sick mother has been my duty alone to take care of. You can’t even give her a cup of water. I clean her up. In fact, I do over 90% of things for her. All you do is to pick fight with a woman with stroke long before you were even married.

You'll kii me and report yourself to the police? What did I do wrong? I never cheated on you. I provide for the family. You said you can only do what you want to do.

See, coming from a dysfunctional home is bad. You quarrel my mum, can'teven give her your food. You disagree even with your own dad for telling you to be obidient to your husband. You go out and come back any time you want, and you said I dare not raise my hand on you. You are the only person that is right.

Above all, poor parenting is just the real problem. All your siblings I know, that have stayed with us exhibit the same laziness and lack of respect.. All you know is your siblings and your parent's family.
Your best friend is your smartphone and your sister. You only get up from bed after 10 AM.. Jizzzzz!!!

See, I'm done. No chance of ever staying in such a failed marriage. I tried to be patient with the marriage simply because of our only child, for him to have sibling(s)... But you are most likely gonna kii me even before we can have a new child.

Mbanu....

Its over. Upbringing is really key for either success or failure of marriages.

I used to discourage divorce but now, better divorce than loose anyone's life.

Is your wife from IMO STATE?

taylor89:
Your parents living together till death isn’t a yardstick for good marriage

The reason for divorce and bad marriages of today na material things

You used your C300 Benz of 12million to snatch a hustling guys babe and tomorrow you’ll expect her to be faithful when a man who divers 2022 Lexus LX600 of 80 million

Another reason is too much of sexual expectations in marriages

Man would dump his organic wife at the sight of a big ass BBL lady

Woman will dump her organic man looking for a billionaire with 6 packs that has cucumber penis that can last 80hrs

The other day I overheard a woman defending her promiscuous act shouting on top of her voice that she cheated because her husband doesn’t give her head

I shock. Bcuz since them born me till today I never hear my mom telling my dad to give him head

Who invented this head giving sef

You can’t even use the word head in public again unless you have to be specific like head of charger head of fish head of family

on that head own, it is true o. I innocently asked my colleague while pointing at his charger that he should give me the head, because I already had my USB cord.
The spoilt thing just asked me when?.

I didn't understand initially, I kept on saying abeg give me the head, until my other r colleagues present burst out laughing.

I only understood later.
But trust me, I blasted him so bad. I was like why do we sexualise every thing?
He apologized because he knew I don't take nonsense, and really I made him know I was embarrassed.
So since then, even if I want to order for food, I shout give me "fish head" or "goat head" and not "head"

It is partly due to:
Insubordination on the woman's side.
Parental influence
Lack of fear of God
Lack of value, when you have value, you can die for it
Materialism and comparison

Comparison is what is killing somany marriages.
You see your friend on social media displaying her lavish lifestyle... you now become jealous and start seeing your husband as a poor man cus he couldn't afford a car for you or buy you those golden jewelries and expensive cloths that you see your married friends wearing.

As for the men....hmmmm
You won't know how married men are cheating on there wives until you work in a hotel.... married men abeg make una reduce una cheating lifestyle cuz is toomuch.
Not every woman can stay and tolerate a cheating husband.

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Earthstorms:


Really?

Yeah

taylor89:
Your parents living together till death isn’t a yardstick for good marriage

The reason for divorce and bad marriages of today na material things

You used your C300 Benz of 12million to snatch a hustling guys babe and tomorrow you’ll expect her to be faithful when a man who divers 2022 Lexus LX600 of 80 million

Another reason is too much of sexual expectations in marriages

Man would dump his organic wife at the sight of a big ass BBL lady

Woman will dump her organic man looking for a billionaire with 6 packs that has cucumber penis that can last 80hrs

The other day I overheard a woman defending her promiscuous act shouting on top of her voice that she cheated because her husband doesn’t give her head

I shock. Bcuz since them born me till today I never hear my mom telling my dad to give him head

Who invented this head giving sef

You can’t even use the word head in public again unless you have to be specific like head of charger head of fish head of family

I wish I could like this Post a Million Times.

All of Us go dey Alright last last seh😊

sonofthunder:


Yes.... I believe their claims are valid and it makes sense psychologically due to how we garner up human expectations and make comparisons in terms of finances, looks, taste, complexion, sexual prowess, etc.

It also emphasises a core lack of discipline and a likelihood to "runaway"..... Else why didn't "you" settle with one of your previous partners until their growing numbers became a list?

Have to make the right choice. 🙂

MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT NONSENSE!!!!!

there are more divorces today simply because...
A) its easy to get divorced today, compared to back in the days. in the past most of these women were jobless and couldnt divorce their husbands, but today, most women are gainfully employed and can manage to be on their own.
B) people marry for the wrong reasons, thanks to African culture/society....aka marriage because of RELIGIOUS/SOCIAL/FAMILY/PEER PRESSURE!
C) because lots of people have NO CLUE how hard it is to stay happily married. marriage aint a game and sadly, many only figure that out when its too late
D) because people are lazy!!!! so many were pretending to be who they were not (before marriage), in order to catch the right partner....and now that they are married, they dont need to pretend any longer,thats when their partner will discover the real character of their spouse. and sometimes it aint that great
E) what do you expect when you have so many women out there that are so FAKE (fake hair, fake foundation, fake eyelashes, fake nails, fake push up bras, fake padded underwear, fake accent, fake education, fake background etc)? some men only discover the true face of their partner after marriage, and it aint that great
F) so many women enter marriage as slim sexy princesses, and within 2/3 years (or kids) they end up looking like a baby whale version of shrek, and you wonder why so many men aint repulse by their wives?!
G) many people today marry SOLELY for money, and when a man with MORE money comes along and/or their spouse loses their money, then the marriage will rightfully be over.

Your view is lopsided because all you see is what women are doing wrong. Is marriage all about the women? Your kind of reasoning is another reason why divorce rate is high. Add it to your list.

MUMU op

taylor89:
Your parents living together till death isn’t a yardstick

The other day I overheard a woman defending her promiscuous act shouting on top of her voice that she cheated because her husband doesn’t give her head

I shock. Bcuz since them born me till today I never hear my mom telling my dad to give him head

Who invented this head giving sef

You can’t even use the word head in public again unless you have to be specific like head of charger head of fish head of family

You hear your parents discussing their sex life?

taylor89:
Your parents living together till death isn’t a yardstick for good marriage

The reason for divorce and bad marriages of today na material things

You used your C300 Benz of 12million to snatch a hustling guys babe and tomorrow you’ll expect her to be faithful when a man who divers 2022 Lexus LX600 of 80 million

Another reason is too much of sexual expectations in marriages

Man would dump his organic wife at the sight of a big ass BBL lady

Woman will dump her organic man looking for a billionaire with 6 packs that has cucumber penis that can last 80hrs

The other day I overheard a woman defending her promiscuous act shouting on top of her voice that she cheated because her husband doesn’t give her head

I shock. Bcuz since them born me till today I never hear my mom telling my dad to give him head

Who invented this head giving sef

You can’t even use the word head in public again unless you have to be specific like head of charger head of fish head of family

Guy you funny lol 🤣🤣 with this violence you're creating

omooba969:


Have to make the right choice. 🙂

So the choice became wrong after allowing them to "run through him/her"?

Most people obviously don't consider the totality of the consequences of their actions and think they are enjoying "life"


You can discard wrong life partners without raking up a large number of relationships/sexual-partners.


What we all need is to undergo the pain of discipline rather than the pain of regret.

The main reason from the women angle is because there is always an alternative out there . Hadn't been there are no good alternatives out there , women will stay or return to their marriage to make it work . The world has stumbled .

Lack of discipline and no more shame. Therefore everyone does whatever they like

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Media145:

They're numerous reasons for the high rise of divorce now, I can't even list them all.

achimendy:








They're numerous reasons for the high rise of divorce now, I can't even list them all.

Please list them. Share your views, let everyone learn from you. Feel free.

Fikemia:
Your view is lopsided because all you see is what women are doing wrong. Is marriage all about the women? Your kind of reasoning is another reason why divorce rate is high. Add it to your list.

ehay:
[/color]Okayyooo, nothing about men cheating on their wife's and topping the act with an STI/STD ? It's alright.

yes i certainly believe that the majority of divorces today are because of women... WOMEN who entered these marriages for the wrong reasons and thereafter not wanting any longer. WOMEN today not accepting to be treated like slaves and decide to walk away; WOMEN not wanting to accept what women in the past were accepting; WOMEN who are disrespected/abused and walk away.

only a very small percentage of divorces in Nigeria/Africa are instigated by men. the reality is that these men would rather cheat and/or be miserable than divorce BECAUSE NIGERIAN/AFRICAN MEN HAVE THE MOST TO LOSE IN TODAY'S DIVORCE

Desusi:

David in an attempt to deliver Israel, he said, "is there not a cause" There are lot of reasons for this,to start with,the kind of love in these days between couples are love at first sight.

Yes, it's an abomination for men to marry men.

But love between men and women still exists in some places. It really depends on how lucky you are to find true love. It's scarce, but it exists. It happens.

Chinny024:


It's ordinary na...Abi what do you suspect?

Ordinary?? Hmmm.... How??

Why do you think it's ordinary??

sonofthunder:



Also studies confirm that higher number of relationships/sexual-partners before marriage increases the chances of divorce


But what do I know

Very true. Good respone!! You're absolutely correct.

djon78:


This is a very big fallacy and lie

Many of the divorced today were not really from divorced homes

It's more about the quality of humans we have now

Characters quality have dropped very well
So people can't stand the pressure that comes with marriage

Hmmm, ... Really??

bonnyhope:


Big lie

There are uncountable divorcees which their parents still live together and grand parents never had divorce.

Hmmm..... I see. Noted. But I'm talking about the majority of divorce not all divorce is because of broken homes of parents. But majority.

forerunner022:
To suggest that divorce is now a contagious issue by reason of bloodline connection in this 21st century is the most unreasonable assertion I have ever heard in recent times. Laughable.

You won't understand it. It's only for those who understand it. Sorry, it's not everyone who will understand what I've written.

fatimaoke:
Foundational problems affecting marriages today. God please help us.

God will surely help you.

That's why I wrote this to open people's eyes and warn people to be careful.