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Good morning everyone
I want to know if it's right for a man to live with his parents after getting married

Boom Dig_it!

Na condition wey make crayfish bend,
Individual differences comes in play here, though staying with family might not give that needed privacy, yet in this kind condition wey Obodo Naija dey if there is great understanding between the married and his family including the Wife then who gives a hoot once there is enough space in the house filled with Joy, LOve and laughter to inhabit all.

A friend still lives in his Father's house with his Wife for over 5yrs now he is always confessing the team work from his Mum and wife in the Kitchen has made cook a thing of ease as every meal is a story, they will soon travel to Canada and they will really be missed, the Mum is missing sick already.

This life no really hard na just communication and understanding dey Bleep many up.

kernniejay:
It is very wrong. In the first place, such a man is not ready to get married. But, why will a lady agree to marry a "boy" who is still under his parents??

Coming from someone who just did his chores so mum could make him breakfast 🍳

All this wannabe men on this forum sef

In some tribes it is totally normal while in some it ain't...

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Although Iam not in support of it...

omolola100:
Good morning everyone
I want to know if it's right for a man to live with his parents after getting married

It is very wrong. In the first place, such a man is not ready to get married. But, why will a lady agree to marry a "boy" who is still under his parents??

If it's another flat in the same compound ko bad but the same flat ko was ideal

omolola100:
Good morning everyone
I want to know if it's right for a man to live with his parents after getting married

Yes if the circumstances support it. Be it distance, financial needs or any reason.
In some culture like the indians, they have compound family where children live together in a big mansion and the family expand as they build more around each other. This brings more bonding.
However, if a man is capable of renting his apartment or building his own house, he should get out if his parents house. In Nigeria for example, your prolonged stay in your parents house ll make many to believe it's badluck, retrogression or anything dramatic their spiritually traumatized brain can phantom.

omolola100:
Good morning everyone
I want to know if it's right for a man to live with his parents after getting married

Ideally, he shouldn't because he's the head of a family now and should be independently on his own, and of course except life situation warrants so.

He should pack into his wife's house.
The bible said 'for this reason, a man will leave his parents and join his wife'.
Let the wife get a house first before he can leave.

The only instance where it can be permitted is when things suddenly go wrong with financial situation of the couple and they have to relocate back to husband's parents house.
But that situation will warrant poke nosing from the inlaws and unnecessary interference that will have negative impact on the daughter-in-law (wife). They must never stay too long in a family house otherwise, things might get worse.

NB: Please don't mind that hen called Candidlady.

Na wa for your question

omolola100:
Good morning everyone
I want to know if it's right for a man to live with his parents after getting married

Can you people pack these conversations up!!! 😫

Una nor dey tire?

Depends on the kind of house. Depends on the location.
Not everybody is living inside room and palour

With the economy biting hard on every side, there's no standard for doing some of these things anymore. Just do what would allow you breathe, as long as you are not breaking any law

omolola100:
Good morning everyone
I want to know if it's right for a man to live with his parents after getting married

It all depends on the kind of family you find yourself
In terms of
1.Your personality
2.Mother n daughter-inlaw relationship
3.Your up-bringing

If you didn't tick all these boxes, abeg go leave elsewhere with your man to avoid see finish .

But for me personally, I can't stay

No!

Stay there until they ask you to sweep and wash plates on the roaster.

Nooooooooo.

In Nigeria marriage is seen as the best achievement one can have.

Poverty everywhere

A man old enough to marry, should have no business living in his parent's house.

He's a man and not a child. He is the head of his own home. So, he should have his own residence.

Candidlady:
Coming from someone who just did his chores so mum could make him breakfast 🍳

All this wannabe men on this forum sef

In some tribes it is totally normal while in some it ain't...

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Although Iam not in support of it...

Una get bad mouth for this nairaland

Yes. If his father is a billionaire

Hussle o. Make you no come nairaland dey ask present future tense question.

Your question bu "Is it RIGHT for a man to live with his parents after getting married?"

My answer bu:
1. I can't speak for other men, mana as for munwa, ọ dirọ RIGHT for me to live with my parents after getting married.
2. It might be a bit right if it were different flats inside the same building.
3. It will be more right if it is different buildings in the same compound.
4. Mana ọ ga-adi totally right, if it is different compounds in the same state or country.

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They can live near other but not with eachother. They should develop their own household without interference

omolola100:
Good morning everyone
I want to know if it's right for a man to live with his parents after getting married

Are your parents living with their own parents??

A married man living with with his parents is still and resembles a child.

No matter how old you are, you still remain a child to your parents especially when you are still cohabitating with them.

It depends on the house. If it's a family house built by his parents and he's given a flat in the building, I see nothing wrong with it.

If it's a duplex built by his dad, and he moves into one of the rooms with his wife, I still see nothing wrong with it.

But if it's a rented apartment housing his parents and maybe siblings, and he moves there with his newly wedded wife to squat, that would be very wrong. And I would definitely frown at such action if I'm the wife.

He should get his own place, even if it's just a room. So that his people would respect his wife.

I think its okay;
If you're the only child of your parents,
If you're running a business in the same city with them,
If the house is large enough to contain everyone (Mansion).

With the current situation of nigeria i ld say take the opportunity.