Nazgul:
The only people I pity are their husbands. Cos they'll spend their entire life feeding and training her siblings. And if they're like 8 or 10 and she's the first daughter, the husband go hear am.

Na by fox, no b by fox now just like someone say up there 👆 I'll do reach were my power or hand reach.

ReneeNuttall:
I am the first child/first daughter of my family.
It is not an easy job/task.
Aside from being the home runner of the family because dad is late and mom is in the village (farmer) doing the little she can.

It is not easy, I started working at the age of 12 and I have still not made it. I sacrificed all my life and time taking care of my siblings (4 boys and 1 gal) , neglecting my own self and personal needs.

Now I'm filled with regrets. They r all grown-up and living their lives fgting all my sufferings and sacrifices. I did not enjoy my youth, and i also did not have fun. Instead I was very reserved and all my thoughts was home bound. No child no marriage, depression 100% .Bp 100% brokenness 100%.

If only I didn't carry my family problems on my head at the detriment of mine. Y'all shld learn from my mistakes. I did not enjoy any first child privilege. There were days I slept wit empty stomachs and alot of times took garri to work to drink while I ensured my siblings had little portions of the last food at home.

Now all they do is take care of their girlfriends.

Hmmmmmmm

So touching.
All you wrote are right. Reason why I decided to focus on my life for the past 3 years.
Have learnt that humans are ungrateful by nature.
No matter what you do or sacrifice for them, what will end all your efforts is that what has he done? That someone else had not done before.
No matter your sacrifice to make sure they finish schooling, denying yourself so that they can travel abroad or sacrifice for girlfriend in relationship or family members, the question will still remain what has he done?
No I go to the best restaurants, hang outs, wear good clothes that even ladies appreciate and compliment etc now they are all complaining that I am enjoying while they are suffering. Don't I have family members I can help? Family members problem dey finish?

Maysdevices:
First child daughters?


Some people ehn

Try and learn.

Why do you Nigerians find it hard to accept that you're wrong?

We have the first youngest daughter, second youngest daughter, or even first oldest daughter and so on

Please don't quite me again.

emmaodet:


Hmmmmmmm

So touching.
All you wrote are right. Reason why I decided to focus on my life for the past 3 years.
Have learnt that humans are ungrateful by nature.
No matter what you do or sacrifice for them, what will end all your efforts is that what has he done? That someone else had not done before.
No matter your sacrifice to make sure they finish schooling, denying yourself so that they can travel abroad or sacrifice for girlfriend in relationship or family members, the question will still remain what has he done?
No I go to the best restaurants, hang outs, wear good clothes that even ladies appreciate and compliment etc now they are all complaining that I am enjoying while they are suffering. Don't I have family members I can help? Family members problem dey finish?

Family problems never pause for a bit let alone end.

Klass99:

Yes, his case is terrible but do I have a choice? He is motherless now and I am more or less his father and mother.
Blood is thicker than water.
Ignoring him will still cost me a lot too because he will become eternal burden.
May God help us

kings59:


Try and learn.

Why do you Nigerians find it hard to accept that you're wrong?

We have the first youngest daughter, second youngest daughter, or even first oldest daughter and so on

Please don't quite me again.

You are absolutely correct. However, there is a thing called social language, no one claimed to be a grammarian here.

Also, I’m Nigerian and I accepted that I was wrong, you don’t need to bash Nigerians everyday of your life because you are also most likely Nigerian, your disparaging comments will tell on you also because the whole world is reading, that is a huge sign of immaturity. You don’t know everything.

If you’re this butthurt by opposing opinions, you don’t belong on this forum. Another sign of immaturity.

emmaodet:


At the end, they will say what did/have you done for them?
For me, I just do what I can for now and don't stress myself on family again.
If I die today, they will always find a way to survive.
My immediate junior brother just came back from UAE this February after working for 5 years there with No dime on him and what did I get back? Ooohhh, how can you send me to a rubbish country like UAE to work and surfer when there are better countries like Canada, US, UK etc
This is a man that was given a work visa and a job right from Nigeria before stepping his foot out of the country with a starting salary of 1,500 diharms with extra side money to make.
My uncle that we sent there a year later has finished building his house here despite been a married man compared to him.
He was busy drinking, taking hard drugs up and down there and turned to a kolomenta.
Took the idiot to psychiatric hospital last week because he was just misbehaving up and down here and told the doctor it was because he lost his mum that made him start taking hard drugs that is about to render him useless.
Wetin consign mama death to smoking? Before the person die sef, one naira you no send to her, after she died, one naira you no send come home for burial. Na me do everything so who suppose dey smoke, who dey smoke kwanu

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alphaconde:
first born is such a scam.

sometimes i look at my first son how i demand more from him just because he is first.

i ask myself what wrong did he even do because the responsibility is really much.

in anyway that's gradually shaping his character and that's where i like it.

been first is a good way to learn responsibility.

and don't kill him with financial responsibility

emmaodet:


At the end, they will say what did/have you done for them?
For me, I just do what I can for now and don't stress myself on family again.
If I die today, they will always find a way to survive.
My immediate junior brother just came back from UAE this February after working for 5 years there with No dime on him and what did I get back? Ooohhh, how can you send me to a rubbish country like UAE to work and surfer when there are better countries like Canada, US, UK etc
This is a man that was given a work visa and a job right from Nigeria before stepping his foot out of the country with a starting salary of 1,500 diharms with extra side money to make.
My uncle that we sent there a year later has finished building his house here despite been a married man compared to him.
He was busy drinking, taking hard drugs up and down there and turned to a kolomenta.
Took the idiot to psychiatric hospital last week because he was just misbehaving up and down here and told the doctor it was because he lost his mum that made him start taking hard drugs that is about to render him useless.
Wetin consign mama death to smoking? Before the person die sef, one naira you no send to her, after she died, one naira you no send come home for burial. Na me do everything so who suppose dey smoke, who dey smoke kwanu

That's exactly what one of my brother did.

He was arrested when he blew a boy's eye and my Mom has to bailed him out with the money I gave her for rent without telling me because my mom knew I will not agree to that because we have warned him several times to stop going to that place where he fought with someone.

Could you imagine that he told my Mom he didn't tell her to bail him out after my Mom told him that is my money and he should go look for a way to pay me

vickydevoka:

Abeg wic one be first born daughter. Me way be 6th born the give me first born daughter money even 4th born and 7th (last born) , the dash am money. If I no get I no get simple. You choose to shoulder all those responsibilities. . Mikel obi, osime n psquare are all last born or second to the last.

I know.

Once a person has money all the burden will be pushed to him or her.

I am not even the first child. My elder brother sent money to money to my once in a while but mine is every week if am not around.

If you disturb my Elder brother too much, he will block your line. I know how many times he has blocked my mom number for disturbing him to send money.

sageb:


Wow !
Mavo?

Me ero

phemmyfour:
That's a high level of stupidity and irresponsibility

Very stupid boy. Someone that refused to learn handwork after five attempts because of Yahoo.

He was put in three different tailoring shop, printing press and Mechanics Workshop. He didn't do anyone, just wasted people's money.

Evestar200:
Very stupid boy. Someone that refused to learn handwork after five attempts because of Yahoo.

He was put in three different tailoring shop, printing press and Mechanics Workshop. He didn't do anyone, just wasted people's money.

That's his problem there, he sees yahoo as a quick way to make money. That's a lazy attitude

Evestar200:
That's exactly what one of my brother did.

He was arrested when he blew a boy's eye and my Mom has to bailed him out with the money I gave her for rent without telling me because my mom knew I will not agree to that because we have warned him several times to stop going to that place where he fought with someone.

Could you imagine that he told my Mom he didn't tell her to bail him out after my Mom told him that is my money and he should go look for a way to pay me

By nature, humans are ungrateful so the best you can do in life is to watch out for yourself first before others

Evestar200:
I know.

Once a person has money all the burden will be pushed to him or her.

I am not even the first child. My elder brother sent money to money to my once in a while but mine is every week if am not around.

If you disturb my Elder brother too much, he will block your line. I know how many times he has blocked my mom number for disturbing him to send money.

Lol. I laugh in Chinese. Before my elder brother give me reasonable money. Him build house, buy 2 cars b send en family abroad. Some men get sense die. Men are very logical. They don go with emotion ( what women call instinct today). Him no send you. Las LA's u go de alright. Burden na who want am. As en get money. Him Rush marry at 26 years. If you ask am , him go say him want pay school fees of 400k or house rent of 1 million . That's logic. But as a lady way never marry, I pity u. Together with your emotions, feeling pity all de time. Omo family u remain single. Even when I see husband, u no go gre marry.even after u see husband, of u no wise u go divorce early bcus of family. Mine is, when a lady tell me she's the first born out of 6 children. My interest die immediately especially if she is not from a rich or parents are retired teachers. Lol