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cococandy:
Shakira

dealslip:
Women: if you are earning more
Avoid helping men except your help is requested. they may accept your help but they will despise and resent you.

Quality20:
Are they not supposed to be happy that their wives are not asking asking for every penny they need

1Sharon:
Lol silly autocorrect

stevups:
All of my friends whose wives earn better are arrogant.. All my friends are no more interested in the marriage.. the little enjoyment they have now is from those tiny tiny babes.

Zigzagman:
Mazi Dimaya, you're just a broke dude

dealslip:
Let me advise the young men and women here.
Men: If you earn more than your woman, never fail in your duties to love and cherish her. Always display your masculine energy - treat her like a human being, don't see her as a dependant but as a companion. At least you were not the one feeding her since birth, some one was. The fact that they handed her over to you in marriage, doesn't mean she stopped having value and needed to be discarded. Respect her feelings, stop saying women only need money, the more you keep that detached mindset the higher likelihood she isn't going to be loyal. Since everything is transactional with money and no strings attached. If she earns more than you - display your masculinity, still love her but do your responsibility. Always acknowledge her efforts but never allow her to take over your responsibility. Men are usually scared to death to acknowledge their women's effort or high status. Once a woman realize you don't even ask her for help or turn down the help and let her know you have it taken care of, she will respect you the more.

Women: if you are earning more
Avoid helping men except your help is requested. they may accept your help but they will despise and resent you. Men have been conditioned to be providers and when you constantly take up that duty, they begin to see you as a rival and will not even appreciate the help. Even if it becomes critical - pretend to loan them. Ego is a man's biggest problem.

If you are not earning more and you hear stuffs like women only like money, my dear run for your life because you will be verbally and emotionally abused. Make sure you create strong boundaries as well.
Finally for both men and women - please marry a person that shares your exact value and the values you admire e get why.

advanceDNA:
People take inititive to help outsiders that dont even ask them when they see they need help...yet you are saying women shouldnt help their own spouse unless they cry out.....this ur advice dey one kind oooo......show us the man that despise his wife for helping him before crying out??

how do u women even show this so called love u claim u have seff??

achimendy:
See how bias your statement is. Just imagine the long epistle you wrote for men and you called it advice, and the short note for women.

Since you said men are conditioned to be providers which is true, you also need to know that men are also designed by God to lead in the family, which many women that earns more than their husbands wont allow, resulting to power struggle between them . All because the wife and the husband want to lead, and we all know that's a man's position.


It takes a God fearing woman that earns more than her husband to still be under the leadership of her husband that's also doing his part. All this thing you wrote up there wont still change anything for a woman that earns more than his husband.

dealslip:
I understand your point but we should see it from the reality on ground. When we talk about helping outsiders, there's usually no attachments but you see marriage is different, there is not only attachment but entanglement sef. Men don't need competitors in the home, a woman earning more in the home has to be extremely careful otherwise even her help can be misconstrued. If the man ask for help she should offer it but all she can do is to suggest. I said if it becomes critical, she should offer it as a loan - knowing fully well she won't ask for it back. Men are generally egoist and can be very mean to women who they perceive as rich. Don't you see people say stuffs like she is an ashawo just because she is rich. Generally men perceive respect as love. When a woman respects them by allowing them to own up to their responsibility and appreciate it. Women in the other hand need to be validated and acknowledged for their support. Where this is not happening expect world war 3

achimendy:
See how bias your statement is. Just imagine the long epistle you wrote for men and you called it advice, and the short note for women.

Since you said men are conditioned to be providers which is true, you also need to know that men are also designed by God to lead in the family, which many women that earns more than their husbands wont allow, resulting to power struggle between them . All because the wife and the husband want to lead, and we all know that's a man's position.


It takes a God fearing woman that earns more than her husband to still be under the leadership of her husband that's also doing his part. All this thing you wrote up there wont still change anything for a woman that earns more than his husband.

advanceDNA:
U are speaking a lot of theory and fallacy.....I have not seen a man that will see his wife as competitive for suggesting help when he needs it ...that man doesnt exist....
.. men are egoist doesnt mean men will despise their wife for offering to help...

We men are used to doing things all by our self not because we dont want help but because no one helps us from the start....society expects us to pull it off...society mocks us if we cant and call us broke and all manner of names.. same dont happen to women.......

Usually, Men dont ask their wife either because of the kinda of wife they have or because of what they has heard and seen about women..but not because they dont want..
.. if ur husband borrow u money...its gone... but if e reach una turn ....wahala... who wants stress from wife at home askimg for money she gave him

Zigzagman:
With the ongoing subsidy removal, most families are having to find ways to make ends meet.

In this viral video, the speakers analyze how an increase in the woman's earnings places extra stress on the men. The boss babe disagreed and got destroyed with hard facts. DO you agree? What has been your experience? Are you placed under stress if your wife out-earns you? Does your husband feel stressed because you out-earn him? How do you manage the stresses that money imbalance brings?

Please watch the video and let us know your thoughts.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eUrng-mfZpQ

OKUCHI11:
Majority of those who commented before me...booked space..

dealslip:
Well if you took time to read objectively, everything you listed is what I wrote in my comments so what's the issue gan gan. Is that not the same thing, never hint you are helping a man, let him ask for it.

Quality20:
Are they not supposed to be happy that their wives are not asking asking for every penny they need

iCauseTrouble:
most women become arrogant when their social and finacial status become higher than that of the husband. They no longer see reason to be submissive. They always seek to be independent, Hence, the reason for high rate of divorce among successful women.

ukaface:
do you prefer women to earn lesser than men

Zigzagman:
With the ongoing subsidy removal, most families are having to find ways to make ends meet.

In this viral video, the speakers analyze how an increase in the woman's earnings places extra stress on the men. The boss babe disagreed and got destroyed with hard facts. DO you agree? What has been your experience? Are you placed under stress if your wife out-earns you? Does your husband feel stressed because you out-earn him? How do you manage the stresses that money imbalance brings?

Please watch the video and let us know your thoughts.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eUrng-mfZpQ

NOwazobia:
Increase in a woman's income equals increase in nagging, arrogance, and not Kobo contributions to alleviate the family expenditure.

Sometimes, I see a woman education as a waste because it is all to better herself, while the man strive to better himself, his children, his wife, his extended family, and the wife extended family.

Men seems to be serving punishment for an unknown sin, even though the woman was the one that brought us to this cold dungeon we called life.

Every fawking thing in life is structured to the woman's pleasure.

advanceDNA:
U are speaking a lot of theory and fallacy.....I have not seen a man that will see his wife as competitive for suggesting help when he needs it ...that man doesnt exist....
.. men are egoist doesnt mean men will despise their wife for offering to help...

We men are used to doing things all by our self not because we dont want help but because no one helps us from the start....society expects us to pull it off...society mocks us if we cant and call us broke and all manner of names.. same dont happen to women.......

Usually, Men dont ask their wife either because of the kinda of wife they have or because of what they has heard and seen about women..but not because they dont want..
.. if ur husband borrow u money...its gone... but if e reach una turn ....wahala... who wants stress from wife at home askimg for money she gave him

advanceDNA:
Lol...the issue gan gan is that women shouldnt wait for their man to beg them before helping .

Imagine a wife telling her husband..."oga ade, i thought i should support and releive u of some stress , i have paid for our kids school fees" i know u are trying ur best for us..

.. weda baba is broke or not....he will appreciate it die... and not feel angry or like his wife is competing with him like u said

magkhan:
Mr, this is a very wrong assertion. Speak for yourself and not 'all men'. Do you know there are men that locks up their wife and threaten harm unless she sends him all her salary for the month? There are families where the woman pays all bills (rent, school fees, feeding) because her salary covers it but the ungrateful men in their lives will want her to bring what she has saved up after family expenses. Stop saying we men we men like all men are roped into one perfect spectrum. Please speak for yourself. There are terribly insecure baby men all over. Dont get me started on those that will seize wife's car keys.

babakb:
I hope you know that there are a lot of men that are losers, and losers can't lead.
This example is based on a true story, A man got married and took care of the family for 3 years then he lost his job, his wife continued taking care of the family for the next 7 years, tell me, just tell me how can a man like this lead

achimendy:
It depends on your own definition of the word loser.


Secondly, why would you conclude that a man is a looser just because he lost his job and couldn't cater for the family financially? You didn't even give clear reason why the man couldn't cater for his family after the job lose, if it is as a result of health issues, spiritual issue or he's still trying but no way, or he just relaxed and watched the wife do the whole thing??

Lastly, I'll never support any man that sit down and allow the wife to cater for the family, any man who does that is not been responsible to his family. And he deserves any insult that comes his way. But if is a temporal financial challenge then the wife must understand and cover him up while he try to rise again.

Dimaya:
That picture of a woman after buying a pair of socks is so damn hilarious 😂

benqo01:
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If she manages to buy something for herself u will see on her Whatsapp status I LIKE THE WOMAN AM BECOMING

Or she send recharge card to her boyfriend....her Whatsapp status be like WOMEN SUPPORT YA MAN

Well I tyre for Dem o