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taylor89:
Be forming what I don’t know

A colleague called you at odd hour and your vagina mind went straight to toasting not thinking if he might be in danger or you might be in danger yourself

My boss once told me that even if we’re 10 inches away from each other like we’re seeing each other that I should never refuse to pick his call

Even if he asked me to come to his house and I’m already at the gate and he calls that I should pick the call and tell him boss I’m at your gate

Because you really don’t know when a call is for safety

You are one of those men that sleeps with people wife....why calling her on video....you want to tell me that it is only his female colleagues that can save him from danger abi?

Making flimsy excuses for immoral behaviour

teefaht:
I once called 2 of my married male colleagues at night around 10pm when I was dying in the house and I needed someone with a ride to rush me to the hospital...

I was glad both responded and I was rushed and admitted to the hospital that night.

If they had this mentality, maybe I would have died that night.

When u re dying u still have energy to call them on video call?

Go and read what the lady wrote before u attack.


No single reason for a male co-worker to call married woman by 9 o clock on video call and not just ordinary call.

What's not good we must admit is bad, if the woman has already in her nighties or naked ?

duro4chang:
I agree to some extent. Take for instance a married man who happens to find an old school girl friend on the net, as a result of constant interaction, the old lust may be ignited.

Thousands of these are happening on daily basis.

Several exes back to having sex after they met on Facebook, even those that had crush for themselves in sch days that couldn't express their minds used the opportunity of social media to start immorality.

Fiscus105:
Thousands of these are happening on daily basis.

Several exes back to having sex after they met on Facebook, even those that had crush for themselves in sch days that couldn't express their minds used the opportunity of social media to start immorality.

You are right.

Oizee:
Some people don't respect boundary at all, there was a colleague of mine that called me on WhatsApp video around 9:30pm when I was preparing for bed o, I didn't pick, the next day in the office I made it clear to him that I don't do video call with non male relatives.

I still have two of my married exes call me from time to time .. Even when their husbands, Asleep had to caution them is very common with some women these days meanwhile I'm still single o!

Monaboo:
Yet I'm single and I talk to my married female friend even at 1am in the night.

We chat even till 2 am.

Sometimes she will chat me up at that time with "U no dey sleep"?

And we both will start talking.

In my mind sometimes I will be like, "Wait o, is this lady not married?

I have come to understand that marriage is understanding and trust.

If u trust your wife and she trusts you and both of you understand each other, believe me, nothing and I repeat nothing can ever separate you both.

I'm out.

Nairaland kids..
And you're still single?? And couldn't marry any of your "so important friends" you always disturb at night?
What is the business you have with someones wife you so much desire to discuss it at the dead of the night??

Well sha, anyone can spit garbage on this forum and sink, Nobody is taking records.

teefaht:
I once called 2 of my married male colleagues at night around 10pm when I was dying in the house and I needed someone with a ride to rush me to the hospital...

I was glad both responded and I was rushed and admitted to the hospital that night.

If they had this mentality, maybe I would have died that night.

Pls, next time call your fellow gender. For crying out loud can't women help themselves?

FalseProphet1:
Nigerian men are like He-Goats. Always Hot and looking for whom to have sex with, be it an under age child, a married woman or even a mad woman. That's why many of them are so poor and wretched, cos the only thing they spend their money and time on is sex. Know this and have peace.

This I have seen.

yes ur right, very right and I mean your on point

Monaboo:
Yet I'm single and I talk to my married female friend even at 1am in the night.

We chat even till 2 am.

Sometimes she will chat me up at that time with "U no dey sleep"?

And we both will start talking.

In my mind sometimes I will be like, "Wait o, is this lady not married?

I have come to understand that marriage is understanding and trust.

If u trust your wife and she trusts you and both of you understand each other, believe me, nothing and I repeat nothing can ever separate you both.

I'm out.

foolish Man U no get work and little self dignity, u Dey chat ur female married friend till 1pm and don’t see anything wrong with it abby? Who trained all u weird fellas self?

All this single guys and married men here forming what i don't know make una getat


My advice for y'all is: if you are TRULY NOT into bedding another man's wife, then i see no reason why you should be in CONSTANT communication with another man's wife or be a VERY close friend to another man's wife.


"Do not give room for temptations".
"Flee from all forms of temptations".
"Evil communication corrupts good manners".


Let single folks start limiting the rate at which they give their time and attention to married folks and, alas, adultery just might start reducing amongst married folks.

taylor89:
Be forming what I don’t know

A colleague called you at odd hour and your vagina mind went straight to toasting not thinking if he might be in danger or you might be in danger yourself

My boss once told me that even if we’re 10 inches away from each other like we’re seeing each other that I should never refuse to pick his call

Even if he asked me to come to his house and I’m already at the gate and he calls that I should pick the call and tell him boss I’m at your gate

Because you really don’t know when a call is for safety

u are not been fair at all with your insult, If you are in danger u will find means to reach someone and not video call, assuming I was not putting on decent clothes, so I should be running helter skelter to drag clothes to wear because of him right? What help can a married woman offer a fellow colleague at such hour Biko?

This guy even apologised that he didnt know I won't be comfortable with video call.
Do you know the guy to have concluded he wanted to pass important info that he can't use voice note, or WhatsApp call to pass.

Oga judge, if you don't hear from both sides, please don't pass judgement again o.

bonnyhope:
You are one of those men that sleeps with people wife....why calling her on video....you want to tell me that it is only his female colleagues that can save him from danger abi?

Making flimsy excuses for immoral behaviour

God bless you Sir, I replied his mention when I saw it, if I had known that a reasonable person like u responded on my behalf, I would not have bothered again to reply him

PapaGfad:
It is no more news that marriages have lows and high time and several events take place that makes couples feel so much pressure and feel choked in marriage. And of course, the usual line of action is to find 'solace' in some available shoulders.

However, gone are the days when these available shoulders understand boundaries and even though they may be 'providing succour' to the wife or husband, they still at least understand certain boundaries. For instance, for no reason will I keep a married woman on the phone at night(especially anything from 8.30pm) when she is under her husband's roof no matter how close we are. It is a brocode law for me.

But how come these days, you will find another married man, engaging another married woman under the roof of her husband on calls deep into the hours of the night?

Here is my thought, if a woman were to be having issues with her husband(aside from physical attack o) and she calls me at night when she should be on bed with the husband ,is it not reasonable for me to encourage the woman to put efforts into resolving the issue rather than cowardly running into my arms for solace at least for that night by simply postponing our calls till day time?


Or even if there were to be no issues, does it not look odd to be deeply engaged in cozzy calls with a married fellow in the deep of the night?

I am just wondering if I am overthinking this or perhaps it is just that people don't care anymore about these things?

You are not overthinking bro /sis
This generation is morally crooked and spiritually perverted

A stupid and foolish generation that claims that they are wise

otemeh01:
Pls, next time call your fellow gender. For crying out loud can't women help themselves?

If I had my fellow gender that have a ride and stay in the same area with me, that would have been the first thing I would do. It's common sense.

This is about life. You should know the type of partner you have. Most of you want to marry slay queen, then you end up having trust issues with your partner after marriage because you knew the kind of person they were when they were single.

We are still have discipline woman and men despite the fact that the society is getting at of hand

Fiscus105:
When u re dying u still have energy to call them on video call?

Go and read what the lady wrote before u attack.


No single reason for a male co-worker to call married woman by 9 o clock on video call and not just ordinary call.

What's not good we must admit is bad, if the woman has already in her nighties or naked ?

I don't care if it's a male or female colleagues. If a known number call me at any odd hour of the night and I'm available to pick the call, I will pick it.

The content of the message will now determine if I will continue the call with you or not.

The OP is justified with the content of the narration above. I'm only against not picking your colleagues' call at 8.30pm it could have been an emergency.

Because they lack morals and spirituality meaning no respect for their parents and God.

teefaht:
I don't care if it's a male or female colleagues. If a known number call me at any odd hour of the night and I'm available to pick the call, I will pick it.

The content of the message will now determine if I will continue the call with you or not.

The OP is justified with the content of the narration above. I'm only against not picking your colleagues' call at 8.30pm it could have been an emergency.

I can pick call at any hour from any gender, but not video call from men even if it is morning. People might not be ok with it but, that is my principle.

You have not seen anything bro

ITbomb:
The people who brought the western idea of sanctity of marriage have misaligned it, so what do you expect.

We have to go back to our own system of marriage, anyone with the resources to marry more than one should please go ahead.

There should be a law to guarantee education for your children at least up to School cert order else you are drafted into the military recruit with hard labor and government takes over the education of your children

Military Recruit or Prison Straight with Hard Labour the Proceed of which shall be used to Sponsor your Children in Higher Education....

Monaboo:
Yet I'm single and I talk to my married female friend even at 1am in the night.

We chat even till 2 am.

Sometimes she will chat me up at that time with "U no dey sleep"?

And we both will start talking.

In my mind sometimes I will be like, "Wait o, is this lady not married?

I have come to understand that marriage is understanding and trust.

If u trust your wife and she trusts you and both of you understand each other, believe me, nothing and I repeat nothing can ever separate you both.

I'm out.

Irritating comment.
Your heart needs help.

taylor89:
Be forming what I don’t know

A colleague called you at odd hour and your vagina mind went straight to toasting not thinking if he might be in danger or you might be in danger yourself

My boss once told me that even if we’re 10 inches away from each other like we’re seeing each other that I should never refuse to pick his call

Even if he asked me to come to his house and I’m already at the gate and he calls that I should pick the call and tell him boss I’m at your gate

Because you really don’t know when a call is for safety

erm.... you be houseboy to your boss?

Call only when there is danger or something urgent. Though adultery is the in thing now and most importantly too much sex is attached to marriages of today. Kepp your sexual urge moderately when married.

teefaht:
I don't care if it's a male or female colleagues. If a known number call me at any odd hour of the night and I'm available to pick the call, I will pick it.

The content of the message will now determine if I will continue the call with you or not.

The OP is justified with the content of the narration above. I'm only against not picking your colleagues' call at 8.30pm it could have been an emergency.

Why would you care when lack serious man in ur life.

Though, doubt if u re female sha

Fiscus105:
Why would you care when u dnt have serious man in ur life.

Though, doubt if u re female sha

Lol, what a lame come back.

I’m happily married now, 2yrs and going stronger .

The incident happened four yrs ago.

Oizee:
I can pick call at any hour from any gender, but not video call from men even if it is morning. People might not be ok with it but, that is my principle.

Thank you. I don’t even video call anyone except my husband.


You have to inform me before you can even video call me. I won’t take you serious if the first thing you did is to video call.

All these one are for weak men


Once I get married, my wife will resign from her job and become a full time house wife


She will desist from communicating with all men except her father and brother


She stays in her room and comes out when I unlock the door


I'll have complete access to her phone , she'll be off social media

teefaht:
Lol, what a lame come back.

I’m happily married now, 2yrs and going stronger .

The incident happened four yrs ago.

Keep receiving "video calls" from colleagues till 1am ok.

U have to keep on with what u started.



Latter they will be cry like baby that one man charm them with love charms, when they themselves crack the walk for intruders

Sharpsharp00123:
The problem we have lately is that people no longer marry for love, they marry for different reasons so it’s hard to stay committed when those things they actually married for are fading away

Some married for money
Some for influence
Some to satisfy their family
Some for respect
Some for free sex
N many mor

So it’s only a matter of time before they start having problem in their marriage

And no one is to blame. Cos life is unfair and not balanced. If life was fair, why can't we all have the one we love/admire to date/marry? Why is it that the ones we love do not want us and the ones who want us we do not love?

People will eventually settle cos they can't get what they want and time is ticking, they want to get married and have kids.

taylor89:
Be forming what I don’t know

A colleague called you at odd hour and your vagina mind went straight to toasting not thinking if he might be in danger or you might be in danger yourself

My boss once told me that even if we’re 10 inches away from each other like we’re seeing each other that I should never refuse to pick his call

Even if he asked me to come to his house and I’m already at the gate and he calls that I should pick the call and tell him boss I’m at your gate

Because you really don’t know when a call is for safety

And the only call type or first call type to make when in danger is Video Call around 9:30pm when people are putting on very light dresses and preparing to sleep eh?
The way some of you think eh...

Please encourage your partner to make Video Calls with the opposite gender at very odd hours of the night.

Oizee:
Some people don't respect boundary at all, there was a colleague of mine that called me on WhatsApp video around 9:30pm when I was preparing for bed o, I didn't pick, the next day in the office I made it clear to him that I don't do video call with non male relatives.

oil dey ur head
Omo him wan knack you
Good as you tell him
You're not thzt type of women

Next time no too dey laugh anyhow with those men for working place

taylor89:
Be forming what I don’t know

A colleague called you at odd hour and your vagina mind went straight to toasting not thinking if he might be in danger or you might be in danger yourself

My boss once told me that even if we’re 10 inches away from each other like we’re seeing each other that I should never refuse to pick his call

Even if he asked me to come to his house and I’m already at the gate and he calls that I should pick the call and tell him boss I’m at your gate

Because you really don’t know when a call is for safety

keep quiet
Which type non sense talk u dey talk

Can't he call her
Must he do video
Get out