helinues:


Stop talking nonsense.

Which your Quran?

Hi, I've secured it for you. You can start tomorrow.

Mabizeka:
Hi, I've secured it for you. You can start tomorrow.

And I have told you I don't need your Bleep.ing job

What exactly is your life problem that you have been trolling for years.

Is that how precious your situation is?

Profmarley:

You're contradicting yourself still. Your leaving the house or staying away from your spouse is a tactic meant to ultimately subject them to emotional manipulation — which again buttresses the OP's second point on emotionally unavailability.

I support the OP's views on the subject matter but I also feel it should apply to insecure, emasculate men who tend to make life unnecessarily difficult for their innocent spouses. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Wrong. You cannot interpret any action towards mitigating abuse as emotional manipulation. If the man had chosen to go for therapy you would also refer to that as emotional manipulation. If the man had decided to appease the woman to make her cease her toxicity you would also refer to that as emotional manipulation. You are actually the manipulative person here. A man who chooses to leave the scene of a quarrel for the sake of calming tensions is not being manipulative rather you would rather that the man stay and keep being subjected to toxic outbursts from a clearly deranged maniac of a wife is the narcissist with truly malevolent intentions. You will not refer to the man as being manipulative if the quarrel was between him and his brother and you would also not refer to a woman as being manipulative if the quarrel was between the wife and her sister because in both cases the action of leaving the scene of the quarrel is aimed at dousing tensions and yes what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Only a stupid woman stays in a house with a man that is threatening to take her life and unfortunately there are so many stupid women these days who lack commonsense. Like the bunch of idiotic women who throng Davido getting pregnant for him like rabbits. As stupid as they are they are all trying to make a husband out of a playboy.

helinues:


And I have told you I don't need your Bleep.ing job

What exactly is your life problem that you have been trolling for years.

Is that how precious your situation is?

Just wanted to help you out. I'll leave you alone.

advanceDNA:


Yeah...woman slap, abuse, insult, manipulate, and do all sorts of domestic abuse to her husband......u women dont like being paid back in ur own coin.....all u women would say the man should not do anything, he should always be a door mat and wait for her to adjust...


If n una turn....call the police, get him arrested, sleep with another man, get pregnant with another man's child, destroy his car, divorce him, take all his property ...

una well done .....na only man sabi suffer

Eyah no cry

Mabizeka:
Just wanted to help you out. I'll leave you alone.

Go and give the job to your family members that are jobless.

We are doing fine here

Anny69:
So many things is wrong with this write up.

Why should a woman FEAR A MAN? Especially HER MAN? What do y'all benefit from becoming an ABUSIVE PARTNER?!

Our forefathers didn't practice healthy relationships. If it's respect you want from a woman you have to EARN it.

It's normal to have a fight in a relationship, if you feel offended as a man the best thing you can do is to be calm, listen to her rants, try to understand her and tackle the conflict between the both of you. It's not called SIMPING like some alfa meil call it here. Gragra doesn't solve things... It'll just make the relationship TOXIC.

My final words on this is that domestic violence isn't the only form of spousal abuse. Emotional abuse is also a form of spousal abuse; which according to you is the best way to treat a woman one is quarrelling with. And you're totally WRONG.

Always the same gibberish all the time.......only a foolish dull man will do what you wrote up there.

Even if you earn your respect that doesn't mean during conflict a woman won't even insult your mother.....most of you mouth are meant to be sealed for life.

This rubbish of trying to always paint women as saints need to stop honestly.

Most of you can't even stand yourselves but will expect a man to take all the rubbish and nonsense you do all the time.

The double standards is the reason why marriage is a joke this days.

Khd95:
The best thing to do is to just ignore her and her food for days but make sure you still provide food in the house

May we never end up with the wrong wife because this creatures dey one kind

Bible, don’t beat your wife


Quran, don’t beat your wife

Your wife, if you are man enough beat me 😭😂

For how long will you keep doing that??

Do you even think some give a Bleep if you eat or not ??

Nah you hunger go finish with that method oooo.....cos they have gotten use it

helinues:


Go and give the job to your family members that are jobless.

We are doing fine here

Hi, pls stop sending me emails every minute. I thought you said you don't need my help? Pls desist from such. I'm not that idle to be attending to your emails every minute.

labake1:



Eyah no cry

Cry??
Shebi u get brother and sons.... the joke is actually on you...

helinues:


Stop talking nonsense.

Which your Quran?

I just showed you where the Quran said it and you called it nonsense.

Are you saying your Quran is a book of nonsense?

Wait! Do you even read your Quran at all?!

It's now obvious that many of you call yourselves Muslims but know nothing about your own religion or its Quran. You are just an empty headed Muslim.

No wonder you get easily deceived by your imams and alfas.

advanceDNA:


Cry??
Shebi u get brother and sons.... the joke is actually on you...

👅

tonytony208:


I just showed you where the Quran said it and you called it nonsense.

Are you saying your Quran is a book of nonsense?

Wait! Do you even read your Quran at all?!

It's now obvious that many of you call yourselves Muslims but know nothing about your own religion or its Quran. You are just an empty headed Muslim.

No wonder you get easily deceived by your imams and alfas.

Again, what's my problem with Quran or Bible?

Is it idleness that make some of you guys just to be accusing people wrongly?

AndroidAI:
If she hit me, she is getting hit in return. She's free to use her mouth, but she should never dare to hit me, because I will defend myself by reciprocating the gesture. That was how a woman gave someone I know a slap, and the man returned the slap at once and she was stunned. In her life she wouldn't try that play again. Men, stop being simps. Don't hit a woman, but if she hit you, don't be shy to hit back. You are justified.

As long as both slaps are accurately captured on video, no wahala

helinues:


Again, what's my problem with Quran or Bible?

Is it idleness that make some of you guys just to be accusing people wrongly?

You said Quran didn't say it before.

Now that you can't lie about that anymore, you start pretending to be unconcerned.

The usual deceptive Muslim.

tonytony208:


You said Quran didn't say it before.

Now that you can't lie about that anymore, you start pretending to be unconcerned.

The usual deceptive Muslim.

@ emboldened, could you refer me to where I said that?

Anny69:
If it's respect you want from a woman you have to EARN it.

And what would she be doing while he is doing his bits to earn her respect?


You see a woman you fancy, you ask for her hand and go through hell to make her yours then when she comes in, you will start working harder to earn her respect while she just chills and enjoys?



@Op, not hitting a woman simply because she is a a woman is sexist, people should be treated as humans first before gender.

It's never good to hit a Woman .

When a woman craze enters her head , it's good to ignore and follow the OP's advice but when she goes further to hold your cloth and hits you first , you are permitted to dish out one or two corrective slaps to calm her down and remind her that the slow crawling of the Lion should not be taken for Cowardice ......

Later you pet her , calm her down and bang the hell outta her kpekus that night till she trembles .

Next day she go humble de call you Daddy....

I can imagine the kind of home you grew up in. Be rest assured this post won't make FP here

Pukkalolo:
In recent times, domestic violence is being frowned upon.

Of course, that's a good thing because it's practically wrong to hit a woman. I'm totally against it.

But here's the down side of this:
Women do not have any FEAR anymore.
The average woman now challenge her Man and go into a fierce verbal battle with him because she knows the society will back her if he hits her.

The other day I saw a couple in a serious conflict. The husband who was very angry was like, "Woman, you better watch your tongue...you are getting on my nerves."

The wife responded harshly in a confrontational manner, "What are you going to do? Oh, you want to hit me? Hit me, and I'll tell the world you are a woman beater. Hit me, I dare you to hit me."

I felt a bit pity for this man because he seemed emasculated. That woman seem to be actually getting on his nerves.

In the olden days, the woman will never challenge her Man and go into a fierce verbal battle with him because she knows he will immedately discipline or instill fear by physically hitting her.

In the olden days, there was no law against domestic violence, so our forefathers keep their women in check by physically hitting them...this why their women will never talk back at them.

In recent times, men aren't allowed to discipline or instill fear in a woman by physically hitting her like in olden days... because they'll be shamed for it and they might be at risk of facing charges.

So never physically hit a woman.

Now, what's the solution?

When your woman seriously offend you, the best way to hit her is through her emotions. Women are highly emotional creatures. So never waste your time hitting her physically, just give her emotional hits... and the job will be get done.

There two ways you do that:

#1 Hit her verbally.

Remember, women say things to hit your ego, so you must also learn to say things to hit their ego so that the ground will be leveled.
Now, I don't mean arguing with her. Again, I don't mean angrily straight up insulting her by saying things like, "you are useless woman," or "you are fool." Or anything like that.

That won't work. Instead verbally hit her a way that throw her off balance a little bit.
The way to do it is to just be blunt with her.

Tell her the truth. Remember, the truth hurt. Women love lies because lies massage her ego and make her feel good about herself. But the truth hit ego and get her to start questioning her values has a woman.

For example, Tell her..."You are lucky you have those boobs, otherwise no man will want to associate with your kind person."

OR. "If it weren't for your ass, men would just ignore you because you got a very poor attitude."

I can give more and more examples. But I believe you get the point. Make sure you say that in a very cool, calm and collected manner. That way she knows you are not being emotional...you are simply logically passing a vital information to her about her behaviour.
This will hit her emotions. This is more effective than physically hitting her.



#2 Hit her with emotional unavailability.

Emotional unavailability is a brutal way to hit a woman.

Here's why...

Remember, Relationship isn't so much of a physical experience, but more of an emotional experience. That's why many couples can still maintain a long distance relationship for months or years. This is because, even though there's physical experience lacking, the emotional experience is still fire blazing. They still feel emotionally connected.

That's also why many couples can be living few blocks away from each other or living under the same roof but still feel disconnected.

This is because, even though there's physical experience, the emotional experience is poor.

Hitting her with your emotional unavailability means still being physically present with her but not giving her that special care and attention you'd normal give to her. And not allowing her have access to your resources anymore. And not meddling in her business...

You'll give her the emotional unavailability unless she change or improve on her behaviour towards you.


In summary, never hit her physically...hit her emotionally.

The raw truth nobody wants to openly admit to is that:
Many ladies actually "want" that beating, at least once. It is something they psychologically crave as part of a male's masculinity that turns them on.
But political correctness won't let anyone admit

Anny69:
So many things is wrong with this write up.

Why should a woman FEAR A MAN? Especially HER MAN? What do y'all benefit from becoming an ABUSIVE PARTNER?!

Our forefathers didn't practice healthy relationships. If it's respect you want from a woman you have to EARN it.

It's normal to have a fight in a relationship, if you feel offended as a man the best thing you can do is to be calm, listen to her rants, try to understand her and tackle the conflict between the both of you. It's not called SIMPING like some alfa meil call it here. Gragra doesn't solve things... It'll just make the relationship TOXIC.

My final words on this is that domestic violence isn't the only form of spousal abuse. Emotional abuse is also a form of spousal abuse; which according to you is the best way to treat a woman one is quarrelling with. And you're totally WRONG.

There are more women that are abusers than men .... fear is needed for respect ... there's a reason why men marry women that they are older than ... u insult ur husband that's 10yrs older than u...but u can never insult ur elder brother that is 3 yrs older than u cos u now he will beat u up

helinues:


@ emboldened, could you refer me to where I said that?

helinues:


Stop talking nonsense.

Which your Quran?

Explain what you mean by "which your Quran", dear deceptive Muslim.

labake1:
Hurting her emotionally is still domestic abuse.

Just walk away and give her silence treatment throughout that day, she will adjust

Does that really work?

tonytony208:





Explain what you mean by "which your Quran", dear deceptive Muslim.

Because I make use of my free gifted senses without relying on one religion or the other

helinues:


Because I make use of my free gifted senses without relying on one religion or the other

Lolz. Your self deception is as clear as daylight

Unnecessary arguments are the root causes of all these and men must learn to always anticipate and avoid any form of banal back and forth with women because the end result, whether you win or lose, is never worth it.

Although it must be said, that as a good partner, it's the man's job to provide his woman with positive vibes and good emotions and unless the woman is a psychopath, doing just that shouldn't produce the opposite results.

Also in the rare possibility that you've come across a psycho who enjoys turmoil, you must quickly take the moral high ground and not hesitate to totally cut off contact.. forever!

Anny69:
So many things is wrong with this write up.

Why should a woman FEAR A MAN? Especially HER MAN? What do y'all benefit from becoming an ABUSIVE PARTNER?!

Our forefathers didn't practice healthy relationships. If it's respect you want from a woman you have to EARN it.

It's normal to have a fight in a relationship, if you feel offended as a man the best thing you can do is to be calm, listen to her rants, try to understand her and tackle the conflict between the both of you. It's not called SIMPING like some alfa meil call it here. Gragra doesn't solve things... It'll just make the relationship TOXIC.

My final words on this is that domestic violence isn't the only form of spousal abuse. Emotional abuse is also a form of spousal abuse; which according to you is the best way to treat a woman one is quarrelling with. And you're totally WRONG.

He is not wrong on that second one emotional abuse.....women do it alot men do it. There are some women that they will never raise their mouth to abuse u or say negative words to u. They will rather use emotional abuse . It works to some extent. I am talking from experience

efficiencie:


Na so. Hit her verbally and emotionally abi. Have you not heard of emotional abuse? It is now a reason for divorce. Some ladies now present emotional abuse as grounds for divorce and separation. If your wife is becoming a fool stay away from her. Leave the house and protect your sanity. No matter how strong you think you are emotionally and verbally bad women or women in their bad mood are capable of bringing out the beast in you. So instead of staying around a woman when her toxicity reaches fatal levels, just leave her and go and chill some place else where you can regain your sanity and act rationally. Make it habit to leave when she is toxic and you will escape the accusation of domestic violence and emotional abuse.

Imagine the level of stupidity here! Make it a habit to leave your home? The irony of this write up is you are quick to point out the reaction of the man as emotional abuse, so what do you call the actions of the woman? So a woman can be perpetually toxic and verbally abusive, just keep leaving to keep your sanity. What happens when her toxicity reaches unbearable levels in the middle of the night? You drive out and go have an accident, or sleep outside your home?

Stupidity is not the cure for toxicity, no one deserves to be with an abusive partner. One thing people fail to understand is that abuse whether physical or mental is not gender based. Today in the news, we have more women stabbing their spouses to death. Marriage is to be enjoyed and not endured, telling a particular partner to endure the toxicity of another partner by always walking away is emotional blackmail and manipulations. This is the reason for courting, so one knows what he/she is signing up for. Even though we know alot of species can be pretentious, there is always ground for separation(not divorce), unless it becomes truly unavoidable. Just like women should stay away from abusive men, so also should the men.

The bottom line is all 9ja girls are ashawo both the ones forming GF or church girl. They are all the same.

The fact that you have never caught your babe doing ashawo, doesn't mean she is not an ashawo

b4ball:


Imagine the level of stupidity here! Make it a habit to leave your home? The irony of this write up is you are quick to point out the reaction of the man as emotional abuse, so what do you call the actions of the woman? So a woman can be perpetually toxic and verbally abusive, just keep leaving to keep your sanity. What happens when her toxicity reaches unbearable levels in the middle of the night? You drive out and go have an accident, or sleep outside your home?

Stupidity is not the cure for toxicity, no one deserves to be with an abusive partner. One thing people fail to understand is that abuse whether physical or mental is not gender based. Today in the news, we have more women stabbing their spouses to death. Marriage is to be enjoyed and not endured, telling a particular partner to endure the toxicity of another partner by always walking away is emotional blackmail and manipulations. This is the reason for courting, so one knows what he/she is signing up for. Even though we know alot of species can be pretentious, there is always ground for separation(not divorce), unless it becomes truly unavoidable. Just like women should stay away from abusive men, so also should the men.

You are the on contradicting yourself here. If a man is living with a toxic woman he has three options. Stay at home and beat the shit of the wife. Stay at home and endure shit from your wife without reacting emotionally or physically. Get out of the house. Now which of these three options is feasible and legal? The first option is feasible but not legal. The second option is not feasible but it is legal. The third option is feasible and legal. Leaving the home could be eventually become leaving the marriage completely it is entirely up to the man but my point is that silent treatment or emotional tactics could easily be labeled emotional abuse by the woman and used against him in court. So a wiser strategy is to leave the toxic environment.